This Story About Bea Arthur Proves She Was Actually Like Her "Golden Girls" Character - Sitcoms Online Message Boards

TMC · 03-08-2016, 04:06 AM

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bandonurse · 03-08-2016, 04:54 PM

Doesn't surprise me one bit. While I greatly admire her work, I can only imagine what Bea must have been like to be around, considering everything I've heard. Especially if she decided she didn't care for you.

I have read both of Betty's books, "Here We Go Again" (her detailed autobiography), and the follow up to it, "If You Ask Me" written in 2011. Betty says not ONE bad word about Bea, because she's too classy.

Rue also tried to keep her description of Bea's behavior tactful when she wrote "My First Five Husbands", but it was clear when you read between the lines that Bea could be extremely difficult, even mean. To me, it seems extremely likely that Bea resented the fact that Betty White was everything she couldn't be. Betty was petite, feminine, had dimples and a beautiful smile with big blue eyes. She was also an inherently cheerful, happy person. Bea was large framed, masculine, and had a fog-horn voice from chain smoking all her life. I can see the temptation to resent Betty. It's a shame she didn't find a way to cope with it instead of taking it out on her.

mets82 · 03-08-2016, 05:14 PM

Still, Dorothy was funny. Glad they were on as long as they were.

PracTz · 03-08-2016, 05:37 PM

Do I think the late Ms. Arthur was funny, talented and capable of being very generous to causes and charities? Yes indeed.

However; that's by no means the only story I've heard of her being meaner-than-was-called-for (and not just to Betty White).
Case in point, in Adrienne Barbeau's autobio, Miss. Barbeau recounted going to a Broadway play with Ms. Arthur only to have the experience somewhat soured by Ms. Arthur actually getting a microphone during Intermission and announcing 'This play is a piece of $#!* but since I know some of the cast, I have to stay til the end so I meet them backstage'.
Imagine being Miss Barbeau with all eyes darting in her direction after Ms. Arthur's outburst- to say nothing of the cast, director and production team having to make the best of the play at hand! No doubt that ruined the rest of the evening for everyone! Boo!

Also, I never understood why Ms. Arthur outrightly lied to the Emmy TV Legends interviewer re having been part of the US Women's Marine Corps in WWII? Did she think the records didn't exist to prove her participation? Why not just say 'I joined because I wanted to serve my country but the less said about my time there, the better'?

Dianne3 · 03-08-2016, 05:44 PM

Something not mentioned on these boards and something I don't know hardly anything about

didn't Bea's husband leave her for another women? Just like Stan left Dorothy?

Compare that to Betty White/Rose. Allen Ludden was the love of BW's life while Charlie was the love of Rose's life.

bandonurse · 03-08-2016, 06:24 PM

PracTz

Your story is particularly upsetting because people hate to see celebrities get away with horrible behavior just because of who they are. (ala: Kanye West)

Any ordinary person would have been, at best, asked to leave immediately. At worst, escorted out in handcuffs if they got combative when asked to go. But from your description, Bea completely got away with her antics.

Edward216 · 03-09-2016, 02:59 AM

Wow, what a complete bitch is all I can say.

Ed.

RetroGuy2000 · 05-21-2016, 01:40 AM

She really was one tough cookie.

MikeLutton · 05-21-2016, 02:57 AM

please respect the non living espically when they not around to defend themselves may she rip

SitcomsOffline · 05-21-2016, 10:09 AM

Bea Arthur was also a WWII veteran and had a very traumatizing experience while in the military. That would toughen a lot of people up.

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/documen...driving-marine

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03-08-2016, 04:54 PM	#2
bandonurse Member Senior Member Join Date: Jul 17, 2015 Location: Mentor, Ohio Posts: 1,082	Doesn't surprise me one bit. While I greatly admire her work, I can only imagine what Bea must have been like to be around, considering everything I've heard. Especially if she decided she didn't care for you. I have read both of Betty's books, "Here We Go Again" (her detailed autobiography), and the follow up to it, "If You Ask Me" written in 2011. Betty says not ONE bad word about Bea, because she's too classy. Rue also tried to keep her description of Bea's behavior tactful when she wrote "My First Five Husbands", but it was clear when you read between the lines that Bea could be extremely difficult, even mean. To me, it seems extremely likely that Bea resented the fact that Betty White was everything she couldn't be. Betty was petite, feminine, had dimples and a beautiful smile with big blue eyes. She was also an inherently cheerful, happy person. Bea was large framed, masculine, and had a fog-horn voice from chain smoking all her life. I can see the temptation to resent Betty. It's a shame she didn't find a way to cope with it instead of taking it out on her.

03-08-2016, 05:37 PM	#4
PracTz Member Senior Member Join Date: Jul 14, 2002 Location: United States of America [Happily Living in the 20th Century] Posts: 2,711	Do I think the late Ms. Arthur was funny, talented and capable of being very generous to causes and charities? Yes indeed. However; that's by no means the only story I've heard of her being meaner-than-was-called-for (and not just to Betty White). Case in point, in Adrienne Barbeau's autobio, Miss. Barbeau recounted going to a Broadway play with Ms. Arthur only to have the experience somewhat soured by Ms. Arthur actually getting a microphone during Intermission and announcing 'This play is a piece of $#!* but since I know some of the cast, I have to stay til the end so I meet them backstage'. Imagine being Miss Barbeau with all eyes darting in her direction after Ms. Arthur's outburst- to say nothing of the cast, director and production team having to make the best of the play at hand! No doubt that ruined the rest of the evening for everyone! Boo! Also, I never understood why Ms. Arthur outrightly lied to the Emmy TV Legends interviewer re having been part of the US Women's Marine Corps in WWII? Did she think the records didn't exist to prove her participation? Why not just say 'I joined because I wanted to serve my country but the less said about my time there, the better'?

03-08-2016, 05:44 PM	#5
Dianne3 Member Senior Member Join Date: Aug 07, 2002 Posts: 1,057	Something not mentioned on these boards and something I don't know hardly anything about didn't Bea's husband leave her for another women? Just like Stan left Dorothy? Compare that to Betty White/Rose. Allen Ludden was the love of BW's life while Charlie was the love of Rose's life.

03-08-2016, 06:24 PM	#6
bandonurse Member Senior Member Join Date: Jul 17, 2015 Location: Mentor, Ohio Posts: 1,082	PracTz Your story is particularly upsetting because people hate to see celebrities get away with horrible behavior just because of who they are. (ala: Kanye West) Any ordinary person would have been, at best, asked to leave immediately. At worst, escorted out in handcuffs if they got combative when asked to go. But from your description, Bea completely got away with her antics.

03-09-2016, 02:59 AM	#7
Edward216 Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 18, 2014 Location: Central Time Zone Posts: 4,640	Wow, what a complete bitch is all I can say. Ed.

05-21-2016, 10:09 AM	#10
SitcomsOffline Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Nov 03, 2013 Posts: 492	Bea Arthur was also a WWII veteran and had a very traumatizing experience while in the military. That would toughen a lot of people up. http://www.thesmokinggun.com/documen...driving-marine