Peer Pressure

[theanswerman]

I used to go to a school with many african americans, so I know what you are talking about. I used to have a friend named Markeisha, she is very smart and gets really good grades, but the blacks call her "oreo". That is so ignorant. Its like if you are smart, you aren't accepted.

[marvin g]

I agree with your observations isiahthomas. I was quiet myself but I like to read and be informed about things that interest me. I've seen alot of that peer pressure when I was in high school but I never gave into it! I was very inhibited, introverted and not athletic. The interesting thing is that the few of my classmates that I've seen are doing 'just' o.k. I've seen one who was very popular dude because of his looks, walking the street with a shopping basket looking very haggertly!! So being popular in school ain't spit!!! Being popular or successfull after you graduate is where it's at. You're on your own! Not while you're still in school living with your folks! That's my opinion.

[The Modfather]

Peer pressure sucks. All these stoners tried to get me to smoke pot but I refused, and the mother****er kept blowing the smoke in my face. Needless to say I left FAST.

[GARFIELDKOOL]

Willie D hit it right on the money Isiah. Bill Cosby was right. And if blacks want to call him a sellout or Uncle Tom, then that's too bad. Bill paved the way for a lot of us to get on TV. He showcased a black family on tv that don't have to worry about race and social problems. Just living comfortably, that's all. I respect that. I wasn't a big fan of the Cosby Show, but it was the #1 show in the 80s for years. People criticize it for being "white", but there are a lot of black families that do live like that. Also, I liked when Bill said, these kids get out of school at 2:30, and they call each other n-igga. I got a problem with that. We can call each other that, but when some other race say it, it is time to throw down. One thing I got a problem with as an african american, is blacks got latinos, and other races calling one another that. This is not the kind of trend you want to set.

[Lady T]

Originally Posted by dawsongirl

I'm prejudiced against ignorant people, period. White, Black, Asian, Green, Martian, I don't care.

Amen to that..I was never part of a group while I was in High School, actually I was a loner. I did not care what the other kids thought me and I still have that attitude! If people do not like me because of What Ever! That is their problem and not mine. I am going to live my life for ME and nobody else...

[Lady T]

Originally Posted by dawsongirl

funny, my folks and I were just talking about that, because these 2 black girls got into a fight in a parking lot, and one of them started wailing on one of the police officers and now she's up for like 20 years in prison. But there's these black people who are complaining that it wasn't her fault or something. What the hell ever. If her mom or dad or grandma didn't teach her that punching a cop is a serious offence, then she's gonna have to deal with it. I'm sure there are plenty of black kids who know not to do something that utterly moronic.

Anyway...I went to suburban whiteville high, where the 4 black kids were actually half white. I was a "loser" because I wasn't social, I didn't drink, I'm still a fricken virgin at 25, etc. I suppose it used to bother me (not the virgin part), but screw all those people I went to HS with. They were all stupid and brainless and can burn in hell for all I care. I'm happy for the most part.

You were a "loser" because you were not a slut or that you drank! What ever!
I think it is great that you are 25 years old and still waiting for the right man to come along in your life; hell, I wish I would had waited for the right one, but I did not. I think you have a pretty good and strong head on your shoulders and I think you should be very proud of yourself, I know if I was in your shoes I would be.

[Rebel Queen 1980]

I hated it when I was in school cuz if girls went out with a guy especially
in high school you were peer pressured into sex and other stuff,and
there was also things among my classmates.Topics included vandalism
stealing,cheating,sex,drugs,and other things I can't name.

[jamesanthony]

There are a lot of issues at work in the black community and one major one is what I call post traumatic slave disorder- people who still behave as if they are enslaved or are still affected by that whole enslavement experience. Every ethnic group has its infightings and ignorant people, however many black Americans have a victim mindset that blacks from other parts of the world who come here don't have. It's good for African Americans to do what they can to travel outside of the US if they can to be able to put what is going on here into perspective.

Many people are enslaved mentally and need to be set free, but like the Pavlovian dog who has been conditioned to not go outside of the gate, the gate has been opened to an extent and yet many are cowed and won't go past it.

And some of the entertainers who rap about and promote killing, mysogyny, drug use and trafficking, materialism and hedonism are a big part of the problem. So are leaders who behave more like pimps than responsible leaders. That's all I have to say on this issue.

[Georgia's on my Mind]

i hate all overcompinsation

[dawsongirl]

Originally Posted by Lady T

You were a "loser" because you were not a slut or that you drank! What ever!
I think it is great that you are 25 years old and still waiting for the right man to come along in your life; hell, I wish I would had waited for the right one, but I did not. I think you have a pretty good and strong head on your shoulders and I think you should be very proud of yourself, I know if I was in your shoes I would be.

Thank you.

[dawsongirl]

Originally Posted by Rebel Queen 1980

I hated it when I was in school cuz if girls went out with a guy especially
in high school you were peer pressured into sex and other stuff,and
there was also things among my classmates.Topics included vandalism
stealing,cheating,sex,drugs,and other things I can't name.

No one ever tried to get me to sleep with them or anything else (Thank GOD), but even back then, I'd have told them to go jump off a damn bridge. Hell, ask my "boyfriend." He'll tell you what a prude I am.

It's sad that some girls have such low self-esteem that if a guy says "sleep with me" they just say yes whether they want to or not. Stand up for yourself, girl!

[dawsongirl]

Originally Posted by jamesanthony

There are a lot of issues at work in the black community and one major one is what I call post traumatic slave disorder- people who still behave as if they are enslaved or are still affected by that whole enslavement experience. Every ethnic group has its infightings and ignorant people, however many black Americans have a victim mindset that blacks from other parts of the world who come here don't have. It's good for African Americans to do what they can to travel outside of the US if they can to be able to put what is going on here into perspective.

Many people are enslaved mentally and need to be set free, but like the Pavlovian dog who has been conditioned to not go outside of the gate, the gate has been opened to an extent and yet many are cowed and won't go past it.

And some of the entertainers who rap about and promote killing, mysogyny, drug use and trafficking, materialism and hedonism are a big part of the problem. So are leaders who behave more like pimps than responsible leaders. That's all I have to say on this issue.

Very insightful. I've often wanted someone to stand up and tell black people that this isn't the 1800s anymore and no one is their slave master. They want equality so bad, but yet they purposely set themselves apart from everyone else. I'll never ever understand that.

[felicitylen]

Originally Posted by isiahthomas

Peer pressure is something that people of all races get caught up in. It's a shame that people can't use their own minds when making decisions about whether or not to do something that everybody else is doing. When i say things that everybody else is doing, i mean smoking, drinking alcohol, sex. Peer pressure is very prevalant in school cause so many kids wanna fit in with other kids who they think are cool. There's nothin cool about skipping classes, hangin out in the hallway, having sex at a young age & having babies at a young age. People always looked at me like somethin was wrong with me in high school cause i was different. I came to school everyday & i wanted to learn. I didn't like reading when i was young but now i see that reading is very important cause having intelligence is the only way you're gonna survive in this cold world. Ignorant people for some reason don't think it's cool to read & go to school. How are you gonna survive if you're not smart? I know ya'll are gonna have somethin to say about me mentioning blacks but i'm gonna say it cause blacks have it the worst when it comes to peer pressure. None of ya'll on here have been to a all black school so you have no idea what it's like to deal with ignorance all day when you're trying to learn. Blacks wonder why so many of them are homeless & in prison. They're homeless & in prison cause when they were young, they didn't wanna educate themselves. I've always had a mind of my own & i've never been a follower. I do what i think is right & if people got a problem with me not being your average ignorant niqqa, then that's too bad. I used to have a problem with blacks laughin at me a lot but now i don't care about whoever laughs at me cause i refuse to be unintelligent & ignorant.


Another thing i wanted to say to ya'll on here, don't ever let anybody pressure you into having sex. Have sex when you're ready. So what if people laugh at you cause you're a virgin. The problem with so many people is that they're concerned with what people say about them. I could care less what people say about me. People talk about people. That's just the way of the world & that'll never change.

I think this was a good thread starter. Peer pressure is easy to get caught up in because everyone wants to fit in. They don't care if the most popular girl is sleeping with the football team, there is just something about her that kids would want to hang around her and her friends; thus kids would start to do things that they normally wouldn't do. The perfect example of peer pressure is the movie Thirteen. I thought it was a good and interesting movie to see what teens of today deal with and go through all because they just want to fit in and feel accepted.

[Dude111]

Originally Posted by isiahthomas

Peer pressure is something that people of all races get caught up in. It's a shame that people can't use their own minds when making decisions about whether or not to do something that everybody else is doing.

Yes I had quite alot since 2020 about getting toxic crap I knew I shouldnt get!!

And when I was younger I had alot in school but it didnt ever get to me... I STILL AM THE SAME BOY I USED TO BE IN THE 80s!! (I have the same values,etc)

I am very happy to say that!! (Not many can )

Excellent thread!!

[Caroline13]

I am not a Sheep that can be led around, but more a Cat leader type. But don't TRY force others, lead them to more options but it's their choice what they end up doing.

Could be a trait we are born with. Maybe some religion along the way as in my life, the 10 Commandments went a long way for me.

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