Is it acceptable for guys to cry?? - Sitcoms Online Message Boards

peter may · 11-10-2003, 05:56 AM

I don't think it is really

There was this guy at work the other night and he started crying a bit because he thought he lost his job.
What do u guys think?

Mijada · 11-10-2003, 06:52 AM

I don't think that's funny to laugh about that. Maybe he has a family to take care of and he was concerned about them. Anyway I think it's OK for guys to cry. It shows they have a heart.

AKA · 11-10-2003, 07:27 AM

There's nothing wrong with a guy crying, Peter. We're brought up to believe that guys can't cry, but women can. Why the double standard? Crying is a perfectly natural way to express one's feelings, including the displeasure and stress that is brought on upon the loss of a job.

Nanny Fine · 11-10-2003, 09:50 AM

I'm a sucker for a guy who can cry. Shows they have some emotion behind the whole "I'm a big tough guy" exterior.

JoJoJoJoJoJoJoJoJo · 11-10-2003, 10:10 AM

Peter, that man probably had a family at home depending on that paycheck to come in each week... maybe he wasn't crying for himself, but for his family. Think about that one.

No, there is nothing wrong with a guy crying.

Penny Lane · 11-10-2003, 10:13 AM

Crying is a great release! A very human thing to do! The last I heard, guys are human too!

Mysty Eyes · 11-10-2003, 11:09 AM

Of course it is okay for men to cry. Why shouldn't they? It's not a sign of weakness, you know. In fact, in my opinion, when a man allows himself to cry I actually see it as a strong sign of his healthy self-esteem. He is comfortable with his emotions.

Now, if you are talking about "poor, pitiful me" type of pouting/bawling, where the person is feeling sorry for themselves over something trivial, or making much too much of something... Well, that is not attractive... for either men or women.

¤I Love Clay Aiken¤ · 11-10-2003, 12:31 PM

I dont care who cries. I, myself, have personal issues with crying and dont like to. When I want to cry, I tell myself I should just let it all out and release it, but when I do cry I tell myself only weak people cry and that its not worth it. I dont cry in public either... I think it was that whole thing in HS when Id see lil 14 year olds bawling in the hallway because their 3 week old boyfriend dumped them.

LILFACE23 · 11-10-2003, 12:53 PM

I most definitely think it's okay for a man to cry. They have all the same emotions as women so why shouldn't they show their true feelings as we do?!
I agree with everyone else on this one...this guy probably has a family to support. I wouldn't come down on him for being upset and most likely scared about not having an income. I, on the other hand, would help him as much as I could, even if it was just to be there for him as a friend to talk to.
Until you're in his shoes, you shouldn't judge.

LILFACE23 · 11-10-2003, 12:55 PM

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Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
I dont care who cries. I, myself, have personal issues with crying and dont like to. When I want to cry, I tell myself I should just let it all out and release it, but when I do cry I tell myself only weak people cry and that its not worth it. I dont cry in public either... I think it was that whole thing in HS when Id see lil 14 year olds bawling in the hallway because their 3 week old boyfriend dumped them.

It's not showing weakness, it's shows integrity that you're not afraid to be who you are and show it. It's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

PZelda · 11-10-2003, 12:58 PM

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Originally posted by Mysty Eyes
Of course it is okay for men to cry. Why shouldn't they? It's not a sign of weakness, you know. In fact, in my opinion, when a man allows himself to cry I actually see it as a strong sign of his healthy self-esteem. He is comfortable with his emotions.

Now, if you are talking about "poor, pitiful me" type of pouting/bawling, where the person is feeling sorry for themselves over something trivial, or making much too much of something... Well, that is not attractive... for either men or women.

AMEN!! Well-said, Mysty!

¤I Love Clay Aiken¤ · 11-10-2003, 01:49 PM

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Originally posted by LILFACE23
It's not showing weakness, it's shows integrity that you're not afraid to be who you are and show it. It's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

Yeah, I know its not, but I just dont like to for some reason. Im telling ya I have issues!

My friends and such say I have a blackheart, but thats just because I dont sympathize for people the majority everyone else does.

M82A1 · 11-10-2003, 03:27 PM

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Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
Yeah, I know its not, but I just dont like to for some reason. Im telling ya I have issues! My friends and such say I have a blackheart, but thats just because I dont sympathize for people the majority everyone else does.

I'm pretty much the same way. I didn't even cry when my own cat died. It's not that I didn't want to, I just couldn't for some reason.

Ewan's My Man · 11-10-2003, 03:50 PM

I think it's fine for guys to cry. Over the weekend in my cousin's wedding, my now cousin-in-law had a mother-son dance, and he was crying, and believe me, it was the sweetest thing I've ever seen.

*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 11-10-2003, 04:08 PM

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Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
Yeah, I know its not, but I just dont like to for some reason. Im telling ya I have issues! My friends and such say I have a blackheart, but thats just because I dont sympathize for people the majority everyone else does.

I'm the same way lol. I barely ever cry unless there's some big fight or something in the family, that stuff scares me...or maybe something really big that's affected me. There's times when I want to and I'm practically forcing myself to but I just cant.

Anyway, who cares if guys cry? Why should the fact that they're a guy mean they can't express they're emotions? Crying's just a way of letting what you feel out, not a sign of being a puny, wimp.

11-10-2003, 05:56 AM	#1
peter may The SO Limey Senior Member Join Date: Feb 26, 2002 Location: LONDON Posts: 1,883	Is it acceptable for guys to cry?? I don't think it is really There was this guy at work the other night and he started crying a bit because he thought he lost his job. What do u guys think?

11-10-2003, 09:50 AM	#4
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11-10-2003, 10:10 AM	#5
JoJoJoJoJoJoJoJoJo A and J Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 31, 2001 Location: .S.C. Posts: 3,070	Peter, that man probably had a family at home depending on that paycheck to come in each week... maybe he wasn't crying for himself, but for his family. Think about that one. No, there is nothing wrong with a guy crying.
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11-10-2003, 10:13 AM	#6
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11-10-2003, 12:31 PM	#8
¤I Love Clay Aiken¤ MISS APRIL Forum Addict Join Date: Jul 19, 2001 Location: Parsonsfield ME Shaws - Screwing my way up the employment ladder! Posts: 68,780	I dont care who cries. I, myself, have personal issues with crying and dont like to. When I want to cry, I tell myself I should just let it all out and release it, but when I do cry I tell myself only weak people cry and that its not worth it. I dont cry in public either... I think it was that whole thing in HS when Id see lil 14 year olds bawling in the hallway because their 3 week old boyfriend dumped them.
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11-10-2003, 06:52 AM	#2
Mijada Spencers mom Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 02, 2001 Location: eastern US Posts: 4,093	I don't think that's funny to laugh about that. Maybe he has a family to take care of and he was concerned about them. Anyway I think it's OK for guys to cry. It shows they have a heart.

11-10-2003, 07:27 AM	#3
AKA Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 17, 2001 Posts: 15,746	There's nothing wrong with a guy crying, Peter. We're brought up to believe that guys can't cry, but women can. Why the double standard? Crying is a perfectly natural way to express one's feelings, including the displeasure and stress that is brought on upon the loss of a job.

11-10-2003, 11:09 AM	#7
Mysty Eyes Dreaming... Senior Member Join Date: Feb 04, 2002 Location: Los Angeles area Posts: 1,144	Of course it is okay for men to cry. Why shouldn't they? It's not a sign of weakness, you know. In fact, in my opinion, when a man allows himself to cry I actually see it as a strong sign of his healthy self-esteem. He is comfortable with his emotions. Now, if you are talking about "poor, pitiful me" type of pouting/bawling, where the person is feeling sorry for themselves over something trivial, or making much too much of something... Well, that is not attractive... for either men or women.

11-10-2003, 12:53 PM	#9
LILFACE23 MISS YOU GUYS Senior Member Join Date: Sep 17, 2003 Location: NEW YORK Posts: 1,354	I most definitely think it's okay for a man to cry. They have all the same emotions as women so why shouldn't they show their true feelings as we do?! I agree with everyone else on this one...this guy probably has a family to support. I wouldn't come down on him for being upset and most likely scared about not having an income. I, on the other hand, would help him as much as I could, even if it was just to be there for him as a friend to talk to. Until you're in his shoes, you shouldn't judge.
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11-10-2003, 03:50 PM	#14
Ewan's My Man I'll Cover You Forum Veteran Join Date: Sep 29, 2001 Location: Beneath the opera house... Posts: 5,682	I think it's fine for guys to cry. Over the weekend in my cousin's wedding, my now cousin-in-law had a mother-son dance, and he was crying, and believe me, it was the sweetest thing I've ever seen.
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