looking for a certain episode, please help

[kellid]

Hi,
I am looking for a particular Diff'rent Strokes episode.
My niece lost her husband in a tragic accident last Feb.
. He had been in an episode of Diff'rent Strokes
as a child. I know the episode involved a birthday
party and a pirate. My research has led me to believe
it might be episode #181 ("it's my party and I will cry if I want to"). His name is Jacob Laas and
would have been about 6 or 7 when this episode was
made in 1985. Jake was blonde and blue eyed.
Jake left behind a 2 1/2 year old daughter and a son
that was born in May.
No one in his family has a copy of the show, and I
would like a copy of it, to give to his wife and
children. Can anyone comfirm that this is the episode and if it is how I might be able to get a copy of it? It would meen a great deal to us.
Please let me know if you can help.
Thank You,
Kelli Deasmond