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Montana Ponine · 06-08-2003, 10:48 PM

Okay, I don't understand my mother one bit.

I know I've had many other threads like this before, but I really do have to rant, and this is the only place I can really do it. You don't even have to read this if you don't want to--I just have to get this out.

Earlier today, I was on the computer, when my mom comes in and says, "Get off the computer. There is no computer today. In fact, you're only allowed 60 minutes a week on the computer." When I protested, she told me I'd have to write a three-paragraph essay on why I should be allowed more time than that.

Three paragraphs? Heck, I'll write her a book!

So I left the room and I just started crying. I was just so incredibly frustrated with my mom. Earlier this school year, she took away my Internet priveleges on school days. I was only allowed on on weekends. So you could imagine my happiness when the school year ended and I was allowed on 7 days a week again! And then, on my second day of summer vacation, she announces that I'm only allowed on for 60 minutes a week. The moment things seem to get better again, she throws something else at me. It's so upsetting. And what confuses me even more is, I can't think of any reason why she would do this! When she needs the computer, I get off. Simple as that.

This will sound lame to most of you, but I simply can't live without the computer and Internet. I have a lot of friends on the Internet (you guys). I have different interests than most teens out there, so I can't go up to one of my friends and have a full length discussion on Sondheim. It's the Internet where I can do that. I think she might want me to actually have a social life, but I don't want one. My interests are my life; therefore, the Internet is my life.

Anyway, I'm done now. Sorry.

Montana Ponine · 06-08-2003, 10:49 PM

Okay. I just now realized that I could have posted that under the whine and complain thread. Ugh.

Sorry about that.

*InThisMoment* · 06-08-2003, 10:54 PM

Thats Ok. But I Understand...let it out..we dont care!

-*Leah*- · 06-08-2003, 10:54 PM

I'm sorry ! Maybe she will change her mind. My mom has never taken the internet awaY from me, but I usually don't stay online unless its at night, when she is watching tv, so she really doesn't care, BUT I FEEL YOUR PAIN!

Tuesday Weld · 06-08-2003, 11:00 PM

I'm sorry,Marisa

I know parents can be hard to understand - mine certainly are.

¤I Love Clay Aiken¤ · 06-08-2003, 11:04 PM

OMG. That is so incredibly unfair in so many ways, I dont know what to say. If that was my mother Id be beyond pissed. Why dont you have her write you a friggan 3 paragraph essay as to why you can only use the computer for 60 minutes a week! See how she likes it!! Meangya!! Igh, ok Im getting pissed over something that I dont even have to deal with.

Montana Ponine · 06-08-2003, 11:12 PM

Thanks for being so understanding you guys. I really appreciate it and it makes me feel better.

I'm writing the piece of crap essay right now....hopefully she will give in.....

*InThisMoment* · 06-08-2003, 11:13 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Montana Ponine
Thanks for being so understanding you guys. I really appreciate it and it makes me feel better. I'm writing the piece of crap essay right now....hopefully she will give in.....

Good Luck!

~Tropical Punch 19~ · 06-08-2003, 11:14 PM

Sorry Marissa, that sucks. Hope this makes oyu feel a little better:

why don't you aks your mom why she won't let you use the computer for mroe than 60 minutes. See if she has a good reason. Otherwise try and see if you and her can come up with some sort of compromise.

Rhiannon · 06-08-2003, 11:14 PM

I know how you feel. My mom is A LOT like that!

~Tropical Punch 19~ · 06-08-2003, 11:16 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Montana Ponine
Thanks for being so understanding you guys. I really appreciate it and it makes me feel better. I'm writing the piece of crap essay right now....hopefully she will give in.....

lol if you are typing it online let us read it when you are done.

DarleneIllyria · 06-08-2003, 11:20 PM

I am totally speechless at the moment. It just sounds completely unfair to me. An essay explaining why you should have more than 60 minutes per week online time? I agree with Crystal. Why doesn't she write an essay explaining why she only allows you to have 60 minutes online time. Totally unfair. I'm sorry.

I hope she gives in and lets you have more than 60 minutes.

BrandonS · 06-08-2003, 11:22 PM

I don't know how old your mom is, but I'm probably older, or at least as old, so here's an adult point of view.

Yes, that's unfair. The limit she is placing on your online time is unreasonably low. It sounds like she has no conception of the Internet and what it offers. Also, she's contradicting herself, if she told you that the restriction was just for the school year, and then took it away from you again when school was over. It sounds like she's throwing her weight around because she can, especially with this stuff about writing essays.

On the other hand, you are wrong if you think that not having a social life is healthy, because it isn't. You should spend some time trying to get one. What you need is some kind of healthy balance between the virtual world and the real one.

Someday soon you'll be on your own and not have to put up with orders from parents, although I imagine they will still try to give them to you. You will have to put up with unreasonable demands from bosses and other people, though, for the rest of your life, because pretty much everyone does. The only thing that might work, in your case, is to try to appeal to her sense of fair play by proposing a compromise. It's no fun having to appease someone who is treating you unfairly, but I think it's your best bet. Be very calm, and mature, and try to get a compromise. If you fail, try again later. Most people will give in to a calm, reasonable, friendly argument sooner or later.

Montana Ponine · 06-08-2003, 11:30 PM

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Originally posted by BrandonS
I don't know how old your mom is, but I'm probably older, or at least as old, so here's an adult point of view.

Yes, that's unfair. The limit she is placing on your online time is unreasonably low. It sounds like she has no conception of the Internet and what it offers. Also, she's contradicting herself, if she told you that the restriction was just for the school year, and then took it away from you again when school was over. It sounds like she's throwing her weight around because she can, especially with this stuff about writing essays.

On the other hand, you are wrong if you think that not having a social life is healthy, because it isn't. You should spend some time trying to get one. What you need is some kind of healthy balance between the virtual world and the real one.

Someday soon you'll be on your own and not have to put up with orders from parents, although I imagine they will still try to give them to you. You will have to put up with unreasonable demands from bosses and other people, though, for the rest of your life, because pretty much everyone does. The only thing that might work, in your case, is to try to appeal to her sense of fair play by proposing a compromise. It's no fun having to appease someone who is treating you unfairly, but I think it's your best bet. Be very calm, and mature, and try to get a compromise. If you fail, try again later. Most people will give in to a calm, reasonable, friendly argument sooner or later.

Thanks for that, Brandon. I have to ask something: what, exactly, is the definition of a social life? I say I don't have one, but I do have friends at school, although I barely see them outside of school. I don't talk on the phone, I don't party, I don't go on mall trips. I have friends, and they are wonderful friends, but my social life (if that is even considered one) is relatively small when compared to an average teen's. It just seems that people online understand me a little better than the people I know personally.

Kitt · 06-08-2003, 11:39 PM

I'm somewhere in the neighborhood of what BrandonS suggested. The active attempt at a social life might be a good idea. But you might try to be creative about how you communicate this situation to your mom. There's no doubt that she's throwing her weight around. To make the new rule the minute the old rule is finally over was cruel. She'll make herself believe it's "for your own good" but that doesn't cut it. You should have a say in what's for your own good. By creative I mean for example, have you written that essay yet? If not, or even if you have, sit down, calm down and write another one. Imagine that your feelings and opinions are just as meaningful as your mom's because, of course, they are. Write the essay about why you expect to be and should be allowed to communicate with your mother on an even level. You believe that to be true so try to help her to believe it. After that, hopefully, you and your mom will sit down together and talk over the situation without you being in a no win predicament.

06-08-2003, 10:48 PM	#1
Montana Ponine Tragically Beautiful Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 18, 2001 Location: Sondheimville Posts: 4,529	omg. i am so mad. Okay, I don't understand my mother one bit. I know I've had many other threads like this before, but I really do have to rant, and this is the only place I can really do it. You don't even have to read this if you don't want to--I just have to get this out. Earlier today, I was on the computer, when my mom comes in and says, "Get off the computer. There is no computer today. In fact, you're only allowed 60 minutes a week on the computer." When I protested, she told me I'd have to write a three-paragraph essay on why I should be allowed more time than that. Three paragraphs? Heck, I'll write her a book! So I left the room and I just started crying. I was just so incredibly frustrated with my mom. Earlier this school year, she took away my Internet priveleges on school days. I was only allowed on on weekends. So you could imagine my happiness when the school year ended and I was allowed on 7 days a week again! And then, on my second day of summer vacation, she announces that I'm only allowed on for 60 minutes a week. The moment things seem to get better again, she throws something else at me. It's so upsetting. And what confuses me even more is, I can't think of any reason why she would do this! When she needs the computer, I get off. Simple as that. This will sound lame to most of you, but I simply can't live without the computer and Internet. I have a lot of friends on the Internet (you guys). I have different interests than most teens out there, so I can't go up to one of my friends and have a full length discussion on Sondheim. It's the Internet where I can do that. I think she might want me to actually have a social life, but I don't want one. My interests are my life; therefore, the Internet is my life. Anyway, I'm done now. Sorry.

06-08-2003, 10:54 PM	#3
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-Leah- Back for More Forum Fanatic Join Date: Jan 15, 2003 Posts: 10,563	I'm sorry ! Maybe she will change her mind. My mom has never taken the internet awaY from me, but I usually don't stay online unless its at night, when she is watching tv, so she really doesn't care, BUT I FEEL YOUR PAIN!
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06-08-2003, 11:00 PM	#5
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06-08-2003, 11:04 PM	#6
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06-08-2003, 10:49 PM	#2
Montana Ponine Tragically Beautiful Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 18, 2001 Location: Sondheimville Posts: 4,529	Okay. I just now realized that I could have posted that under the whine and complain thread. Ugh. Sorry about that.

06-08-2003, 11:12 PM	#7
Montana Ponine Tragically Beautiful Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 18, 2001 Location: Sondheimville Posts: 4,529	Thanks for being so understanding you guys. I really appreciate it and it makes me feel better. I'm writing the piece of crap essay right now....hopefully she will give in.....

06-08-2003, 11:14 PM	#9
~Tropical Punch 19~ Member Senior Member Join Date: Jul 19, 2001 Location: I'm a fly on Clay's wall Posts: 1,961	Sorry Marissa, that sucks. Hope this makes oyu feel a little better: why don't you aks your mom why she won't let you use the computer for mroe than 60 minutes. See if she has a good reason. Otherwise try and see if you and her can come up with some sort of compromise.

06-08-2003, 11:14 PM	#10
Rhiannon oh, snap! Forum Fanatic Join Date: Jul 19, 2002 Location: middle of nowhere Posts: 11,097	I know how you feel. My mom is A LOT like that!
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06-08-2003, 11:20 PM	#12
DarleneIllyria Gone Forum Star Join Date: Oct 15, 2000 Posts: 19,086	I am totally speechless at the moment. It just sounds completely unfair to me. An essay explaining why you should have more than 60 minutes per week online time? I agree with Crystal. Why doesn't she write an essay explaining why she only allows you to have 60 minutes online time. Totally unfair. I'm sorry. I hope she gives in and lets you have more than 60 minutes.

06-08-2003, 11:22 PM	#13
BrandonS Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Aug 18, 2002 Posts: 8,824	I don't know how old your mom is, but I'm probably older, or at least as old, so here's an adult point of view. Yes, that's unfair. The limit she is placing on your online time is unreasonably low. It sounds like she has no conception of the Internet and what it offers. Also, she's contradicting herself, if she told you that the restriction was just for the school year, and then took it away from you again when school was over. It sounds like she's throwing her weight around because she can, especially with this stuff about writing essays. On the other hand, you are wrong if you think that not having a social life is healthy, because it isn't. You should spend some time trying to get one. What you need is some kind of healthy balance between the virtual world and the real one. Someday soon you'll be on your own and not have to put up with orders from parents, although I imagine they will still try to give them to you. You will have to put up with unreasonable demands from bosses and other people, though, for the rest of your life, because pretty much everyone does. The only thing that might work, in your case, is to try to appeal to her sense of fair play by proposing a compromise. It's no fun having to appease someone who is treating you unfairly, but I think it's your best bet. Be very calm, and mature, and try to get a compromise. If you fail, try again later. Most people will give in to a calm, reasonable, friendly argument sooner or later.

06-08-2003, 11:39 PM	#15
Kitt James Dean Forum Veteran Join Date: Aug 16, 2001 Location: California Dreamin' Posts: 6,115	I'm somewhere in the neighborhood of what BrandonS suggested. The active attempt at a social life might be a good idea. But you might try to be creative about how you communicate this situation to your mom. There's no doubt that she's throwing her weight around. To make the new rule the minute the old rule is finally over was cruel. She'll make herself believe it's "for your own good" but that doesn't cut it. You should have a say in what's for your own good. By creative I mean for example, have you written that essay yet? If not, or even if you have, sit down, calm down and write another one. Imagine that your feelings and opinions are just as meaningful as your mom's because, of course, they are. Write the essay about why you expect to be and should be allowed to communicate with your mother on an even level. You believe that to be true so try to help her to believe it. After that, hopefully, you and your mom will sit down together and talk over the situation without you being in a no win predicament.