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Fran Fan · 05-03-2003, 05:23 PM

Last night I made the mistake of giving in to a friend. You see, this friend pissed me off by telling to me "**** off" on the phone because she was PMSing at the time apparently. She tried to apologize and make up to me via e-mails and phone calls, of which neither I responded to. Last night at the bar (which, believe it or not, is called Cheers) she came in and tried to talk to me again and apologize and saying to me that "she was a bitch". Well, I wouldn't argue with that. Anyhow, I ignored her but she sat at the same table with me and my friends chatting with them. However, here's the bad part...

You see, when I get drunk I become a happy and rather nice individual. So, after a few beers and a couple Long Island iced-teas I hugged her and forgave her.... BRRRRR!!! Now, I'm absolutely hating myself for giving in like that. I've considered either e-mailing her or calling her and telling her that I really don't want to be friends with her anymore and that last night at the bar I didn't mean to forgive her but did so because I was drunk.

However, I think I'll just go ahead and stay away from her and ignore her, assuming she doesn't drop in at the bar I frequent. I really just don't want to deal with her anymore.

So, I ask. What should I do?

brownsocks · 05-03-2003, 06:01 PM

well if you really don't want to deal with this person anymore than pick a fight with them. tell them off so bad they won't go near you anymore. thats what i do it works but it can cause problems

fr00ti · 05-03-2003, 06:11 PM

IMO I would just try not to talk to them when they talk to you if you dont want to be around them. .... that prolly didnt make any sense.. lol

Mijada · 05-03-2003, 06:34 PM

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Originally posted by Fran Fan

However, I think I'll just go ahead and stay away from her and ignore her, assuming she doesn't drop in at the bar I frequent. I really just don't want to deal with her anymore.

So, I ask. What should I do?

Well I think you just answered your own question. This seems to be the best thing to do IMO. I would definitely NOT go and pick a fight with her. If she approaches you first just tell her you think it would be best to end the friendship. You might be better off staying away from that bar for a little while if you know that is a place she likes to hang out at.

Fran Fan · 05-03-2003, 07:18 PM

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Originally posted by Mijada

Well I think you just answered your own question. This seems to be the best thing to do IMO. I would definitely NOT go and pick a fight with her. If she approaches you first just tell her you think it would be best to end the friendship. You might be better off staying away from that bar for a little while if you know that is a place she likes to hang out at.

That bar is my hang out where me and my friends go. She only goes there occasionally, though yesterday she did it on purpose so she could apologize to me. Then she sat down at the same table. That pisses me off. I hate myself for giving in and accepting her apology. I wish she would go away.

BTW, I'm not going to pick a fight with a girl. That would be very, very wrong.

Kay Scarpetta · 05-03-2003, 07:30 PM

Maybe you should tell her how mad that made you, and that you were hurt. I know you don't want to talk to her, but I'd let her know that it hurt you.

Mijada · 05-03-2003, 07:30 PM

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Originally posted by Fran Fan

That bar is my hang out where me and my friends go. She only goes there occasionally, though yesterday she did it on purpose so she could apologize to me. Then she sat down at the same table. That pisses me off. I hate myself for giving in and accepting her apology. I wish she would go away.

BTW, I'm not going to pick a fight with a girl. That would be very, very wrong.

Oh I didn't think you would pick a fight with her, It's just that Brownsocks suggested that and I was just saying I didn't think that would be a good idea.
Anyway if she only goes to this bar occasionally then maybe you will get lucky and not run into her. Good Luck.

ABlairican Pie · 05-04-2003, 01:54 AM

Speaking as King of the Pushovers, I wouldn't trash her friendship, but I would tell her that you didn't appreciate AT ALL her "F.O." comment, and that you wished you hadn't apologized and feeling like you were doing it for the sake of giving in (and being drunk). You want her to be sorry and not make excuses like PMS for her crappy, insensitive behavior.

¤I Love Clay Aiken¤ · 05-04-2003, 02:05 AM

Has she done other things to you besides telling you to f*ck off? If not, then Id give her another chance. Believe me, I know all too well about PMS!!

But, if shes done other stuff in the past, tell her to go play in a road.

Cashodeen · 05-04-2003, 02:40 AM

You want to throw away a friendship just because she told you to F off? Come on. There must be more to this story. Either something else has gone on or you simply never cared for her enough in the first place. Sure that was a mean thing she said, but I could never see how that is worth calling a friendship quits. If you tell her that you really want it to be over, especially after your little drunk forgiveness fest, I would think of you as the uiltimate dirty dog. Not her.

But whatever, I'm not here to judge why you would throw away a friendship over a non-bigdeal matter. If you want it done, just tell her the truth. But what makes you think you won't get drunk around her again and huggy hug a second time? You met up in the bar once--it may happen again.

webuster · 05-04-2003, 11:09 AM

In the town I live they renamed a bar Cheers, I thought maybe they could be sued. Anyway- was your friend drunk too? If yes, then ok, you can still ignore her. If you made up, you can't go back on it all without looking crazy, so- if she was at a point in time, your friend- then it's very likely that you'll be her friend again eventually- why delay the inevitable? (Why delay the unevitable- don't take it as the metapor for everything, don't opt for Euthanasia at birth, don't kill all your relatives and justify it by saying 'It would've happened evetually' and don't attempt to marry before you're 16)

Rob1 · 05-05-2003, 10:36 AM

Ok, I agree with you that your friend shouldn't have made that remark - It wasn't a nice thing to say. But, she realised that she made a mistake, and she said that she was sorry, isn't that enough for you? If you value this person, then don't end a great friendship because of just one error she made - and corrected anyway. I think that your friend truly cares about you, because if she didn't, she wouldn't have apologized for hurting you. I hope that I was helpful. :-)

JoJoJoJoJoJoJoJoJo · 05-05-2003, 11:58 AM

well, i say forget about it and move on. It's not worth your time. i mean, if you don't like this woman as a friend, then don't call her up, don't go out w/ her on weekends, if you run into her at Cheers, be friendly but not inviting. You have other things to worry about rather than a bunch of name calling.

JoJoJoJoJoJoJoJoJo · 05-05-2003, 12:00 PM

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In the town I live they renamed a bar Cheers,

We got one too, it's sit up like the show too, you go underground and stuff. i've never been there before, but it's in Greenville.

Polniaczek033 · 05-05-2003, 10:10 PM

I have been in Oh too many fights. Please, do not fight with this person, don't talk to her, just try to steer clear, but don't be a total bitch saying, OH GET AWAY FROM ME! u kno, just be sorta nice but sorta passing along the point and trying to give her a hint or just come out and say it

05-03-2003, 05:23 PM	#1
Fran Fan Love That Yenta Frequent Poster Join Date: Apr 13, 2003 Posts: 179	I Made A Bad Mistake Last night I made the mistake of giving in to a friend. You see, this friend pissed me off by telling to me "**** off" on the phone because she was PMSing at the time apparently. She tried to apologize and make up to me via e-mails and phone calls, of which neither I responded to. Last night at the bar (which, believe it or not, is called Cheers) she came in and tried to talk to me again and apologize and saying to me that "she was a bitch". Well, I wouldn't argue with that. Anyhow, I ignored her but she sat at the same table with me and my friends chatting with them. However, here's the bad part... You see, when I get drunk I become a happy and rather nice individual. So, after a few beers and a couple Long Island iced-teas I hugged her and forgave her.... BRRRRR!!! Now, I'm absolutely hating myself for giving in like that. I've considered either e-mailing her or calling her and telling her that I really don't want to be friends with her anymore and that last night at the bar I didn't mean to forgive her but did so because I was drunk. However, I think I'll just go ahead and stay away from her and ignore her, assuming she doesn't drop in at the bar I frequent. I really just don't want to deal with her anymore. So, I ask. What should I do?
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05-03-2003, 06:01 PM	#2
brownsocks Maud'Dib Forum Regular Join Date: Aug 23, 2002 Location: The place where all roads lead, Amber Posts: 598	well if you really don't want to deal with this person anymore than pick a fight with them. tell them off so bad they won't go near you anymore. thats what i do it works but it can cause problems
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05-03-2003, 06:11 PM	#3
fr00ti Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 16, 2002 Posts: 12,846	IMO I would just try not to talk to them when they talk to you if you dont want to be around them. .... that prolly didnt make any sense.. lol
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05-03-2003, 07:30 PM	#6
Kay Scarpetta Defy Gravity 8.26.05 Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 04, 2001 Location: La Vie Boheme Posts: 28,013	Maybe you should tell her how mad that made you, and that you were hurt. I know you don't want to talk to her, but I'd let her know that it hurt you.
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05-04-2003, 01:54 AM	#8
ABlairican Pie Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 12, 2001 Location: Living where cats reign more Supreme than a pizza. Posts: 31,619	re: advice Speaking as King of the Pushovers, I wouldn't trash her friendship, but I would tell her that you didn't appreciate AT ALL her "F.O." comment, and that you wished you hadn't apologized and feeling like you were doing it for the sake of giving in (and being drunk). You want her to be sorry and not make excuses like PMS for her crappy, insensitive behavior.
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05-04-2003, 02:05 AM	#9
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05-04-2003, 02:40 AM	#10
Cashodeen Hi. Forum Star Join Date: Aug 30, 2001 Posts: 11,363	You want to throw away a friendship just because she told you to F off? Come on. There must be more to this story. Either something else has gone on or you simply never cared for her enough in the first place. Sure that was a mean thing she said, but I could never see how that is worth calling a friendship quits. If you tell her that you really want it to be over, especially after your little drunk forgiveness fest, I would think of you as the uiltimate dirty dog. Not her. But whatever, I'm not here to judge why you would throw away a friendship over a non-bigdeal matter. If you want it done, just tell her the truth. But what makes you think you won't get drunk around her again and huggy hug a second time? You met up in the bar once--it may happen again.

05-04-2003, 11:09 AM	#11
webuster Member Senior Member Join Date: Aug 26, 2002 Posts: 2,150	well. In the town I live they renamed a bar Cheers, I thought maybe they could be sued. Anyway- was your friend drunk too? If yes, then ok, you can still ignore her. If you made up, you can't go back on it all without looking crazy, so- if she was at a point in time, your friend- then it's very likely that you'll be her friend again eventually- why delay the inevitable? (Why delay the unevitable- don't take it as the metapor for everything, don't opt for Euthanasia at birth, don't kill all your relatives and justify it by saying 'It would've happened evetually' and don't attempt to marry before you're 16)

05-05-2003, 10:36 AM	#12
Rob1 Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Mar 19, 2003 Location: NY Posts: 180	Ok, I agree with you that your friend shouldn't have made that remark - It wasn't a nice thing to say. But, she realised that she made a mistake, and she said that she was sorry, isn't that enough for you? If you value this person, then don't end a great friendship because of just one error she made - and corrected anyway. I think that your friend truly cares about you, because if she didn't, she wouldn't have apologized for hurting you. I hope that I was helpful. :-)
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05-05-2003, 11:58 AM	#13
JoJoJoJoJoJoJoJoJo A and J Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 31, 2001 Location: .S.C. Posts: 3,070	well, i say forget about it and move on. It's not worth your time. i mean, if you don't like this woman as a friend, then don't call her up, don't go out w/ her on weekends, if you run into her at Cheers, be friendly but not inviting. You have other things to worry about rather than a bunch of name calling.
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Polniaczek033 believe. Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 26, 2002 Location: edinboro. Posts: 4,634	I have been in Oh too many fights. Please, do not fight with this person, don't talk to her, just try to steer clear, but don't be a total bitch saying, OH GET AWAY FROM ME! u kno, just be sorta nice but sorta passing along the point and trying to give her a hint or just come out and say it
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