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Chad22 · 04-08-2003, 05:34 PM

About a Month ago my Mom started dating this guy. Hes not a bad guy or anything, Its just that hes always here. He even sleeps here every night now and basically lives here. I Always hated it when my Mom got new boyfriends, But the idea of one basically living here really makes me feel uncomfortable. Maybe im jealous, because since he came around...Im absically just sitting in here alone. Mom was supposed to take me to a WWE Show this Month, But suddenly backed out at the last minute saying we couldnt afford it. Even though i had saved the money for months for the tickets. She also said today we were going to do something like go out to lunch or something but i woke up today at 2 and she said maybe tommorow. He also bought my Mom a new dog that always pees everywhere. Im begining to think even my dog George is getting jealous too because of that dog. Alot of people i dont even know have been visiting lately too. I Feel really out of place lately and feel as if everything has changed. I Dont mean to seem greedy, I Want my Mom to be happy...But Im still not crazy of this whole thing. Does anyone have any advice for me?

I Tried talking to my Mom about it but she doesnt really understand and just thinks im being selfish. Am i being selfish?

*Marilyn Monroe* · 04-08-2003, 05:38 PM

Chad, I dont think that you are being selfish. I dont completely understand what you are going through, but I can imagine.

I dont think that there's anything else anyone can say, until they break up. It kind of sounds to me like she is sacrificing everything for this guy. Even her own kid.

Chocoholic · 04-08-2003, 05:39 PM

I don't think you're being selfish. It sounds to me that maybe you're not used to having someone else living with you and your mom or something like that. Have you tried getting to know this guy a bit and maybe even doing stuff with him?

I can sympathize a little bit. When I started college, I found the idea of sharing a room very unnerving, but after getting to know my roommate, I found out that it wasn't really all that bad.

Chad22 · 04-08-2003, 05:47 PM

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Originally posted by Snoopy
I don't think you're being selfish. It sounds to me that maybe you're not used to having someone else living with you and your mom or something like that. Have you tried getting to know this guy a bit and maybe even doing stuff with him?

Yeah. I Really dont have anything in common with him. Ill say hi to him and stuff but thats it really. I Just wish he would get an Apartment or something and just visit my Mom. All her other boyfriends did that and it was easier for her to spend time with me (And My Sister). Plus, Considering my Sister is only 2 years old....Shes usually first priority. So im pretty much last right now. Not that my Mom doesnt love me, I Just wish she understood.

*PinkLady* · 04-08-2003, 06:14 PM

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Originally posted by *Marilyn Monroe*
It kind of sounds to me like she is sacrificing everything for this guy. Even her own kid.

That's what it sounds like to me too.
Chad, I think you need to try to explain this to your mom. Don't get mad and accuse her of stuff, just try to be calm and reasonable. Parents usually understand reason.

Mijada · 04-08-2003, 06:37 PM

You're not being selfish at all. Your mom should have discussed the boy friend moving in/spending the night with you first before they went ahead and did it. That is your house too and when these boyfriends are long gone, you and your sis will still be there for your mom. Your mom should take that into cosideration and put you kids first. It was wrong of her to promise to take you somewhere and back out to be with her boyfriend instead. IMO 1 month of dating is not nearly long enough to have someone move in the house. I mean how well does she really know this guy? If I were you I would keep a close eye on your sister. Maybe the guy is harmless but you never can tell. Do you have a relationship with your dad? If so maybe you can spend more time with him and talk to him if your mom doesn't understand. Your mom deserves to be happy but I'm sure she could be just as happy if her boyfriend lived somewhere else, at least until you gys got to know him a little better. You shouldn't have to spend your free time all by yourself. I take it your a good kid that stays out of trouble and your mom should appreciate that.

brownsocks · 04-08-2003, 06:45 PM

i don't really know what it is like to have my mother bringing boyfriends into the house but i have been dreading the day ever sence the divorce i mean i know it is only a matter of time but i'm just worried i'll go crazy on the guy or something

Penny Lane · 04-08-2003, 07:15 PM

Never having been in this situation all I can tell you is what I believe to be the right thing. So bear with me.
I am a parent so I think it is a parent's duty to put his/her child first. You are not being selfish. Jaqueline Kennedy said it best . "If you fail to raise your kids nothing else matters.(or something like that) Too many kids today are being neglected or are being put way down the list of ones priorities. That is a big mistake! I guess your Mom doesn't realize this. She's probably lonely and needs some romance in her life.
I was fortunate enough to have a good husband and able to provide a secure environment for my kids. I'm glad that they didn't have to face this kind of thing! There's enough trouble in the world without having to contend with that!
I'll get off my soapbox now and all I can advise you to do is to try to tell your mom how you feel. Maybe it will get her to thinking about things!
Good luck Chad!

Mr. Stefani · 04-08-2003, 07:52 PM

Sorry, i think your being kind of selfish about it.

how old are you tho?

julian bozo · 04-10-2003, 07:27 AM

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Originally posted by Nirvana
Sorry, i think your being kind of selfish about it.

how old are you tho?

How do you think he is being selfish? He is 17.
I don't really know what to say Chad. I do feel really sorry for you. I never had to face the mother getting a new boyfriend.
I do not think you are being selfish. You are almost 18. Are you going away to college after high school? I hope things get better for you.

Chad22 · 04-10-2003, 07:36 AM

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Originally posted by julian bozo

How do you think he is being selfish? He is 17.
I don't really know what to say Chad. I do feel really sorry for you. I never had to face the mother getting a new boyfriend.
I do not think you are being selfish. You are almost 18. Are you going away to college after high school? I hope things get better for you.

Well they have gotten a little better the past few days. I still wish he would find a place to live though

Thanks everyone for the advice.

04-08-2003, 05:34 PM	#1
Chad22 Captain Juke N Jive Moderator Forum Addict Join Date: Nov 23, 2002 Location: Caribou, Maine Posts: 71,661	I Need Some Help About a Month ago my Mom started dating this guy. Hes not a bad guy or anything, Its just that hes always here. He even sleeps here every night now and basically lives here. I Always hated it when my Mom got new boyfriends, But the idea of one basically living here really makes me feel uncomfortable. Maybe im jealous, because since he came around...Im absically just sitting in here alone. Mom was supposed to take me to a WWE Show this Month, But suddenly backed out at the last minute saying we couldnt afford it. Even though i had saved the money for months for the tickets. She also said today we were going to do something like go out to lunch or something but i woke up today at 2 and she said maybe tommorow. He also bought my Mom a new dog that always pees everywhere. Im begining to think even my dog George is getting jealous too because of that dog. Alot of people i dont even know have been visiting lately too. I Feel really out of place lately and feel as if everything has changed. I Dont mean to seem greedy, I Want my Mom to be happy...But Im still not crazy of this whole thing. Does anyone have any advice for me? I Tried talking to my Mom about it but she doesnt really understand and just thinks im being selfish. Am i being selfish?

04-08-2003, 05:38 PM	#2
Marilyn Monroe Diamonds... Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 24, 2001 Location: Where gentlemen actually prefer brunettes Posts: 4,811	Chad, I dont think that you are being selfish. I dont completely understand what you are going through, but I can imagine. I dont think that there's anything else anyone can say, until they break up. It kind of sounds to me like she is sacrificing everything for this guy. Even her own kid.
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04-08-2003, 07:15 PM	#8
Penny Lane Butter Pie Forum Icon Join Date: Jul 03, 2001 Location: Beneath the blue suburban skies Posts: 51,261	Never having been in this situation all I can tell you is what I believe to be the right thing. So bear with me. I am a parent so I think it is a parent's duty to put his/her child first. You are not being selfish. Jaqueline Kennedy said it best . "If you fail to raise your kids nothing else matters.(or something like that) Too many kids today are being neglected or are being put way down the list of ones priorities. That is a big mistake! I guess your Mom doesn't realize this. She's probably lonely and needs some romance in her life. I was fortunate enough to have a good husband and able to provide a secure environment for my kids. I'm glad that they didn't have to face this kind of thing! There's enough trouble in the world without having to contend with that! I'll get off my soapbox now and all I can advise you to do is to try to tell your mom how you feel. Maybe it will get her to thinking about things! Good luck Chad!
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04-08-2003, 05:39 PM	#3
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	I don't think you're being selfish. It sounds to me that maybe you're not used to having someone else living with you and your mom or something like that. Have you tried getting to know this guy a bit and maybe even doing stuff with him? I can sympathize a little bit. When I started college, I found the idea of sharing a room very unnerving, but after getting to know my roommate, I found out that it wasn't really all that bad.

04-08-2003, 06:37 PM	#6
Mijada Spencers mom Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 02, 2001 Location: eastern US Posts: 4,093	You're not being selfish at all. Your mom should have discussed the boy friend moving in/spending the night with you first before they went ahead and did it. That is your house too and when these boyfriends are long gone, you and your sis will still be there for your mom. Your mom should take that into cosideration and put you kids first. It was wrong of her to promise to take you somewhere and back out to be with her boyfriend instead. IMO 1 month of dating is not nearly long enough to have someone move in the house. I mean how well does she really know this guy? If I were you I would keep a close eye on your sister. Maybe the guy is harmless but you never can tell. Do you have a relationship with your dad? If so maybe you can spend more time with him and talk to him if your mom doesn't understand. Your mom deserves to be happy but I'm sure she could be just as happy if her boyfriend lived somewhere else, at least until you gys got to know him a little better. You shouldn't have to spend your free time all by yourself. I take it your a good kid that stays out of trouble and your mom should appreciate that.

04-08-2003, 06:45 PM	#7
brownsocks Maud'Dib Forum Regular Join Date: Aug 23, 2002 Location: The place where all roads lead, Amber Posts: 598	i don't really know what it is like to have my mother bringing boyfriends into the house but i have been dreading the day ever sence the divorce i mean i know it is only a matter of time but i'm just worried i'll go crazy on the guy or something

04-08-2003, 07:52 PM	#9
Mr. Stefani Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Jul 15, 2001 Posts: 20,757	Sorry, i think your being kind of selfish about it. how old are you tho?