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Mossopp · 03-12-2003, 05:18 PM

OK, so you've met this girl on the net. You met on a bands website so you know you're both into the same kinda music and she gives you her email address. You email her a few times and, from what little you know about her, you seem to have quite a bit in common.
Then, after only 3 emails, she mentions the two of you "hooking up and going out sometime".
Does anyone else think this is a little wierd? Personally I wouldn't even bring up the subject of meeting someone whom I'd encountered on the net untill we'd been mailing each other for at least a month?? I've been mailing another girl I met online for over 3 years and we've only brought up the subject of a meeting once in passing!
Am I being too wary? Or am I right to think that this girl might be a bit dodgy?
Thoughts people?

Kay Scarpetta · 03-12-2003, 05:32 PM

Maybe it's me, but I would get to know someone extremely (note the emphasis) well before you meet them. It's different talking online than in real person. Maybe you two would like to talk on the phone first? I think that may be the first step.

I mean, people may not be who you think they are... they might be very different. Luckily that has never been the situation for me, Caitlin (Babes_Cat) and I have met and she is like the sibling God forgot to give me (translated as she's my best friend) So I guess it's really up to what you want to do.

Titania · 03-12-2003, 05:34 PM

3 e-mails? Yeah, I'd consider running in the other direction if someone brought up meeting that quickly.

Mossopp · 03-12-2003, 05:38 PM

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Originally posted by Titania
3 e-mails? Yeah, I'd consider running in the other direction if someone brought up meeting that quickly.

That is my gut reaction too.
I'm not actually considering meeting her this soon but I would like to keep emailing her. I just thought that her mentioning a meeting at this early stage was a bit suspect and I'd be wary of continuing our correspondance if she's some kind of pushy, needy, obsessive nutter.
I was gonna mail her back tonight and just not mention the meeting thing and see if she brings it up a second time.
What do you think?

dawsongirl · 03-12-2003, 06:00 PM

That's a good idea. If she brings it up again, I think she's a little too persistant. Scary.

*Marilyn Monroe* · 03-12-2003, 06:04 PM

I'd just keep talking to her online...maybe on the phone. If she constantly brings it up, then I would stop.

Crimson and Clover · 03-12-2003, 06:08 PM

yeah i think id run in the other direction. she could turn out to be psycho or something

Babes_Cat · 03-12-2003, 06:15 PM

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Originally posted by Miss Karly
Luckily that has never been the situation for me, Caitlin (Babes_Cat) and I have met and she is like the sibling God forgot to give me (translated as she's my best friend)

Aw, *tears up and hugs Karly* I luff you too.

TJL · 03-12-2003, 08:02 PM

I would be wary of someone you've just met on the web trying to meet you in person. Keep your relationship strictly online for now.

Georgia's on my Mind · 03-12-2003, 09:17 PM

That is so scary...they could be some 80 year old stalker...You really need to get to know someone before meeting them, and even then be wary... I would be suspicious of them if I was you

Ian · 03-12-2003, 09:52 PM

She seems to be moving just a little too quickly. I'd give it a few months. Perhaps, you should talk to her on the phone.

AnaheimPMWitch · 03-12-2003, 10:43 PM

she wants to meet you after 3 e-mails Yeah thats a little Odd to me I'd be running the other direction if I were you

Mossopp · 03-13-2003, 05:23 PM

I emailed her last night - just general chit chat - and made no mention of her proposed meeting. I recived a reply from her, as I always do, first thing in the morning. It was very succinct - only a few lines. The last line was "I'm sorry to be so forward but you seem so cool! What do you think of us hooking up sometime?"
I putting on my running shoes and getting the hell outta this one!

Why is that every woman (not there have been many) who expresses an interest in me always turns out to be a complete freak??!!!

TJL · 03-13-2003, 07:23 PM

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Originally posted by Mossopp
Why is that every woman (not there have been many) who expresses an interest in me always turns out to be a complete freak??!!!

Have you been copying from my diary?

03-12-2003, 05:18 PM	#1
Mossopp asleep at the wheel Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 30, 2000 Location: Helensburgh, Scotland Posts: 3,726	What's up with this? OK, so you've met this girl on the net. You met on a bands website so you know you're both into the same kinda music and she gives you her email address. You email her a few times and, from what little you know about her, you seem to have quite a bit in common. Then, after only 3 emails, she mentions the two of you "hooking up and going out sometime". Does anyone else think this is a little wierd? Personally I wouldn't even bring up the subject of meeting someone whom I'd encountered on the net untill we'd been mailing each other for at least a month?? I've been mailing another girl I met online for over 3 years and we've only brought up the subject of a meeting once in passing! Am I being too wary? Or am I right to think that this girl might be a bit dodgy? Thoughts people?
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03-12-2003, 05:32 PM	#2
Kay Scarpetta Defy Gravity 8.26.05 Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 04, 2001 Location: La Vie Boheme Posts: 28,013	Maybe it's me, but I would get to know someone extremely (note the emphasis) well before you meet them. It's different talking online than in real person. Maybe you two would like to talk on the phone first? I think that may be the first step. I mean, people may not be who you think they are... they might be very different. Luckily that has never been the situation for me, Caitlin (Babes_Cat) and I have met and she is like the sibling God forgot to give me (translated as she's my best friend) So I guess it's really up to what you want to do.
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03-12-2003, 05:34 PM	#3
Titania a part of that Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 04, 2000 Posts: 3,694	3 e-mails? Yeah, I'd consider running in the other direction if someone brought up meeting that quickly.
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03-12-2003, 06:04 PM	#6
Marilyn Monroe Diamonds... Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 24, 2001 Location: Where gentlemen actually prefer brunettes Posts: 4,811	I'd just keep talking to her online...maybe on the phone. If she constantly brings it up, then I would stop.
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03-12-2003, 06:08 PM	#7
Crimson and Clover Member Forum Star Join Date: Jun 09, 2002 Location: NC Posts: 17,345	yeah i think id run in the other direction. she could turn out to be psycho or something
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03-12-2003, 06:00 PM	#5
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	That's a good idea. If she brings it up again, I think she's a little too persistant. Scary.

03-12-2003, 08:02 PM	#9
TJL Suburbanite Extrordinaire Forum Star Join Date: Dec 29, 2001 Location: New Jersey - the cradle of civilization Posts: 16,588	I would be wary of someone you've just met on the web trying to meet you in person. Keep your relationship strictly online for now.
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03-12-2003, 09:17 PM	#10
Georgia's on my Mind Senior Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Aug 19, 2001 Posts: 25,054	That is so scary...they could be some 80 year old stalker...You really need to get to know someone before meeting them, and even then be wary... I would be suspicious of them if I was you
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03-12-2003, 09:52 PM	#11
Ian Member Senior Member Join Date: Nov 03, 2000 Posts: 1,237	She seems to be moving just a little too quickly. I'd give it a few months. Perhaps, you should talk to her on the phone.

03-12-2003, 10:43 PM	#12
AnaheimPMWitch AKA CaitlinMoore2002 Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 08, 2002 Location: in the Las Vegas Crime Lab hangin with Nick and Sara Posts: 4,973	she wants to meet you after 3 e-mails Yeah thats a little Odd to me I'd be running the other direction if I were you
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03-13-2003, 05:23 PM	#13
Mossopp asleep at the wheel Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 30, 2000 Location: Helensburgh, Scotland Posts: 3,726	YIKES!!!! I emailed her last night - just general chit chat - and made no mention of her proposed meeting. I recived a reply from her, as I always do, first thing in the morning. It was very succinct - only a few lines. The last line was "I'm sorry to be so forward but you seem so cool! What do you think of us hooking up sometime?" I putting on my running shoes and getting the hell outta this one! Why is that every woman (not there have been many) who expresses an interest in me always turns out to be a complete freak??!!!