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Chocoholic · 12-08-2002, 07:18 PM

I just got an E-mail from this girl I used to be friends with in middle and high school. She wants to invite me to a Christmas party she's having to get all the kids from our class together. The problem is that some of her other friends were not the kindest people in the world to me and I had to stop hanging out with her because the abuse from them was too much for me to take. I still feel the emotional effects from years of constant bullying from my classmates and I tried to cut as many ties as pssible when I left for college.

Should I let bygones be bygones and go to the party, or should I keep these people out of my life for good?

Central Perk · 12-08-2002, 07:19 PM

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Originally posted by WingsFan
I just got an E-mail from this girl I used to be friends with in middle and high school. She wants to invite me to a Christmas party she's having to get all the kids from our class together. The problem is that some of her other friends were not the kindest people in the world to me and I had to stop hanging out with her because the abuse from them was too much for me to take. I still feel the emotional effects from years of constant bullying from my classmates and I tried to cut as many ties as pssible when I left for college.

Should I let bygones be bygones and go to the party, or should I keep these people out of my life for good?

Maybe these people have changed, or if not maybe you should just go to be with the friend that sent you the email..

CheersChild4life · 12-08-2002, 07:21 PM

I'd go ya know mabey these people have seen what jerks they have been and finaly matured. Well thats a strict mabey

LucyFan · 12-08-2002, 07:26 PM

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Originally posted by WingsFan
I just got an E-mail from this girl I used to be friends with in middle and high school. She wants to invite me to a Christmas party she's having to get all the kids from our class together. The problem is that some of her other friends were not the kindest people in the world to me and I had to stop hanging out with her because the abuse from them was too much for me to take. I still feel the emotional effects from years of constant bullying from my classmates and I tried to cut as many ties as pssible when I left for college.

Should I let bygones be bygones and go to the party, or should I keep these people out of my life for good?

I would go to the party to see if any of your classmates have matured as well as to please your friend. If they haven't and they are still teasing you then walk out of the party and tell your friend later why you left the party. Hopefully, your friend will understand. If she doesn't and throws like a big fit about it than it is her problem.

TJL · 12-08-2002, 07:31 PM

Hmm. Interesting quandry.

As Doc Crane said, maybe some of these folks have changed over time.
You certainly would be the bigger person if you went to the party and showed the jerks who bullied you that you have grown into a bright mature person dispite their idiotic taunting.

Anyway, go to the party and pay your respects to your friend. And be nice to the jerks, You're better than them.

Barnabas1 · 12-08-2002, 07:38 PM

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Originally posted by TJL
Hmm. Interesting quandry.

As Doc Crane said, maybe some of these folks have changed over time.
You certainly would be the bigger person if you went to the party and showed the jerks who bullied you that you have grown into a bright mature person dispite their idiotic taunting.

Anyway, go to the party and pay your respects to your friend. And be nice to the jerks, You're better than them.

I agree.

Juss Like Jo Po · 12-08-2002, 08:37 PM

Yea just go and if they didnt mature punch them in the face and say merry christmas..no really go and if they r still jerks leave

fr00ti · 12-08-2002, 08:40 PM

Go, and if they are still jerks just tell them to go screw theirselves.

dawsongirl · 12-08-2002, 10:20 PM

If it was me (don't be like me, k?

) I'd go and act like the biggest egotist that ever lived, subtle though, and make them feel bad. I enjoy making jerks feel bad.

Chocoholic · 12-08-2002, 10:28 PM

Thanks for the advice, guys

I guess I'll go after all. There should be some people there who I did get along with in high school that I haven't seen since graduation. I would like to see them. If the people who were jerks to me then are still jerks to me now, I guess that just shows what type of people they are.

Max Whittaker · 12-08-2002, 10:36 PM

Go and have a great time! Spend time with your friend and talk of old times. The others have probably matured over the years. You may even get a big, whopping apology from them. If not, treat them well anyway. When you leave the party, you can get on with your life. It's just one night after all. Good luck!

It would be interesting to see how it goes.

Hollow · 12-08-2002, 10:38 PM

sounds like a cool idea

Montana Ponine · 12-08-2002, 10:41 PM

I'm glad you decided to go, Kristen. As everyone else has been saying, they've probably matured. If those people are still the jerks they used to be, then they have some serious growing up to do. Good luck and I hope you have fun!

DarleneIllyria · 12-08-2002, 11:13 PM

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Originally posted by dawsongirl
If it was me (don't be like me, k? ) I'd go and act like the biggest egotist that ever lived, subtle though, and make them feel bad. I enjoy making jerks feel bad.

Just don't claim that you invented post it notes.

I'm glad you decided to go too. Hopefully they matured a bit.

Impressions · 12-08-2002, 11:21 PM

I'm glad you decided to go after-all, I hope you have a fun time.

12-08-2002, 07:18 PM	#1
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	I need some advice I just got an E-mail from this girl I used to be friends with in middle and high school. She wants to invite me to a Christmas party she's having to get all the kids from our class together. The problem is that some of her other friends were not the kindest people in the world to me and I had to stop hanging out with her because the abuse from them was too much for me to take. I still feel the emotional effects from years of constant bullying from my classmates and I tried to cut as many ties as pssible when I left for college. Should I let bygones be bygones and go to the party, or should I keep these people out of my life for good?

12-08-2002, 07:31 PM	#5
TJL Suburbanite Extrordinaire Forum Star Join Date: Dec 29, 2001 Location: New Jersey - the cradle of civilization Posts: 16,588	Hmm. Interesting quandry. As Doc Crane said, maybe some of these folks have changed over time. You certainly would be the bigger person if you went to the party and showed the jerks who bullied you that you have grown into a bright mature person dispite their idiotic taunting. Anyway, go to the party and pay your respects to your friend. And be nice to the jerks, You're better than them.
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12-08-2002, 07:21 PM	#3
CheersChild4life Absolutely Fabulous Senior Member Join Date: Nov 23, 2002 Location: Somwhere Fabulous Posts: 2,814	I'd go ya know mabey these people have seen what jerks they have been and finaly matured. Well thats a strict mabey

12-08-2002, 08:37 PM	#7
Juss Like Jo Po Member Forum Regular Join Date: Sep 04, 2002 Posts: 566	Yea just go and if they didnt mature punch them in the face and say merry christmas..no really go and if they r still jerks leave

12-08-2002, 10:20 PM	#9
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	If it was me (don't be like me, k? ) I'd go and act like the biggest egotist that ever lived, subtle though, and make them feel bad. I enjoy making jerks feel bad.

12-08-2002, 10:28 PM	#10
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	Thanks for the advice, guys I guess I'll go after all. There should be some people there who I did get along with in high school that I haven't seen since graduation. I would like to see them. If the people who were jerks to me then are still jerks to me now, I guess that just shows what type of people they are.

12-08-2002, 10:38 PM	#12
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	sounds like a cool idea

12-08-2002, 10:41 PM	#13
Montana Ponine Tragically Beautiful Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 18, 2001 Location: Sondheimville Posts: 4,529	I'm glad you decided to go, Kristen. As everyone else has been saying, they've probably matured. If those people are still the jerks they used to be, then they have some serious growing up to do. Good luck and I hope you have fun!

12-08-2002, 11:21 PM	#15
Impressions She died the way she lived Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 08, 2002 Posts: 4,640	I'm glad you decided to go after-all, I hope you have a fun time.