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Titania · 09-10-2002, 10:01 AM

The strangest thing happened today in homeroom. I was sitting there talking to my friend Jason when out of the corner of my eye I saw this girl who I havent talked to in YEARS.
Heres the deal w/ her- we were best friends from second grade to about seventh grade- after which we had these huge fights and ended up in totally seperate groups of friends in high school. I havent talked to her in 4 years. The only communication we had was brutal competion for homecoming court.
So shes standing there, Jason leaves for class, and shes like "Hi! its been awhile, whats up?" I kind of stare at her like...umm....hello.....go away...but then tried to be civil despite wondering what the hell shes up to. So she told me about whats going on in her life, seemed to be really sincere and all, wants to be friends again, etc....but. I dont know why now or whether or not this IS sincere. Its freakish that she shows up now since I had been thinking about it a lot lately how we used to be such good friends (and what an idiot i was then...)
Has something like this ever happened to anyone here? Did you become friends w/ them again or tell them to go away!! Im sure we have very little in common anymore and am not sure we could ever totally stop fighting but...
ahh i dunno- what do u all think?

Moonlight Lady · 09-10-2002, 10:44 AM

If it were me, I would take it slowly. Just be civil to her for now.
That way, you don't get hurt.

Janice · 09-10-2002, 10:53 AM

I agree that if you do resume the friendship, take it slow. From the sounds of it, neither one of you did anything very bad to each other. You were close friends for five years, so there was something special there at one time. The fact that you've been thinking about her and she approached you is sort of a sign. I'm not suspicious of her motives. I think she probably misses you, and it sounds like you miss her.
I say go for it. You have nothing to lose if it doesn't work out. Enough time has passed and you're both more mature now, so this may be a good thing. Good luck with your decision.

Mr. Shy Guy · 09-10-2002, 11:07 AM

Nothing like this has happened to me so I don't really know. I'd probaly take it slowly (like Lil Kelso said). If she really does want to be your friend again, just do you what you think would be best.

Will and Grace Fanatic · 09-10-2002, 12:16 PM

NO nothing like this has happened to me. I had a friend I got in an argument with but we never made up or anything. I don't even remember his name.

But I think you should make up with her.

DarleneIllyria · 09-10-2002, 01:26 PM

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Originally posted by Lil Kelso
If it were me, I would take it slowly. Just be civil to her for now.
That way, you don't get hurt.

Ditto

I've had situations similar. You never know a person's true intentions. This person may honestly want to be friends again. Then again it could be the whole back stabbing routine. 'She's trusting me now' all the while sharpening the knife.

Take it slow like Lil Kelso said.

Kay Scarpetta · 09-10-2002, 03:09 PM

Take it slow like Kelso said... I mean don't get into this gung-ho relationship with her like spending every waking moment together, because eventually you'll end up in a fight

*Marilyn Monroe* · 09-10-2002, 04:39 PM

I have a friend with whom the almost exact same thing happened. I dont have much to say, cuz I'm still wondering what to do too, but I'm telling you that it wont be the same for a really long time, if it ever is the same. It's been two years since my friend and I got in a HUGE fight over a guy who was telling her a lot of crap about me (I was pregnant, did drugs, sold drugs, etc...) and she believed it! Ugh, I was so mad at her! But we've kind of made up, but it wont be the same for a long time.

vienna waits · 09-10-2002, 05:17 PM

don't pass up the chance to have an old friend back again.. unless you still cant stand her.

Titania · 09-10-2002, 06:20 PM

Thanks everyone- I havent been able to think about anything else all day!!! I cant decide what exactly her motives are...
Maybe it would help if I told you a little more- or help me to put it in writing...
You see, in middle school was when we were the BEST friends and we were part of this huge group that was well, when i look back i cant believe what snobs most of them were. So when high school came I made friends w/ a lot of upperclassmen and she didnt like them and we ended up not talking anymore. Then at homecoming we ended up competing against each other for homecoming queen and it got really ugly (even tho neither of us cared much- it was the competition w/ each other that mattered) So after that we never talked anymore.

We went the next few years well, kind of an unspoken hate.

Im not sure- as sincere as she was this morning I def will take the advice to move slowly. The more I think about it tho the more Id like to be able to talk to her again, as much as things have changed there are so many great memories just talking to her again.

Montana Ponine · 09-10-2002, 06:37 PM

As everyone else has been saying, take it slow. Don't jump into things. Try to see what kind of person she is now...I mean, she might've changed if you guys haven't talked in 4 years. Who knows..you could be good friends again if you were once. Good luck with everything!!!

Moonlight Lady · 09-10-2002, 07:04 PM

I sure do hope that everything works out for the best; that she is sincere and that you both can be friends again. I'm glad that you aren't gonna rush into a relationship. It's a been a long time since you've both been best friends and trust has to be earned between you and her.

*Marilyn Monroe* · 09-10-2002, 07:37 PM

Ah I kind of forgot to say good luck! I hope everything works out for the best, which might mean that you two wont end up friends, but I hope you do. If you had been thinking about it for awhile, then I'm pretty sure that it's a good thing that she came up to you and initiated the conversation.

BTW...are you a senior?? If you are, she might want to end her high school years off good, you know?? Not have any enemies? If not, then I dont know! lol

Titania · 09-10-2002, 08:45 PM

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Originally posted by AliciaKeysForever

BTW...are you a senior?? If you are, she might want to end her high school years off good, you know?? Not have any enemies? If not, then I dont know! lol

nope, Im only a junior. But I know what you mean about that, a few seniors I was on less than great terms with last years decided to smooth things over before they graduated.

Thanks again to everyone! Ill keep y'all updated on what happens.

AllIWantIsYourClutch · 09-10-2002, 09:17 PM

Okay this has happened to me before. Let's just say it's not the same now. I mean, we were best friends (4-6th grade) we went through this time where she hung out with all the popular people and totally ignored me (6th grade...part of it), then later we got really close again(7th and part of 8th grade)...and now it's back to the way it was in 6th....it's like we were never best friends and we never took her on vacation with us (TOTALLY another story)... yea so my advice would be to lose her. But thats me.

09-10-2002, 10:01 AM	#1
Titania a part of that Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 04, 2000 Posts: 3,694	weird... advice anyone? The strangest thing happened today in homeroom. I was sitting there talking to my friend Jason when out of the corner of my eye I saw this girl who I havent talked to in YEARS. Heres the deal w/ her- we were best friends from second grade to about seventh grade- after which we had these huge fights and ended up in totally seperate groups of friends in high school. I havent talked to her in 4 years. The only communication we had was brutal competion for homecoming court. So shes standing there, Jason leaves for class, and shes like "Hi! its been awhile, whats up?" I kind of stare at her like...umm....hello.....go away...but then tried to be civil despite wondering what the hell shes up to. So she told me about whats going on in her life, seemed to be really sincere and all, wants to be friends again, etc....but. I dont know why now or whether or not this IS sincere. Its freakish that she shows up now since I had been thinking about it a lot lately how we used to be such good friends (and what an idiot i was then...) Has something like this ever happened to anyone here? Did you become friends w/ them again or tell them to go away!! Im sure we have very little in common anymore and am not sure we could ever totally stop fighting but... ahh i dunno- what do u all think?
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09-10-2002, 10:44 AM	#2
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09-10-2002, 10:53 AM	#3
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	I agree that if you do resume the friendship, take it slow. From the sounds of it, neither one of you did anything very bad to each other. You were close friends for five years, so there was something special there at one time. The fact that you've been thinking about her and she approached you is sort of a sign. I'm not suspicious of her motives. I think she probably misses you, and it sounds like you miss her. I say go for it. You have nothing to lose if it doesn't work out. Enough time has passed and you're both more mature now, so this may be a good thing. Good luck with your decision.
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09-10-2002, 11:07 AM	#4
Mr. Shy Guy Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Oct 30, 2001 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 7,871	Nothing like this has happened to me so I don't really know. I'd probaly take it slowly (like Lil Kelso said). If she really does want to be your friend again, just do you what you think would be best.
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09-10-2002, 12:16 PM	#5
Will and Grace Fanatic be happy Senior Member Join Date: Feb 15, 2002 Location: seattle, washington Posts: 2,746	NO nothing like this has happened to me. I had a friend I got in an argument with but we never made up or anything. I don't even remember his name. But I think you should make up with her.
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09-10-2002, 03:09 PM	#7
Kay Scarpetta Defy Gravity 8.26.05 Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 04, 2001 Location: La Vie Boheme Posts: 28,013	Take it slow like Kelso said... I mean don't get into this gung-ho relationship with her like spending every waking moment together, because eventually you'll end up in a fight
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09-10-2002, 04:39 PM	#8
Marilyn Monroe Diamonds... Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 24, 2001 Location: Where gentlemen actually prefer brunettes Posts: 4,811	I have a friend with whom the almost exact same thing happened. I dont have much to say, cuz I'm still wondering what to do too, but I'm telling you that it wont be the same for a really long time, if it ever is the same. It's been two years since my friend and I got in a HUGE fight over a guy who was telling her a lot of crap about me (I was pregnant, did drugs, sold drugs, etc...) and she believed it! Ugh, I was so mad at her! But we've kind of made up, but it wont be the same for a long time.
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09-10-2002, 05:17 PM	#9
vienna waits avatars are stupid. Forum Superstar Join Date: May 18, 2001 Location: Ravenclaw Common Room Posts: 29,859	don't pass up the chance to have an old friend back again.. unless you still cant stand her.
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09-10-2002, 06:20 PM	#10
Titania a part of that Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 04, 2000 Posts: 3,694	Thanks everyone- I havent been able to think about anything else all day!!! I cant decide what exactly her motives are... Maybe it would help if I told you a little more- or help me to put it in writing... You see, in middle school was when we were the BEST friends and we were part of this huge group that was well, when i look back i cant believe what snobs most of them were. So when high school came I made friends w/ a lot of upperclassmen and she didnt like them and we ended up not talking anymore. Then at homecoming we ended up competing against each other for homecoming queen and it got really ugly (even tho neither of us cared much- it was the competition w/ each other that mattered) So after that we never talked anymore. We went the next few years well, kind of an unspoken hate. Im not sure- as sincere as she was this morning I def will take the advice to move slowly. The more I think about it tho the more Id like to be able to talk to her again, as much as things have changed there are so many great memories just talking to her again.

09-10-2002, 06:37 PM	#11
Montana Ponine Tragically Beautiful Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 18, 2001 Location: Sondheimville Posts: 4,529	As everyone else has been saying, take it slow. Don't jump into things. Try to see what kind of person she is now...I mean, she might've changed if you guys haven't talked in 4 years. Who knows..you could be good friends again if you were once. Good luck with everything!!!

09-10-2002, 07:04 PM	#12
Moonlight Lady Member Forum Star Join Date: Aug 18, 2002 Posts: 16,052	I sure do hope that everything works out for the best; that she is sincere and that you both can be friends again. I'm glad that you aren't gonna rush into a relationship. It's a been a long time since you've both been best friends and trust has to be earned between you and her.

09-10-2002, 07:37 PM	#13
Marilyn Monroe Diamonds... Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 24, 2001 Location: Where gentlemen actually prefer brunettes Posts: 4,811	Ah I kind of forgot to say good luck! I hope everything works out for the best, which might mean that you two wont end up friends, but I hope you do. If you had been thinking about it for awhile, then I'm pretty sure that it's a good thing that she came up to you and initiated the conversation. BTW...are you a senior?? If you are, she might want to end her high school years off good, you know?? Not have any enemies? If not, then I dont know! lol

09-10-2002, 09:17 PM	#15
AllIWantIsYourClutch peaceout. Forum Icon Join Date: Aug 02, 2001 Location: Illinois. Posts: 53,424	Okay this has happened to me before. Let's just say it's not the same now. I mean, we were best friends (4-6th grade) we went through this time where she hung out with all the popular people and totally ignored me (6th grade...part of it), then later we got really close again(7th and part of 8th grade)...and now it's back to the way it was in 6th....it's like we were never best friends and we never took her on vacation with us (TOTALLY another story)... yea so my advice would be to lose her. But thats me.