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Titania · 08-01-2002, 11:03 AM

heeeeellllllppppp....

I need some advice guys. I decided yesterday that I have to dump the guy Im currently dating. The problem is I dont want to totally devestate him (hes majorly obsessive and Im not quite sure how he'll deal w/ it)
How should I do this, as much as I want to say "I just want to be friends" thats soo much of a cliche that he wont believe its sincere.
Ugh, this is so annoying. Also I feel bad cause hes been on vacation and I havent seen him in a couple weeks.
Any advice, please?

Babes_Cat · 08-01-2002, 11:30 AM

Well why do you wanna dump him?

Titania · 08-01-2002, 11:36 AM

well, first off because we've both changed over the summer and have barely anything in common anymore.
plus im on a total independence kick lately and just want to do my own thing and not be in a real relationship.

ks · 08-01-2002, 11:45 AM

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Originally posted by Titania
well, first off because we've both changed over the summer and have barely anything in common anymore.
plus im on a total independence kick lately and just want to do my own thing and not be in a real relationship.

*shrugs* Tell him that.

ks

britt britt · 08-01-2002, 11:52 AM

I know how you feel Titania. I was in a situation like that before
we started to loose interests, but I didnt want to make him feel bad, but i didn't think he liked me in that way any more so I waited for him to dump me. lol i don't think thats very good advice though,lol. but just tell him that you just wanna be friends.
thats usually what I do.

DarleneIllyria · 08-01-2002, 09:03 PM

Be honest with your boyfriend. Don't try to prolong it and it will be better in the end. I like what you said to start with. This just really isn't working out. We are just moving in two opposite directions. I really do care for you, and I hope we can still be friends. I just feel that we need to end it here so we can be friends in the end. If we wait any longer, I think it would tear up the relationship and our friendship. I would hate to see it come to that. You could say something like that to him.

Montana Ponine · 08-01-2002, 09:26 PM

Yeah, what Jenny said. Just be honest, be yourself, if he's a good bf he'll understand. Good luck!!

TJL · 08-01-2002, 09:27 PM

Jenny has some good points, but I have to disagree on one thing.

Do not tell him "we can still be friends."

We hate that.

Do not leave him with the thought that you could reconcile.
In our minds, if she wants to still spend time with you as "friends", then there is a possibility of getting back together.
Which leads to more awkward things down the line.
A clean break is best.
Be honest too, that is appreciated.

AllIWantIsYourClutch · 08-01-2002, 11:10 PM

*shrugs* Have somebody else do it.

Blair85 · 08-02-2002, 02:20 AM

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Originally posted by TJL
Jenny has some good points, but I have to disagree on one thing.

Do not tell him "we can still be friends."

We hate that.

Do not leave him with the thought that you could reconcile.
In our minds, if she wants to still spend time with you as "friends", then there is a possibility of getting back together.
Which leads to more awkward things down the line.
A clean break is best.
Be honest too, that is appreciated.

Yeah, what he said is right. Your situation sounds like mine last summer. If u still live w/ your parents, tell him they don't want u dating anyone right now, lol! What everyone else said sounds good.

TibbyTibby2 · 08-02-2002, 02:27 AM

tell him what u told us!.... The truth! He should understand! Good luck hunny!

FOLrocks1 · 08-02-2002, 10:38 AM

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Originally posted by TibbyTibby2
tell him what u told us!.... The truth! He should understand! Good luck hunny!

FOLrocks1 · 08-02-2002, 10:39 AM

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Originally posted by TibbyTibby2
tell him what u told us!.... The truth! He should understand! Good luck hunny!

Yeah. Just tell the truth.

ChickenLegz · 08-02-2002, 01:36 PM

Try this----

Hey___________(state ur boyfriends name here) I have been thinking alot about us and our relationship. It's not working out the way I had hoped. We have drifted apart this summer. I have become really independant and I would like to have a break from being in a realationship rite now. But, if you would like, I would really like us to remain friends.

I dunno-thats what I would say in your situation.

Just play it

cool.

08-01-2002, 11:03 AM	#1
Titania a part of that Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 04, 2000 Posts: 3,694	Breakin' up is hard to do... heeeeellllllppppp.... I need some advice guys. I decided yesterday that I have to dump the guy Im currently dating. The problem is I dont want to totally devestate him (hes majorly obsessive and Im not quite sure how he'll deal w/ it) How should I do this, as much as I want to say "I just want to be friends" thats soo much of a cliche that he wont believe its sincere. Ugh, this is so annoying. Also I feel bad cause hes been on vacation and I havent seen him in a couple weeks. Any advice, please?
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08-01-2002, 11:52 AM	#5
britt britt Catherine O'Hara Senior Member Join Date: Apr 28, 2002 Location: canada Posts: 2,690	I know how you feel Titania. I was in a situation like that before we started to loose interests, but I didnt want to make him feel bad, but i didn't think he liked me in that way any more so I waited for him to dump me. lol i don't think thats very good advice though,lol. but just tell him that you just wanna be friends. thats usually what I do.
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08-01-2002, 09:27 PM	#8
TJL Suburbanite Extrordinaire Forum Star Join Date: Dec 29, 2001 Location: New Jersey - the cradle of civilization Posts: 16,588	Jenny has some good points, but I have to disagree on one thing. Do not tell him "we can still be friends." We hate that. Do not leave him with the thought that you could reconcile. In our minds, if she wants to still spend time with you as "friends", then there is a possibility of getting back together. Which leads to more awkward things down the line. A clean break is best. Be honest too, that is appreciated.
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TibbyTibby2 I heart rock stars! Senior Member Join Date: May 24, 2002 Location: Painting the town your favorite color... Posts: 1,325	tell him what u told us!.... The truth! He should understand! Good luck hunny!
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08-02-2002, 01:36 PM	#14
ChickenLegz Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Apr 16, 2002 Location: Sitcoms Online Message Boards Posts: 489	Try this---- Hey___________(state ur boyfriends name here) I have been thinking alot about us and our relationship. It's not working out the way I had hoped. We have drifted apart this summer. I have become really independant and I would like to have a break from being in a realationship rite now. But, if you would like, I would really like us to remain friends. I dunno-thats what I would say in your situation. Just play it cool.
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08-01-2002, 11:30 AM	#2
Babes_Cat Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Oct 11, 2001 Location: massachusetts Posts: 34,145	Well why do you wanna dump him?

08-01-2002, 11:36 AM	#3
Titania a part of that Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 04, 2000 Posts: 3,694	well, first off because we've both changed over the summer and have barely anything in common anymore. plus im on a total independence kick lately and just want to do my own thing and not be in a real relationship.

08-01-2002, 09:03 PM	#6
DarleneIllyria Gone Forum Star Join Date: Oct 15, 2000 Posts: 19,086	Be honest with your boyfriend. Don't try to prolong it and it will be better in the end. I like what you said to start with. This just really isn't working out. We are just moving in two opposite directions. I really do care for you, and I hope we can still be friends. I just feel that we need to end it here so we can be friends in the end. If we wait any longer, I think it would tear up the relationship and our friendship. I would hate to see it come to that. You could say something like that to him.

08-01-2002, 09:26 PM	#7
Montana Ponine Tragically Beautiful Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 18, 2001 Location: Sondheimville Posts: 4,529	Yeah, what Jenny said. Just be honest, be yourself, if he's a good bf he'll understand. Good luck!!

08-01-2002, 11:10 PM	#9
AllIWantIsYourClutch peaceout. Forum Icon Join Date: Aug 02, 2001 Location: Illinois. Posts: 53,424	shrugs Have somebody else do it.