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Family Ties Forever! · 01-09-2016, 06:50 PM

I'm wondering what everyone's opinion is on parents who punish their kids and post it on FB. Do you think they are going to far? Will the humiliation the kids suffer come back to haunt them later?

I can't imagine growing up in a time where everything seems to be posted online. From monthly baby pictures to where someone is at any given time. I think that kids need to be taught to behave and have consequences, but I don't think it should be plastered all over FB or any other website. Once a picture, video etc. is online, it's there, forever. Sure you can delete it, but it's never 'really' gone.

My 11-year-old nephew apparently made a sexist comment. I don't know exactly what he said. My sister-in-law punished him by taking him to get a pedicure and posting a picture of him there on FB. I understand taking him to the salon, but I don't think it was right, in my opinion to post it on FB for everyone to see.

Penny Lane · 01-09-2016, 09:20 PM

No I don't like it. I am a very private person and I think that punishments should stay in the home. Not all over the internet! I know that sometimes kids can get carried away with things on Facebook and I would handle it in person and leave it at that.

Mr. Television · 01-09-2016, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Family Ties Forever!

I'm wondering what everyone's opinion is on parents who punish their kids and post it on FB. Do you think they are going to far? Will the humiliation the kids suffer come back to haunt them later?

I can't imagine growing up in a time where everything seems to be posted online. From monthly baby pictures to where someone is at any given time. I think that kids need to be taught to behave and have consequences, but I don't think it should be plastered all over FB or any other website. Once a picture, video etc. is online, it's there, forever. Sure you can delete it, but it's never 'really' gone.

My 11-year-old nephew apparently made a sexist comment. I don't know exactly what he said. My sister-in-law punished him by taking him to get a pedicure and posting a picture of him there on FB. I understand taking him to the salon, but I don't think it was right, in my opinion to post it on FB for everyone to see.

I don't think I could have survived school if the internet was around then. It was bad enough without it.

Penny Lane · 01-09-2016, 10:57 PM

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I don't think I could have survived school if the internet was around then. It was bad enough without it.

True!

Bonniegirl · 01-10-2016, 01:49 AM

I think it's a terrible thing to do!

Tubehead · 01-11-2016, 09:25 AM

i don't think kids should be on face book!! just like my cousins has cell phones!! my cousins is like 14 years old my other cousins is like 8 or 9 years old they both got cell phones!! its like who do they need to call? why does kids need cell phones?? i guess this is what you call the digital age!! shoot i m 34 years old, i don't got an cell phone!! i never had an cell phone!!

Family Ties Forever! · 01-11-2016, 04:51 PM

My nephew isn't on Facebook. It's something he said to his mother. He has a cellphone. I'm sure he won't be allowed on Facebook until he turns 13.

OH Nuts! · 01-11-2016, 11:06 PM

I've seen too many instances of FB biting posters in the fanny. Sadly, many folks seem to forget that a post can go viral, often one that in 20-20 hindsight they wish never made- but follows them around FOREVER. I do very little posting on FB-but I will read what others have to say.

Janice · 01-12-2016, 02:19 AM

It's an awful thing to do. Things like that often stick with kids throughout their lives. They'll be sorry.

IllinoisTVFan · 01-12-2016, 02:32 AM

The problem many make (and I've been guilty, more in a bit)a mistake about posting too much. They think it might be funny or but often their Facebook friends aren't always just people who should know. Many of my FB friends are people I haven't seen since high school or college or relatives and sometimes I see things that I shouldn't have known.

Speaking of oversharing, in the past I used to post about things going on in my life, mostly about dating. I didn't think it was a big deal talking about my friend I'm in love with or the fact I don't date dads because it was never mean. Anyway, around Christmas I saw my brother and sister in law (and my niece)and they told me I post "mean" things on Facebook. The reason? My aunt (who unfriended me because I don't date dads)got upset with things I posted on my brother's timeline and she got mad at things I posted on FB though she unfriended me (I forgot to block my FB to those not on my list). She told my brother I should apologize to her. Nope, not happening because she had no business snooping and my comments about not dating dads doesn't affect her though she thinks it does because she tried to match me up with a single dad. People in my town have approached me because I made the mistake of talking about my friend on FB (though never by name)and some have gotten mad at me. Others got mad because they didn't like comments I made.

OH Nuts! · 01-12-2016, 09:31 AM

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The problem many make (and I've been guilty, more in a bit)a mistake about posting too much. They think it might be funny or but often their Facebook friends aren't always just people who should know. Many of my FB friends are people I haven't seen since high school or college or relatives and sometimes I see things that I shouldn't have known.

Speaking of oversharing, in the past I used to post about things going on in my life, mostly about dating. I didn't think it was a big deal talking about my friend I'm in love with or the fact I don't date dads because it was never mean. Anyway, around Christmas I saw my brother and sister in law (and my niece)and they told me I post "mean" things on Facebook. The reason? My aunt (who unfriended me because I don't date dads)got upset with things I posted on my brother's timeline and she got mad at things I posted on FB though she unfriended me (I forgot to block my FB to those not on my list). She told my brother I should apologize to her. Nope, not happening because she had no business snooping and my comments about not dating dads doesn't affect her though she thinks it does because she tried to match me up with a single dad. People in my town have approached me because I made the mistake of talking about my friend on FB (though never by name)and some have gotten mad at me. Others got mad because they didn't like comments I made.

Just from what I've seen of your posts here, you seem like a very nice band sensitive person, and yet, even innocent but candid posts, can bite you.

Honestly, the more I think about FB , I'm 90% in agreement with what Betty White said when she first hosted. Saturday Night Live - that she basically thought FB was a big waste of time.

I'm sorry you have such a dud for an aunt; she doesn't sound like a very happy person.

shotzette · 01-12-2016, 03:05 PM

I think that a parent's posting of a child's punishment on FB is mean spirited, but it's also hypocritical. How many parents out there warn their child repeatedly to not get carried away doing stupid things on social media because it may later bite them in the a$$ regarding college acceptance or when job hunting? Great, you get angry when you kid posts spring break pics involving partying, but you are okay posting pics of you humiliating them for minor, or even major, rules infractions?

With as much "stuff" as most kids have today, how hard is it to punish them by either taking away privileges or possessions or not giving them to them until they are earned? Yes, your kid will be upset. Boo fricking hoo. Nut up and discipline them like the adult YOU are supposed to be.

IllinoisTVFan · 01-12-2016, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by OH Nuts!

Just from what I've seen of your posts here, you seem like a very nice band sensitive person, and yet, even innocent but candid posts, can bite you.

Honestly, the more I think about FB , I'm 90% in agreement with what Betty White said when she first hosted. Saturday Night Live - that she basically thought FB was a big waste of time.

I'm sorry you have such a dud for an aunt; she doesn't sound like a very happy person.

Thank you. Yeah it was people reading what I wrote and thought it meant them. I would clearly state I wasn't making judgment on people, just that I have certain requirements for dating. These weren't people I would be dating so they were looking for something to get bothered by. My aunt is a nut, she photoshops photos of the family and inserts them into photos with the royal family and says we are all relatives.

Dude111 · 01-13-2016, 07:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Family Ties Forever!

I'm wondering what everyone's opinion is on parents who punish their kids and post it on FB.

Typical sheeple behaviour!!!!

Facebook is where they all hang out!!!!! (And the elite LOVE IT!!)

OH Nuts! · 01-13-2016, 08:50 AM

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Thank you. Yeah it was people reading what I wrote and thought it meant them. I would clearly state I wasn't making judgment on people, just that I have certain requirements for dating. These weren't people I would be dating so they were looking for something to get bothered by. My aunt is a nut, she photoshops photos of the family and inserts them into photos with the royal family and says we are all relatives.

Isn't it amazing how some people think it's ALL ABOUT THEM when all you're doing is making an innocent generic comment. FB=yuck. Also I'm concerned that if I post too much there I'll reveal too much about myself inadvertently.

Re your aunt, yes, she does sound crackers. Seems like the best you can do with her is treat her with kid gloves and try not to set of the voices in her head.

01-09-2016, 06:50 PM	#1
Family Ties Forever! Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 16, 2002 Location: Keaton residence Posts: 10,214	Do Parents Go Too Far Posting Punishments For Their Kids On FB? I'm wondering what everyone's opinion is on parents who punish their kids and post it on FB. Do you think they are going to far? Will the humiliation the kids suffer come back to haunt them later? I can't imagine growing up in a time where everything seems to be posted online. From monthly baby pictures to where someone is at any given time. I think that kids need to be taught to behave and have consequences, but I don't think it should be plastered all over FB or any other website. Once a picture, video etc. is online, it's there, forever. Sure you can delete it, but it's never 'really' gone. My 11-year-old nephew apparently made a sexist comment. I don't know exactly what he said. My sister-in-law punished him by taking him to get a pedicure and posting a picture of him there on FB. I understand taking him to the salon, but I don't think it was right, in my opinion to post it on FB for everyone to see.
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01-09-2016, 09:20 PM	#2
Penny Lane Butter Pie Forum Icon Join Date: Jul 03, 2001 Location: Beneath the blue suburban skies Posts: 51,088	No I don't like it. I am a very private person and I think that punishments should stay in the home. Not all over the internet! I know that sometimes kids can get carried away with things on Facebook and I would handle it in person and leave it at that.
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01-11-2016, 09:25 AM	#6
Tubehead Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Feb 12, 2007 Location: chattanooga.tn Posts: 5,139	kids on cell phones , the net & face book!! i don't think kids should be on face book!! just like my cousins has cell phones!! my cousins is like 14 years old my other cousins is like 8 or 9 years old they both got cell phones!! its like who do they need to call? why does kids need cell phones?? i guess this is what you call the digital age!! shoot i m 34 years old, i don't got an cell phone!! i never had an cell phone!!

01-10-2016, 01:49 AM	#5
Bonniegirl AKA Hazel Horvath Forum Addict Join Date: Jul 10, 2014 Posts: 65,640	I think it's a terrible thing to do!

01-11-2016, 04:51 PM	#7
Family Ties Forever! Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 16, 2002 Location: Keaton residence Posts: 10,214	My nephew isn't on Facebook. It's something he said to his mother. He has a cellphone. I'm sure he won't be allowed on Facebook until he turns 13.

01-11-2016, 11:06 PM	#8
OH Nuts! Member Forum King Join Date: Feb 15, 2005 Posts: 133,383	I've seen too many instances of FB biting posters in the fanny. Sadly, many folks seem to forget that a post can go viral, often one that in 20-20 hindsight they wish never made- but follows them around FOREVER. I do very little posting on FB-but I will read what others have to say.

01-12-2016, 02:19 AM	#9
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	It's an awful thing to do. Things like that often stick with kids throughout their lives. They'll be sorry.

01-12-2016, 02:32 AM	#10
IllinoisTVFan Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 22, 2011 Location: South of Chicago Posts: 4,072	The problem many make (and I've been guilty, more in a bit)a mistake about posting too much. They think it might be funny or but often their Facebook friends aren't always just people who should know. Many of my FB friends are people I haven't seen since high school or college or relatives and sometimes I see things that I shouldn't have known. Speaking of oversharing, in the past I used to post about things going on in my life, mostly about dating. I didn't think it was a big deal talking about my friend I'm in love with or the fact I don't date dads because it was never mean. Anyway, around Christmas I saw my brother and sister in law (and my niece)and they told me I post "mean" things on Facebook. The reason? My aunt (who unfriended me because I don't date dads)got upset with things I posted on my brother's timeline and she got mad at things I posted on FB though she unfriended me (I forgot to block my FB to those not on my list). She told my brother I should apologize to her. Nope, not happening because she had no business snooping and my comments about not dating dads doesn't affect her though she thinks it does because she tried to match me up with a single dad. People in my town have approached me because I made the mistake of talking about my friend on FB (though never by name)and some have gotten mad at me. Others got mad because they didn't like comments I made.

01-12-2016, 03:05 PM	#12
shotzette Member Senior Member Join Date: Jun 30, 2004 Posts: 1,782	I think that a parent's posting of a child's punishment on FB is mean spirited, but it's also hypocritical. How many parents out there warn their child repeatedly to not get carried away doing stupid things on social media because it may later bite them in the a$$ regarding college acceptance or when job hunting? Great, you get angry when you kid posts spring break pics involving partying, but you are okay posting pics of you humiliating them for minor, or even major, rules infractions? With as much "stuff" as most kids have today, how hard is it to punish them by either taking away privileges or possessions or not giving them to them until they are earned? Yes, your kid will be upset. Boo fricking hoo. Nut up and discipline them like the adult YOU are supposed to be.