I've changed my mind about Steve and Laura

[nicole7477]

After a month of me talking about how I liked Steve and Laura together, I've come to the realization that Furienna, Neutron, and RPM is right. Myra will be a better suit for Steve because she was always there for Steve. She accepted him for who he was and they both like the same things. I did some research about femininity, and Myra fits that criteria. I used to fight tooth and nail for Steve and Laura, but when I look at the aspect of it, I noticed that these three people are right. I guess because I'm a dark brown skinned black woman, and she reminds me of myself that I fought for her because I have the same skin tone and facial features as she does, and I felt rejected when people rejected Laura because we live in a society where any woman that's close to a Euro beauty standard is considered beautiful.


Laura is attractive, but she did have a masculine bitchy attitude who was very mean to Steve when Steve showed her affection even though a lot of guys that she sees as attractive, muscular, and popular in school only wanted to have sex with her. Steve was always there for her but she keeps rejecting him over and over and over again. What man will put up with that in real life. If it was real life, Steve would've left Laura alone before middle school. Laura is everything that I don't want to be as a black woman as far as her attitude and her stuck-up demeanor. It's not attractive. It's funny how it took Myra to really appreciate Steve because before Myra came into the picture, she wasn't even thinking about him. And furthermore, Laura didn't do anything to deserve his love in the first place. The more I watch these episodes, the more I realize that what the hell does Steve see in Laura when he has Myra, a beautiful petite feminine woman who will DIE to be with him. If it was real life, Steve would married Myra instead of Laura. I think that their relationship was forced because of the fact that they're been around each other for 9 years, but that's not reality. If someone doesn't want you, LEAVE!!! Why do you have to keep coming back and keep coming back if the person doesn't want you? It doesn't make any sense. Myra and Laura are both attractive women, but if I have to chose as far as who I want to be like, I'm sorry, I will choose Myra. I like her bubbly attitude. And even though she can be a little possessive, she's possessive about Steve, and rightfully so.

When I was doing some research on how to attract a quality man, and it was saying that in order to get a quality man, a woman has to be feminine in everything, the way she looks and the way she acts. The two have to work together. You can't expect a man to want you if you have a nasty attitude who thinks that you're all that.


In conclusion, I just want to apologize to a lot of people that I offend. Furienna, RPM, and Neutron, I'm sorry.


Here's the video of what I'm talking about
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gehKvjXkwCc

[cleverfun3000]

The conclusions you have arrived at concerning Laura are things that many people have felt about her all along. In fact, in an effort to keep the peace and get along with you, I pretended that I thought Laura was a better match for Steve than Myra was. Some people take it personally when others disagree with something they feel strongly about, so I didn't want to take the chance that you might be that type of person, so I agreed to keep the peace and stay on a friendlier side. I'd hate it if it had gotten to the point where every time you saw a posting of mine you would think," Oh, there's that jerk that doesn't like Laura."

[nicole7477]

Well, not anymore. When I watched those episodes of Family Matters, and I reflect back on what you guys said, you were right. Laura was a stuck-up, ghetto-acting, sassy, shallow bitch. I can't believe that Steve left Myra for her. Now don't get me wrong, she's attractive, but she doesn't look better than Myra I tell you that. I have to sit back and reflect back in the 90s like why the HELL did he leave Myra for Laura when Laura didn't do **** to earn Steve's love and trust?

[rpm31]

It would have been more fitting for Steve to tell Laura off that she had her chance, but she's too late, even as early as the season four closer!

[nicole7477]

Exactly. He should've forget about stuck up ass Laura the moment he went steady with Myra. Myra was the best fit for him. I just can't understand why he will leave Myra for Laura when Laura didn't do anything to earn Steve's love and affection. She's pushy, she's shallow, she's mean. When I watch those episodes again, I have to think to myself like "Hmmm, Myra is a better fit for Steve". I guess because I'm so used to seeing Steve and Laura together that I hope they get married, but when I see how she treated Steve even though he was there for her, treat her good, cook her food, and everything, I was like, "He should've married Myra Monkhouse". I just don't get it. Why would you want to go back to the woman that didn't want you in the first place? It doesn't make any sense to me.

[MacLeaper]

I think that's a bit unfair to Laura, as she did do a number of kind things for Steve. However, keep in mind that Steve Urkel also came over uninvited numerous times to the Winslow house (despite repeated protestations and exhortations for him to leave) and he repeatedly sought Laura's affections after she shut him down numerous times. (So, yes- she was mean to him a number of times- and she apologized a number of times too. But it almost always was not unprovoked- even though provocation does not justify retaliation in meanness.) It's funny on a sitcom to watch his repeated efforts to win her affections, but in real life- when a girl plainly tells a guy that she's not interested, he needs to back off. Otherwise, the guy just comes off as a stalker.
Speaking of stalkers, Myra would definitely fit in that category as she was spying on Steve just about to the levels of the NSA. I do believe he probably could have pressed charges against her in some cases.
I like Steve and Laura together as a couple mainly because it's nice to see the nerd get the girl for once. But realistically, I know that the actions of all three would not really fly. But then again- it's a TV show and a sitcom at that. It's just meant to make you laugh- which it does for me- and maybe sometimes even have a deeper meaning to make you think- which it does for me at times too. And overall I think it has good and positive messages and told in a clean way generally- so I like "Family Matters" for that.
People can disagree with me and that's fine, but I don't really care to debate about the romantic pairings of fictional characters beyond that. (So for all the Steve and Laura fans out there and the Steve and Myra fans, etc.- I'm cool with everyone- it's all good. )

[nicole7477]

I know she did a lot for Steve, but I think Steve and Laura are better being just friends. Myra is a better woman for him Steve as far as dating and marriage. Laura is not a good woman for him at all. He deserve so much better. They have nothing in common. The writers force that relationship at the last minute trying to make it seem like Laura is the winner when this woman didn't want to have anything to do with him. In real life, Steve would've left her ass out in the cold and marry Myra.

[rpm31]

Not to mention, Myra only stalked Steve for his own good. Steve was hell bent on trying to get Laura to love him back, even though she was not the right woman for him, and Myra knew this, and the only chance she had at getting Steve to forget Laura was to keep trying to change his mind. It was no different from Steve stalking Laura for her own good (in most cases), as most of the guys Laura dated were real jerks to her. In fact, there's a happy Steve/Myra fan fiction story where Steve's heart finally DOES decide it belongs to Myra, even though it took place after Steve and Laura's first official date at Amore's.

https://www.fanfiction.net/s/4710466...hange-of-Heart

[MacLeaper]

Not to mention, Myra only stalked Steve for his own good.

Have to disagree on that one- try using that excuse with the cops and judge... I don't think they're going to go along with that one...

[nicole7477]

Ok, maybe it's wrong for Myra to stalk him, but you have to admit, Myra did love Steve for who he was, and nobody is going to deny that. The only thing Myra have to do is to take away the stalking, and I think that the only way for Myra to stop the stalking is to stay with Steve. When Myra was with Steve, she act normal. She wasn't a stalker. She was the same way as she was on Season 4. I used to think like you as far as Steve and Laura, but when I start watching the Family Matters episodes again, I see what a lot of people on YouTube, IMDB, and Sitcomsonline are talking about. Laura was a shallow, ghetto-acting, neck-rolling, finger snapping, mean woman, and if I was Steve, I will leave her alone forever. On Season 5 when Steve accidentally drop a tray of milkshake on Laura, Laura asked Steve why is he the way he is, and why can't you change yourself, and that's when he became Stephan Urquelle which is dumb because I feel like Steve was perfect the way he was. He can make some adjustments as far as not being clumsy, but that's about it. It's not like he's a bad person.

[MacLeaper]

I do think Myra was enamored with Steve and loved him for who he was- I certainly agree there. But it was an obsessive passion and she definitely needed to get help there. (i.e. knock off the stalking.)
That's fine if you dislike Laura- I still don't think she was quite as bad as all that, but yes- she was certainly not very nice to Steve a lot of the time. I wouldn't say Steve was blameless either though. There were faults to go around for everyone.
As far as the plot device regarding the creation of Stefan Urquelle- that's just what it was- a plot device. But yeah- obviously it was incredibly hurtful to Steve for Laura to say that. (Of course, to give her the benefit of the doubt- maybe she meant it as constructive criticism. For instance, it may be painful to hear sometimes, but it is good to hear how others perceive you and to hear places where you could do things to improve your standing without compromising who you are as a person.)
I didn't realize there was such a fanbase out there for the Steve & Laura and Steve & Myra factions and such. Like I said earlier, I'm cool with either one. At some point, we do have to remember it's just a TV show after all- so no need to argue about it. [Not trying to say anyone has been doing that though.] (And respectful debate is always welcome though of course.)

[nicole7477]

I guess we have to agree to disagree. Laura is not real bad, but she's a better fit as Steve's FRIEND, not his WIFE. I don't hate Laura, but I hate Laura's persona and how she treated Steve. Laura may not be a stalker, but she's still not a good fit for Steve. Steve and Myra is a better fit.

[rpm31]

Exactly. Steve had to work really hard just to get Laura (and Eddie, for that matter) to even appreciate him as a friend, and he really didn't get her respect until after the first time he told her off in season 5's "It Didn't Happen One Night."

[nicole7477]

Yeah. but I still think that she's better off as a friend. If only he can get over this ridiculous crush on Laura and move on with Myra PERMANENTLY. It's a shame that it took Myra for Laura to appreciate what kind of man he is.

[rpm31]

I know! Even after Steve and Laura were engaged, part of Steve still (legitimately) feared Laura would change her mind about marrying him, as he mentioned in the first half of the series finale.