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cleverfun3000 · 07-04-2012, 11:34 AM

Suppose there was someone you didn't want him/her to see or something you didn't want her/him to do. Can you "FORBID" your spouse from doing something, or would you have to sugar-coat it? If I ever got married I would most definitely reserve the ability to FORBID.

Retro4Life · 07-04-2012, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by cleverfun3000

Suppose there was someone you didn't want him/her to see or something you didn't want her/him to do. Can you "FORBID" your spouse from doing something, or would you have to sugar-coat it? If I ever got married I would most definitely reserve the ability to FORBID.

And of course, being an equal partnership, your spouse could FORBID you from doing something, too, right?

Yeah, I didn't think so.

Zoneboy · 07-04-2012, 11:43 AM

Marriage doesn't give you the right to forbid your spouse from doing anything they want. If you think it does then be prepared to accept the same terms.

Mr. Television · 07-04-2012, 12:07 PM

Only if you're Tom Cruise. lol

Retro4Life · 07-04-2012, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Stuck In The '70's

Only if you're Tom Cruise. lol

LOL, we see how good THAT turned out!

duckie · 07-04-2012, 01:06 PM

If you did, dont expect to be married long.

robyrob · 07-04-2012, 01:41 PM

sure you can, of course it tends to go over a lot better if it is something they already don't want to do and they aren't in the room when you do the actual "forbidding".

cleverfun3000 · 07-05-2012, 10:57 AM

Wow. These replies are blowing my mind. I know that I am NOT alone in my power to forbid a spouse to do something or see someone of whom I do not approve. Let's hear more from those who have that respect/power over their better halves instead of all those that DON'T.

Zoneboy · 07-05-2012, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by cleverfun3000

Wow. These replies are blowing my mind. I know that I am NOT alone in my power to forbid a spouse to do something or see someone of whom I do not approve. Let's hear more from those who have that respect/power over their better halves instead of all those that DON'T.

Your power? You're obviously a control freak and hopefully any woman with even the slightest ounce of dignity will stay as far away from you as possible.

KatieAnn · 07-05-2012, 02:35 PM

It sounds like you're confusing "power" with "insecurity" and you're making plans to feel that way in a future relationship. If you truly understand what a loving and trusting relationship is, then when you're in one you'll feel safe enough to trust that your mate isn't going to do anything that would hurt you, so you wouldn't need this "power to forbid." I hope you can work through that.

robyrob · 07-05-2012, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by cleverfun3000

Wow. These replies are blowing my mind. I know that I am NOT alone in my power to forbid a spouse to do something or see someone of whom I do not approve. Let's hear more from those who have that respect/power over their better halves instead of all those that DON'T.

"respect" and "power over" are two completely mutually exclusive terms.

...and if you think that you have complete power to actually forbid your significant other to do anything then that person is either imaginary, or YOU are.

retrofan05 · 07-05-2012, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by cleverfun3000

Wow. These replies are blowing my mind. I know that I am NOT alone in my power to forbid a spouse to do something or see someone of whom I do not approve. Let's hear more from those who have that respect/power over their better halves instead of all those that DON'T.

What blows my mind is the fact that you're actually serious. Ever heard of the Women's Liberation Movement? Yeah, it kind of nipped your mindset in the bud. If you want to find more people that agree with you, you're going to have to hop in a time machine and go back about 50-60 years.

hawkeye123 · 07-05-2012, 05:08 PM

I don't think you should forbid anyone to do anything.You can ask them not to do something and,explain the consequences if they do.But you can't forbid them.I mean as a joke.Sure,everyone does that.But actually thinking that you can tell someone what to do.No! that ain't right.

cleverfun3000 · 07-05-2012, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by hawkeye123

I don't think you should forbid anyone to do anything.You can ask them not to do something and,explain the consequences if they do.But you can't forbid them.I mean as a joke.Sure,everyone does that.But actually thinking that you can tell someone what to do.No! that ain't right.

I read each and every response to my post and I must say that I like what you said much more than the other responses. Particularly about "explain the consequences if they do "(something that I would forbid.) Rather than "forbid" I think I will ask her not to do something and make a point to stress how very severe the consequences would be so that she would see it would not be worth it.See? I have an open mind.

hawkeye123 · 07-05-2012, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by cleverfun3000

I read each and every response to my post and I must say that I like what you said much more than the other responses. Particularly about "explain the consequences if they do "(something that I would forbid.) Rather than "forbid" I think I will ask her not to do something and make a point to stress how very severe the consequences would be so that she would see it would not be worth it.See? I have an open mind.

Asking and explaining,is always better then telling lol

07-04-2012, 11:34 AM	#1
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07-05-2012, 10:57 AM	#8
cleverfun3000 Member Senior Member Join Date: Sep 18, 2008 Location: Manhattan Posts: 1,685	Wow. These replies are blowing my mind. I know that I am NOT alone in my power to forbid a spouse to do something or see someone of whom I do not approve. Let's hear more from those who have that respect/power over their better halves instead of all those that DON'T.

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KatieAnn Member Forum Regular Join Date: Sep 15, 2011 Posts: 520	It sounds like you're confusing "power" with "insecurity" and you're making plans to feel that way in a future relationship. If you truly understand what a loving and trusting relationship is, then when you're in one you'll feel safe enough to trust that your mate isn't going to do anything that would hurt you, so you wouldn't need this "power to forbid." I hope you can work through that.

07-05-2012, 05:08 PM	#13
hawkeye123 Member Senior Member Join Date: May 26, 2012 Posts: 1,390	I don't think you should forbid anyone to do anything.You can ask them not to do something and,explain the consequences if they do.But you can't forbid them.I mean as a joke.Sure,everyone does that.But actually thinking that you can tell someone what to do.No! that ain't right.
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