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Brad Russ · 07-11-2011, 11:11 AM

A few months back, I found myself in a situation that nobody in their right mind would ever want to be put in. Me, my mom, and Carl were coming home from Dotty's, and as we started to pull out of the driveway, I saw this big black man hitting his girlfriend. He was drunk and thought she had his cell phone. At first I was just going to let it go, but as soon as I saw him hitting this girl, I immediately jumped out of the car, and told him to stop. He stopped hitting her for a couple of minutes, but then started hitting her again. My mom was also out there yelling at him to stop, and Carl stayed in the car because he was drunk, and he would have fallen down had he tried to help. Anyway after repeated warnings, this guy still wouldn't stop, so I proceeded to pick him up, and throw him onto the concrete. I expected that there was going to be a fight when he got to his feet, but thankfully he tucked his tail between his legs, and walked away peacefully with his girlfriend. What would you have done in this situation? Would you get involved, or would you not have gotten involved? Would you have called the police, or would you have done something else? Just curious to see how you all would have reacted.

Waterston_Fan · 07-11-2011, 11:51 AM

I would have either not done anything or just called 911.

You are lucky that guy stopped when he got up cause he could have gone right after you. And also, you are lucky that they didn't press charges against you for throwing the guy on the ground.

OH Nuts! · 07-11-2011, 12:18 PM

called 911 pronto

tiredmike59 · 07-11-2011, 12:37 PM

Pull my pistol.

Waterston_Fan · 07-11-2011, 03:20 PM

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Are you serious with this. Let my capitalize this, and maybe it will be more clear. THE GUY WAS BEATING HIS GIRLFRIEND. Cowards run away and do nothing, and to me that's just plain disgusting. Sorry if you disagree but if a guys beating on a tiny little girl half his size. I'm going to react. Sorry if you think throwing the poor guy down on the ground was too much.

I know the guy was beating on her but you never know how they would react later.

But then the girl went with him, didn't she?

Brad Russ · 07-11-2011, 03:39 PM

Mama raised me right!

Janice · 07-11-2011, 04:22 PM

I would have called the police. You could have done that and told him you were doing that. I think he would have stopped then. A similar situation happened near where I live, about 15 years ago, only with a very tragic ending. It was New Years Eve, and the bars and clubs were closing. A man was walking to his car with his wife, and in front of them, this guy was hitting a woman. The nice man intervened, and the batterer stabbed and killed him. I remember that the nice guy had a lot of kids, like five or six.

The cemataries are filled with people who did the right thing. In driving, I tell my husband that the cemataries are filled with people who had the right of way.

Not only that, Brad. It wasn't so long ago that you had a serious heart problem. You may feel like you can take on the world, but your body may disagree. I know you want to do the heroic thing, and that says great things about you. Still, please, don't be so quick to involve yourself in dangerous situations. You may end up paying the ultimate price for it in the end. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm lecturing here. You're my friend, and I care what happens to you.

AB · 07-11-2011, 04:30 PM

I would have called 911. It's really best to let trained police officers handle that type of situation.

Brad Russ · 07-11-2011, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Janice

I would have called the police. You could have done that and told him you were doing that. I think he would have stopped then. A similar situation happened near where I live, about 15 years ago, only with a very tragic ending. It was New Years Eve, and the bars and clubs were closing. A man was walking to his car with his wife, and in front of them, this guy was hitting a woman. The nice man intervened, and the batterer stabbed and killed him. I remember that the nice guy had a lot of kids, like five or six.

The cemataries are filled with people who did the right thing. In driving, I tell my husband that the cemataries are filled with people who had the right of way.

Not only that, Brad. It wasn't so long ago that you had a serious heart problem. You may feel like you can take on the world, but your body may disagree. I know you want to do the heroic thing, and that says great things about you. Still, please, don't be so quick to involve yourself in dangerous situations. You may end up paying the ultimate price for it in the end. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm lecturing here. You're my friend, and I care what happens to you.

No, I don't take it as lecturing at all Janice, those are some really good points, and I can't disagree with them. One thing I will say though is that at the time when this happened, I wasn't all that crazy about life, and so going after him was just a natural instinct, because at the time I didn't care if I lived, or died. The change in me has been so drastic, that I'm even amazed by it sometimes. Everyone keeps telling me about how shocked they are to see the change in me, and one of those changes is being more rational. I hate bringing this up so much, but I have to, the drugs I was on really altered my judgment, especially the speed. I'm off all of it though, and I feel better than I have in years. I have alot to live for. My niece Cyndel, my mom, my brother and Melissa, and of course all of my amazing friends. I definitely don't take life for granted anymore, and now I will give more thought to how I react to this sort of stuff. Please don't ever hesitate to be blunt with me. I like it, and appreciate it!!

Brad Russ · 07-11-2011, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by AB

I would have called 911. It's really best to let trained police officers handle that type of situation.

True, but there's not always time for that. Sometimes you have to react quickly, and take matters into your own hands.

Brad Russ · 07-11-2011, 05:17 PM

To Waterston_fan. I apologize for reacting so harshly to your words. Sometimes I overreact to things, and I get offensive like I did in this case, so I sincerely apologize.

Waterston_Fan · 07-11-2011, 06:51 PM

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Oh wow, lol, look, all I know is that a tiny 100 pound girl was getting beat up by a large 200 and some pound as*hole. To me nothing else matters. The only thing that matters is helping this helpless girl who's screaming bloody murder in fear. It's like those 20/20 shows where they have guys beating women, to see how people will react. Sadly most people look the other way. That's the sad commentary on society today.

Wait!! She was screaming for help?

Waterston_Fan · 07-11-2011, 06:54 PM

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To Waterston_fan. I apologize for reacting so harshly to your words. Sometimes I overreact to things, and I get offensive like I did in this case, so I sincerely apologize.

It's okay.

Brad Russ · 07-11-2011, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Waterston_Fan

It's okay.

Thanks so much. I feel much better now! I hope you're having a great day!

Brad Russ · 07-11-2011, 07:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Waterston_Fan

Wait!! She was screaming for help?

Yes, she was hysterical. Nobody else was doing anything, so I felt it was my obligation to get involved, regardless of how scared I was. And believe me, I was scared. I hope and pray that I'm never in that situation again. Not fun!!

07-11-2011, 11:11 AM	#1
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	What would you have done in this situation? A few months back, I found myself in a situation that nobody in their right mind would ever want to be put in. Me, my mom, and Carl were coming home from Dotty's, and as we started to pull out of the driveway, I saw this big black man hitting his girlfriend. He was drunk and thought she had his cell phone. At first I was just going to let it go, but as soon as I saw him hitting this girl, I immediately jumped out of the car, and told him to stop. He stopped hitting her for a couple of minutes, but then started hitting her again. My mom was also out there yelling at him to stop, and Carl stayed in the car because he was drunk, and he would have fallen down had he tried to help. Anyway after repeated warnings, this guy still wouldn't stop, so I proceeded to pick him up, and throw him onto the concrete. I expected that there was going to be a fight when he got to his feet, but thankfully he tucked his tail between his legs, and walked away peacefully with his girlfriend. What would you have done in this situation? Would you get involved, or would you not have gotten involved? Would you have called the police, or would you have done something else? Just curious to see how you all would have reacted.

07-11-2011, 05:17 PM	#11
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	To Waterston_fan. I apologize for reacting so harshly to your words. Sometimes I overreact to things, and I get offensive like I did in this case, so I sincerely apologize.
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07-11-2011, 11:51 AM	#2
Waterston_Fan Eternal Member Eternal Member Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 26, 2005 Location: Southern California Posts: 3,195	I would have either not done anything or just called 911. You are lucky that guy stopped when he got up cause he could have gone right after you. And also, you are lucky that they didn't press charges against you for throwing the guy on the ground.

07-11-2011, 12:18 PM	#3
OH Nuts! Member Forum King Join Date: Feb 15, 2005 Posts: 133,383	called 911 pronto

07-11-2011, 12:37 PM	#4
tiredmike59 Member Senior Member Join Date: Jun 05, 2010 Location: OUTLAW STATE {MO} Posts: 1,868	Pull my pistol.

07-11-2011, 03:39 PM	#6
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	Mama raised me right!

07-11-2011, 04:22 PM	#7
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	I would have called the police. You could have done that and told him you were doing that. I think he would have stopped then. A similar situation happened near where I live, about 15 years ago, only with a very tragic ending. It was New Years Eve, and the bars and clubs were closing. A man was walking to his car with his wife, and in front of them, this guy was hitting a woman. The nice man intervened, and the batterer stabbed and killed him. I remember that the nice guy had a lot of kids, like five or six. The cemataries are filled with people who did the right thing. In driving, I tell my husband that the cemataries are filled with people who had the right of way. Not only that, Brad. It wasn't so long ago that you had a serious heart problem. You may feel like you can take on the world, but your body may disagree. I know you want to do the heroic thing, and that says great things about you. Still, please, don't be so quick to involve yourself in dangerous situations. You may end up paying the ultimate price for it in the end. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm lecturing here. You're my friend, and I care what happens to you.

07-11-2011, 04:30 PM	#8
AB Member Eternal Member Forum Icon Join Date: Dec 26, 2006 Location: The South Posts: 59,429	I would have called 911. It's really best to let trained police officers handle that type of situation.