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AKA · 06-22-2011, 12:23 AM

Car accident. He was 30. I'm devastated.

We'd known each other since the eighth grade, and were in theater together all through high school. We were roommates from 2002-2004, and he was my only friend from Spokane who came to my wedding. The last time I saw him was late January, when he came to Oroville just to hang out with me.

He just sent me a message on Facebook five days ago, asking about my baby (my wife and I are expecting). "When do I get to be a surrogate uncle?" was the last thing he said to me.

Sorry about the rambling message, but my head is swimming. I'm so, so sad.

ProudGleek · 06-22-2011, 12:24 AM

I'm sorry to hear this.

Marvo301 · 06-22-2011, 12:33 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss. You and your friend's family are in my prayers.

Brad Russ · 06-22-2011, 12:38 AM

I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend Brad. I can't even imagine what you're going through. I will pray for you, as well as for everybody else who's been affected by the loss of your friend. Hang in there my friend.

catlover79 · 06-22-2011, 02:07 AM

I'm so sorry, Brad. God bless his loved ones and may he

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Family Ties Forever! · 06-22-2011, 02:13 AM

Sorry to hear that.

Janice · 06-22-2011, 02:41 AM

Brad, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. He sounds like he was a great guy. The two of you had such deep, shared history, that I can't find the words of comfort to help ease your pain. Time is the only healer for a such a profound loss as this.

I wasn't much older than you when my sister died suddenly, many years ago, I was devastated beyond words. It didn't feel normal; I was consumed with grief. I went to the library and left with an armload of books on grief. I needed some answers, as I was going down in flames emotionally.

One of the books touched me, really helped me; namely by validating my grief and reassuring me that I wasn't losing my mind. I wish I could remember the name of it. It dealt specifically with sudden, unexpected deaths. The dynamics of grief are different with such a loss. It was titled something like, No Time to Say Good-Bye, or something along those lines.

You've got a sad journey ahead of you, my friend. The birth of your son and his early days won't diminish your friend's death as much as some may think. They are two separate and powerful emotional chapters in your life which need, and in a sense, deserve their own due in your heart. Again, so sorry for your devastating loss.

70s show watcher · 06-22-2011, 04:36 AM

im so sorry for your loss brad

ponytail · 06-22-2011, 06:23 AM

Sorry to hear of your friend's passing.

Mr. Television · 06-22-2011, 06:46 AM

I am so sorry for your loss Brad. My prayers are with you during this awful time. Life just isn't fair sometimes.

HuntingtonM15 · 06-22-2011, 07:11 AM

I'm very sorry to hear this. It's beyond tragic.

May he

Family Ties Forever! · 06-22-2011, 01:27 PM

I know it's hard to lose a friend or family member suddenly Brad. I had a friend die in November 1999. It was so sudden and sad. She died of a blood clot in her leg. She was only 21 (10/18/1978-11/20/1999).

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Originally Posted by Janice

Brad, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. He sounds like he was a great guy. The two of you had such deep, shared history, that I can't find the words of comfort to help ease your pain. Time is the only healer for a such a profound loss as this.

I wasn't much older than you when my sister died suddenly, many years ago, I was devastated beyond words. It didn't feel normal; I was consumed with grief. I went to the library and left with an armload of books on grief. I needed some answers, as I was going down in flames emotionally.

One of the books touched me, really helped me; namely by validating my grief and reassuring me that I wasn't losing my mind. I wish I could remember the name of it. It dealt specifically with sudden, unexpected deaths. The dynamics of grief are different with such a loss. It was titled something like, No Time to Say Good-Bye, or something along those lines.

You've got a sad journey ahead of you, my friend. The birth of your son and his early days won't diminish your friend's death as much as some may think. They are two separate and powerful emotional chapters in your life which need, and in a sense, deserve their own due in your heart. Again, so sorry for your devastating loss.

That book sounds like it was helpful. I haven't read it. I can't imagine how awful the grief was that you suffered.

AKA · 06-22-2011, 02:00 PM

I received a call from Jim the day before my wedding. He was living in Southern California, and I was living in Northern California.

"What time's your wedding tomorrow? I want to make sure I'm there, and I'm also going to film it."

He left early in the morning, bought three camcorders and drove 8-9 hours so he could be here by 2 pm. Friends like that don't come every day.

sunshinefizzy · 06-22-2011, 02:45 PM

I'm sending light and love to you and your friend

Retro4Life · 06-22-2011, 05:30 PM

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

06-22-2011, 12:23 AM	#1
AKA Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 17, 2001 Posts: 15,746	I lost a very dear friend today. Car accident. He was 30. I'm devastated. We'd known each other since the eighth grade, and were in theater together all through high school. We were roommates from 2002-2004, and he was my only friend from Spokane who came to my wedding. The last time I saw him was late January, when he came to Oroville just to hang out with me. He just sent me a message on Facebook five days ago, asking about my baby (my wife and I are expecting). "When do I get to be a surrogate uncle?" was the last thing he said to me. Sorry about the rambling message, but my head is swimming. I'm so, so sad.

06-22-2011, 12:33 AM	#3
Marvo301 I'm NOT a Blockhead! Forum Celebrity Join Date: May 17, 2002 Location: The Great White North Posts: 21,460	I'm very sorry for your loss. You and your friend's family are in my prayers.
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06-22-2011, 02:07 AM	#5
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06-22-2011, 02:13 AM	#6
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06-22-2011, 06:46 AM	#10
Mr. Television 23 Years at Sitcoms Online Forum Icon Join Date: Jun 06, 2003 Location: Somewhere you're Not Posts: 62,132	I am so sorry for your loss Brad. My prayers are with you during this awful time. Life just isn't fair sometimes.
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06-22-2011, 12:24 AM	#2
ProudGleek Member Occasional Poster Join Date: Dec 31, 2010 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 44	I'm sorry to hear this.

06-22-2011, 12:38 AM	#4
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend Brad. I can't even imagine what you're going through. I will pray for you, as well as for everybody else who's been affected by the loss of your friend. Hang in there my friend.

06-22-2011, 02:41 AM	#7
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	Brad, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. He sounds like he was a great guy. The two of you had such deep, shared history, that I can't find the words of comfort to help ease your pain. Time is the only healer for a such a profound loss as this. I wasn't much older than you when my sister died suddenly, many years ago, I was devastated beyond words. It didn't feel normal; I was consumed with grief. I went to the library and left with an armload of books on grief. I needed some answers, as I was going down in flames emotionally. One of the books touched me, really helped me; namely by validating my grief and reassuring me that I wasn't losing my mind. I wish I could remember the name of it. It dealt specifically with sudden, unexpected deaths. The dynamics of grief are different with such a loss. It was titled something like, No Time to Say Good-Bye, or something along those lines. You've got a sad journey ahead of you, my friend. The birth of your son and his early days won't diminish your friend's death as much as some may think. They are two separate and powerful emotional chapters in your life which need, and in a sense, deserve their own due in your heart. Again, so sorry for your devastating loss.

06-22-2011, 04:36 AM	#8
70s show watcher Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 20, 2008 Location: between point place and studio 8 h Posts: 4,549	im so sorry for your loss brad

06-22-2011, 06:23 AM	#9
ponytail Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 20, 2004 Location: In Happy, Healthy, Wealthyville Posts: 4,273	Sorry to hear of your friend's passing.

06-22-2011, 07:11 AM	#11
HuntingtonM15 That Bothers Me Moderator Forum Star Join Date: Jun 20, 2003 Location: Metro Detroit Posts: 11,060	I'm very sorry to hear this. It's beyond tragic. May he

06-22-2011, 02:00 PM	#13
AKA Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 17, 2001 Posts: 15,746	I received a call from Jim the day before my wedding. He was living in Southern California, and I was living in Northern California. "What time's your wedding tomorrow? I want to make sure I'm there, and I'm also going to film it." He left early in the morning, bought three camcorders and drove 8-9 hours so he could be here by 2 pm. Friends like that don't come every day. Attached Images

06-22-2011, 02:45 PM	#14
sunshinefizzy Member Senior Member Join Date: Sep 27, 2006 Location: Craptown Posts: 2,054	I'm sending light and love to you and your friend

06-22-2011, 05:30 PM	#15
Retro4Life Accept No Substitutes Forum Veteran Join Date: Feb 04, 2009 Location: IL Posts: 6,708	I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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