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Family Ties Forever! · 08-22-2010, 02:52 AM

This week will be my first week living on my own. My sister packed up her stuff Friday. My mother has packed some of her stuff and will be packing more and bringing it to her boyfriend's house. Some of their things have already been taken over to my mother's boyfriend's house.

This is a major change for me. It's difficult to handle. The timing is particularly bad as I am still recovering from major surgery. I think the stress of my mother and sister planning to move exacerbated my abdominal pain which turned out to be gall stones. That led to an emergency gall bladder removal. I hope the stress I'm under now as they have moved and only have things left to come get won't overwhelm me too much. The real test will come Monday when no one comes home. My mother won't be coming home from work and my sister won't be coming home from school.

They now have a new home and I'm not a part of it.

My mother, her boyfriend and my sister will be a "family" without me.

I would move with them, but they won't let me. It's breaking my heart.

catlover79 · 08-22-2010, 08:10 AM

Jenny, I hope and pray everything will work out for the best for you. Remember that you ARE a very special and sweet lady, and you have a "family" here at SO!!!!

MrCleveland · 08-22-2010, 02:59 PM

Jenny...

We're your family. I'm sorry that things aren't working out and you're not getting any support from your mom, her boyfriend, and your sister.

I hope you can recover from that as well.

Mr. Television · 08-22-2010, 03:43 PM

I think it's awful that they're moving while you're still recovering. I don't understand that at all.

hno: Just remember Jenny that you have friends here that care for you. I hope everything turns out alright in the end. You are in my prayers and God bless you.

spunkygirl · 08-22-2010, 03:45 PM

I'm sorry for all you're going through

I consider the people here family, so you have us if you ever need anything

catlover79 · 08-22-2010, 06:29 PM

Janice kept us updated on your condition ever step of the way, Jenny, and I know how particularly special you are to each other. I'm so thankful you have her. After all you've done for your relatives, I'm outraged at how they are treating you - just a few days after major surgery!!!!

I said a special prayer for you in church today - and asked God to send His angel care over you, as well as people near you to help. Just know how much you are loved!!!

Family Ties Forever! · 08-22-2010, 06:57 PM

Thanks everyone.

I appreciate it.

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Originally Posted by catlover79

Janice kept us updated on your condition ever step of the way, Jenny, and I know how particularly special you are to each other. I'm so thankful you have her. After all you've done for your relatives, I'm outraged at how they are treating you - just a few days after major surgery!!!!

I said a special prayer for you in church today - and asked God to send His angel care over you, as well as people near you to help. Just know how much you are loved!!!

Yes, I am very grateful to Janice for her kindness. She has been very nice to me and so helpful. It has meant a lot to me. I'm lucky to have her as a friend.

Marvo301 · 08-22-2010, 09:33 PM

Jenny I'm sorry your going through this major change in your life at the same time you are recovering from surgery. I will keep you in my prayers.

MickeyMac · 08-23-2010, 01:33 PM

Best of luck to you

Nighthawk76 · 08-23-2010, 03:08 PM

Though I think it was very thoughtless of your mother to leave when you are are recovering from your sickness, I think its pretty exciting that you are now living on your own. You are not going to have to deal with with either your sister or mom anymore.

The Great One · 08-23-2010, 06:08 PM

I'm sorry to hear about what's happening in your life at this time but I can see you have many friends here that will help you through this tough time.

Retro4Life · 08-23-2010, 06:20 PM

Jenny,

Living on your own for the first time is indeed very scary and daunting. At first it seems overwhelming, but I KNOW you can do this. You are a smart and capable young lady and there are far less capable people than you living on their own.

My advice is to take things one day at a time and reward yourself for the 'little victories' you will have along the way. Don't try to worry about or do everything at once. I know from experience that doesn't work too well.

Best of luck. As everyone else has said, you have people who care about you here. As regrettable (and bewildering) as your family situation is, you are more than an extension of your family. You are yourself and that's pretty special.

Janice · 08-23-2010, 06:34 PM

Jenny, you know how I feel about you and that this is breaking my heart as well. Living alone isn't for everyone. You've lived your entire life with your family, and now it's just over. It's like being locked out of their home. Just know I'm here for you. Monika's right, you are very special to me. I look forward to the day we meet.

sunshinefizzy · 08-23-2010, 06:47 PM

You're gonna be okay, Jenny. I don't know how a mother can do this to her child but I know when it's all said and done, you'll be a stronger, better person. Know that there is always help when you need it.

Lee · 08-23-2010, 09:13 PM

How can your mother do this to you, her own child? It sounds like your
mother never really cared for you in the first place, Jennifer. Why don't
you just cut her and your sister off completely? Your mother chose her
boyfriend over you, so why should you waste your time grieving? Move on
with your life. Like Janice said, I believe you are strong enough to make it
on your own. I do hope you fully recover from your Gallbladder surgery and
you can return to good health.

08-22-2010, 02:52 AM	#1
Family Ties Forever! Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 16, 2002 Location: Keaton residence Posts: 10,214	Now Living On My Own This week will be my first week living on my own. My sister packed up her stuff Friday. My mother has packed some of her stuff and will be packing more and bringing it to her boyfriend's house. Some of their things have already been taken over to my mother's boyfriend's house. This is a major change for me. It's difficult to handle. The timing is particularly bad as I am still recovering from major surgery. I think the stress of my mother and sister planning to move exacerbated my abdominal pain which turned out to be gall stones. That led to an emergency gall bladder removal. I hope the stress I'm under now as they have moved and only have things left to come get won't overwhelm me too much. The real test will come Monday when no one comes home. My mother won't be coming home from work and my sister won't be coming home from school. They now have a new home and I'm not a part of it. My mother, her boyfriend and my sister will be a "family" without me. I would move with them, but they won't let me. It's breaking my heart.
	__________________ Jenny

08-22-2010, 08:10 AM	#2
catlover79 God Bless Val Forum Addict Join Date: May 29, 2006 Location: Bewitched in Ohio Posts: 70,392	Jenny, I hope and pray everything will work out for the best for you. Remember that you ARE a very special and sweet lady, and you have a "family" here at SO!!!!
	__________________ "Jesus loves you and He approves this message." "I'm alive. I'm feeling good. I'm trying to live every moment as much as I can." - Valerie Harper, March 2013

08-22-2010, 02:59 PM	#3
MrCleveland Drew Carey from Hell Forum Star Join Date: Nov 10, 2007 Location: The City of Cleveland, in The State of Cleveland, in The United States of Cleveland Posts: 14,233	Jenny... We're your family. I'm sorry that things aren't working out and you're not getting any support from your mom, her boyfriend, and your sister. I hope you can recover from that as well.
	__________________ Thank God for kids that love Obscure Things. Lee Hazlewood (1929-2007) You ARE Special to God! Rev. Ernest Angely (August 1921-May 2021)

08-22-2010, 03:43 PM	#4
Mr. Television 23 Years at Sitcoms Online Forum Icon Join Date: Jun 06, 2003 Location: Somewhere you're Not Posts: 62,132	I think it's awful that they're moving while you're still recovering. I don't understand that at all. hno: Just remember Jenny that you have friends here that care for you. I hope everything turns out alright in the end. You are in my prayers and God bless you.
	__________________ Sonny

08-22-2010, 09:33 PM	#8
Marvo301 I'm NOT a Blockhead! Forum Celebrity Join Date: May 17, 2002 Location: The Great White North Posts: 21,460	Jenny I'm sorry your going through this major change in your life at the same time you are recovering from surgery. I will keep you in my prayers.
	__________________ Only a life lived for others is worth living. Albert Einstein A life isn't worth living unless it has impact on other lives. Jackie Robinson Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man. Benjamin Franklin

08-22-2010, 03:45 PM	#5
spunkygirl Member Moderator Forum Celebrity Join Date: Apr 26, 2003 Posts: 21,563	I'm sorry for all you're going through I consider the people here family, so you have us if you ever need anything

08-22-2010, 06:29 PM	#6
catlover79 God Bless Val Forum Addict Join Date: May 29, 2006 Location: Bewitched in Ohio Posts: 70,392	Janice kept us updated on your condition ever step of the way, Jenny, and I know how particularly special you are to each other. I'm so thankful you have her. After all you've done for your relatives, I'm outraged at how they are treating you - just a few days after major surgery!!!! I said a special prayer for you in church today - and asked God to send His angel care over you, as well as people near you to help. Just know how much you are loved!!!

08-23-2010, 01:33 PM	#9
MickeyMac Member Forum Star Join Date: Jun 18, 2008 Location: Kalamazoo, Michigan Posts: 19,008	Best of luck to you

08-23-2010, 03:08 PM	#10
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	Though I think it was very thoughtless of your mother to leave when you are are recovering from your sickness, I think its pretty exciting that you are now living on your own. You are not going to have to deal with with either your sister or mom anymore.

08-23-2010, 06:08 PM	#11
The Great One Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Aug 29, 2006 Posts: 6,378	I'm sorry to hear about what's happening in your life at this time but I can see you have many friends here that will help you through this tough time.
	__________________ .

08-23-2010, 06:20 PM	#12
Retro4Life Accept No Substitutes Forum Veteran Join Date: Feb 04, 2009 Location: IL Posts: 6,708	Jenny, Living on your own for the first time is indeed very scary and daunting. At first it seems overwhelming, but I KNOW you can do this. You are a smart and capable young lady and there are far less capable people than you living on their own. My advice is to take things one day at a time and reward yourself for the 'little victories' you will have along the way. Don't try to worry about or do everything at once. I know from experience that doesn't work too well. Best of luck. As everyone else has said, you have people who care about you here. As regrettable (and bewildering) as your family situation is, you are more than an extension of your family. You are yourself and that's pretty special.
	__________________ Alex Reiger :[Trying to convince Louie not to antagonize Bobby] "It's not hard to make people feel bad about their lives. What's hard is making people feel good about their lives."

08-23-2010, 06:34 PM	#13
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	Jenny, you know how I feel about you and that this is breaking my heart as well. Living alone isn't for everyone. You've lived your entire life with your family, and now it's just over. It's like being locked out of their home. Just know I'm here for you. Monika's right, you are very special to me. I look forward to the day we meet.

08-23-2010, 06:47 PM	#14
sunshinefizzy Member Senior Member Join Date: Sep 27, 2006 Location: Craptown Posts: 2,054	You're gonna be okay, Jenny. I don't know how a mother can do this to her child but I know when it's all said and done, you'll be a stronger, better person. Know that there is always help when you need it.

08-23-2010, 09:13 PM	#15
Lee veteran member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 23, 2001 Location: Pulaski, Tennessee Posts: 4,768	How can your mother do this to you, her own child? It sounds like your mother never really cared for you in the first place, Jennifer. Why don't you just cut her and your sister off completely? Your mother chose her boyfriend over you, so why should you waste your time grieving? Move on with your life. Like Janice said, I believe you are strong enough to make it on your own. I do hope you fully recover from your Gallbladder surgery and you can return to good health.