Need some Advice

[JoPol_wannabe]

I need your guy’s advice to a situation I am sort of dealing with. Well it's not really my situation it's my best friends and her Fiancées and I don't want to see them accidentally make the wrong decision.

Ok the situation is that they are engaged and are having a hard time trying to decide where to live. They have been engaged since last February and they still haven't decided on where to live. But there is more to it. See about 3 months after there engagement my best friends fiancé got laid off from his job and he hasn't gotten a full time job yet just a couple part- time jobs and is going to college part time and he is doing that online. But the dilemma is, my best friend feels they should live in her area due to the fact that she has a very secure full time job and also because there is a duplex that is for sale in her area and it is very nice the pervious owner did allot of updates and maintained it well. Also it at a very reasonable price. But her fiancée doesn't want to move there unless he can find a job and this past summer he has come and applied at a bunch of jobs around my best friend’s area. But my best friend is just scare to give up her secure job and move to his area and then to find out it's not that easy for her to find a full time job out there and they can't live on her fiancée’s part time job salary?

I feel like they should move to my best friend’s area since she has the full-time job and should would be making full time pay with benefits while he is looking for a job and doing his online college courses. But I don't want to tell them that and they actually listen and that ends up not being the right thing. They have gone and talked to there parents about this and of course I know for sure my best friend’s fiancée’s parents are telling him they should live where he lives because his mom doesn't want to let her little boy go. So I just thought I would ask you guys and get some other peoples advice that aren’t emotionally attached to these people?

[Pitooey]

Tell her to stay in her area. She has a secure job. Maybe 10 years from now they could move to her fiancees area but right now they should stay put. I wish them Luck! & also to you...

[ZeldaGilroy]

Originally Posted by JoPol_wannabe

I need your guy’s advice to a situation I am sort of dealing with. Well it's not really my situation it's my best friends and her Fiancées and I don't want to see them accidentally make the wrong decision.

Ok the situation is that they are engaged and are having a hard time trying to decide where to live. They have been engaged since last February and they still haven't decided on where to live. But there is more to it. See about 3 months after there engagement my best friends fiancé got laid off from his job and he hasn't gotten a full time job yet just a couple part- time jobs and is going to college part time and he is doing that online. But the dilemma is, my best friend feels they should live in her area due to the fact that she has a very secure full time job and also because there is a duplex that is for sale in her area and it is very nice the pervious owner did allot of updates and maintained it well. Also it at a very reasonable price. But her fiancée doesn't want to move there unless he can find a job and this past summer he has come and applied at a bunch of jobs around my best friend’s area. But my best friend is just scare to give up her secure job and move to his area and then to find out it's not that easy for her to find a full time job out there and they can't live on her fiancée’s part time job salary?

I feel like they should move to my best friend’s area since she has the full-time job and should would be making full time pay with benefits while he is looking for a job and doing his online college courses. But I don't want to tell them that and they actually listen and that ends up not being the right thing. They have gone and talked to there parents about this and of course I know for sure my best friend’s fiancée’s parents are telling him they should live where he lives because his mom doesn't want to let her little boy go. So I just thought I would ask you guys and get some other peoples advice that aren’t emotionally attached to these people?

I haven't seen you around in a while. It's nice to see you back.

I am not good with advice, but it does seem logical for your friend and her fiancée to live in her area where she has a stable and reliable job. In this job market giving up a good job without another one lined up doesn't seem like the responsible thing to do. Hopefully her fiancée will realize this.

[Waterston_Fan]

Decisions are always hard to make no matter what...

Forgive me but the friends' fiancee needs to let her little boy go, depending on how old he is...

I bet the friend's parents want her to go to where she wants to go, depending on where her parents live...

I think they should go to where the fiancee has that job since she has one and maybe he can line one up there..

[Janice]

I'm with the majority here. Your friend is situated in every way. She should buy that house if she wants, although they should be in agreement on that. Another thing, your friend's fiancees' parents shouldn't be telling him where to live, because they want him to live nearby. Take it from someone who was married to a Mama's boy, it's no joke. It's stressful. After many years, I got him out of it, much to his mother's chagrin. Young couples need to live their own lives.

[JoPol_wannabe]

Thanks guys for taking time to post your advice. I feel the same way you guys do that they should move to my bestfriends area, like Factsfan said it is the more responsible thing to do to move to her area instead of her moving and giving up her secure full time job espcially since he doesn't have a full time job tieing him down. Thanks guys that help me out. And FactsFan it's nice to be back it has been a while but I've been helping my best friend with her wedding being maid of honor that comes with a big to do list but I hope to be back more after the wedding which is in May.