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brownie87 · 10-16-2009, 11:47 AM

So, being that older women dating younger men is becoming more accepted in society, why is it that older men are being picked on and ostracized for dating younger women? Are we now saying it's okay for women to date younger men, but it isn't okay for men to date younger women? What kind of double standard is that?!?!?!

Nighthawk76 · 10-16-2009, 11:52 AM

I think if two people love each other, than that is all that matters. Though personally I would never want to date someone who was too much younger or older than me. I just don't think that we would have much in common. Its also a fact that marriages where there is an extreme difference in age tend not to work out over time. Still, if you can make it happen, go for it.

MickeyMac · 10-16-2009, 12:02 PM

I got to admit when I see a guy with a woman who is young enough to be his daughter (or in some cases his grandaughter) I think he looks silly. I dont get why a woman would want to date someone who is old enough to be her father, and why a middle aged man would chase after a girl who wasnt even born when he was in his twenties, but to each his own I suppose.

Myself I prefer someone who is around my age.

Then again there arent any young girls beating down my door to get to me.

Wreckless · 10-16-2009, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by MickeyMac

I got to admit when I see a guy with a woman who is young enough to be his daughter (or in some cases his grandaughter) I think he looks silly. I dont get why a woman would want to date someone who is old enough to be her father, and why a middle aged man would chase after a girl who wasnt even born when he was in his twenties, but to each his own I suppose.

Myself I prefer someone who is around my age.

Then again there arent any young girls beating down my door to get to me.

I hate when younger women date older guys.

A real good friend of mine, she's 17, and she has dated a 23 year old when she was 15, and a 25 year old a few months ago, not for long though, when she was 17. It disgusts me. I was extremely disappointed in her.

PunkyP0WER · 10-16-2009, 12:37 PM

1. they're more mature
2. they're more sophisticated
3. they're more stable in many areas of life
4. they're not into head games
5. they are looking to settle down in most cases and not looking for a meaningless relationship
that's why i like older men. would you like me to continue?

LuLu Rogers · 10-16-2009, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by PunkyP0WER

1. they're more mature
2. they're more sophiscticated
3. they're more stable in many areas of life
4. they're not into head games
5. they are looking to settle down in most cases and not looking for a meaningless relationship
that's why i like older men. would you like me to continue?

Couldn't agree more Kim, I LOVE older guys!

I want a guy who's at least 8 to 10 years older than me. A lot of guys my age are beer chugging morons

All of the reasons you listed are why I only date older guys.

I'll always love older guys, don't like it? Tough Toenails!

MickeyMac · 10-16-2009, 03:58 PM

Ok Lulu and Punky you made really good points about dating an older guy.

For the record I am 35 which means I am past the headgames, the wild boy antics and such, but I still want to date someone that is within my age group.

browneyes106 · 10-16-2009, 04:43 PM

I think sometimes older men dating younger women is sometimes more accepted than older women dating younger men. I think as a long the younger person is 18 or older and the older person isn't a lot older it's ok.

Chocoholic · 10-16-2009, 05:41 PM

I couldn't date someone who was much older or younger than me, but that's just my preference. As long as both are adults, I really don't see how it's anybody's business. I only think it's disgusting when the man or woman leaves their current spouse for someone much younger.

Vito · 10-16-2009, 10:17 PM

I'm in my mid-forties, and my girlfriend is 30. As far as I know, nobody has said anything about the age difference between us. It might be because I look young for my age and I can pass for 40...and she looks old for her age, and can also pass for 40. She's very pretty and she's in good shape, but she just looks old for her age. Don't tell her I said that

, but it's the truth.

If there was a visible age difference between us, I'm sure people would be telling me that I "robbed the cradle".

Number 9 Dream · 10-16-2009, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by PunkyP0WER

1. they're more mature
2. they're more sophisticated
3. they're more stable in many areas of life
4. they're not into head games
5. they are looking to settle down in most cases and not looking for a meaningless relationship
that's why i like older men. would you like me to continue?

YES. I agree completely. Older men are where it's at

beautifuldreamer · 10-16-2009, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Number 9 Dream

YES. I agree completely. Older men are where it's at

Where what's at?

*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 10-16-2009, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by browneyes106

I think sometimes older men dating younger women is sometimes more accepted than older women dating younger men. I think as a long the younger person is 18 or older and the older person isn't a lot older it's ok.

I totally agree...that's why this thread surprised me, I think it's generally less accepted when older women date younger men (although it is becoming glamourized in Hollywood recently). Either way I often find it strange when there's a huge age difference...but I guess it depends on a person's personality. If an older person is maybe 'young at heart' or whatever, then maybe dating a younger person works for them, etc. Personally, I wouldn't want to date someone with a huge age difference from me but I guess it does work for some people.

Darren J. · 10-17-2009, 01:11 AM

It's simply a double standard. There's plenty of them and they will never go away. I'm 21 and when it comes to dating, I would go 3 years in either direction. But, I wouldn't date someone over 25 and certainly not someone under 18.

TripperFan · 10-17-2009, 02:42 PM

Trust me, just because a guy is older (even much older) than a female doesn't necessarily mean he's more mature!!! And I, unfortunately have living proof of it.

If anything, the guy I thought who was stable, confident and mature hit the age of 50 and started acting like an 19 yr old jackass!!!

Now he thinks he's more mature because he finally is interested in going to the Dominican Republic for a vacation instead of the usual Disneyworld he lived for for 49 yrs. Go figure!

And yes, he did look like an idiot dating a girl almost half his age....plus was referred to as "dad" on occasion.

10-16-2009, 11:47 AM	#1
brownie87 Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Jul 10, 2008 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 250	Why do we pick on men who date younger women? So, being that older women dating younger men is becoming more accepted in society, why is it that older men are being picked on and ostracized for dating younger women? Are we now saying it's okay for women to date younger men, but it isn't okay for men to date younger women? What kind of double standard is that?!?!?!

10-16-2009, 12:37 PM	#5
PunkyP0WER Member Senior Member Join Date: May 23, 2008 Location: MACY*S on 34th St. Posts: 1,908	1. they're more mature 2. they're more sophisticated 3. they're more stable in many areas of life 4. they're not into head games 5. they are looking to settle down in most cases and not looking for a meaningless relationship that's why i like older men. would you like me to continue?
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10-16-2009, 11:52 AM	#2
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I think if two people love each other, than that is all that matters. Though personally I would never want to date someone who was too much younger or older than me. I just don't think that we would have much in common. Its also a fact that marriages where there is an extreme difference in age tend not to work out over time. Still, if you can make it happen, go for it.

10-16-2009, 12:02 PM	#3
MickeyMac Member Forum Star Join Date: Jun 18, 2008 Location: Kalamazoo, Michigan Posts: 19,008	I got to admit when I see a guy with a woman who is young enough to be his daughter (or in some cases his grandaughter) I think he looks silly. I dont get why a woman would want to date someone who is old enough to be her father, and why a middle aged man would chase after a girl who wasnt even born when he was in his twenties, but to each his own I suppose. Myself I prefer someone who is around my age. Then again there arent any young girls beating down my door to get to me.

10-16-2009, 03:58 PM	#7
MickeyMac Member Forum Star Join Date: Jun 18, 2008 Location: Kalamazoo, Michigan Posts: 19,008	Ok Lulu and Punky you made really good points about dating an older guy. For the record I am 35 which means I am past the headgames, the wild boy antics and such, but I still want to date someone that is within my age group.

10-16-2009, 04:43 PM	#8
browneyes106 Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 01, 2008 Posts: 6,094	I think sometimes older men dating younger women is sometimes more accepted than older women dating younger men. I think as a long the younger person is 18 or older and the older person isn't a lot older it's ok.

10-16-2009, 05:41 PM	#9
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	I couldn't date someone who was much older or younger than me, but that's just my preference. As long as both are adults, I really don't see how it's anybody's business. I only think it's disgusting when the man or woman leaves their current spouse for someone much younger.

10-16-2009, 10:17 PM	#10
Vito Member Forum Regular Join Date: Dec 28, 2008 Location: California Posts: 635	I'm in my mid-forties, and my girlfriend is 30. As far as I know, nobody has said anything about the age difference between us. It might be because I look young for my age and I can pass for 40...and she looks old for her age, and can also pass for 40. She's very pretty and she's in good shape, but she just looks old for her age. Don't tell her I said that , but it's the truth. If there was a visible age difference between us, I'm sure people would be telling me that I "robbed the cradle".

10-17-2009, 01:11 AM	#14
Darren J. Member Forum Regular Join Date: Mar 19, 2009 Posts: 692	It's simply a double standard. There's plenty of them and they will never go away. I'm 21 and when it comes to dating, I would go 3 years in either direction. But, I wouldn't date someone over 25 and certainly not someone under 18.