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Chocoholic · 10-08-2009, 05:14 PM

...and they slap it back in your face?

Happens to me quite a bit, especially at work. I am DONE with going out of my way to be nice or helpful to certain co-workers. I can tell they do not appreciate it at all. I used to give out lollipops on occasion to the kids I had morning duty with, but stopped because a couple of the teachers went whining to the principal about me. (They couldn't even come to me directly, the cowards!

) I'm just... DONE! Seriously, I'm just doing what's expected from me and I will help out the couple of people I trust and consider friends from now on.

Marvo301 · 10-08-2009, 05:31 PM

I understand your frustration Kristen. And it seems the situation you described happens more often then ever now as the world becomes more and more "politically correct." It's never been more true that "no good deed goes unpunished!"

catlover79 · 10-08-2009, 06:21 PM

I know how that feels, Kristen. I'm so sorry.

Chocoholic · 10-08-2009, 06:44 PM

Thanks. It's just been one of those weeks where I feel like I've had it and can't take it anymore. It really has. I feel like I can't do anything right by anyone.

GARFIELDKOOL · 10-08-2009, 06:46 PM

Why would they go to the principal for something like that?! Are they jealous?! And would you get in trouble by the principal?

Chocoholic · 10-08-2009, 06:53 PM

I don't know why they didn't just come to me. The principal just told me to stop, which I did. NOW, they're whining because I won't report for cafe duty in the morning until 7:45, which is when the staff is officially supposed to be on duty. (School starts at 8 AM.) I used to go in earlier out of the goodness of my heart to be with the kids who came in earlier even though I didn't get paid and the other people who are assigned to the cafe couldn't be bothered to come in a little earlier.

There's just no pleasing some people.

waichingliu81 · 10-08-2009, 07:06 PM

remember there is this thing called 'karma' which will come and bite them in the arse. it's sad i know. there's just no pleasing people at all.

Wreckless · 10-08-2009, 07:07 PM

I hate it when I'm trying to be nice, and am being nice, and people turn it around to make it something negative.

Wreckless · 10-08-2009, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by waichingliu81

remember there is this thing called 'karma' which will come and bite them in the arse. it's sad i know. there's just no pleasing people at all.

i totally agree

karma will get you! i mean for people that act like that. it seems to happen to them when It doesn't matter, but it happens.

GARFIELDKOOL · 10-08-2009, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Chocoholic

I don't know why they didn't just come to me. The principal just told me to stop, which I did. NOW, they're whining because I won't report for cafe duty in the morning until 7:45, which is when the staff is officially supposed to be on duty. (School starts at 8 AM.) I used to go in earlier out of the goodness of my heart to be with the kids who came in earlier even though I didn't get paid and the other people who are assigned to the cafe couldn't be bothered to come in a little earlier.

There's just no pleasing some people.

I didn't think there was any crime in giving students lollipops, but I guess there is. Geez.

spunkygirl · 10-08-2009, 07:20 PM

Man talk about whiners.

I was nice to someone that I work with yesterday and it was thrown back in my face. I'm tired of being nice to people and having it thrown back in my face. No wonder people don't want to do or say anything nice to people anymore

Chocoholic · 10-08-2009, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Wreckless

I hate it when I'm trying to be nice, and am being nice, and people turn it around to make it something negative.

I know exactly what you mean

Wreckless · 10-08-2009, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Chocoholic

I know exactly what you mean

Retro4Life · 10-08-2009, 08:00 PM

Were they griping because they thought the lollipops weren't nutritional or something? I mean, would they have griped as much if you had handed out grapes or something? Either way, it's a stupid thing to gripe about I think.

As long as YOU know you were doing a good thing for the right reasons, you really can't control or worry about how others perceive it. I know it's frustrating when it seems you aren't being appreciated, but in the end, our intentions are what matter and I hope your experience doesn't make you stop being a kind and caring person.

Nighthawk76 · 10-09-2009, 02:12 AM

I'm sorry that these things have happened to you, Kristen. However, I don't think that you should change who you are. You have a kind heart, and that is the person you have to be. As Jesus taught us, even when a person is unkind to us, we should still show kindness to them.

10-08-2009, 05:14 PM	#1
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	Don't you hate it when you try to be nice and helpful to people... ...and they slap it back in your face? Happens to me quite a bit, especially at work. I am DONE with going out of my way to be nice or helpful to certain co-workers. I can tell they do not appreciate it at all. I used to give out lollipops on occasion to the kids I had morning duty with, but stopped because a couple of the teachers went whining to the principal about me. (They couldn't even come to me directly, the cowards! ) I'm just... DONE! Seriously, I'm just doing what's expected from me and I will help out the couple of people I trust and consider friends from now on.

10-08-2009, 05:31 PM	#2
Marvo301 I'm NOT a Blockhead! Forum Celebrity Join Date: May 17, 2002 Location: The Great White North Posts: 21,460	I understand your frustration Kristen. And it seems the situation you described happens more often then ever now as the world becomes more and more "politically correct." It's never been more true that "no good deed goes unpunished!"
	__________________ Only a life lived for others is worth living. Albert Einstein A life isn't worth living unless it has impact on other lives. Jackie Robinson Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man. Benjamin Franklin

10-08-2009, 06:21 PM	#3
catlover79 God Bless Val Forum Addict Join Date: May 29, 2006 Location: Bewitched in Ohio Posts: 70,392	I know how that feels, Kristen. I'm so sorry.
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10-08-2009, 08:00 PM	#14
Retro4Life Accept No Substitutes Forum Veteran Join Date: Feb 04, 2009 Location: IL Posts: 6,708	Were they griping because they thought the lollipops weren't nutritional or something? I mean, would they have griped as much if you had handed out grapes or something? Either way, it's a stupid thing to gripe about I think. As long as YOU know you were doing a good thing for the right reasons, you really can't control or worry about how others perceive it. I know it's frustrating when it seems you aren't being appreciated, but in the end, our intentions are what matter and I hope your experience doesn't make you stop being a kind and caring person.
	__________________ Alex Reiger :[Trying to convince Louie not to antagonize Bobby] "It's not hard to make people feel bad about their lives. What's hard is making people feel good about their lives."

10-08-2009, 06:44 PM	#4
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	Thanks. It's just been one of those weeks where I feel like I've had it and can't take it anymore. It really has. I feel like I can't do anything right by anyone.

10-08-2009, 06:46 PM	#5
GARFIELDKOOL Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Sep 02, 2004 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 7,204	Why would they go to the principal for something like that?! Are they jealous?! And would you get in trouble by the principal?

10-08-2009, 06:53 PM	#6
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	I don't know why they didn't just come to me. The principal just told me to stop, which I did. NOW, they're whining because I won't report for cafe duty in the morning until 7:45, which is when the staff is officially supposed to be on duty. (School starts at 8 AM.) I used to go in earlier out of the goodness of my heart to be with the kids who came in earlier even though I didn't get paid and the other people who are assigned to the cafe couldn't be bothered to come in a little earlier. There's just no pleasing some people.

10-08-2009, 07:06 PM	#7
waichingliu81 debbie allen Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 28, 2006 Location: london, england, UK Posts: 4,347	remember there is this thing called 'karma' which will come and bite them in the arse. it's sad i know. there's just no pleasing people at all.

10-08-2009, 07:07 PM	#8
Wreckless Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Nov 04, 2007 Location: Banned Posts: 9,406	I hate it when I'm trying to be nice, and am being nice, and people turn it around to make it something negative.

10-08-2009, 07:20 PM	#11
spunkygirl Member Moderator Forum Celebrity Join Date: Apr 26, 2003 Posts: 21,563	Man talk about whiners. I was nice to someone that I work with yesterday and it was thrown back in my face. I'm tired of being nice to people and having it thrown back in my face. No wonder people don't want to do or say anything nice to people anymore

10-09-2009, 02:12 AM	#15
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I'm sorry that these things have happened to you, Kristen. However, I don't think that you should change who you are. You have a kind heart, and that is the person you have to be. As Jesus taught us, even when a person is unkind to us, we should still show kindness to them.