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brownie87 · 09-29-2009, 07:25 AM

This actually became one of my favorite episodes, mainly because of Jo and Blair's interaction. But, was this supposed to be the equivalent of Blair being in an abusive relationship? I remember the episode of "Golden Girls" where Blanche was dating some man who mistreated her and verbally abused her. So, was did anyone else think Chad had the makings of a potentially violent boyfriend? And, also, why is it when a guy is being mistreated, or controlled by his girlfriend/wife, it's seen as okay? (Chelsea on "Two and a Half Men", anyone?) See, I personally think that NOBODY should mistreat, or control, anyone in a relationship. Like Mrs. Garrett says later in the episode, "Love isn't supposed to make you feel bad....love's supposed to make you feel good." Anyway, I think alot of people - women AND men - who have been mistreated, or abused, by their partner can relate to this episode. Anyone else agree?

Smartboy · 09-30-2009, 01:21 AM

I do not think that Chad was depicted at violent. Just manapulative and selfish.

bambilynn · 09-30-2009, 03:29 AM

he wasn't violent but he was abusive to Blaire mentally and verbally. the way he told her how to dress and how to wear her hair and stuff and the how he left with another woman at that party they went to and she got stuck taking a cab back to the school all by herself, at night no less. basically how she kept obsessing on this guy who mistreated her. he just strung her along and she thought her self esteem didn't matter as long as she stayed with this guy. but she eventually realized she deserved better and left him in the dust. jo was also a big help in making her realize she didn't need him.

Smartboy · 09-30-2009, 03:39 AM

I agree that Jo did a wonderful job of helping Blair out during this tough time!

ssudioTVgirl · 10-02-2009, 04:41 AM

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Originally Posted by bambilynn

he wasn't violent but he was abusive to Blaire mentally and verbally. the way he told her how to dress and how to wear her hair and stuff and the how he left with another woman at that party they went to and she got stuck taking a cab back to the school all by herself, at night no less. basically how she kept obsessing on this guy who mistreated her. he just strung her along and she thought her self esteem didn't matter as long as she stayed with this guy. but she eventually realized she deserved better and left him in the dust. jo was also a big help in making her realize she didn't need him.

I love this episode. It's always been a favorite of mine. I remember thinking that he was bad news as soon as Jo shot him that dirty look when he went over to kiss Blair and then when he scolded Blair for changing the subject when Mrs. Garrett mentioned a family member of his being caught with a hooker and then, of course, when he told her that he didn't like her in yellow. So, this was a great episode, because we all - girls AND guys - get into these sort of unhealthy relationships with someone of the opposite sex. One of my guyfriends was dating this girl who made him wear red all the time and he wasn't allowed to wear flannels, or T-shirts, unless it was really hot outside. And she would scold him in public over silly little things and she cheated on him. So, after some convincing from me and a few other friends, he finally got rid of her. I, myself, dated a guy who mistreated me. Bottom line is like I said, we can all relate to Blair in this episode. I also loved when Jo came downstairs just when Blair was about to pig out waiting for 7:00 and she makes sure she doesn't call Chad. The ending of that episode was very poignant.

Nat's #1 Fan · 10-02-2009, 11:35 AM

No, Chad wasn't violent. Like others have said, he was more mentally and verbally abusive and was always telling Blair what to wear, to cut her hair, etc.

PlayOn · 10-02-2009, 12:26 PM

Watched it for the first time a few weeks ago and I loved it.
Anyway, like everybody else said, Chad's abuse wasn't physical, but mental and emotional. I, too, loved the end and where Mrs. G says 'Love is supposed to make you feel good.' So true.

Nighthawk76 · 10-02-2009, 05:19 PM

I really like this episode. I think we've all become obsessive at one time or the other over a guy or girl and know how unhealthy it can be. Especially if that person isn't good for us, like Chad wasn't for Blair. I also really like how Jo was there for Blair through this very difficult time.

09-30-2009, 03:29 AM	#3
bambilynn Member Occasional Poster Join Date: Sep 29, 2009 Location: Long Island Posts: 6	Good episode... he wasn't violent but he was abusive to Blaire mentally and verbally. the way he told her how to dress and how to wear her hair and stuff and the how he left with another woman at that party they went to and she got stuck taking a cab back to the school all by herself, at night no less. basically how she kept obsessing on this guy who mistreated her. he just strung her along and she thought her self esteem didn't matter as long as she stayed with this guy. but she eventually realized she deserved better and left him in the dust. jo was also a big help in making her realize she didn't need him.

10-02-2009, 12:26 PM	#7
PlayOn ADHD: what I have not who I am Senior Member Join Date: Jun 17, 2006 Location: I'll never tell. :p Posts: 2,745	Watched it for the first time a few weeks ago and I loved it. Anyway, like everybody else said, Chad's abuse wasn't physical, but mental and emotional. I, too, loved the end and where Mrs. G says 'Love is supposed to make you feel good.' So true.
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09-29-2009, 07:25 AM	#1
brownie87 Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Jul 10, 2008 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 250	"Magnificent Obsession" This actually became one of my favorite episodes, mainly because of Jo and Blair's interaction. But, was this supposed to be the equivalent of Blair being in an abusive relationship? I remember the episode of "Golden Girls" where Blanche was dating some man who mistreated her and verbally abused her. So, was did anyone else think Chad had the makings of a potentially violent boyfriend? And, also, why is it when a guy is being mistreated, or controlled by his girlfriend/wife, it's seen as okay? (Chelsea on "Two and a Half Men", anyone?) See, I personally think that NOBODY should mistreat, or control, anyone in a relationship. Like Mrs. Garrett says later in the episode, "Love isn't supposed to make you feel bad....love's supposed to make you feel good." Anyway, I think alot of people - women AND men - who have been mistreated, or abused, by their partner can relate to this episode. Anyone else agree?

09-30-2009, 01:21 AM	#2
Smartboy Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 06, 2007 Location: South Orange, NJ Posts: 4,231	I do not think that Chad was depicted at violent. Just manapulative and selfish.

09-30-2009, 03:39 AM	#4
Smartboy Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 06, 2007 Location: South Orange, NJ Posts: 4,231	I agree that Jo did a wonderful job of helping Blair out during this tough time!

10-02-2009, 11:35 AM	#6
Nat's #1 Fan Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Jul 25, 2008 Location: Whiting, IN Posts: 215	No, Chad wasn't violent. Like others have said, he was more mentally and verbally abusive and was always telling Blair what to wear, to cut her hair, etc.

10-02-2009, 05:19 PM	#8
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I really like this episode. I think we've all become obsessive at one time or the other over a guy or girl and know how unhealthy it can be. Especially if that person isn't good for us, like Chad wasn't for Blair. I also really like how Jo was there for Blair through this very difficult time.