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Darren J. · 08-19-2009, 04:29 PM

Awhile ago, I was interested in my friend. Let's just say it didn't end well and we'll leave it at that. Recently, a friend and my mom's primary asked if I had a girlfriend. When I said no, it was almost as if I said something offensive. Now my friend is talking about setting me up with someone. My family doesn't even ask anymore. Honestly, why is it so bad to be single? Better yet, is my family(mainly my dad) trying to out me, thinking I'm gay?

LuLu Rogers · 08-19-2009, 04:57 PM

My family does that to me all the time. They expect me to get married and have kids and since I haven't had a boyfriend in about 4 years, some family members have asked me if I were gay and offered to get me counseling

I just tell them to mind their own business. When I find a guy I like I'll date him, but I'm not going to start dating some ******* just so I won't be single.

Darren J. · 08-19-2009, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by LuLu Rogers

My family does that to me all the time. They expect me to get married and have kids and since I haven't had a boyfriend in about 4 years, some family members have asked me if I were gay and offered to get me counseling

I just tell them to mind their own business. When I find a guy I like I'll date him, but I'm not going to start dating some ******* just so I won't be single.

You're still ahead of me. I have never had a girlfriend and I just turned 21. As for the gay part, you're born that way. No one chooses that lifestyle. Problem is some people settle and that is the worst thing to do.

phoebe7165 · 08-19-2009, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by LuLu Rogers

My family does that to me all the time. They expect me to get married and have kids and since I haven't had a boyfriend in about 4 years, some family members have asked me if I were gay and offered to get me counseling

I just tell them to mind their own business. When I find a guy I like I'll date him, but I'm not going to start dating some ******* just so I won't be single.

Great topic!! And right up my alley!!

Thankfully, my immediate family has always been supportive about the fact that I'm not married. I have been asked though from other rude a$$holes if I'm gay just because I haven't had a boyfriend in a while. After my last relationship, I decided I needed a break, and Ive been happier since I can remember!!

I'm not going to be one of those females who just has to have a man in her life. That's why it kills to me to see some of those stupid females on Judge Judy!!

I think the rudest thing somebody said to me was what have I been doing with my life, since I wasn't married. I was so taken aback by the question. Later I thought that what I should've said back was "Um, dating losers. That's what I've been doing"!! Then he said that he & some of his friends have already been married 2 or 3 times. OK, so what you're saying is that it's more acceptable to be divorced multiple times than to never be married at all??!!

Another incident was this lady was talking to me about her ex-husbands. She was saying that she had been married 5 times!! Now I'm no beauty but I have to say, I don't how the heck this lady got 5 guys to marry her. There was absolutely nothing attractive about her. So she was saying that she was looking for Husband #6. I said "You're looking for Husband #6, I'm still looking for Husband #1!! This guy who was sitting near us obviously heard everything that was said and he said to me "You're not married yet? Why not?" I answered back "Because I haven't found anybody yet who I want to marry!!"

You'd think with the divorce rate, he'd say something positive like "Well, it is so great that you aren't just jumping into marriage with the 1st guy you meet. So many couples get divorced a few years later by doing that".

Marvo301 · 08-19-2009, 05:35 PM

Yeah I get bugged about being single sometimes. But I guess that goes with the territory when your almost 45 and still single. My philosophy has always been that I'm not going to get married just to be married. If that special woman comes along that I just can't live without that's when I will get married. So quit asking me about it already!!!!

hippiechick60 · 08-19-2009, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Marvo301

Yeah I get bugged about being single sometimes. But I guess that goes with the territory when your almost 45 and still single. My philosophy has always been that I'm not going to get married just to be married. If that special woman comes along that I just can't live without that's when I will get married. So quit asking me about it already!!!!

i'm married so....not me!

ZeldaGilroy · 08-19-2009, 05:44 PM

All the time! My family is always on me to find someone and get married. I am not against marriage. I would love to get married. I just haven't found anyone who is interested in me. I am not giving up hope though.

Unfortunately, at 33 I have been labeled the "Old Maid" of the family. I feel bad because my family acts like they pity me and like they think I am not a complete person since I haven't been married. It makes me want to cry. They refuse to see me as a whole person.

Waterston_Fan · 08-19-2009, 06:08 PM

I don't have that problem, luckily no one has asked me in the family.

Now my male cousin who lives in North Carolina on the other hand, he can't seem to keep a girl for more than 2 years..

He's a bartender and he seems to pick young ladies like in their 20's and my mom and sister kinda make fun of him a bit and I think my brother in law has suggested that he doesn't like it.

My cousin is like um.. 41 years old.

So sometimes I don't want to find a guy yet.. maybe when I get to NC or something.

MickeyMac · 08-19-2009, 06:17 PM

Not as much as I used to. From time to time people will ask me if I have a girlfriend and I say no, and then they always ask why. I tell people if you are that concerned about it go find me somebody.

Nighthawk76 · 08-19-2009, 06:30 PM

Right now I am happy to be single. Monika has often posted that she doesn't mind being single and that she leaves matters of the heart in God's hands. I think this is a really mature additude and I've decided to do the samething. Besides, being single isn't such a bad thing. When one is single there is much more freedom than if one has a girlfriend or boyfriend.

browneyes106 · 08-19-2009, 07:21 PM

A few of my friends give me heat for being single more than my relatives do.

catlover79 · 08-19-2009, 08:11 PM

Sometimes. I'm almost 30 and have never been in a relationship, at least not a serious one. I've had so many bad dating experiences that I realized I was a lot happier being single. I figure if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't. Plus, I have a full life with work, family, church activities, etc. So I don't think being single is such a bad thing - I'm not sad about it, and I don't really care what other people think about it.

Darren J. · 08-19-2009, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by MickeyMac

Not as much as I used to. From time to time people will ask me if I have a girlfriend and I say no, and then they always ask why. I tell people if you are that concerned about it go find me somebody.

That's something I could never understand. Some people are so nosey and have to know every detail of your life.

dawsongirl · 08-19-2009, 10:11 PM

Yeah, I have family who think my life is over. They don't care that I already think that and their comments just push me closer to the edge where sanity and insanity meet.

dawsongirl · 08-19-2009, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by FactsFan

All the time! My family is always on me to find someone and get married. I am not against marriage. I would love to get married. I just haven't found anyone who is interested in me. I am not giving up hope though.

Unfortunately, at 33 I have been labeled the "Old Maid" of the family. I feel bad because my family acts like they pity me and like they think I am not a complete person since I haven't been married. It makes me want to cry. They refuse to see me as a whole person.

I'm on your heels...and I cry about it all the time.

But, I'm also sick of two-faced *******s.

08-19-2009, 04:57 PM	#2
LuLu Rogers Colonel Brandon Forum Fanatic Join Date: Mar 23, 2004 Location: The Hogwarts Dungeons Posts: 11,013	My family does that to me all the time. They expect me to get married and have kids and since I haven't had a boyfriend in about 4 years, some family members have asked me if I were gay and offered to get me counseling I just tell them to mind their own business. When I find a guy I like I'll date him, but I'm not going to start dating some ******* just so I won't be single.
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08-19-2009, 05:35 PM	#5
Marvo301 I'm NOT a Blockhead! Forum Celebrity Join Date: May 17, 2002 Location: The Great White North Posts: 21,460	Yeah I get bugged about being single sometimes. But I guess that goes with the territory when your almost 45 and still single. My philosophy has always been that I'm not going to get married just to be married. If that special woman comes along that I just can't live without that's when I will get married. So quit asking me about it already!!!!
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08-19-2009, 08:11 PM	#12
catlover79 God Bless Val Forum Addict Join Date: May 29, 2006 Location: Bewitched in Ohio Posts: 70,392	Sometimes. I'm almost 30 and have never been in a relationship, at least not a serious one. I've had so many bad dating experiences that I realized I was a lot happier being single. I figure if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't. Plus, I have a full life with work, family, church activities, etc. So I don't think being single is such a bad thing - I'm not sad about it, and I don't really care what other people think about it.
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08-19-2009, 04:29 PM	#1
Darren J. Member Forum Regular Join Date: Mar 19, 2009 Posts: 692	Does anyone get heat for being single? Awhile ago, I was interested in my friend. Let's just say it didn't end well and we'll leave it at that. Recently, a friend and my mom's primary asked if I had a girlfriend. When I said no, it was almost as if I said something offensive. Now my friend is talking about setting me up with someone. My family doesn't even ask anymore. Honestly, why is it so bad to be single? Better yet, is my family(mainly my dad) trying to out me, thinking I'm gay?

08-19-2009, 05:44 PM	#7
ZeldaGilroy Dobie and Zelda Forever!!! Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 14, 2000 Location: I don't know...I'm probably lost! Posts: 4,144	All the time! My family is always on me to find someone and get married. I am not against marriage. I would love to get married. I just haven't found anyone who is interested in me. I am not giving up hope though. Unfortunately, at 33 I have been labeled the "Old Maid" of the family. I feel bad because my family acts like they pity me and like they think I am not a complete person since I haven't been married. It makes me want to cry. They refuse to see me as a whole person.

08-19-2009, 06:08 PM	#8
Waterston_Fan Eternal Member Eternal Member Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 26, 2005 Location: Southern California Posts: 3,195	I don't have that problem, luckily no one has asked me in the family. Now my male cousin who lives in North Carolina on the other hand, he can't seem to keep a girl for more than 2 years.. He's a bartender and he seems to pick young ladies like in their 20's and my mom and sister kinda make fun of him a bit and I think my brother in law has suggested that he doesn't like it. My cousin is like um.. 41 years old. So sometimes I don't want to find a guy yet.. maybe when I get to NC or something.

08-19-2009, 06:17 PM	#9
MickeyMac Member Forum Star Join Date: Jun 18, 2008 Location: Kalamazoo, Michigan Posts: 19,008	Not as much as I used to. From time to time people will ask me if I have a girlfriend and I say no, and then they always ask why. I tell people if you are that concerned about it go find me somebody.

08-19-2009, 06:30 PM	#10
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	Right now I am happy to be single. Monika has often posted that she doesn't mind being single and that she leaves matters of the heart in God's hands. I think this is a really mature additude and I've decided to do the samething. Besides, being single isn't such a bad thing. When one is single there is much more freedom than if one has a girlfriend or boyfriend.

08-19-2009, 07:21 PM	#11
browneyes106 Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 01, 2008 Posts: 6,094	A few of my friends give me heat for being single more than my relatives do.

08-19-2009, 10:11 PM	#14
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	Yeah, I have family who think my life is over. They don't care that I already think that and their comments just push me closer to the edge where sanity and insanity meet.