Two Incidents I Must Talk About

[jasonbigley]

A few weeks ago, my grandfather Mark was in the hospital. Let me first start off by saying I really can't stand him because he has a big mouth and when someone is not in close vicinity of him, he talks about that person. He thinks he knows everything. Anyways, I think a couple of my family memebers were discouraged with me because I did not go see him in the hospital or send a get well card. Why should I be nice to someone who is not nice back? Im not going to kiss someone's a** because they think they are important.


Another incident I must vent about is this woman I am friends with. This woman claims she is a christian and acts all high and mighty. She is in her seventies and I think she is prejudice against black people. She said there are too many colored people on TV. She also said that she grew up in the south when civil rights came in and she speaks about that incident as a terrible thing. I told her once about my gay cousin and she said that he would probably burn in hell. She also said she used a belt on her kids when they were younger. I think I am going to sever all ties with her because I have NO respect for someone who is prejudiced or is a bigot.

[browneyes106]

Originally Posted by jasonbigley

A few weeks ago, my grandfather Mark was in the hospital. Let me first start off by saying I really can't stand him because he has a big mouth and when someone is not in close vicinity of him, he talks about that person. He thinks he knows everything. Anyways, I think a couple of my family memebers were discouraged with me because I did not go see him in the hospital or send a get well card. Why should I be nice to someone who is not nice back? Im not going to kiss someone's a** because they think they are important.


Another incident I must vent about is this woman I am friends with. This woman claims she is a christian and acts all high and mighty. She is in her seventies and I think she is prejudice against black people. She said there are too many colored people on TV. She also said that she grew up in the south when civil rights came in and she speaks about that incident as a terrible thing. I told her once about my gay cousin and she said that he would probably burn in hell. She also said she used a belt on her kids when they were younger. I think I am going to sever all ties with her because I have NO respect for someone who is prejudiced or is a bigot.

I have dealt with a lot with relatives who aren't nice to me or simply just don't care for me. In the past there were a few times my parents got mad at me because I didn't visit certain relatives in the hospital or go to parties or events they had. Over time my parents understood why I did't want to be there for relatives who weren't nice to me or didn't like me.

I have known a few people who have predjudces. Sometimes I try to see and sort of understand why they believe the things they do. People stay set in the beliefs of the past a lot. I have severed ties with a few people who have extremiest religous beliefs. I had a friend whose grandfather told me I would burn in hell because I watched horror movies.

[TripperFan]

I fully understand you. I ditched one of my brothers years ago because of his bigoted attitude towards others (among other reasons). I can't stand being around people like that.

[Chocoholic]

I understand where you're coming from too. I can't stand being around narrow-minded, bigoted, hate-filled people either, relative or not. Living with my late grandmother for a year was pure Hell.

[Schmoopie]

I think you are right on both accounts. Your grandfather obviously makes you uncomfortable to be around, so there's no sense in you trying to please him. My family would react the same way, though if I didn't go see my grandfather in the hospital.

As for your friend, that is downright terrible. My grandparents lived in a small town and they used to ask me how many black kids were in my class pictures, like it was a sin to have people of a different color in my class. I thought this was terrible, and I don't remember my parents saying anything about it. Fortunately, I didn't grow up that way, but I also remember my grandmother saying that this black family had moved into the city and the residents practially ran them out. This was many years ago, so I hope the town has changed dramatically since then.

[MikeLutton]

Originally Posted by Chocoholic

I understand where you're coming from too. I can't stand being around narrow-minded, bigoted, hate-filled people either, relative or not. Living with my late grandmother for a year was pure Hell.

i know how that is i totally disown my grandma n my cousin she hate living here with us after we give her n my cousin home to live in she dont want live here and let my cousin do what he wants

and brings her drama here n stuff if it was not for my mom being here who is a saint i would thrown them both out long time ago right in to the street without a second thought.

[OH Nuts!]

Originally Posted by jasonbigley

A few weeks ago, my grandfather Mark was in the hospital. Let me first start off by saying I really can't stand him because he has a big mouth and when someone is not in close vicinity of him, he talks about that person. He thinks he knows everything. Anyways, I think a couple of my family memebers were discouraged with me because I did not go see him in the hospital or send a get well card. Why should I be nice to someone who is not nice back? Im not going to kiss someone's a** because they think they are important.


Another incident I must vent about is this woman I am friends with. This woman claims she is a christian and acts all high and mighty. She is in her seventies and I think she is prejudice against black people. She said there are too many colored people on TV. She also said that she grew up in the south when civil rights came in and she speaks about that incident as a terrible thing. I told her once about my gay cousin and she said that he would probably burn in hell. She also said she used a belt on her kids when they were younger. I think I am going to sever all ties with her because I have NO respect for someone who is prejudiced or is a bigot.

I understand your feelings totally. If your grandfather is SERIOUSLY ill I'd try to visit him once, if you can muster it. But if you can't you can't - he really does sound difficult. Re the old bat - I'd dump her in a nannosecound - she sounds dreadful - every which (witch?) way

[Furienna]

Originally Posted by jasonbigley

A few weeks ago, my grandfather Mark was in the hospital. Let me first start off by saying I really can't stand him because he has a big mouth and when someone is not in close vicinity of him, he talks about that person. He thinks he knows everything. Anyways, I think a couple of my family memebers were discouraged with me because I did not go see him in the hospital or send a get well card. Why should I be nice to someone who is not nice back? Im not going to kiss someone's a** because they think they are important.

I see... But still, he is your grandfather, and grandparents (and parents too, when they get old enough) is a kind of responsibility. You have to look after them. Even if you don't do it personally, you still have to make sure, that they're okay, that they get all the help, that they can need. So I can see why some of your family members are disappointed with you. I still visited my grandmother, who became senile during the last years of her life, when my brother and my sister absolutely refused to do so, and she hardly even recognized me anymore. You can't avoid relatives, even if they're difficult to handle in some way.

Another incident I must vent about is this woman I am friends with. This woman claims she is a christian and acts all high and mighty. She is in her seventies and I think she is prejudice against black people. She said there are too many colored people on TV. She also said that she grew up in the south when civil rights came in and she speaks about that incident as a terrible thing. I told her once about my gay cousin and she said that he would probably burn in hell. She also said she used a belt on her kids when they were younger. I think I am going to sever all ties with her because I have NO respect for someone who is prejudiced or is a bigot.

Do you have anything in common with this woman, when you don't talk about those things? How did you become friends with her in the first place? Because she doesn't sound like someone, who you would like to be friends with. If you just can't stand her anymore, maybe you should sever the ties. But that's up to you.