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Brad Russ · 07-07-2009, 11:57 AM

For me there's only one question I always dread answering a person who I've just met. That question is, what do you do for a living?? When you meet a person, that's always one of the first things they ask, which is part of the reason why I dread meeting new people. Having to tell them that I'm on disability is the most embarrassing thing in the world. I can see it not being embarrassing for someone who's in their 50's or over, but for someone who's 27, it's quite humiliating. I mean I know it's not my fault that I am the way I am, but the ackward silence, or surprised look that you often get upon telling someone, makes you just want to sink to the floor. I know I shouldn't care what people think, but I do, and this is a touchy subject for me. That's why I'm glad you all know. I don't have to explain it to anyone. Anyway, so that's what I hate getting asked. What do you hate, or dislike being asked by someone?

TripperFan · 07-07-2009, 12:05 PM

I've been that way the past couple of years because of my horrible employment (or lack of) situations.

Brad, the next time someone asks, just tell them "You work for the government". In a sense you do, you ARE being paid by them so to me, it's not really a lie.

Chocoholic · 07-07-2009, 12:10 PM

I dread being asked about my lovelife, or lack thereof. I'm 28 and still single, with no prospects in sight.

On the flip side, I love being asked if I have children. I smile and say, "Yes, about 2 dozen of them."

People's responses are priceless.

Brad Russ · 07-07-2009, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Pus$y Galore

I've been that way the past couple of years because of my horrible employment (or lack of) situations.

Brad, the next time someone asks, just tell them "You work for the government". In a sense you do, you ARE being paid by them so to me, it's not really a lie.

That's great, I'll definitely have to give that a try. lol! Reason I brought this subject up is because I was asked this dreaded question during a facebook chat this morning. If they press me any further after I tell them that I work for the government, I'll just say I'm not at liberty to discuss that.

I love that answer Cathie, thanks!!

AKA · 07-07-2009, 12:15 PM

For the past five years, I've been living with Rheumatoid Arthritis. I am in pain all the time, and if anyone watches me walk, they should be able to tell I'm disabled. My knees don't straighten, and I slouch really, really bad. Sometimes I have to use a wheelchair, like when I'm in airports, museums or a "walking" city like San Francisco.

So you can imagine I get a lot of "What's the matter"-type questions. Which is fine; I'm used to it.

But when I tell them I have RA, I dread the additional question, "Aren't you a bit young for arthritis?"

Brad Russ · 07-07-2009, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA

For the past five years, I've been living with Rheumatoid Arthritis. I am in pain all the time, and if anyone watches me walk, they should be able to tell I'm disabled. My knees don't straighten, and I slouch really, really bad. Sometimes I have to use a wheelchair, like when I'm in airports, museums or a "walking" city like San Francisco.

So you can imagine I get a lot of "What's the matter"-type questions. Which is fine; I'm used to it.

But when I tell them I have RA, I dread the additional question, "Aren't you a bit young for arthritis?"

I'm so sorry to hear that you're in such pain Brad, I really am.

My mom has bad rheumatoid arthritis, and it's painful just watching her get out of bed most mornings. Her toes are curling up, and I see her deteriorating right before my eyes. I really sympathize with you my friend, and I just wish there were a cure for diseases like this. Know though that you will be in my prayers. I wish you the very best!!

TripperFan · 07-07-2009, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA

For the past five years, I've been living with Rheumatoid Arthritis. I am in pain all the time, and if anyone watches me walk, they should be able to tell I'm disabled. My knees don't straighten, and I slouch really, really bad. Sometimes I have to use a wheelchair, like when I'm in airports, museums or a "walking" city like San Francisco.

So you can imagine I get a lot of "What's the matter"-type questions. Which is fine; I'm used to it.

But when I tell them I have RA, I dread the additional question, "Aren't you a bit young for arthritis?"

OMG Can I ever relate to this!!! I was diagnosed at 22 with RA and Fibro. Because of my age and being into fashion, I still wore high heels most of the time and always for work. When I'd be into a flareup I'd be walking stiff and my company gave me a parking spot by visitors so I wouldn't have to walk too far (especially when it was icy). Oh the comments I would get! Why do YOU get special parking? You're too young for arthritis (sorry folks - toddlers can even get RA), etc., etc.. It got to the point that I had a scripted explanation of what RA really is and how anyone can get it at any age.

Nothing worse than having a medical condition that the world feels you owe them an explanation for.

Waterston_Fan · 07-07-2009, 12:57 PM

If it's a stranger, I hate to ask them where I work just cause I don't want them to visit me...

But that question was asked of me and I just said, I work at a mall and the guy kept asking.. Then the driver who talks out of his ass tells the guy where I work..

But I haven't had any problems since then but I really need to bring my ipod so people don't talk to me.

InspectorExstead · 07-07-2009, 03:19 PM

The one thing that bugs the crap out of me, is "Does it suck being short?" I'm 4'11'' and I ALWAYS get a question about that when people meet me. Ten years ago in middle school, it was kind of funny. Now it's annoying.
Everyone I meet asks me variations of that question "How do you do stuff since you're so short?!" "Hey...can you get that for me? Oh wait, you're too short to..."
I'm short, but that doesn't mean I'm not capable of doing or getting stuff. People think it's funny but once you hear it about twice a week or so, it gets pretty damn annoying. And fast.

beautifuldreamer · 07-07-2009, 05:21 PM

^That sounds really annoying. I have some friends who are that size, and they are some of the toughest ladies I know.

The main annoying questions for me: "How do you pronounce that?" (regarding my name). Ugh, I get it almost every time I try to introduce myself to someone... and I enunciate so clearly... and they STILL don't get it!!

I usually have to say it 3 or 4 times, and then spell it for them.

I found this yahoo post on their message board of a bunch of people hating on my name. It's pretty funnny!

The Name Matlyn??

Another one: "Why aren't you dating anyone??" I just HATE that question... and it's almost always from women. It's like they can't comprehend a 19 year old young woman being happily single. Geez louise!

Great idea for a thread, Brad!! You always ask such original questions!!

howierules86 · 07-07-2009, 05:23 PM

The question I hate being asked by employees is "What's your home phone number, area code first?"

Waterston_Fan · 07-07-2009, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by InspectorExstead

The one thing that bugs the crap out of me, is "Does it suck being short?" I'm 4'11'' and I ALWAYS get a question about that when people meet me. Ten years ago in middle school, it was kind of funny. Now it's annoying.
Everyone I meet asks me variations of that question "How do you do stuff since you're so short?!" "Hey...can you get that for me? Oh wait, you're too short to..."
I'm short, but that doesn't mean I'm not capable of doing or getting stuff. People think it's funny but once you hear it about twice a week or so, it gets pretty damn annoying. And fast.

Hey!! I don't feel so bad anymore!!

I've never had that question about it sucking to be short.

But I have had to ask people to get things for me or put things up for me.

Waterston_Fan · 07-07-2009, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by howierules86

The question I hate being asked by employees is "What's your home phone number, area code first?"

I think it's to see who comes to visit that store. So if I went to an Old Navy store in North Carolina, they'd want to know if a tourist from San Diego is visiting or not.

But I agree. I used to get that question but lately I don't. Maybe I can just give them my work number.. LOL

beautifuldreamer · 07-07-2009, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Waterston_Fan

Hey!! I don't feel so bad anymore!!

I've never had that question about it sucking to be short.

But I have had to ask people to get things for me or put things up for me.

If you don't mind me asking... how tall are you?

ZeldaGilroy · 07-07-2009, 05:29 PM

Interesting thread. The question I hate the most comes from up at every family reunion, "Why aren't you married yet?" Followed by "Are you dating anyone?" and then the dreaded, "Oh...so you don't want to be with someone?" UGH!

The other question I get a lot usually comes from the kids I work with at school. I have lupus, which luckily I only have the kind that effects my skin and not my organs, but I have a lot of places on my skin that are discolored or scarred and sometimes I have flare ups and I'll have red splotches or dry rashy places on my arms or legs and kids are always asking me "What is that?" or "Did you hurt yourself?" They are always very concerned. I always tell them what it is and then they are fine, except one little girl last year suggested I put some make-up on it to cover it up.

I wonder how long it would take me to apply full body make-up everyday? I usually just wear long sleeves and pants.

07-07-2009, 11:57 AM	#1
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	Questions that you dread people asking you?? For me there's only one question I always dread answering a person who I've just met. That question is, what do you do for a living?? When you meet a person, that's always one of the first things they ask, which is part of the reason why I dread meeting new people. Having to tell them that I'm on disability is the most embarrassing thing in the world. I can see it not being embarrassing for someone who's in their 50's or over, but for someone who's 27, it's quite humiliating. I mean I know it's not my fault that I am the way I am, but the ackward silence, or surprised look that you often get upon telling someone, makes you just want to sink to the floor. I know I shouldn't care what people think, but I do, and this is a touchy subject for me. That's why I'm glad you all know. I don't have to explain it to anyone. Anyway, so that's what I hate getting asked. What do you hate, or dislike being asked by someone?
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07-07-2009, 12:05 PM	#2
TripperFan In God's Arms Now Forum Star Join Date: Sep 14, 2003 Location: Heartbreak Ridge Posts: 12,086	I've been that way the past couple of years because of my horrible employment (or lack of) situations. Brad, the next time someone asks, just tell them "You work for the government". In a sense you do, you ARE being paid by them so to me, it's not really a lie.
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07-07-2009, 03:19 PM	#9
InspectorExstead Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Oct 29, 2001 Location: The Golden State Posts: 12,902	The one thing that bugs the crap out of me, is "Does it suck being short?" I'm 4'11'' and I ALWAYS get a question about that when people meet me. Ten years ago in middle school, it was kind of funny. Now it's annoying. Everyone I meet asks me variations of that question "How do you do stuff since you're so short?!" "Hey...can you get that for me? Oh wait, you're too short to..." I'm short, but that doesn't mean I'm not capable of doing or getting stuff. People think it's funny but once you hear it about twice a week or so, it gets pretty damn annoying. And fast.
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07-07-2009, 12:10 PM	#3
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	I dread being asked about my lovelife, or lack thereof. I'm 28 and still single, with no prospects in sight. On the flip side, I love being asked if I have children. I smile and say, "Yes, about 2 dozen of them." People's responses are priceless.

07-07-2009, 12:15 PM	#5
AKA Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 17, 2001 Posts: 15,746	For the past five years, I've been living with Rheumatoid Arthritis. I am in pain all the time, and if anyone watches me walk, they should be able to tell I'm disabled. My knees don't straighten, and I slouch really, really bad. Sometimes I have to use a wheelchair, like when I'm in airports, museums or a "walking" city like San Francisco. So you can imagine I get a lot of "What's the matter"-type questions. Which is fine; I'm used to it. But when I tell them I have RA, I dread the additional question, "Aren't you a bit young for arthritis?"

07-07-2009, 12:57 PM	#8
Waterston_Fan Eternal Member Eternal Member Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 26, 2005 Location: Southern California Posts: 3,195	If it's a stranger, I hate to ask them where I work just cause I don't want them to visit me... But that question was asked of me and I just said, I work at a mall and the guy kept asking.. Then the driver who talks out of his ass tells the guy where I work.. But I haven't had any problems since then but I really need to bring my ipod so people don't talk to me.

07-07-2009, 05:21 PM	#10
beautifuldreamer Member Senior Member Join Date: Jan 30, 2009 Location: In a constant state of oblivion Posts: 1,361	^That sounds really annoying. I have some friends who are that size, and they are some of the toughest ladies I know. The main annoying questions for me: "How do you pronounce that?" (regarding my name). Ugh, I get it almost every time I try to introduce myself to someone... and I enunciate so clearly... and they STILL don't get it!! I usually have to say it 3 or 4 times, and then spell it for them. I found this yahoo post on their message board of a bunch of people hating on my name. It's pretty funnny! The Name Matlyn?? Another one: "Why aren't you dating anyone??" I just HATE that question... and it's almost always from women. It's like they can't comprehend a 19 year old young woman being happily single. Geez louise! Great idea for a thread, Brad!! You always ask such original questions!!

07-07-2009, 05:23 PM	#11
howierules86 Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 05, 2007 Location: Opelika, AL Posts: 29,726	The question I hate being asked by employees is "What's your home phone number, area code first?"

07-07-2009, 05:29 PM	#15
ZeldaGilroy Dobie and Zelda Forever!!! Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 14, 2000 Location: I don't know...I'm probably lost! Posts: 4,144	Interesting thread. The question I hate the most comes from up at every family reunion, "Why aren't you married yet?" Followed by "Are you dating anyone?" and then the dreaded, "Oh...so you don't want to be with someone?" UGH! The other question I get a lot usually comes from the kids I work with at school. I have lupus, which luckily I only have the kind that effects my skin and not my organs, but I have a lot of places on my skin that are discolored or scarred and sometimes I have flare ups and I'll have red splotches or dry rashy places on my arms or legs and kids are always asking me "What is that?" or "Did you hurt yourself?" They are always very concerned. I always tell them what it is and then they are fine, except one little girl last year suggested I put some make-up on it to cover it up. I wonder how long it would take me to apply full body make-up everyday? I usually just wear long sleeves and pants.