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littlebelle · 06-28-2009, 12:31 AM

Do you all think it's okay to meet a stranger out in public and after having a little small talk w/ them ask them for their number? I mean this in the way of, a romantic interest.

I think there's a difference between somebody yelling out their car window, making cat calls and such, then asking if they can have their number and what I mentioned above.

Nighthawk76 · 06-28-2009, 12:45 AM

It depends on what sort of person you are, Ramona. Since I'm really shy and reserved, I would never ask a stranger for their number. However, its not exactly unheard of either. I guess you just have to go with your gut instinct.

OH Nuts! · 06-28-2009, 12:59 AM

I don't see anything wrong with it. The way I interpret it it says "I'd like more opportunities to get to know you better." And that doesn't necessarily imply just romantically, at least to me.

Hollow · 06-28-2009, 02:23 AM

for me, no, because i hate strangers and i wish they would all **** off and leave me alone.
for other people, yeah i guess.

Schmoopie · 06-28-2009, 02:34 AM

If I meet someone I like (and I mean in the friend kind of way, since I'm married

), I'll usually give them my e-mail address. I've been with my husband since 1993, so the Internet wasn't around back then (not as readily, anyway!) and I've never given a stranger my number. E-mail is safer, IMO.

Andrea

Big C · 06-28-2009, 02:46 AM

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Originally Posted by littlebelle

Do you all think it's okay to meet a stranger out in public and after having a little small talk w/ them ask them for their number? I mean this in the way of, a romantic interest.

I think there's a difference between somebody yelling out their car window, making cat calls and such, then asking if they can have their number and what I mentioned above.

It's not a problem when considering the intentions of the other person.

If they mean nice and the talk goes well and the idea of a phone numbers comes up, then that's fine.

On the other hand, if they cat-call and wolf-whistle and you don't like that, then you can go nuts and unleash any fury you have.

If someone treats you like a piece of meat and you don't take too it kindly- by all means, let him have it!

littlebelle · 06-28-2009, 02:49 AM

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It's not a problem when considering the intentions of the other person.

If they mean nice and the talk goes well and the idea of a phone numbers comes up, then that's fine.

On the other hand, if they cat-call and wolf-whistle and you don't like that, then you can go nuts and unleash any fury you have.

If someone treats you like a piece of meat and you don't take too it kindly- by all means, let him have it!

No. He was a really nice guy that came through my line at work and began talking w/ me. He gave me his number, so I've been talking to him tonight. He's seems fine, and he's super cute

.

Big C · 06-28-2009, 02:54 AM

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No. He was a really nice guy that came through my line at work and began talking w/ me. He gave me his number, so I've been talking to him tonight. He's seems fine, and he's super cute

.

In that case, if I were you, I'd get to know him a bit better and then possibly ask him out to get a bite to eat.

When I meet a hot girl for the first time, I get to know them, then set up a get-together with them.

littlebelle · 06-28-2009, 02:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Big C

In that case, if I were you, I'd get to know him a bit better and then possibly ask him out to get a bite to eat.

When I meet a hot girl for the first time, I get to know them, then set up a get-together with them.

Yeah, do you think tomorrow too soon?

Big C · 06-28-2009, 03:01 AM

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Yeah, do you think tomorrow too soon?

Definitely too soon.

First, find out what kind of food he likes- the last thing you want to do is to take him to a restaraunt that mainly serves a food that he doesn't like.

IMO, definitely Thursday/Friday-ish.

Also, you should try and set up something with him on the Fourth of July- you can watch the fireworks with someone!

littlebelle · 06-28-2009, 03:04 AM

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Definitely too soon.

First, find out what kind of food he likes- the last thing you want to do is to take him to a restaraunt that mainly serves a food that he doesn't like.

IMO, definitely Thursday/Friday-ish.

Also, you should try and set up something with him on the Fourth of July- you can watch the fireworks with someone!

Okay, but maybe it would be good to just get something to eat with him tomorrow and get to know him? then we could take it from there?

Big C · 06-28-2009, 03:05 AM

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Okay, but maybe it would be good to just get something to eat with him tomorrow and get to know him? then we could take it from there?

In that case, that's a good idea.

If you're going to do it, though, find out what food he likes.

littlebelle · 06-28-2009, 03:14 AM

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In that case, that's a good idea.

If you're going to do it, though, find out what food he likes.

Yeah, I will. It's good to go out on first dates, just to make sure the persons not a creeper, lol.

Big C · 06-28-2009, 03:23 AM

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It's good to go out on first dates, just to make sure the persons not a creeper

IMO, if he's the real deal, he's a keeper.

Otherwise, if he's a creep, dump him.

I always have that little bit of nervousness that the person I'm with might have some terrible flaws.

Theda Bara · 06-28-2009, 04:50 AM

Ramona, I see no harm in exchanging numbers with someone, especially if there is a mutual attraction; but, I do highly recommend that you two have your first date in a public place; somewhere you two can feel comfortable; find a place where you two can talk and get to know each other, and take it from there.

06-28-2009, 12:31 AM	#1
littlebelle Spell Caster Senior Member Join Date: Dec 29, 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 2,659	Is this normal? Do you all think it's okay to meet a stranger out in public and after having a little small talk w/ them ask them for their number? I mean this in the way of, a romantic interest. I think there's a difference between somebody yelling out their car window, making cat calls and such, then asking if they can have their number and what I mentioned above.

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Schmoopie Keep Calm and Love Snoopy Forum Star Join Date: Jul 13, 2008 Location: Lynnwood, Washington Posts: 15,697	If I meet someone I like (and I mean in the friend kind of way, since I'm married ), I'll usually give them my e-mail address. I've been with my husband since 1993, so the Internet wasn't around back then (not as readily, anyway!) and I've never given a stranger my number. E-mail is safer, IMO. Andrea
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06-28-2009, 12:45 AM	#2
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	It depends on what sort of person you are, Ramona. Since I'm really shy and reserved, I would never ask a stranger for their number. However, its not exactly unheard of either. I guess you just have to go with your gut instinct.

06-28-2009, 12:59 AM	#3
OH Nuts! Member Forum King Join Date: Feb 15, 2005 Posts: 133,383	I don't see anything wrong with it. The way I interpret it it says "I'd like more opportunities to get to know you better." And that doesn't necessarily imply just romantically, at least to me.

06-28-2009, 02:23 AM	#4
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	for me, no, because i hate strangers and i wish they would all **** off and leave me alone. for other people, yeah i guess.

06-28-2009, 04:50 AM	#15
Theda Bara Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 27, 2006 Posts: 7,154	Ramona, I see no harm in exchanging numbers with someone, especially if there is a mutual attraction; but, I do highly recommend that you two have your first date in a public place; somewhere you two can feel comfortable; find a place where you two can talk and get to know each other, and take it from there.