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Family Ties Forever! · 05-27-2009, 12:37 AM

If you were invited to a birthday party and then uninvited through no fault of your own would you forgive the friend who invited and then uninvited you?

Edit: See post #22 in this thread for more details and latest situation.

Lee · 05-27-2009, 12:54 AM

I would forgive because it is the Christian thing to do

Nighthawk76 · 05-27-2009, 12:57 AM

I wouldn't, Jenny. Chrissy needs to apologize to you first.

Nighthawk76 · 05-27-2009, 12:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lee

I would forgive because it is the Christian thing to do

It is. However, this isn't the first time that Jenny is been treated this way by this person.

PunkyP0WER · 05-27-2009, 01:03 AM

forgiving is the christian thing to do however when people keep treating you the same way over and over, you make a doormat out of yourself and set yourself up for future disappointment. she sounds very self absorbed and you don't need fairweather friends in your life.

Janice · 05-27-2009, 01:56 AM

Time to let go.

She's a terrible friend. I know it's not easy, as you and Chrissy go way back, and have a shared history. Still, she's changed, and not for the better. A friend doesn't do the things that Chrissy does. You're a wonderful person, and she takes you for granted. Ditching you last year was unforgiveable, and now uninviting you to her son's party is simply disgusting. Whatever you decide Jenny, I'll be here for you. I was looking for the option, Kick the biotch to the curb, on the Poll, but couldn't find it. As I told you on the phone last night, You don't deserve Chrissy, and she definitely doesn't deserve you.

LuLu Rogers · 05-27-2009, 03:00 AM

Forgive, because holding a grudge will make you miserable, then move on. You'll find other friends who actually care about you and treat you with respect

Hollow · 05-27-2009, 03:56 AM

based on the responses here, no, i wouldn't forgive someone who repeatedly excluded me. no one hurts me for free.

Sharop · 05-27-2009, 06:50 AM

I think it depends what you mean by "forgive." If it simply means to just accept the way she's treating you and still be her friend, then I would say, based on what little I've heard, that you should probably drop the friendship.

If by "forgive" you simply mean to not harbour intense bad feelings for her, then I would go with the forgiving option - i.e. neither dislike or like her.

So basically, I would say don't hate her - but don't bother trying to keep up the friendship either.

Waterston_Fan · 05-27-2009, 11:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Family Ties Forever!

If you were invited to a party and then uninvited through no fault of your own would you forgive the friend who invited and then uninvited you?

Is there a reason for you being uninvited?

Is this the same one that got mad at you for political reasons?

MickeyMac · 05-27-2009, 05:58 PM

First I would find out why I was uninvited. In the end I would forgive, but depending on the circumstances I am no so sure if I would remain friends with that person.

Mr. Television · 05-27-2009, 06:06 PM

Forgiving is one thing but continuing this friendship is another. She doesn't appreciate you Jenny. This isn't the first time that she's treated you like this. Friends are supposed to stand by each other...they're not supposed to make you feel bad. You deserve more than this....you really do.

Marvo301 · 05-27-2009, 06:06 PM

Jenny you need to forgive Chrissy for you're own sake regardless of wether your friendship will continue in the future or not. Otherwise you will be dragging this baggage around with you for who knows how long. And as Lauren said holding a grudge will only make you miserable.

dawsongirl · 05-27-2009, 08:50 PM

I'm not a forgiving person. People like her don't deserve it.

Liza · 05-27-2009, 09:01 PM

I'd say it depends on two things: one, the history of the "friend" and two, any outside circumstances.

My sister actually backed out of having three of her friends in her wedding (her husband has no friends). They were ticked off, but got over it. They just chalked it up to her being a Bridezilla. The wedding's over, all is well.

But that's a unique situation. If there aren't other factors involved - the friend is uninviting just to be nasty - then I'd think long and hard about wanting that person in my life.

Forgive, but don't forget.

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05-27-2009, 12:37 AM	#1
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PunkyP0WER Member Senior Member Join Date: May 23, 2008 Location: MACY*S on 34th St. Posts: 1,908	forgiving is the christian thing to do however when people keep treating you the same way over and over, you make a doormat out of yourself and set yourself up for future disappointment. she sounds very self absorbed and you don't need fairweather friends in your life.
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05-27-2009, 03:00 AM	#7
LuLu Rogers Colonel Brandon Forum Fanatic Join Date: Mar 23, 2004 Location: The Hogwarts Dungeons Posts: 11,013	Forgive, because holding a grudge will make you miserable, then move on. You'll find other friends who actually care about you and treat you with respect
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05-27-2009, 06:50 AM	#9
Sharop Andy Gibb aged 12 Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 03, 2004 Location: Courthouse Square, Hill Valley, beside the clocktower, 10:04 p.m., November 12th 1955 Posts: 3,912	I think it depends what you mean by "forgive." If it simply means to just accept the way she's treating you and still be her friend, then I would say, based on what little I've heard, that you should probably drop the friendship. If by "forgive" you simply mean to not harbour intense bad feelings for her, then I would go with the forgiving option - i.e. neither dislike or like her. So basically, I would say don't hate her - but don't bother trying to keep up the friendship either.
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05-27-2009, 12:54 AM	#2
Lee veteran member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 23, 2001 Location: Pulaski, Tennessee Posts: 4,768	I would forgive because it is the Christian thing to do
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05-27-2009, 12:57 AM	#3
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I wouldn't, Jenny. Chrissy needs to apologize to you first.

05-27-2009, 01:56 AM	#6
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	Time to let go. She's a terrible friend. I know it's not easy, as you and Chrissy go way back, and have a shared history. Still, she's changed, and not for the better. A friend doesn't do the things that Chrissy does. You're a wonderful person, and she takes you for granted. Ditching you last year was unforgiveable, and now uninviting you to her son's party is simply disgusting. Whatever you decide Jenny, I'll be here for you. I was looking for the option, Kick the biotch to the curb, on the Poll, but couldn't find it. As I told you on the phone last night, You don't deserve Chrissy, and she definitely doesn't deserve you.

05-27-2009, 03:56 AM	#8
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	based on the responses here, no, i wouldn't forgive someone who repeatedly excluded me. no one hurts me for free.

05-27-2009, 05:58 PM	#11
MickeyMac Member Forum Star Join Date: Jun 18, 2008 Location: Kalamazoo, Michigan Posts: 19,008	First I would find out why I was uninvited. In the end I would forgive, but depending on the circumstances I am no so sure if I would remain friends with that person.

05-27-2009, 06:06 PM	#12
Mr. Television 23 Years at Sitcoms Online Forum Icon Join Date: Jun 06, 2003 Location: Somewhere you're Not Posts: 62,132	Forgiving is one thing but continuing this friendship is another. She doesn't appreciate you Jenny. This isn't the first time that she's treated you like this. Friends are supposed to stand by each other...they're not supposed to make you feel bad. You deserve more than this....you really do.
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05-27-2009, 06:06 PM	#13
Marvo301 I'm NOT a Blockhead! Forum Celebrity Join Date: May 17, 2002 Location: The Great White North Posts: 21,460	Jenny you need to forgive Chrissy for you're own sake regardless of wether your friendship will continue in the future or not. Otherwise you will be dragging this baggage around with you for who knows how long. And as Lauren said holding a grudge will only make you miserable.
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05-27-2009, 08:50 PM	#14
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	I'm not a forgiving person. People like her don't deserve it.

05-27-2009, 09:01 PM	#15
Liza BestYearsofOurLives Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 24, 2001 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 6,537	I'd say it depends on two things: one, the history of the "friend" and two, any outside circumstances. My sister actually backed out of having three of her friends in her wedding (her husband has no friends). They were ticked off, but got over it. They just chalked it up to her being a Bridezilla. The wedding's over, all is well. But that's a unique situation. If there aren't other factors involved - the friend is uninviting just to be nasty - then I'd think long and hard about wanting that person in my life. Forgive, but don't forget.