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Darren J. · 05-06-2009, 12:35 AM

I know some of the posters grew up in a time where this never happened. Though it's generally not too common these days, it does happen a lot more than it used to. Ladies, would you ask out a guy you liked? Guys, would you be flattered if a lady asked you out? Just curious as to what everyone's opinion is.

Wreckless · 05-06-2009, 12:45 AM

i would be really flattered & way more flattered then her saying yes if i ask her- or just asking her in general- lol. Because with guys, theirs a fear or level of rejection we don't want to happen. So I'd say I want more women to ask me out, instead of me doing the work lol.

Darren J. · 05-06-2009, 12:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Wreckless

i would be really flattered & way more flattered then her saying yes if i ask her- or just asking her in general- lol. Because with guys, theirs a fear or level of rejection we don't want to happen. So I'd say I want more women to ask me out, instead of me doing the work lol.

Sounds fair enough. No one likes to be rejected. Here, at least you know she's interested.

beautifuldreamer · 05-06-2009, 01:07 AM

Heck yeah! If I found a guy who was really worth pursuing, I'd definitely ask him out.

Nighthawk76 · 05-06-2009, 01:09 AM

If a girl wants to ask me out, I'd be more than happy.

Hollow · 05-06-2009, 01:24 AM

i've asked out a guy before. well, not so much "asked" as simply initiated a relationship by confessing my feelings and letting the conversation go from there. though i probably wouldn't have done it if it weren't that i had already rejected him a few months earlier and just changed my mind, so even in the off chance of rejection, it would have just evened things out instead of screwing up our friendship or anything.

Darren J. · 05-06-2009, 01:31 AM

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Originally Posted by safety pin

i've asked out a guy before. well, not so much "asked" as simply initiated a relationship by confessing my feelings and letting the conversation go from there. though i probably wouldn't have done it if it weren't that i had already rejected him a few months earlier and just changed my mind, so even in the off chance of rejection, it would have just evened things out instead of screwing up our friendship or anything.

Not often I hear of a girl changing her mind in a situation like that. Personally, if a girl told me she wasn't interested in me and changed her mind, I wouldn't even bother with her. Nothing personal, but my feeling is if she rejected me, why would she change her mind?

Chocoholic · 05-06-2009, 04:20 PM

I'm too shy to ask a guy out, but I see nothing wrong with ladies doing the asking.

MickeyMac · 05-06-2009, 05:01 PM

I would be thrilled and honored if a woman thought I was interesting enough to ask out on a date.

littlebelle · 05-06-2009, 05:04 PM

I like it better when a guy that I like asks me, then if I ask a guy and he says yes. I might get the feeling that either he's just saying yes to be nice or because he kind of likes me- but if he asks me then I know he actually does really like me.

Darren J. · 05-06-2009, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by littlebelle

I like it better when a guy that I like asks me, then if I ask a guy and he says yes. I might get the feeling that either he's just saying yes to be nice or because he kind of likes me- but if he asks me then I know he actually does really like me.

But if a guy asks you out and you say yes, he may feel that you're saying yes just to be nice or because you kind of like him. Just playing devil's advocate here.

Liza · 05-06-2009, 09:13 PM

Okay, here's what I think. Just cause a girl doesn't actually say the words, that doesn't mean she's not doing the pursuing. I've never said to a guy "would you like to have dinner sometime?" but that doesn't really mean anything.

This is the joy of being female. We decide who we want to go out with, flirt with him, and when he finally asks us out, we just let him think it was completely his idea

That's the big secret guys. Now you know.

Marvo301 · 05-06-2009, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Liza

Okay, here's what I think. Just cause a girl doesn't actually say the words, that doesn't mean she's not doing the pursuing. I've never said to a guy "would you like to have dinner sometime?" but that doesn't really mean anything.

This is the joy of being female. We decide who we want to go out with, flirt with him, and when he finally asks us out, we just let him think it was completely his idea

That's the big secret guys. Now you know.

Darren J. · 05-06-2009, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Liza

Okay, here's what I think. Just cause a girl doesn't actually say the words, that doesn't mean she's not doing the pursuing. I've never said to a guy "would you like to have dinner sometime?" but that doesn't really mean anything.

This is the joy of being female. We decide who we want to go out with, flirt with him, and when he finally asks us out, we just let him think it was completely his idea

That's the big secret guys. Now you know.

Let's say you saw a guy you were interested in, but you couldn't get his attention. Wouldn't you introduce yourself? The reason I started this topic is because I heard of a few women that asked guys out and was curious to know everyone's opinion.

gidgetgrape · 05-06-2009, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Darren J.

Let's say you saw a guy you were interested in, but you couldn't get his attention.

Couldn't get his attention - Is he blind? I need an example/scenerio.

05-06-2009, 12:35 AM	#1
Darren J. Member Forum Regular Join Date: Mar 19, 2009 Posts: 692	Ladies asking out guys I know some of the posters grew up in a time where this never happened. Though it's generally not too common these days, it does happen a lot more than it used to. Ladies, would you ask out a guy you liked? Guys, would you be flattered if a lady asked you out? Just curious as to what everyone's opinion is.

05-06-2009, 01:07 AM	#4
beautifuldreamer Member Senior Member Join Date: Jan 30, 2009 Location: In a constant state of oblivion Posts: 1,361	Heck yeah! If I found a guy who was really worth pursuing, I'd definitely ask him out.
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05-06-2009, 12:45 AM	#2
Wreckless Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Nov 04, 2007 Location: Banned Posts: 9,406	i would be really flattered & way more flattered then her saying yes if i ask her- or just asking her in general- lol. Because with guys, theirs a fear or level of rejection we don't want to happen. So I'd say I want more women to ask me out, instead of me doing the work lol.

05-06-2009, 01:09 AM	#5
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	If a girl wants to ask me out, I'd be more than happy.

05-06-2009, 01:24 AM	#6
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	i've asked out a guy before. well, not so much "asked" as simply initiated a relationship by confessing my feelings and letting the conversation go from there. though i probably wouldn't have done it if it weren't that i had already rejected him a few months earlier and just changed my mind, so even in the off chance of rejection, it would have just evened things out instead of screwing up our friendship or anything.

05-06-2009, 04:20 PM	#8
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	I'm too shy to ask a guy out, but I see nothing wrong with ladies doing the asking.

05-06-2009, 05:01 PM	#9
MickeyMac Member Forum Star Join Date: Jun 18, 2008 Location: Kalamazoo, Michigan Posts: 19,008	I would be thrilled and honored if a woman thought I was interesting enough to ask out on a date.

05-06-2009, 05:04 PM	#10
littlebelle Spell Caster Senior Member Join Date: Dec 29, 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 2,659	I like it better when a guy that I like asks me, then if I ask a guy and he says yes. I might get the feeling that either he's just saying yes to be nice or because he kind of likes me- but if he asks me then I know he actually does really like me.

05-06-2009, 09:13 PM	#12
Liza BestYearsofOurLives Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 24, 2001 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 6,537	Okay, here's what I think. Just cause a girl doesn't actually say the words, that doesn't mean she's not doing the pursuing. I've never said to a guy "would you like to have dinner sometime?" but that doesn't really mean anything. This is the joy of being female. We decide who we want to go out with, flirt with him, and when he finally asks us out, we just let him think it was completely his idea That's the big secret guys. Now you know.