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Chocoholic · 04-27-2009, 07:01 PM

This acquaintance of mine is just unbelievably annoying. If he wasn't the son of my mother's best friend, I swear I would tell him off. He thinks it's so funny to insult me because of my tastes in music and TV and my vegetarian lifestyle and anything else he can come up with. When he's not doing that, he's droning on and on about something of interest only to him. The guy is 30 and behaves like he's 12. He attaches himself like a leech to me whenever my mom drags me over to some gathering at her friend's house. Ignoring him does not work and his parents see nothing wrong with his behavior. I don't know why I should be expected to entertain this man-child.

Sharop · 04-27-2009, 07:05 PM

Do you know if this person has any kind of mental disability? Autism or something? That might explain some of his behaviour.

Nighthawk76 · 04-27-2009, 07:53 PM

I think that your best bet would be to tell your mother that this guy gets on your nerves, Kristen. Tell her that whenever you go to his house with her that he makes you feel uncomfortable and that you don't want to go. It's strange that he would attached himself to you, and then make fun of your interests. I wonder if Michelle is right and that he may have a mental disability. His action remind me of girls and boys when they are in the early grades of grammer school and a boy or girl would show their affection for someone they like by making fun of them. Do you remember that? That is what his behavior really reminds me of. Still, I think you should tell your mother that you just don't want to go over to his house anymore. I'm sure that she will understand.

MickeyMac · 04-27-2009, 07:57 PM

I would be straight with them and tell them they need to act mature and grow up.

Sometimes tough love gets the best results.

Nighthawk76 · 04-27-2009, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by MickeyMac

I would be straight with them and tell them they need to act mature and grow up.

Sometimes tough love gets the best results.

Sometimes it is. But if he really does have some sort of disability, I'm not so sure.

catlover79 · 04-27-2009, 09:08 PM

Ignore them.

Doodyville10019 · 04-27-2009, 09:12 PM

Kristen, have you ever possibly sat the guy down and asked him why he does that stuff? I know that sounds weird, but it might explain a few things.

OH Nuts! · 04-27-2009, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Waking Up Laughing

I think that your best bet would be to tell your mother that this guy gets on your nerves, Kristen. Tell her that whenever you go to his house with her that he makes you feel uncomfortable and that you don't want to go. It's strange that he would attached himself to you, and then make fun of your interests. I wonder if Michelle is right and that he may have a mental disability. His action remind me of girls and boys when they are in the early grades of grammer school and a boy or girl would show their affection for someone they like by making fun of them. Do you remember that? That is what his behavior really reminds me of. Still, I think you should tell your mother that you just don't want to go over to his house anymore. I'm sure that she will understand.

This sounds like a very smart place to start. At least Kristen could vent a bit to her mom and maybe her mom might have some ideas.

Sharop · 04-28-2009, 07:40 AM

The droning on about something you're interested in reminds me of myself - I go on about my interests to other people, although I usually stop if I see they're not very interested. I'm just very passionate about my interests and like to talk about them to others. I'm supposed to have Asperger's Syndrome so maybe it's a part of that.

But I don't make fun of other people's interests.

MrCleveland · 04-28-2009, 02:14 PM

I'm in that Peter Pan rut myself.

What would you tell me?

Hollow · 04-28-2009, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Waking Up Laughing

I think that your best bet would be to tell your mother that this guy gets on your nerves, Kristen. Tell her that whenever you go to his house with her that he makes you feel uncomfortable and that you don't want to go. It's strange that he would attached himself to you, and then make fun of your interests. I wonder if Michelle is right and that he may have a mental disability. His action remind me of girls and boys when they are in the early grades of grammer school and a boy or girl would show their affection for someone they like by making fun of them. Do you remember that? That is what his behavior really reminds me of. Still, I think you should tell your mother that you just don't want to go over to his house anymore. I'm sure that she will understand.

i agree. this guy sounds too childish to sit down and rationalize with. best to tell a real adult.

Chocoholic · 04-28-2009, 04:19 PM

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His action remind me of girls and boys when they are in the early grades of grammer school and a boy or girl would show their affection for someone they like by making fun of them. Do you remember that? That is what his behavior really reminds me of.

Yes. That is exactly what his behavior is like. I really think he's on the autism spectrum or something. I've actually known him a long time and he's always behaved the way he does towards me. I'll try talking to my mom again. I know some people can't help themselves, but I am an adult and I refuse to be treated this way anymore.

Dude111 · 02-19-2026, 08:58 PM

I have a friend who has guns,etc .. I think he was in the war and one day I was over talking to him and I was blowing bubbles which I like to do..... And he said

"Stop that... Thats extremly childish"

Hehe he doesnt realise I am 13 mentally!! (Or lower who knows)

04-27-2009, 07:01 PM	#1
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	How do you politely tell someone to grow up? This acquaintance of mine is just unbelievably annoying. If he wasn't the son of my mother's best friend, I swear I would tell him off. He thinks it's so funny to insult me because of my tastes in music and TV and my vegetarian lifestyle and anything else he can come up with. When he's not doing that, he's droning on and on about something of interest only to him. The guy is 30 and behaves like he's 12. He attaches himself like a leech to me whenever my mom drags me over to some gathering at her friend's house. Ignoring him does not work and his parents see nothing wrong with his behavior. I don't know why I should be expected to entertain this man-child.

04-27-2009, 07:05 PM	#2
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04-27-2009, 07:53 PM	#3
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I think that your best bet would be to tell your mother that this guy gets on your nerves, Kristen. Tell her that whenever you go to his house with her that he makes you feel uncomfortable and that you don't want to go. It's strange that he would attached himself to you, and then make fun of your interests. I wonder if Michelle is right and that he may have a mental disability. His action remind me of girls and boys when they are in the early grades of grammer school and a boy or girl would show their affection for someone they like by making fun of them. Do you remember that? That is what his behavior really reminds me of. Still, I think you should tell your mother that you just don't want to go over to his house anymore. I'm sure that she will understand.

04-27-2009, 07:57 PM	#4
MickeyMac Member Forum Star Join Date: Jun 18, 2008 Location: Kalamazoo, Michigan Posts: 19,004	I would be straight with them and tell them they need to act mature and grow up. Sometimes tough love gets the best results.

04-28-2009, 07:40 AM	#9
Sharop Andy Gibb aged 12 Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 03, 2004 Location: Courthouse Square, Hill Valley, beside the clocktower, 10:04 p.m., November 12th 1955 Posts: 3,912	The droning on about something you're interested in reminds me of myself - I go on about my interests to other people, although I usually stop if I see they're not very interested. I'm just very passionate about my interests and like to talk about them to others. I'm supposed to have Asperger's Syndrome so maybe it's a part of that. But I don't make fun of other people's interests.

02-19-2026, 08:58 PM	#13
Dude111 Forum Legend Join Date: Nov 05, 2013 Posts: 36,212	I have a friend who has guns,etc .. I think he was in the war and one day I was over talking to him and I was blowing bubbles which I like to do..... And he said "Stop that... Thats extremly childish" Hehe he doesnt realise I am 13 mentally!! (Or lower who knows)