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littlebelle · 04-13-2009, 10:29 PM

What's your opinion on age differences when dating? Honestly, I don't think it's that big of a deal. I know a lot of people don't agree with me on that (okay, most people don't agree with me on that!

) but to me, I think love is blind. I'm not saying a 13 year old should date a 20 year old (

) but if the person is at least 18, I think it's okay.

catlover79 · 04-13-2009, 10:32 PM

I agree with you. If the two people in question are consenting adults, than I don't see what's wrong with the differences like 25/45, or 30/50, etc. If you're really in love with each other, then who cares what anyone else thinks?

beautifuldreamer · 04-13-2009, 10:35 PM

I don't really know, to be honest... It's not something I really think about. If you are an adult, I think you should be able to make your own choices about who you date. I guess with more age difference, though, you start to have less in common maybe??? I'm talking about 20+ years difference.

My uncle and aunt have a 19 year age difference between them, and they've been married a year and a half, and they're such an awesome couple!

I don't know... I don't think it matters.
I'm going to quote Monika's pastor for the THIRD time today!: Women mature faster than men!

Hollow · 04-13-2009, 10:37 PM

no, it isn't. but it should only be a reason to break/prevent relationships. the idea that it's "just a number" isn't a legitimate reason to get into a relationship if the ages are incompatible.

Furienna · 04-13-2009, 10:39 PM

I think it depends... Just like Beautifuldreamer said, age shouldn't matter, as long as both are adults. But the bigger the age difference is, the less they might have in common. I think it all comes down to the couple themselves.

PunkyP0WER · 04-13-2009, 10:42 PM

well i'm 26 and my husband is 61. i met him when i was 22 and he 58 but it did not start off as a romantic relationship at all. i know its cliche but we were just friends.

i went through a bad break up and was still pining over my ex and marvin (my husband) was mourning his wife he was married to for 30 years when she died of lung cancer.

basically we looked at each other as someone to talk to. evetually after spending a lot of time together (we used to have marathon phone conversations or i'd go to his house and we'd sit on his couch watching nick at nite and eating ice cream)he began having more serious feelings for me.

i was like scarlett o'hara however still hung up on my ex but he would tempt me with gifts, he'd give me $200 at a time to buy dvds or clothes and swim in his pool and drive his corvette not to mention a 5ct diamond bracelet. i felt like a princess, i never had a guy dote on me before, my previous boyfriends were freeloaders.

after a while my feelings grew for him as i began to think less about my ex and more about marvin and we married and i moved in.

however when i moved in our age did clash at first as it was a whole different
ballgame to live with each other. we got into many, many intense arguments and he was intensely jealous and always thought i was cheating, and for a while it didn't look like things were going to work out.

but we worked through everything and its been bliss ever since.

robyrob · 04-13-2009, 10:43 PM

i don't really think its a big deal, but I've never been in any relationships with more than a few years difference

catlover79 · 04-13-2009, 10:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Furienna

I think it depends... Just like Beautifuldreamer said, age shouldn't matter, as long as both are adults. But the bigger the age difference is, the less they might have in common. I think it all comes down to the couple themselves.

Yep, every couple is different. I know someone who is going through this situation, and it very complex. So who knows??

LuLu Rogers · 04-13-2009, 11:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PunkyP0WER

well i'm 26 and my husband is 61. i met him when i was 22 and he 58 but it did not start off as a romantic relationship at all. i know its cliche but we were just friends.

i went through a bad break up and was still pining over my ex and marvin (my husband) was mourning his wife he was married to for 30 years when she died of lung cancer.

basically we looked at each other as someone to talk to. evetually after spending a lot of time together (we used to have marathon phone conversations or i'd go to his house and we'd sit on his couch watching nick at nite and eating ice cream)he began having more serious feelings for me.

i was like scarlett o'hara however still hung up on my ex but he would tempt me with gifts, he'd give me $200 at a time to buy dvds or clothes and swim in his pool and drive his corvette not to mention a 5ct diamond bracelet. i felt like a princess, i never had a guy dote on me before, my previous boyfriends were freeloaders.

after a while my feelings grew for him as i began to think less about my ex and more about marvin and we married and i moved in.

however when i moved in our age did clash at first as it was a whole different
ballgame to live with each other. we got into many, many intense arguments and he was intensely jealous and always thought i was cheating, and for a while it didn't look like things were going to work out.

but we worked through everything and its been bliss ever since.

I think that's beautiful!!

I've always liked older guys. I'm almost 22 and I'd love to meet a good guy who's 35-40, maybe even older for the right guy. I just really enjoy being with guys who are older than me, who have good stable jobs and have a solid plan for their lives.

JamesG · 04-13-2009, 11:08 PM

Myself, I'm into older people. I don't think age matters.

I've been in relationships with people who were at least 10 years older than me. Of the two serious relationships I have had one time it was 26/18 and other one was 36/22.

Theda Bara · 04-13-2009, 11:09 PM

Personally, in my opinion, I do not think age should be a major factor when it comes to be in a relationship. When I was younger, I was in a couple of serious relationships where the man I was involved with (was a lot older than I) As I mentioned in another thread, I was deeply involved with an individual whom was 19 years my senior. If the both of you are compatible, have a lot in common and there is a strong chemistry, who cares what the age differences are!!! Enjoy the person you are with

TVFactFan · 04-13-2009, 11:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by littlebelle

What's your opinion on age differences when dating? Honestly, I don't think it's that big of a deal. I know a lot of people don't agree with me on that (okay, most people don't agree with me on that!

) but to me, I think love is blind. I'm not saying a 13 year old should date a 20 year old (

) but if the person is at least 18, I think it's okay.

If both the man and women are 25 or over then yes age is just a number.

Brad Russ · 04-13-2009, 11:18 PM

I've never dated a woman that was younger than me. Not saying I wouldn't, I just find myself more attracted to older women usually. I think alot of it has to do with the fact that I seem to have more in common with older women. I've even been that way with friends growing up, my friends were almost always older. As far as women go though, the oldest I ever dated was 55. She was in beauty pageants at my age, and was even prettier at 55 I thought. My youngest girlfriend was 31, and in my one year relationship with Donna, she was also much older than me, as she's 40, and I'm 27. So to me, if you're mature for your age, and can relate with someone who's older, than yeah, age is definitely nothing but a number.

With all that said, I definitey am not opposed to dating women my own age, and have even been thinking about pursuing someone more in my age range as soon as I get some things worked out in my life. When it comes to the opposite sex, I think it's good to have options, and variety. I don't understand people who say I'd only date someone of this age, or of this race. I say broaden your horizons, and be open minded to different things. You only live one life, live it to the fullest!!

TVFactFan · 04-13-2009, 11:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Little Mel

I've never dated a woman that was younger than me. Not saying I wouldn't, I just find myself more attracted to older women usually. I think alot of it has to do with the fact that I seem to have more in common with older women. I've even been that way with friends growing up, my friends were almost always older. As far as women go though, the oldest I ever dated was 55. She was in beauty pageants at my age, and was even prettier at 55 I thought. My youngest girlfriend was 31, and in my one year relationship with Donna, she was also much older than me, as she's 40, and I'm 27. So to me, if you're mature for your age, and can relate with someone who's older, than yeah, age is definitely nothing but a number.

With all that said, I definitey am not opposed to dating women my own age, and have even been thinking about pursuing someone more in my age range as soon as I get some things worked out in my life. When it comes to the opposite sex, I think it's good to have options, and variety. I don't understand people who say I'd only date someone of this age, or of this race. I say broaden your horizons, and be open minded to different things. You only live one life, live it to the fullest!!

You are different than me, I don't go past 34 and I'm 33-lol I like younger women

Brad Russ · 04-13-2009, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy

You are different than me, I don't go past 34 and I'm 33-lol I like younger women

That's cool, to each his own. We all have our preferances. I know alot of people like you who are into younger women, and I can respect that.

04-13-2009, 10:29 PM	#1
littlebelle Spell Caster Senior Member Join Date: Dec 29, 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 2,659	Is age just a number? or not? What's your opinion on age differences when dating? Honestly, I don't think it's that big of a deal. I know a lot of people don't agree with me on that (okay, most people don't agree with me on that! ) but to me, I think love is blind. I'm not saying a 13 year old should date a 20 year old () but if the person is at least 18, I think it's okay.

04-13-2009, 10:32 PM	#2
catlover79 God Bless Val Forum Addict Join Date: May 29, 2006 Location: Bewitched in Ohio Posts: 70,392	I agree with you. If the two people in question are consenting adults, than I don't see what's wrong with the differences like 25/45, or 30/50, etc. If you're really in love with each other, then who cares what anyone else thinks?
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04-13-2009, 10:35 PM	#3
beautifuldreamer Member Senior Member Join Date: Jan 30, 2009 Location: In a constant state of oblivion Posts: 1,361	I don't really know, to be honest... It's not something I really think about. If you are an adult, I think you should be able to make your own choices about who you date. I guess with more age difference, though, you start to have less in common maybe??? I'm talking about 20+ years difference. My uncle and aunt have a 19 year age difference between them, and they've been married a year and a half, and they're such an awesome couple! I don't know... I don't think it matters. I'm going to quote Monika's pastor for the THIRD time today!: Women mature faster than men!
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04-13-2009, 10:42 PM	#6
PunkyP0WER Member Senior Member Join Date: May 23, 2008 Location: MACY*S on 34th St. Posts: 1,908	well i'm 26 and my husband is 61. i met him when i was 22 and he 58 but it did not start off as a romantic relationship at all. i know its cliche but we were just friends. i went through a bad break up and was still pining over my ex and marvin (my husband) was mourning his wife he was married to for 30 years when she died of lung cancer. basically we looked at each other as someone to talk to. evetually after spending a lot of time together (we used to have marathon phone conversations or i'd go to his house and we'd sit on his couch watching nick at nite and eating ice cream)he began having more serious feelings for me. i was like scarlett o'hara however still hung up on my ex but he would tempt me with gifts, he'd give me $200 at a time to buy dvds or clothes and swim in his pool and drive his corvette not to mention a 5ct diamond bracelet. i felt like a princess, i never had a guy dote on me before, my previous boyfriends were freeloaders. after a while my feelings grew for him as i began to think less about my ex and more about marvin and we married and i moved in. however when i moved in our age did clash at first as it was a whole different ballgame to live with each other. we got into many, many intense arguments and he was intensely jealous and always thought i was cheating, and for a while it didn't look like things were going to work out. but we worked through everything and its been bliss ever since.
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04-13-2009, 10:43 PM	#7
robyrob certified wackball#3 Moderator Forum Icon Join Date: Aug 03, 2003 Location: hiding under the third booth at Arnold's Posts: 58,203	i don't really think its a big deal, but I've never been in any relationships with more than a few years difference
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04-13-2009, 10:37 PM	#4
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	no, it isn't. but it should only be a reason to break/prevent relationships. the idea that it's "just a number" isn't a legitimate reason to get into a relationship if the ages are incompatible.

04-13-2009, 10:39 PM	#5
Furienna Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Oct 22, 2006 Location: Örnsköldsvik, Sweden Posts: 6,280	I think it depends... Just like Beautifuldreamer said, age shouldn't matter, as long as both are adults. But the bigger the age difference is, the less they might have in common. I think it all comes down to the couple themselves.

04-13-2009, 11:08 PM	#10
JamesG Freakshow Moderator Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 01, 2008 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 57,168	Myself, I'm into older people. I don't think age matters. I've been in relationships with people who were at least 10 years older than me. Of the two serious relationships I have had one time it was 26/18 and other one was 36/22.

04-13-2009, 11:09 PM	#11
Theda Bara Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 27, 2006 Posts: 7,154	Personally, in my opinion, I do not think age should be a major factor when it comes to be in a relationship. When I was younger, I was in a couple of serious relationships where the man I was involved with (was a lot older than I) As I mentioned in another thread, I was deeply involved with an individual whom was 19 years my senior. If the both of you are compatible, have a lot in common and there is a strong chemistry, who cares what the age differences are!!! Enjoy the person you are with

04-13-2009, 11:18 PM	#13
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	I've never dated a woman that was younger than me. Not saying I wouldn't, I just find myself more attracted to older women usually. I think alot of it has to do with the fact that I seem to have more in common with older women. I've even been that way with friends growing up, my friends were almost always older. As far as women go though, the oldest I ever dated was 55. She was in beauty pageants at my age, and was even prettier at 55 I thought. My youngest girlfriend was 31, and in my one year relationship with Donna, she was also much older than me, as she's 40, and I'm 27. So to me, if you're mature for your age, and can relate with someone who's older, than yeah, age is definitely nothing but a number. With all that said, I definitey am not opposed to dating women my own age, and have even been thinking about pursuing someone more in my age range as soon as I get some things worked out in my life. When it comes to the opposite sex, I think it's good to have options, and variety. I don't understand people who say I'd only date someone of this age, or of this race. I say broaden your horizons, and be open minded to different things. You only live one life, live it to the fullest!!
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