Violence: Is there a double standard?

[brownie87]

I think domestic violence, or any kind of violence for that matter, is wrong and unnecessary. However, why is it that violence against men at the hands of women is perfectly acceptable, even part of culture? Even movies show women brutally beating and threatening their husbands/boyfriends and it usually gets a positive response from the audience. Believe me, I am really sad about Rihanna and she did not deserve to be beaten like that. However, we also hear an awful lot about women who beat up their boyfriends and nobody really says anything about it, and usually the woman gets away with it. How about ending violence against PEOPLE in general?

[Waterston_Fan]

I think its because women do things around the house or take care of the kids and can't really protect themselves, while a man can since they are taller. Also women don't lose their temper as fast as men do.

Violence against all people and kids will never go away.

Other than that, I don't know.

[WaterLoo]

I agree, violence against anyone is wrong no matter who it is. But I think alot of it has to do with women being softer and physically weaker than men, not being sexist believe me, and this is why so many people find it humorous to see a woman taking a man down in his prime. Still, I think it's wrong and no one deserves to be beaten.

[JamesG]

You ever see a man pick a fight with Nicole Bass?

[MickeyMac]

I dont believe in violence myself, but if someone was trying to harm you and they made it clear they were going to kill you, and if you killed that person in self defense I can see the point of violence there.


Other than that if it comes down to settling a matter with force, use your fists.

[Hollow]

yeah, there absolutely is a double standard. as i've said before, women who beat men generally get applauded while men who beat women get death threats. if someone is against non-defensive violence, they should be against all of it, not just when the stereotypically strong gender is beating the stereotypically weak and innocent gender.

[browneyes106]

I agree there is a double standard. One of my brother's friends was a man who was the victim of abuse by a girlfriend. The relationship ended when she was arrested for drug charges. He plans to get restraining order if she is released from prison. Also sometimes gay and lesibians in abusive relationships sort of also gets ignored too.

[Yooch]

It's wrong, any way you look at it, imo.

[Doodyville10019]

Originally Posted by JamesG

You ever see a man pick a fight with Nicole Bass?

The way I see it, unless his name happens to be either Mike Tyson or Brian Urlacher, a man would be DUMB to even consider picking a fight with Nicole Bass!

[brownie87]

Just to show you how biased we are, the scene in "Jerry Maguire" where Kelly Preston beats the crap out of Tom Cruise was voted one of the best moments in cinema history by AFI. If the situation was in reverse, NOW would get all over it and the movie would probably never even see the light of day. There was even an episode of "Regis and Kelly" where they were talking about a woman who beat up her husband for having poker games with his friends, which elicited a huge laugh and applause from the audience (mainly from the women) and Kelly said, "What's hotter than a woman beating the crap out of her husband?", yet when they were talking about the Rihanna/Chris Brown scandal, Kelly said, "There is no excuse for a man to raise his hand to a woman, whether it is his wife, girlfriend...no matter what the situation is, no man has any right to beat a woman." She is also involved in many battered women charities. So, I guess she's a bit of a hypocrite and even a bit of a man-hater....should her hubby be worried?

[JamesG]

In answer to your question, yes there definitely seems to be a double standard when it comes to m/f vs f/m abuse. This is my interpretation as to why:

I think it's because women have always been viewed as being the weaker sex. There was a time when a woman's role was to be pretty much the "slave" of the man. What I mean by that is that the woman's role was to handle all domestic responsibilties, have dinner ready as soon as the husband came home from work, never argue with him and always go along with everything they say... etc.
Before all this women were denied the right to vote, own property...etc. It seems throughout history white men "had it made". They were the ones making the rules and never seemed to face any sort of discrimination for their sex or race.


Now we are way passed these times and women are viewed to be equal to men; as far as voting, owning property, religious freedom...



When it comes to the whole abuse thing; I think it has to deal with the fact in the way people are perceived. Men are, for the most part, physically stronger than women and it is believed that men can easily throw a woman across the room should they wish.

People seem to hate men hitting women more because of the perception that the woman "had no chance" in the fight. For some instances this is not true at all. Women are capable of doing damage just as bad as men can do.

So in short I guess it has to do with the fact of perception and the fact that women "the weaker sex" are now putting men in their places; in a manner of speaking.

[WaterLoo]

Originally Posted by brownie87

Just to show you how biased we are, the scene in "Jerry Maguire" where Kelly Preston beats the crap out of Tom Cruise was voted one of the best moments in cinema history by AFI. If the situation was in reverse, NOW would get all over it and the movie would probably never even see the light of day. There was even an episode of "Regis and Kelly" where they were talking about a woman who beat up her husband for having poker games with his friends, which elicited a huge laugh and applause from the audience (mainly from the women) and Kelly said, "What's hotter than a woman beating the crap out of her husband?", yet when they were talking about the Rihanna/Chris Brown scandal, Kelly said, "There is no excuse for a man to raise his hand to a woman, whether it is his wife, girlfriend...no matter what the situation is, no man has any right to beat a woman." She is also involved in many battered women charities. So, I guess she's a bit of a hypocrite and even a bit of a man-hater....should her hubby be worried?

I think the scene you are referring to in "Jerry Maguire" was where he broke off his engagement to the Kelly Preston character. But when you think about it, she was a pretty rotten character to begin with. At least he ended up with Renee Zellweger's character who was a sweet girl, but also let him see a bit of himself. However, these days, I think alot of people want to see Tom Cruise being beaten up. As for Kelly Ripa...she's a moron. I never watch the show anymore, because she's just so annoying. She never lets anyone else talk. The fact that she blew a gasket over Clay Aiken placing his hand over her mouth when she does the exact same thing to Regis all the time then she even made a gay snipe at him. Well, at least Clay Aiken and Priscilla Presley had the right idea. Alot of people who go on their show can't stand her, you can just tell. Like I said, she is a moron. One minute she'll be all "men suck/women should rule the planet", then the next she'll squeal like a 12-year-old whenever The Jonas Brothers are on.