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Chocoholic · 02-11-2009, 04:22 PM

I have a co-worker who cannot seem to accept "no" for an answer. She never asks. She commands and really puts you on the spot. Today, she wanted me to do something for her that I just did not have the time to do. I tried politely explaining that I was sorry but I did not have the time, but she kept whining until I finally and firmly said "NO, I won't do it!" She got all huffy and I just know I'll have to hear from the boss tomorrow. I feel bad now for standing up to myself, even though I know I didn't have the time to do what she wanted.

gidgetgrape · 02-11-2009, 04:39 PM

I can't stand people like that! Don't feel bad. Feel proud that you stood up for yourself and do it again if you have to.

MickeyMac · 02-11-2009, 04:54 PM

Tell her to f** off, thats what I would do.

HuntingtonM15 · 02-11-2009, 04:57 PM

It depends on the situation, but normally I would have a hard time saying no. But I would have most likely done the same thing that you did. You can only take so much before you are finally pushed too far.

Chocoholic · 02-11-2009, 05:01 PM

Today was one of those days where I just wanted to leave and not come back. It's not the kids. It's the co-workers who act like children and idiotic parents who don't want to raise the kids that they brought into this world.

I think I'm gonna go have a huge chocolate sundae right now...

MonarC · 02-11-2009, 05:08 PM

I can't stand people like that. Good for you for standing up for yourself. With those kind of people if you don't put them in their place they will walk all over you.

Lee · 02-11-2009, 06:39 PM

I hope you don't get fired for standing up for yourself

Lee · 02-11-2009, 06:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chocoholic

I have a co-worker who cannot seem to accept "no" for an answer. She never asks. She commands and really puts you on the spot. Today, she wanted me to do something for her that I just did not have the time to do. I tried politely explaining that I was sorry but I did not have the time, but she kept whining until I finally and firmly said "NO, I won't do it!" She got all huffy and I just know I'll have to hear from the boss tomorrow. I feel bad now for standing up to myself, even though I know I didn't have the time to do what she wanted.

What did she want you to do?

ekkostar · 02-11-2009, 07:22 PM

Oh man, I hate that. This is why I've been trying to develop a backbone because people like this always put up a front and try to bully or guilt you into something you don't want to do.

MikeLutton · 02-11-2009, 08:34 PM

i find it hard to say no when a cute girl who lives down road from me ask me for change or money i just give her lil change that all lol. girls are toughest peope say no but only if their cute hope it came out ok

Chocoholic · 02-12-2009, 04:54 PM

I had to listen to her again today whine about how "disappointed' she was in me because I wouldn't take time do her job for her. I told her I'm sorry she felt that way but I was just too busy with my own work, then I walked away from her. I'm not going to allow her to make me feel bad about myself for saying I couldn't help her. I'm always glad to lend a hand when needed, but I have my limits.

littlebelle · 02-12-2009, 05:11 PM

I have an assistant manager who practically begs me to come in on my days off. Granted, sometimes I would like the extra hour$$$

- but sometimes it's nice to have a day off.

02-11-2009, 04:22 PM	#1
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	Does anyone else find it hard to say "no"? I have a co-worker who cannot seem to accept "no" for an answer. She never asks. She commands and really puts you on the spot. Today, she wanted me to do something for her that I just did not have the time to do. I tried politely explaining that I was sorry but I did not have the time, but she kept whining until I finally and firmly said "NO, I won't do it!" She got all huffy and I just know I'll have to hear from the boss tomorrow. I feel bad now for standing up to myself, even though I know I didn't have the time to do what she wanted.

02-11-2009, 07:22 PM	#9
ekkostar Coffee, Tea & Larroquette! Senior Member Join Date: Apr 16, 2005 Posts: 1,077	Oh man, I hate that. This is why I've been trying to develop a backbone because people like this always put up a front and try to bully or guilt you into something you don't want to do.
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02-11-2009, 08:34 PM	#10
MikeLutton Mike Lutton DVD Legend! Forum Veteran Join Date: Jan 05, 2005 Location: usa pennsyvania Posts: 6,887	i find it hard to say no when a cute girl who lives down road from me ask me for change or money i just give her lil change that all lol. girls are toughest peope say no but only if their cute hope it came out ok
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02-11-2009, 04:39 PM	#2
gidgetgrape Forever Gidget Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 20, 2003 Location: Texas Posts: 3,505	I can't stand people like that! Don't feel bad. Feel proud that you stood up for yourself and do it again if you have to.

02-11-2009, 04:54 PM	#3
MickeyMac Member Forum Star Join Date: Jun 18, 2008 Location: Kalamazoo, Michigan Posts: 19,008	Tell her to f** off, thats what I would do.

02-11-2009, 04:57 PM	#4
HuntingtonM15 That Bothers Me Moderator Forum Star Join Date: Jun 20, 2003 Location: Metro Detroit Posts: 11,060	It depends on the situation, but normally I would have a hard time saying no. But I would have most likely done the same thing that you did. You can only take so much before you are finally pushed too far.

02-11-2009, 05:01 PM	#5
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	Today was one of those days where I just wanted to leave and not come back. It's not the kids. It's the co-workers who act like children and idiotic parents who don't want to raise the kids that they brought into this world. I think I'm gonna go have a huge chocolate sundae right now...

02-11-2009, 05:08 PM	#6
MonarC The truth will set you free Forum Fanatic Join Date: Dec 05, 2002 Location: 3rd Stone From The Sun Posts: 9,525	I can't stand people like that. Good for you for standing up for yourself. With those kind of people if you don't put them in their place they will walk all over you.

02-11-2009, 06:39 PM	#7
Lee veteran member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 23, 2001 Location: Pulaski, Tennessee Posts: 4,768	I hope you don't get fired for standing up for yourself

02-12-2009, 04:54 PM	#11
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	I had to listen to her again today whine about how "disappointed' she was in me because I wouldn't take time do her job for her. I told her I'm sorry she felt that way but I was just too busy with my own work, then I walked away from her. I'm not going to allow her to make me feel bad about myself for saying I couldn't help her. I'm always glad to lend a hand when needed, but I have my limits.

02-12-2009, 05:11 PM	#12
littlebelle Spell Caster Senior Member Join Date: Dec 29, 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 2,659	I have an assistant manager who practically begs me to come in on my days off. Granted, sometimes I would like the extra hour$$$ - but sometimes it's nice to have a day off.