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Chocoholic · 01-07-2009, 11:52 AM

Monday, I wore this new shirt to work. A co-worker was carrying a cup of hot coffee and crashed into me, spilling the coffee all over my shirt, leaving a huge mess. She apologized and got me a sweatshirt while I tried to clean my shirt. I told her it was an accident and I was sure the stain would come out with stain remover. I tried washing it Monday night and it didn't come clean. It's totally ruined. I still had the price tag (I got it for about $15 at Kohl's.) and brought it into work yesterday. I politely told her that the shirt was ruined and I expected her to pay. She flipped out and said it was an accident and she wasn't paying me for the shirt. She then went whining to a couple of the other teachers about how rude and cheap I am for expecting her to pay when it was a accident. She acted like it was my fault that she dumped coffee all over me when she was the one who wasn't watching where she was going. She could have dumped that coffee all over a child.

I was taught that if you damaged or lost something that belongs to someone else, you should pay to have it repaired or replaced. If it was the other way around, I would have given her the money for the shirt. We had a snow day today, but I don't know what to say to her tomorrow. And this woman is a teacher

sunshinefizzy · 01-07-2009, 12:10 PM

If I were her, I would have paid for it. I can see your POV. I wonder if the tables were turned, would she have asked you the same thing? If so, then she's got some issues.

MonarC · 01-07-2009, 12:20 PM

She should have offered to pay for the damages right away. IMO.

Once it was a really windy day and I was pulling into the parking lot at my job at the time. When I started to opened my door the wind took it out of my hand and whiped it open all the way and fast. It hit my managers brand new Lexus and left an ugly mark. I felt horrible and told her about it right away and told her I would pay to get it fixed. Turned out her hubby was very handy with a buffer and got the spot right off no problem. But she thanked me for being so honest and willing to pay for the damages. It's only the polite thing to do. Some people aren't raised to be responsible for their actions.

Chocoholic · 01-07-2009, 12:26 PM

The real funny thing is, she often goes on about the lack of common courtesy these days. (She's in her 50s.)

MonarC · 01-07-2009, 12:34 PM

Some people.

so elektrikkxx · 01-07-2009, 04:57 PM

Of course you're not being ridiculous. If I were her I'd have apologized and offered to pay. She's the one being cheap and a liar at that if she is making it sound like it's your fault. Tell the bitch to watch where she's going if she doesn't want to run the risk of paying for damaged property.

If you hit a baseball through someone's window by accident, you are expected to pay so I don't see how this is any different.

Nighthawk76 · 01-07-2009, 05:01 PM

I think that she certainly owes you a new shirt, Kristen. Sure, it may have been an accident, but if she had been paying more attention to where she was going, it would not have happened in the first place.

MickeyMac · 01-07-2009, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by ChesneyLady

The real funny thing is, she often goes on about the lack of common courtesy these days. (She's in her 50s.)

She sounds like a hypocrite to me.

so elektrikkxx · 01-07-2009, 05:08 PM

Tell her she's the one being unreasonable. Was she raised by wolves or something?

Hollow · 01-07-2009, 05:36 PM

yeah, what she doesn't seem to be considering is that if she doesn't pay for it, you'll have to. it may have been an accident, but it was on her part and you shouldn't have to suffer because of it.

OH Nuts! · 01-07-2009, 09:33 PM

Worse than ruining the shirt, she could have burned you or someone else (perhaps a child). I would have just told her the shirt was ruined the next day and then see what she did. The right thing would have been to offer to reimburse you. The fact that she didn't shows her character (or more aptly, lack thereof). I'd drop it even though you deserve the $. Why? Because I think most people are going to side with you and have a very low opinion of this woman. This incident shows she's not very responsible or principled - people notice things like this! If she makes another dishy remark to you, you might mention that she should be more careful next time as she could have hurt someone (scalded them).

TJL · 01-07-2009, 09:38 PM

^ I agree. If she didn't offer to pay for the damages right when it happened, then there's no way she's going to do it now. It sucks, but you tried. And people do notice the bad behavior of others.

Lee · 01-07-2009, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ChesneyLady

Monday, I wore this new shirt to work. A co-worker was carrying a cup of hot coffee and crashed into me, spilling the coffee all over my shirt, leaving a huge mess. She apologized and got me a sweatshirt while I tried to clean my shirt. I told her it was an accident and I was sure the stain would come out with stain remover. I tried washing it Monday night and it didn't come clean. It's totally ruined. I still had the price tag (I got it for about $15 at Kohl's.) and brought it into work yesterday. I politely told her that the shirt was ruined and I expected her to pay. She flipped out and said it was an accident and she wasn't paying me for the shirt. She then went whining to a couple of the other teachers about how rude and cheap I am for expecting her to pay when it was a accident. She acted like it was my fault that she dumped coffee all over me when she was the one who wasn't watching where she was going. She could have dumped that coffee all over a child.

I was taught that if you damaged or lost something that belongs to someone else, you should pay to have it repaired or replaced. If it was the other way around, I would have given her the money for the shirt. We had a snow day today, but I don't know what to say to her tomorrow. And this woman is a teacher :rolleyes:

I think you are being unreasonable in this case. Accidents happen, it is
not worth making this woman your enemy over something as trivial as
a $15 shirt.

so elektrikkxx · 01-08-2009, 12:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lee

I think you are being unreasonable in this case. Accidents happen, it is
not worth making this woman your enemy over something as trivial as
a $15 shirt.

for one the woman is legally responsible for paying her the money, but i wouldn't take her to small claims court over it or anything. and i wouldn't worry if i made someone of such low character my enemy if i were her anyway. yes it is an 'accident' but anyone with class would show more remorse than the woman did.

Brian Damage · 01-08-2009, 02:17 AM

I think Lee has got a point. I believe you are being a bit unreasonable. I mean it was an accident, you acknowledged that part, I mean it is 15 bucks, it won't break the bank. Accidents do happen.

01-07-2009, 11:52 AM	#1
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	Am I unreasonable? Monday, I wore this new shirt to work. A co-worker was carrying a cup of hot coffee and crashed into me, spilling the coffee all over my shirt, leaving a huge mess. She apologized and got me a sweatshirt while I tried to clean my shirt. I told her it was an accident and I was sure the stain would come out with stain remover. I tried washing it Monday night and it didn't come clean. It's totally ruined. I still had the price tag (I got it for about $15 at Kohl's.) and brought it into work yesterday. I politely told her that the shirt was ruined and I expected her to pay. She flipped out and said it was an accident and she wasn't paying me for the shirt. She then went whining to a couple of the other teachers about how rude and cheap I am for expecting her to pay when it was a accident. She acted like it was my fault that she dumped coffee all over me when she was the one who wasn't watching where she was going. She could have dumped that coffee all over a child. I was taught that if you damaged or lost something that belongs to someone else, you should pay to have it repaired or replaced. If it was the other way around, I would have given her the money for the shirt. We had a snow day today, but I don't know what to say to her tomorrow. And this woman is a teacher

01-07-2009, 04:57 PM	#6
so elektrikkxx Member Forum Regular Join Date: Jan 01, 2008 Posts: 554	Of course you're not being ridiculous. If I were her I'd have apologized and offered to pay. She's the one being cheap and a liar at that if she is making it sound like it's your fault. Tell the bitch to watch where she's going if she doesn't want to run the risk of paying for damaged property. If you hit a baseball through someone's window by accident, you are expected to pay so I don't see how this is any different.
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01-07-2009, 09:38 PM	#12
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01-08-2009, 02:17 AM	#15
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	I think Lee has got a point. I believe you are being a bit unreasonable. I mean it was an accident, you acknowledged that part, I mean it is 15 bucks, it won't break the bank. Accidents do happen.
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01-07-2009, 12:10 PM	#2
sunshinefizzy Member Senior Member Join Date: Sep 27, 2006 Location: Craptown Posts: 2,054	If I were her, I would have paid for it. I can see your POV. I wonder if the tables were turned, would she have asked you the same thing? If so, then she's got some issues.

01-07-2009, 12:20 PM	#3
MonarC The truth will set you free Forum Fanatic Join Date: Dec 05, 2002 Location: 3rd Stone From The Sun Posts: 9,525	She should have offered to pay for the damages right away. IMO. Once it was a really windy day and I was pulling into the parking lot at my job at the time. When I started to opened my door the wind took it out of my hand and whiped it open all the way and fast. It hit my managers brand new Lexus and left an ugly mark. I felt horrible and told her about it right away and told her I would pay to get it fixed. Turned out her hubby was very handy with a buffer and got the spot right off no problem. But she thanked me for being so honest and willing to pay for the damages. It's only the polite thing to do. Some people aren't raised to be responsible for their actions.

01-07-2009, 12:26 PM	#4
Chocoholic Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 01, 2000 Location: Between a rock and a hard place. Posts: 11,235	The real funny thing is, she often goes on about the lack of common courtesy these days. (She's in her 50s.)

01-07-2009, 12:34 PM	#5
MonarC The truth will set you free Forum Fanatic Join Date: Dec 05, 2002 Location: 3rd Stone From The Sun Posts: 9,525	Some people.

01-07-2009, 05:01 PM	#7
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I think that she certainly owes you a new shirt, Kristen. Sure, it may have been an accident, but if she had been paying more attention to where she was going, it would not have happened in the first place.

01-07-2009, 05:08 PM	#9
so elektrikkxx Member Forum Regular Join Date: Jan 01, 2008 Posts: 554	Tell her she's the one being unreasonable. Was she raised by wolves or something?

01-07-2009, 05:36 PM	#10
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	yeah, what she doesn't seem to be considering is that if she doesn't pay for it, you'll have to. it may have been an accident, but it was on her part and you shouldn't have to suffer because of it.

01-07-2009, 09:33 PM	#11
OH Nuts! Member Forum King Join Date: Feb 15, 2005 Posts: 133,383	Worse than ruining the shirt, she could have burned you or someone else (perhaps a child). I would have just told her the shirt was ruined the next day and then see what she did. The right thing would have been to offer to reimburse you. The fact that she didn't shows her character (or more aptly, lack thereof). I'd drop it even though you deserve the $. Why? Because I think most people are going to side with you and have a very low opinion of this woman. This incident shows she's not very responsible or principled - people notice things like this! If she makes another dishy remark to you, you might mention that she should be more careful next time as she could have hurt someone (scalded them).