Step-parents needs to mind their own business about their stepchildren. agree or not? - Sitcoms Online Message Boards

so elektrikkxx · 11-24-2008, 05:21 PM

do you feel that if a child lives with a biological parent and the other parent is remarried, the step-parent has any right to get involved in the life of the child and the biological parent?

i don't think so.
for example, my stepmom always tells my dad he needs to push for more custody over my brother and i, and she always tells me "It's unfair that you spend much more time with your mom, your dad and I get the short end of the straw' and I say to her, I DON'T OWE YOU ANYTHING. THE LAW SAYS I NEED TO SEE MY FATHER BUT I DON'T NEED TO SPEAK TO YOU AT ALL, YOU'RE NOTHING TO ME. and then i remind her that just because she is married to my dad doesn't mean she has any say in what i do and she can go raise her four children and leave me alone. i gave her a chance at first but she's shown that she feels entitled to decide for my whole family what should be done, and i don't feel it's her place and i don't owe her ****

opinion?

James"Thunder"Early · 11-24-2008, 05:34 PM

I agree, sounds she's overstepping her bounds and needs to back off.

so elektrikkxx · 11-24-2008, 05:40 PM

i think if both biological parents are capable and still alive, step-parents need to mind their own business

but i agree.

bandito · 11-24-2008, 05:40 PM

sounds like she is just looking out for your dad. just ignore her, you're better off.

so elektrikkxx · 11-24-2008, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by bandito

sounds like she is just looking out for your dad. just ignore her, you're better off.

i do ignore her.

but i do have to see her this thanksgiving for a little while.
great.

so elektrikkxx · 11-24-2008, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Cyclops

Quit being such a whiney little b i t ch. All you are doing is making it harder on your dad cause you're being such a puss. Grow a pair of balls and be a man. In your case that's going to be hard though. Nice hair cut.

I don't even know you, you have no reason to judge me and I'm not going to waste time arguing, so if drama is what you want you'll have to go looking somewhere else

so elektrikkxx · 11-24-2008, 05:59 PM

you're the one who has made 4 posts total on this message board, all of which being personal attacks. you're the one who needs to grow up, not me.

Hollow · 11-24-2008, 06:35 PM

that's OU812/Bobby F. he isn't actually judging you, he just loves trolling. ignore him.

ignore your stepmom as well. it's wrong of her to be saying that stuff to you to begin with.

so elektrikkxx · 11-24-2008, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by safety pin

that's OU812/Bobby F. he isn't actually judging you, he just loves trolling. ignore him.

ignore your stepmom as well. it's wrong of her to be saying that stuff to you to begin with.

that's who that is?! makes sense. i looked at his posts and saw they're all nasty.

Janice · 11-25-2008, 02:11 AM

I don't see it as a solid yes or no situation. As far as making important issues regarding your health, education and discipline, I think that's up to your bio-parents. When you stay with your father and stepmom, however; you have to abide by their rules, in their home. I think your stepmom is wrong to badmouth your mother to you.

Still, as a stepmother of four for 25 years, I can appreciate what a difficult situation it is. I tried like hell, spun my wheels for years trying to buy their love. My mother used to get so angry because I showered my stepkids with gifts, parties, you name it, and it was a miracle if they gave me a birthday card. It's a thankless job, from my experience anyway. I tell every young girl I know, don't marry a man with kids. Run for your life.

so elektrikkxx · 11-25-2008, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Janice

I don't see it as a solid yes or no situation. As far as making important issues regarding your health, education and discipline, I think that's up to your bio-parents. When you stay with your father and stepmom, however; you have to abide by their rules, in their home. I think your stepmom is wrong to badmouth your mother to you.

Still, as a stepmother of four for 25 years, I can appreciate what a difficult situation it is. I tried like hell, spun my wheels for years trying to buy their love. My mother used to get so angry because I showered my stepkids with gifts, parties, you name it, and it was a miracle if they gave me a birthday card. It's a thankless job, from my experience anyway. I tell every young girl I know, don't marry a man with kids. Run for your life.

I can understand that as a stepmother, it is challenging. I just don't understand why a step-parent wouldn't do everything they could to not alienate their stepchildren (my stepmom has definitely put herself on my **** list). I hate when she says to my dad "Ohh if he were my kid I wouldn't let this happen", to that I said to her once "you have four children to be concerned about, one of which is in jail. not me."

browneyes106 · 11-26-2008, 02:17 AM

I feel as long as both biological parents are alive and very involved in their chidren's lives stepparents should mind their own business. My brother is the stepfather of a 10-year-old girl who has a dad in her life and basically my brother's wife convinces my brother to act like the little girl's dad. My brother does way too much for that little girl and I don't think it is right because she has a dad that she sees often.

Yooch · 11-26-2008, 12:49 PM

I think the situation is a 'fine line'. The step parent should not interfere, but like it or not, they are part of the kid's life now. People have to know their boundaries and act accordingly, and respectfully--either way.

so elektrikkxx · 11-26-2008, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Yooch

I think the situation is a 'fine line'. The step parent should not interfere, but like it or not, they are part of the kid's life now. People have to know their boundaries and act accordingly, and respectfully--either way.

agreed.

but my stepmom doesn't know her boundaries.

one thing i think step-parents should NEVER do is talk about the biological parent to their stepchild.

Yooch · 11-26-2008, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by vernacular decay

agreed.

but my stepmom doesn't know her boundaries.

one thing i think step-parents should NEVER do is talk about the biological parent to their stepchild.

I agree; good point.

11-24-2008, 05:21 PM	#1
so elektrikkxx Member Forum Regular Join Date: Jan 01, 2008 Posts: 554	Step-parents needs to mind their own business about their stepchildren. agree or not? do you feel that if a child lives with a biological parent and the other parent is remarried, the step-parent has any right to get involved in the life of the child and the biological parent? i don't think so. for example, my stepmom always tells my dad he needs to push for more custody over my brother and i, and she always tells me "It's unfair that you spend much more time with your mom, your dad and I get the short end of the straw' and I say to her, I DON'T OWE YOU ANYTHING. THE LAW SAYS I NEED TO SEE MY FATHER BUT I DON'T NEED TO SPEAK TO YOU AT ALL, YOU'RE NOTHING TO ME. and then i remind her that just because she is married to my dad doesn't mean she has any say in what i do and she can go raise her four children and leave me alone. i gave her a chance at first but she's shown that she feels entitled to decide for my whole family what should be done, and i don't feel it's her place and i don't owe her **** opinion?
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11-24-2008, 05:34 PM	#2
James"Thunder"Early Whoever's In New England Forum Veteran Join Date: Feb 23, 2004 Location: The Apollo Posts: 7,088	I agree, sounds she's overstepping her bounds and needs to back off.
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11-24-2008, 05:40 PM	#4
bandito Going Topless Forum Veteran Join Date: Sep 28, 2002 Location: The Steel City Posts: 6,320	sounds like she is just looking out for your dad. just ignore her, you're better off.
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11-24-2008, 06:35 PM	#8
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,418	that's OU812/Bobby F. he isn't actually judging you, he just loves trolling. ignore him. ignore your stepmom as well. it's wrong of her to be saying that stuff to you to begin with.
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11-26-2008, 02:17 AM	#12
browneyes106 Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 01, 2008 Posts: 6,094	I feel as long as both biological parents are alive and very involved in their chidren's lives stepparents should mind their own business. My brother is the stepfather of a 10-year-old girl who has a dad in her life and basically my brother's wife convinces my brother to act like the little girl's dad. My brother does way too much for that little girl and I don't think it is right because she has a dad that she sees often.
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11-24-2008, 05:59 PM	#7
so elektrikkxx Member Forum Regular Join Date: Jan 01, 2008 Posts: 554	you're the one who has made 4 posts total on this message board, all of which being personal attacks. you're the one who needs to grow up, not me.

11-25-2008, 02:11 AM	#10
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	I don't see it as a solid yes or no situation. As far as making important issues regarding your health, education and discipline, I think that's up to your bio-parents. When you stay with your father and stepmom, however; you have to abide by their rules, in their home. I think your stepmom is wrong to badmouth your mother to you. Still, as a stepmother of four for 25 years, I can appreciate what a difficult situation it is. I tried like hell, spun my wheels for years trying to buy their love. My mother used to get so angry because I showered my stepkids with gifts, parties, you name it, and it was a miracle if they gave me a birthday card. It's a thankless job, from my experience anyway. I tell every young girl I know, don't marry a man with kids. Run for your life.

11-26-2008, 12:49 PM	#13
Yooch Member Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 07, 2006 Location: California Posts: 3,180	I think the situation is a 'fine line'. The step parent should not interfere, but like it or not, they are part of the kid's life now. People have to know their boundaries and act accordingly, and respectfully--either way.
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