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Brad Russ · 11-17-2008, 12:33 AM

Has anyone here ever had a place of their own?? I'm talking about a place where you lived all by yourself, no wife, husband, kids, roomates, just you. Reason I ask, is because I looked at some apartments on Friday, and found one I really liked, and should be moving in sometime within the next few months, and was wondering what it was like. When you first lived alone, did you feel a sense of freedom, loneliness, fear, or all of the above. While I'm excited at the prospect of getting my own place, I must admit there is a small amount of fear that I'm feeling. Fortunately though, the place I'll be moving to is pretty close to my family, and so that alleviates much of the fear, and so mostly I'm just excited. Anyway, please tell me about your first experience with your own place, and if you have any advice for me, please feel free to share it. Thanks!!

InspectorExstead · 11-17-2008, 03:40 AM

i've never lived on my own, so i can't give you much advice. but good luck with the move & adjusting to life on your own! that is pretty exciting.

Max Whittaker · 11-17-2008, 03:47 AM

I lived alone for about eight months last year. It was a relief to be away from the roomates I did have, but after a time, the loneliness was very bad. I would work and sleep. I'm convinced I was mildly depressed. I had one famly member nearby and a close friend that would come over, but it was still lonely.

I also quickly discovered that I could not afford it. rent was a little more than half was I was making, not including utilities. I would highly recommend that you reconsider if you are paying more than half your income. It just breeds stress and anxiety, and I hope never to feel that helpless and lonely again.

On the other hand, if circumstances where slighly different, I would have been quite happy living on my own.

browneyes106 · 11-17-2008, 10:53 AM

After I graduated high I moved three hours away to attend college. The first year of college I lived in a duplex my uncle owned I lived with my cousin. We got along pretty well about 8 months later my cousin found out she was pregnant and a few months later she moved with the baby's father. I lived alone. I paid rent to my uncle so he could remodel or do repairs if necessary. I became good friends with the lady who lived in the other unit. She was a single mom with a daughter. I have lived alone for four years now. It does get lonely sometimes but I have friends and relatives that live close by.

dawsongirl · 11-17-2008, 05:31 PM

As much of a loner as I am, I couldn't live alone for too long. My depression would get me. I want someone else in the house...but I don't always wan them by me. lol

dakert · 11-17-2008, 06:19 PM

I have never lived alone. I think the loneliness would be too much

Marvo301 · 11-17-2008, 06:52 PM

Well, I have been living by myself for about 18 years now. When I first moved out of my parents place I was excited but also nervous. I was excited about experiencing a whole new level of freedom but also nervous about a whole new level of responsibility. Unfortunately the two do go hand in hand. I have always found that the freedom is worth the responsibility that goes with it. Loneliness has never been much of an issue for me but then I have always been a solitary person. All in all I have to say I enjoy living alone. It really works for me. That being said I know its not for everyone. I wish you all the best in this new experience. Welcome to the club!!

robyrob · 11-17-2008, 07:49 PM

i lived alone for a couple of years before I got married, it was great - of course I was living alone because I had just had a few bad experiences with roommates that made me sick of dealing with idiots that rip you off and won't pay their share, so it was bliss to not have to deal with anyone else.

I don't really get lonely so it never really bothered me, but I don't know how it would affect anyone else.

in terms of rent affordability, you should be looking at something that is roughly one quarter of your monthly income - and remember you are not going to have any roommates to fall back on either, so it would help to have an emergency fund.

Brad Russ · 11-17-2008, 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by InspectorExstead

i've never lived on my own, so i can't give you much advice. but good luck with the move & adjusting to life on your own! that is pretty exciting.

Thanks alot!! I am pretty excited about it!!

Brad Russ · 11-17-2008, 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Marvo301

That being said I know its not for everyone. I wish you all the best in this new experience. Welcome to the club!!

Thanks alot Marvo301!!! I'm looking forward to being part of the club!!

Janice · 11-17-2008, 11:48 PM

Before I met my husband, I lived alone for five years, age 20 to 25. I loved it. I was in in school part-time, and I was a bartender, and had no shortage of friends or boyfriends, so it was great. Two of those five years, I lived with someone, and we got engaged. I called the wedding off three weeks before the wedding.

I think loneliness can be taken care of fairly easily. Call a friend, visit someone. What can't be taken care of easily is an obnoxious roommate, who is a slob, late with the rent and has their honey sleeping over five nights a week, eating you out of house and home. Alone is the way to go, in my opinion. I'm only a phone call away.

comedyfreak · 11-18-2008, 09:47 AM

I've been living on my own since '99 and I love it, and wouldn't have it any other way. It's complete freedom to walk around in your underwear, cleaning when you want, peace and quiet. I have two cats, a tv, and a computer to keep me company.

robyrob · 11-18-2008, 12:49 PM

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to walk around in your underwear

...and I think thats what I miss most of all - I think I am going to take a stand and say NO to clothes around the house from NOW ON!!!!

Brad Russ · 11-18-2008, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Janice

Before I met my husband, I lived alone for five years, age 20 to 25. I loved it. I was in in school part-time, and I was a bartender, and had no shortage of friends or boyfriends, so it was great. Two of those five years, I lived with someone, and we got engaged. I called the wedding off three weeks before the wedding.

I think loneliness can be taken care of fairly easily. Call a friend, visit someone. What can't be taken care of easily is an obnoxious roommate, who is a slob, late with the rent and has their honey sleeping over five nights a week, eating you out of house and home. Alone is the way to go, in my opinion. I'm only a phone call away.

Yeah, I definitely think the benefits will far outweigh the negatives, and since I will be pretty close to family, I don't think loneliness will be much of a factor. Hell, my mom will probably be spending most of her time at my new place, just to get away from the bull**** that she has to put up with everyday. I know you know what I'm talking about.

And of course as you mentioned, I know you, Lauren, Tara, Cathie, Donna, and other friends are just a phone call away, so that will help as well. At this point I think just about anything will be better than the situation I'm currently in. I'm really looking forward to it, it should be fun!!

Brad Russ · 11-18-2008, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by robyrob

i lived alone for a couple of years before I got married, it was great - of course I was living alone because I had just had a few bad experiences with roommates that made me sick of dealing with idiots that rip you off and won't pay their share, so it was bliss to not have to deal with anyone else.

I don't really get lonely so it never really bothered me, but I don't know how it would affect anyone else.

in terms of rent affordability, you should be looking at something that is roughly one quarter of your monthly income - and remember you are not going to have any roommates to fall back on either, so it would help to have an emergency fund.

I know exactly what you mean about bad roomates, I've been there and done that, and to a certain extent am still dealing with it today. I can tell you some roomate stories that would shock everyone here, but since this is a PG-13 site, I'll just keep my mouth shut about that. lol!!

Thanks alot for the financial advice. Fortunately, the place I'm moving to is very affordable, and I will actually be paying less there then what I'm currently paying, so that'll be a huge break for me financially. I also have a very small nest egg saved up which I'm planning to grow further in the coming months, so I should be okay financially.

11-17-2008, 12:33 AM	#1
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	Anyone here ever have a place of their own (No roomates) Has anyone here ever had a place of their own?? I'm talking about a place where you lived all by yourself, no wife, husband, kids, roomates, just you. Reason I ask, is because I looked at some apartments on Friday, and found one I really liked, and should be moving in sometime within the next few months, and was wondering what it was like. When you first lived alone, did you feel a sense of freedom, loneliness, fear, or all of the above. While I'm excited at the prospect of getting my own place, I must admit there is a small amount of fear that I'm feeling. Fortunately though, the place I'll be moving to is pretty close to my family, and so that alleviates much of the fear, and so mostly I'm just excited. Anyway, please tell me about your first experience with your own place, and if you have any advice for me, please feel free to share it. Thanks!!
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11-17-2008, 03:40 AM	#2
InspectorExstead Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Oct 29, 2001 Location: The Golden State Posts: 12,902	i've never lived on my own, so i can't give you much advice. but good luck with the move & adjusting to life on your own! that is pretty exciting.
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11-17-2008, 03:47 AM	#3
Max Whittaker I want Serenity back Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 30, 2001 Posts: 6,180	I lived alone for about eight months last year. It was a relief to be away from the roomates I did have, but after a time, the loneliness was very bad. I would work and sleep. I'm convinced I was mildly depressed. I had one famly member nearby and a close friend that would come over, but it was still lonely. I also quickly discovered that I could not afford it. rent was a little more than half was I was making, not including utilities. I would highly recommend that you reconsider if you are paying more than half your income. It just breeds stress and anxiety, and I hope never to feel that helpless and lonely again. On the other hand, if circumstances where slighly different, I would have been quite happy living on my own.
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11-17-2008, 06:52 PM	#7
Marvo301 I'm NOT a Blockhead! Forum Celebrity Join Date: May 17, 2002 Location: The Great White North Posts: 21,452	Well, I have been living by myself for about 18 years now. When I first moved out of my parents place I was excited but also nervous. I was excited about experiencing a whole new level of freedom but also nervous about a whole new level of responsibility. Unfortunately the two do go hand in hand. I have always found that the freedom is worth the responsibility that goes with it. Loneliness has never been much of an issue for me but then I have always been a solitary person. All in all I have to say I enjoy living alone. It really works for me. That being said I know its not for everyone. I wish you all the best in this new experience. Welcome to the club!!
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11-17-2008, 07:49 PM	#8
robyrob certified wackball#3 Moderator Forum Icon Join Date: Aug 03, 2003 Location: hiding under the third booth at Arnold's Posts: 58,176	i lived alone for a couple of years before I got married, it was great - of course I was living alone because I had just had a few bad experiences with roommates that made me sick of dealing with idiots that rip you off and won't pay their share, so it was bliss to not have to deal with anyone else. I don't really get lonely so it never really bothered me, but I don't know how it would affect anyone else. in terms of rent affordability, you should be looking at something that is roughly one quarter of your monthly income - and remember you are not going to have any roommates to fall back on either, so it would help to have an emergency fund.
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11-17-2008, 10:53 AM	#4
browneyes106 Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 01, 2008 Posts: 6,097	After I graduated high I moved three hours away to attend college. The first year of college I lived in a duplex my uncle owned I lived with my cousin. We got along pretty well about 8 months later my cousin found out she was pregnant and a few months later she moved with the baby's father. I lived alone. I paid rent to my uncle so he could remodel or do repairs if necessary. I became good friends with the lady who lived in the other unit. She was a single mom with a daughter. I have lived alone for four years now. It does get lonely sometimes but I have friends and relatives that live close by.

11-17-2008, 05:31 PM	#5
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,128	As much of a loner as I am, I couldn't live alone for too long. My depression would get me. I want someone else in the house...but I don't always wan them by me. lol

11-17-2008, 06:19 PM	#6
dakert Member Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 10, 2007 Location: Altoona PA Posts: 3,411	I have never lived alone. I think the loneliness would be too much

11-17-2008, 11:48 PM	#11
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	Before I met my husband, I lived alone for five years, age 20 to 25. I loved it. I was in in school part-time, and I was a bartender, and had no shortage of friends or boyfriends, so it was great. Two of those five years, I lived with someone, and we got engaged. I called the wedding off three weeks before the wedding. I think loneliness can be taken care of fairly easily. Call a friend, visit someone. What can't be taken care of easily is an obnoxious roommate, who is a slob, late with the rent and has their honey sleeping over five nights a week, eating you out of house and home. Alone is the way to go, in my opinion. I'm only a phone call away.

11-18-2008, 09:47 AM	#12
comedyfreak Cheers! Forum Fanatic Join Date: Dec 14, 2005 Location: Sunny California Posts: 11,058	I've been living on my own since '99 and I love it, and wouldn't have it any other way. It's complete freedom to walk around in your underwear, cleaning when you want, peace and quiet. I have two cats, a tv, and a computer to keep me company.
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