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TVFactFan · 09-17-2008, 04:41 PM

This is so funny how once a person you are friends with before they get promoted, once they become your supervisor then switch up on you and start acting different. Anyone experience this? I find it to be rather odd but if he is going to change then I have no choice but to change so it looks like the chit chatter we always had and laughing and joking has ended.

Just don't know why a person can't stay the same even though they are your supervisor.

robyrob · 09-17-2008, 07:26 PM

sometimes its difficult when all of a sudden you have to be in charge and be responsible for those under you - you can't show any favoritism, and you have to make sure everyone takes you seriously and accepts you as being in charge.

it'd be nice if everyone could be your friends, but sometimes it just isn't reasonable for the situation. Give the guy a break, maybe he can help you get ahead too if you support him as your supervisor.

TVFactFan · 09-17-2008, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by robyrob

sometimes its difficult when all of a sudden you have to be in charge and be responsible for those under you - you can't show any favoritism, and you have to make sure everyone takes you seriously and accepts you as being in charge.

it'd be nice if everyone could be your friends, but sometimes it just isn't reasonable for the situation. Give the guy a break, maybe he can help you get ahead too if you support him as your supervisor.

My point is I have no choice but to take him seriously since I'm getting a paycheck-lol If I didn't take him seriously it would be reported in the management meetings so that's why I don't understand why he has to be so serious all of a sudden.

robyrob · 09-17-2008, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Solomon

My point is I have no choice but to take him seriously since I'm getting a paycheck-lol If I didn't take him seriously it would be reported in the management meetings so that's why I don't understand why he has to be so serious all of a sudden.

I'm just saying that he probably doesn't think he has a choice either - if he wants to keep his new position he has to be serious and stay in charge.

veggie-tari-jenn · 09-17-2008, 11:26 PM

Actually I expierenced the Flip Side of this...when I was in High School I worked in a Video Department and worked with a close friend of mine...A year later I was promoted to Asst.Manager and My friend thought this was the greatest thing ever like she hit the lotto...she came in late..hardly worked...well I warned her about it and she just laughed it off..untill she no-showed a few times and I wrote her up...she was furious with me telling me that I became one of them and that I let power go to my head...she stayed on a few weeks and then quit and we never talked again.....So Honestly I think things need to change but not always for the bad...change is good and there is a place to be funny and serious and it usually works out in the end.

OH Nuts! · 09-17-2008, 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by veggie-tari-jenn

Actually I expierenced the Flip Side of this...when I was in High School I worked in a Video Department and worked with a close friend of mine...A year later I was promoted to Asst.Manager and My friend thought this was the greatest thing ever like she hit the lotto...she came in late..hardly worked...well I warned her about it and she just laughed it off..untill she no-showed a few times and I wrote her up...she was furious with me telling me that I became one of them and that I let power go to my head...she stayed on a few weeks and then quit and we never talked again.....So Honestly I think things need to change but not always for the bad...change is good and there is a place to be funny and serious and it usually works out in the end.

sorry that happened to you. To be honest, she doesn't sound like much of a friend to me...taking advantage of you like that and putting you in that uncomfortable spot

catlover79 · 09-18-2008, 01:24 AM

I've seen it happen before (thankfully not to me) - and it definitely is not good.

InspectorExstead · 09-18-2008, 02:32 AM

it is a pretty common situation in the workplace. i was promoted to supervisor at my old job & it was definitely different than before. a lot of my friends didn't take me seriously when i told them to do certain things, and they didn't realize that i would write them up. bottom line, you earn a promotion because you're worthy of it. so you shouldn't be cutting people some slack just because they're your friends or anything. your friend is probably just trying to become more serious so there's no problems with him and other co-workers. rather than having people take advantage of him or dealing with problems, if he's serious from the beginning of the promotion, it'll be better.

Schmoopie · 09-18-2008, 03:05 AM

I always feel uncomfortable when a co-worker suddenly gets promoted to a supervisor position. It's not jealousy in that I wish I could be in their position. Actually it's the fact that we were once on the same "level" and now they are in a position to "supervise" me. Jenn, I totally see your point. I really wouldn't want to be in that position of suddenly being "higher" than someone else. I would feel really uncomfortable.
I have an example of what Solomon is talking about. Back in 1999, I trained this woman at a job I had been at for about a year and a half. She was going to take over my shift and I was going to go to a day shift. Well, then In 2001, we both got laid off and then immediately hired at our crurrent company who had obtained the new contract. I was very adamanat about not wanting to work for the new company, because I had had very bad experiences with them when I would call them for clients and so forth. So I went to the interview and kind of "breezed through it"; enough to get the job.
Well, it turns out that my friend got hired for a higher position than I did (I didn't even know about it. I thought we were interviewing for all the same positions), and makes more money. She isn't a supervisor but whenever someone calls and complains about how how a reseveration was handled, my friend can listen to the phone call and determine if an error is made on my part. Then she prints out the error and is supposed to give it to my supervisor.
Well, I have had many issues with this woman about giving me these reports while we're at lunch, or she will bring them up. It gets me upset; frankly. I have told her (and supervisors and everyone else in that department, who think they are so high and mighty), that she needs to give it to my supervisor or lead. I have gotten really upset over her "counseling" me on what I should have done.
Things are definitely different between us now. However, after I've realized all the stuff that she goes through in her department, I prefer to stay where I am!

Andrea

ponytail · 09-18-2008, 06:45 AM

I was asked if I wanted the lead position in my department. I said no. I don't want any part of that. Too much pressure. Plus I don't want to answer to the heads of the department if something goes wrong. Where I work there seems to be more chiefs than indians. The one thing I do hate is that my superviser is 20 years younger than me.

TripperFan · 09-18-2008, 03:09 PM

Been there twice - each ended the friendship.

TVFactFan · 09-18-2008, 03:14 PM

What's funny is he only was promoted because someone in the management level didn't have any people skills so she ended being phase out which allowe his supervisor to take her position and he then took his supervisor former position. So if that woman was able to get along with people me and him would still be doing the SAME SH*T-lol There is no room for advancement at this ZOO, only if someone leaves, that's it

09-17-2008, 04:41 PM	#1
TVFactFan Member Forum Junkie Join Date: Aug 17, 2002 Posts: 99,007	Anyone ever have a friend who became your supervisor and changed on you? This is so funny how once a person you are friends with before they get promoted, once they become your supervisor then switch up on you and start acting different. Anyone experience this? I find it to be rather odd but if he is going to change then I have no choice but to change so it looks like the chit chatter we always had and laughing and joking has ended. Just don't know why a person can't stay the same even though they are your supervisor.

09-17-2008, 07:26 PM	#2
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09-18-2008, 01:24 AM	#7
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09-18-2008, 02:32 AM	#8
InspectorExstead Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Oct 29, 2001 Location: The Golden State Posts: 12,902	it is a pretty common situation in the workplace. i was promoted to supervisor at my old job & it was definitely different than before. a lot of my friends didn't take me seriously when i told them to do certain things, and they didn't realize that i would write them up. bottom line, you earn a promotion because you're worthy of it. so you shouldn't be cutting people some slack just because they're your friends or anything. your friend is probably just trying to become more serious so there's no problems with him and other co-workers. rather than having people take advantage of him or dealing with problems, if he's serious from the beginning of the promotion, it'll be better.
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09-18-2008, 03:05 AM	#9
Schmoopie Keep Calm and Love Snoopy Forum Star Join Date: Jul 13, 2008 Location: Lynnwood, Washington Posts: 15,697	I always feel uncomfortable when a co-worker suddenly gets promoted to a supervisor position. It's not jealousy in that I wish I could be in their position. Actually it's the fact that we were once on the same "level" and now they are in a position to "supervise" me. Jenn, I totally see your point. I really wouldn't want to be in that position of suddenly being "higher" than someone else. I would feel really uncomfortable. I have an example of what Solomon is talking about. Back in 1999, I trained this woman at a job I had been at for about a year and a half. She was going to take over my shift and I was going to go to a day shift. Well, then In 2001, we both got laid off and then immediately hired at our crurrent company who had obtained the new contract. I was very adamanat about not wanting to work for the new company, because I had had very bad experiences with them when I would call them for clients and so forth. So I went to the interview and kind of "breezed through it"; enough to get the job. Well, it turns out that my friend got hired for a higher position than I did (I didn't even know about it. I thought we were interviewing for all the same positions), and makes more money. She isn't a supervisor but whenever someone calls and complains about how how a reseveration was handled, my friend can listen to the phone call and determine if an error is made on my part. Then she prints out the error and is supposed to give it to my supervisor. Well, I have had many issues with this woman about giving me these reports while we're at lunch, or she will bring them up. It gets me upset; frankly. I have told her (and supervisors and everyone else in that department, who think they are so high and mighty), that she needs to give it to my supervisor or lead. I have gotten really upset over her "counseling" me on what I should have done. Things are definitely different between us now. However, after I've realized all the stuff that she goes through in her department, I prefer to stay where I am! Andrea
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09-17-2008, 11:26 PM	#5
veggie-tari-jenn SARCASTIC COUPON PRINCESS!! Eternal Member Senior Member Join Date: Aug 13, 2008 Posts: 1,882	Actually I expierenced the Flip Side of this...when I was in High School I worked in a Video Department and worked with a close friend of mine...A year later I was promoted to Asst.Manager and My friend thought this was the greatest thing ever like she hit the lotto...she came in late..hardly worked...well I warned her about it and she just laughed it off..untill she no-showed a few times and I wrote her up...she was furious with me telling me that I became one of them and that I let power go to my head...she stayed on a few weeks and then quit and we never talked again.....So Honestly I think things need to change but not always for the bad...change is good and there is a place to be funny and serious and it usually works out in the end.

09-18-2008, 06:45 AM	#10
ponytail Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 20, 2004 Location: In Happy, Healthy, Wealthyville Posts: 4,273	I was asked if I wanted the lead position in my department. I said no. I don't want any part of that. Too much pressure. Plus I don't want to answer to the heads of the department if something goes wrong. Where I work there seems to be more chiefs than indians. The one thing I do hate is that my superviser is 20 years younger than me.

09-18-2008, 03:09 PM	#11
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09-18-2008, 03:14 PM	#12
TVFactFan Member Forum Junkie Join Date: Aug 17, 2002 Posts: 99,007	What's funny is he only was promoted because someone in the management level didn't have any people skills so she ended being phase out which allowe his supervisor to take her position and he then took his supervisor former position. So if that woman was able to get along with people me and him would still be doing the SAME SH*T-lol There is no room for advancement at this ZOO, only if someone leaves, that's it