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Janice · 08-03-2008, 10:42 PM

Although this topic is dark and painful, most everyone has a sad tale and has been on the receiving end of betrayal.

A relative of mine was just starting their adult life and wanted to settle down. I did everything I could to help this young couple out. Giving money (not loaning), new furniture, engagement ring, helping with college papers (writing them) -- you name it, I did it. They made it to the top with great jobs, a beautiful home and children, and then became too busy for me. I never felt that doing all I did for them meant that I was buying them. I gave from my heart. Still, it stings.

Little betrayals. Going way back, I lent my cousin's then boyfriend my new racquet. Racquetball was the rage then. I asked for it back, and just got one story after another. Stories were all I got, as I never saw the racquet again. I could tell that story quite a few times -- just insert a different person and a different borrowed item -- and the outcome is the same.

A longtime friend putting the moves on my boyfriend, while I was letting her stay at my apartment. An online friend coordinating a gangup against me. Online betrayals are as common as in regular life. People start stories, betray confidences, turn on you for no reason, find a new friend and throw you overboard, and the beat goes on.

No good deed goes unpunished.
~ Oscar Wilde

What's your story?

Nighthawk76 · 08-03-2008, 10:47 PM

I'm lucky because I can't think of anyone who has really betrayed me. Not online or offline.

I'm very sorry for what you had to go through, Janice.

LuLu Rogers · 08-03-2008, 10:54 PM

I've actually had 3 people from this board betray me and it hurts deeply, makes it hard to trust anyone.

My best friend in high school betrayed me our Senior year. She spread rumors that I was a Lesbian and made my life hell.

I've learned over the years never to fully trust anyone, and that if someone doesn't like you and decides to spread **** about you, **** them, they're cowards.

Nighthawk76 · 08-03-2008, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by LuLu Rogers

I've actually had 3 people from this board betray me and it hurts deeply, makes it hard to trust anyone.

I hope that you don't consider me one of those people, Lauren.

Nighthawk76 · 08-03-2008, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by LuLu Rogers

My best friend in high school betrayed me our Senior year. She spread rumors that I was a Lesbian and made my life hell.

Actually, there was this girl I knew in high school who told a whole bunch of people I got her pregnant.

I don't really consider it a betrayal though since that kind of behavior was what you sort of expected from this young lady. She would be 29 now and I sure hope she has grown up a little.

OH Nuts! · 08-03-2008, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Janice

Although this topic is dark and painful, most everyone has a sad tale and has been on the receiving end of betrayal.

A relative of mine was just starting their adult life and wanted to settle down. I did everything I could to help this young couple out. Giving money (not loaning), new furniture, engagement ring, helping with college papers (writing them) -- you name it, I did it. They made it to the top with great jobs, a beautiful home and children, and then became too busy for me. I never felt that doing all I did for them meant that I was buying them. I gave from my heart. Still, it stings.

Little betrayals. Going way back, I lent my cousin's then boyfriend my new racquet. Racquetball was the rage then. I asked for it back, and just got one story after another. Stories were all I got, as I never saw the racquet again. I could tell that story quite a few times -- just insert a different person and a different borrowed item -- and the outcome is the same.

A longtime friend putting the moves on my boyfriend, while I was letting her stay at my apartment. An online friend coordinating a gangup against me. Online betrayals are as common as in regular life. People start stories, betray confidences, turn on you for no reason, find a new friend and throw you overboard, and the beat goes on.

No good deed goes unpunished.
~ Oscar Wilde

What's your story?

Sorry you had such horrid experiences Janice. I've had a few, but they're too painful to list right at the moment.

LuLu Rogers · 08-03-2008, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Crazy for Blair

I hope that you don't consider me one of those people, Lauren.

Of course not Mike

catlover79 · 08-03-2008, 11:19 PM

I once dated a guy who turned out to be married - and I had no idea!!

Needless to say, I never went out with him again.

Nighthawk76 · 08-03-2008, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by catlover79

I once dated a guy who turned out to be married - and I had no idea!!

Needless to say, I never went out with him again.

I remember when you first told me about that, Monika.

It really saddend me. You didn't deserve that. But, it was his loss in the end, I think. He lost out on one heck of a gal.

Nighthawk76 · 08-03-2008, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by LuLu Rogers

Of course not Mike

I didn't think so. Just wanted to be sure though.

catlover79 · 08-03-2008, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Crazy for Blair

I remember when you first told me about that, Monika.

It really saddend me. You didn't deserve that. But, it was his loss in the end, I think. He lost out on one heck of a gal.

Thank you.

Hollow · 08-03-2008, 11:25 PM

many, many, many times. i don't even bother making friends anymore. two years ago my boyfriend was in the process of buying an engagement ring for me. he suddenly not just left me, but did it viciously and attacked/snubbed me following the breakup with no explanation. last april he promised he would marry me if we could work out some issues. i knew how unhealthy it would be to rush, but i was really thinking about it and considering it until two weeks later when he proposed to his 16-year-old ex, whom he'd whined about and said he preferred me during their whole relationship. almost felt like a stab in the back. i went to a friend's wedding last night and cried during the ceremony because he was all i could think about. last time i believe anything he says, including what he told me before he married her about how he plans on divorcing her for me. god, humans piss me off.

Nighthawk76 · 08-03-2008, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by catlover79

Thank you.

I hope that you had a nice little chat with his wife.

dawsongirl · 08-04-2008, 12:13 AM

Most of my high school friends dumped me in college because I was going thru a terrible time with anxiety and depression and I became sort of...selfish I guess, because that was my way of being able to function on a day to day basis. They all stopped talking to me and I wouldn't doubt a little behind the back bitching went on.

Whores.

Then there was this guy who threw my personality back in my face and made fun of me. OMG...I wish he'd die. Maybe he is dead...idk, he moved to a different state. However, I did come out of it a better educated person. But I still think about it and get mad, so...

I trust no one. Absolutely no one. Sad, I know, but I can't. I just can't even fathom that because that would be letting my guard down.

Nighthawk76 · 08-04-2008, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Most of my high school friends dumped me in college because I was going thru a terrible time with anxiety and depression and I became sort of...selfish I guess, because that was my way of being able to function on a day to day basis. They all stopped talking to me and I wouldn't doubt a little behind the back bitching went on.

Whores.

When I went through my periods of depression, I also became very self centered. When you are feeling miserable, it is pretty difficult to think of others.

08-03-2008, 10:42 PM	#1
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	Betrayal Although this topic is dark and painful, most everyone has a sad tale and has been on the receiving end of betrayal. A relative of mine was just starting their adult life and wanted to settle down. I did everything I could to help this young couple out. Giving money (not loaning), new furniture, engagement ring, helping with college papers (writing them) -- you name it, I did it. They made it to the top with great jobs, a beautiful home and children, and then became too busy for me. I never felt that doing all I did for them meant that I was buying them. I gave from my heart. Still, it stings. Little betrayals. Going way back, I lent my cousin's then boyfriend my new racquet. Racquetball was the rage then. I asked for it back, and just got one story after another. Stories were all I got, as I never saw the racquet again. I could tell that story quite a few times -- just insert a different person and a different borrowed item -- and the outcome is the same. A longtime friend putting the moves on my boyfriend, while I was letting her stay at my apartment. An online friend coordinating a gangup against me. Online betrayals are as common as in regular life. People start stories, betray confidences, turn on you for no reason, find a new friend and throw you overboard, and the beat goes on. No good deed goes unpunished. ~ Oscar Wilde What's your story?

08-03-2008, 10:54 PM	#3
LuLu Rogers Colonel Brandon Forum Fanatic Join Date: Mar 23, 2004 Location: The Hogwarts Dungeons Posts: 11,013	I've actually had 3 people from this board betray me and it hurts deeply, makes it hard to trust anyone. My best friend in high school betrayed me our Senior year. She spread rumors that I was a Lesbian and made my life hell. I've learned over the years never to fully trust anyone, and that if someone doesn't like you and decides to spread ** about you, ** them, they're cowards.
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08-03-2008, 11:19 PM	#8
catlover79 God Bless Val Forum Addict Join Date: May 29, 2006 Location: Bewitched in Ohio Posts: 70,376	I once dated a guy who turned out to be married - and I had no idea!! Needless to say, I never went out with him again.
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08-03-2008, 10:47 PM	#2
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I'm lucky because I can't think of anyone who has really betrayed me. Not online or offline. I'm very sorry for what you had to go through, Janice.

08-03-2008, 11:25 PM	#12
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	many, many, many times. i don't even bother making friends anymore. two years ago my boyfriend was in the process of buying an engagement ring for me. he suddenly not just left me, but did it viciously and attacked/snubbed me following the breakup with no explanation. last april he promised he would marry me if we could work out some issues. i knew how unhealthy it would be to rush, but i was really thinking about it and considering it until two weeks later when he proposed to his 16-year-old ex, whom he'd whined about and said he preferred me during their whole relationship. almost felt like a stab in the back. i went to a friend's wedding last night and cried during the ceremony because he was all i could think about. last time i believe anything he says, including what he told me before he married her about how he plans on divorcing her for me. god, humans piss me off.

08-04-2008, 12:13 AM	#14
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,128	Most of my high school friends dumped me in college because I was going thru a terrible time with anxiety and depression and I became sort of...selfish I guess, because that was my way of being able to function on a day to day basis. They all stopped talking to me and I wouldn't doubt a little behind the back bitching went on. Whores. Then there was this guy who threw my personality back in my face and made fun of me. OMG...I wish he'd die. Maybe he is dead...idk, he moved to a different state. However, I did come out of it a better educated person. But I still think about it and get mad, so... I trust no one. Absolutely no one. Sad, I know, but I can't. I just can't even fathom that because that would be letting my guard down.