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Janice Johnson · 06-30-2008, 02:45 PM

I am resentful of my 18 year old sister. She got her license before I did, she got to go to TWO proms, when I was her age, I got to go to none, and she got her first job before I did.

I'm embittered because my parents allow her to come home at 1:00 AM, and they chewed me out for going to a Miami Subs Grill at 9:00 PM and coming home around 10:30(because I took the 10:00 bus. ) WTF? I was 24 at the time I went to MS, while she was 17 staying out until 1 AM. She also has a really good boyfriend, who ha s agood head on his shoulders, who was eager to meet our parents, and has a close relationship with everyone in our house, while I got a bank fraud who never really wanted to meet my parents, and who was plain no good for me. He wouldn't speak to me for a long while, and even then,(when we did talk on the phone) I was the one who initiated the calls 95% of the time We broke up a long while ago. But, back to my sister. I'm embittered that our parents treat her more like an adult than they do me, even though I am the oldest and have been at legal age to do the same things she was doing as a minor.....

sunshinefizzy · 06-30-2008, 02:54 PM

I can understand your frustration. I don't have any sisters of my own but I do have certain situations with my female cousins. They get treated better because they got the good grades in school, they were popular, they had boyfriends at their beck and call and my family just thinks they are great and I'm an immature bumbling idiot. I'm gonna tell you what my mom tells me:

"It's all just a learning expierience."

In other words, we are just facing adversity of tolerance and we will become better people for it. I'm not saying your sister is a bad person, but you are going to be the better and are the better person in this situation. Hold your head up, things will change.

InspectorExstead · 06-30-2008, 04:28 PM

being the eldest is always hard. i'm the eldest of three girls, and my parents were a lot more strict with me than they are with my sisters. it really bugs me because i wouldn't be able to sleep over anyone's house or do half of the things my younger sisters do. but i understand where my parents were coming from now when i look back. since i was the first born, they were a lot more strict with me because they had no idea what to expect. they were afraid of everything and didn't know what or who was safe. now that they've realized that i can go out and still come back home alive, they've started easing up with my sisters. it bugs me sometimes though, that my sister can bring home a bad grade on a final report card of a D and is still treated like a princess who's done nothing wrong.
maybe talking to your parents about how you feel would help the situation out. my mom was pretty strict with me even after i graduated high school and was living at home. explain to them that you're not doing drugs or anything dangerous. you just want a little more freedom since you're older. there might be some yelling, but get your point across to them and let them understand how you feel.
i don't know what more advice to say, other than talking to your parents and sister about the situation. like sunshinefizzy said, hold your head up. hopefully things will start to change for the better for you. =)

coffield3 · 06-30-2008, 05:40 PM

Aww, you should be proud of your sister. I hope things get better for you

Jude The Obscure · 06-30-2008, 06:55 PM

Be glad you still have your sister......one day you might wake up and she may be gone forever!!

Wishing I still had my older brother.....

Hollow · 06-30-2008, 08:49 PM

why are you resentful of her? i don't see how this is her fault.

dlemond · 06-30-2008, 08:56 PM

How are your parents giving you a 10:30 curfew at age 24?

I get the impression that your sister must exhibit a lot more responsibility/maturity or that you must have seen your fair share of, shall we say, "trouble" over the years.

Are they allowing her to stay out later than you now? I can't even believe I have to ask this at your age.

Ireneparalegal · 06-30-2008, 09:49 PM

I remember Janice when you told us your sisters were "wild children" who were acting like those teens on the Maury Povich show. Did they suddenly stop that behavior?

I can't imagine why they would treat you, an adult, worse than your younger sisters. They either have very good reasons for doing so and you haven't mentioned it to us the whole story or your parents just play favorites.

dawsongirl · 06-30-2008, 10:11 PM

Well, don't be jealous that she got to go to two proms...Proms are a huge disappointment to many people. As for all the other stuff...maybe you need to make your parents see that you are as responsible as they think she is.

I have no siblings and neither does my cousin. We're about as similar as apples and chocolate pudding. I did great in school, she barely passed; I graduated with a BA, she dropped out after one semester; and anything else you can think of. But yet, so many of my family likes her so much more than me. My mom tells me they feel sorry for her (though we both think that;s stupid) because my aunt and her have a bad relationship. Boohoo. She's still a train wreck. But they think they have to hold her hand or something.

Plus, I'm shy, so like Sarah's co-workers, my family probably thinks I'm rude or something. double

Janice Johnson · 07-01-2008, 11:44 AM

Yeah, it is kind of ridiculous that I have a curfew, and I will be 25 next year. I feel embarrassed that I am 24 and "have" to be home by a certain time, as if I were 14. That's kind of sad and pathetic.

Jude The Obscure · 07-01-2008, 03:42 PM

Janice--do you pay your own way or share in the bills at your house? I don't see why an adult of age 24 is still be subjected to childish rules. (I'm not criticizing you, so please don't take it to be that).

Lee · 07-01-2008, 04:13 PM

Please don't hate your sister or your parents. Please try talking to your
parents and maybe get them to see your point of view. Hating your sister is just
plain wrong.

Janice Johnson · 07-01-2008, 08:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lee

Please don't you sister or your parents. Please try talking to your parents
and maybe get them to see your point of view. Hating your sister is just
plain wrong.

I don't hate my sister. I am just resentful of my sister. If that makes sense.

Ireneparalegal · 07-01-2008, 08:58 PM

As Jude asked, do you pay rent and help with the bills and around the house? I have two adult daughters living with me but they work full-time and pay rent. They still have to adhere to certain rules around here. As long as they live under my roof, they have no choice. This is not a hotel. I love my daughters dearly and worry abt them 24/7. I want to know where they are going and what time they will return. It is not like I am going to tell them, "No you can't go." But I do like to know where they are going to be at because I worry. You never know what can happen. Too many bad things can happen to a young girl.

SBTB Geek · 07-02-2008, 11:41 PM

She's probably hot. Must good looking people get the best things in life.

06-30-2008, 02:45 PM	#1
Janice Johnson Commercial Lover Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 30, 2003 Location: Miami, Florida Posts: 4,740	I'm Resentful Of My Sister...... I am resentful of my 18 year old sister. She got her license before I did, she got to go to TWO proms, when I was her age, I got to go to none, and she got her first job before I did. I'm embittered because my parents allow her to come home at 1:00 AM, and they chewed me out for going to a Miami Subs Grill at 9:00 PM and coming home around 10:30(because I took the 10:00 bus. ) WTF? I was 24 at the time I went to MS, while she was 17 staying out until 1 AM. She also has a really good boyfriend, who ha s agood head on his shoulders, who was eager to meet our parents, and has a close relationship with everyone in our house, while I got a bank fraud who never really wanted to meet my parents, and who was plain no good for me. He wouldn't speak to me for a long while, and even then,(when we did talk on the phone) I was the one who initiated the calls 95% of the time We broke up a long while ago. But, back to my sister. I'm embittered that our parents treat her more like an adult than they do me, even though I am the oldest and have been at legal age to do the same things she was doing as a minor.....

06-30-2008, 04:28 PM	#3
InspectorExstead Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Oct 29, 2001 Location: The Golden State Posts: 12,902	being the eldest is always hard. i'm the eldest of three girls, and my parents were a lot more strict with me than they are with my sisters. it really bugs me because i wouldn't be able to sleep over anyone's house or do half of the things my younger sisters do. but i understand where my parents were coming from now when i look back. since i was the first born, they were a lot more strict with me because they had no idea what to expect. they were afraid of everything and didn't know what or who was safe. now that they've realized that i can go out and still come back home alive, they've started easing up with my sisters. it bugs me sometimes though, that my sister can bring home a bad grade on a final report card of a D and is still treated like a princess who's done nothing wrong. maybe talking to your parents about how you feel would help the situation out. my mom was pretty strict with me even after i graduated high school and was living at home. explain to them that you're not doing drugs or anything dangerous. you just want a little more freedom since you're older. there might be some yelling, but get your point across to them and let them understand how you feel. i don't know what more advice to say, other than talking to your parents and sister about the situation. like sunshinefizzy said, hold your head up. hopefully things will start to change for the better for you. =)
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06-30-2008, 05:40 PM	#4
coffield3 <3 Forum Veteran Join Date: Jul 23, 2006 Location: England Posts: 7,379	Aww, you should be proud of your sister. I hope things get better for you
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06-30-2008, 09:49 PM	#8
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	I remember Janice when you told us your sisters were "wild children" who were acting like those teens on the Maury Povich show. Did they suddenly stop that behavior? I can't imagine why they would treat you, an adult, worse than your younger sisters. They either have very good reasons for doing so and you haven't mentioned it to us the whole story or your parents just play favorites.
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07-01-2008, 04:13 PM	#12
Lee veteran member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 23, 2001 Location: Pulaski, Tennessee Posts: 4,768	Please don't hate your sister or your parents. Please try talking to your parents and maybe get them to see your point of view. Hating your sister is just plain wrong.
	Last edited by Lee; 10-15-2009 at 04:19 AM.

06-30-2008, 02:54 PM	#2
sunshinefizzy Member Senior Member Join Date: Sep 27, 2006 Location: Craptown Posts: 2,054	I can understand your frustration. I don't have any sisters of my own but I do have certain situations with my female cousins. They get treated better because they got the good grades in school, they were popular, they had boyfriends at their beck and call and my family just thinks they are great and I'm an immature bumbling idiot. I'm gonna tell you what my mom tells me: "It's all just a learning expierience." In other words, we are just facing adversity of tolerance and we will become better people for it. I'm not saying your sister is a bad person, but you are going to be the better and are the better person in this situation. Hold your head up, things will change.

06-30-2008, 06:55 PM	#5
Jude The Obscure Retired Eternal Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 10, 2006 Posts: 7,520	Be glad you still have your sister......one day you might wake up and she may be gone forever!! Wishing I still had my older brother.....

06-30-2008, 08:49 PM	#6
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	why are you resentful of her? i don't see how this is her fault.

06-30-2008, 08:56 PM	#7
dlemond Hey, I know you. Moderator Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 03, 2001 Location: New Jersey Posts: 6,751	How are your parents giving you a 10:30 curfew at age 24? I get the impression that your sister must exhibit a lot more responsibility/maturity or that you must have seen your fair share of, shall we say, "trouble" over the years. Are they allowing her to stay out later than you now? I can't even believe I have to ask this at your age.

06-30-2008, 10:11 PM	#9
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	Well, don't be jealous that she got to go to two proms...Proms are a huge disappointment to many people. As for all the other stuff...maybe you need to make your parents see that you are as responsible as they think she is. I have no siblings and neither does my cousin. We're about as similar as apples and chocolate pudding. I did great in school, she barely passed; I graduated with a BA, she dropped out after one semester; and anything else you can think of. But yet, so many of my family likes her so much more than me. My mom tells me they feel sorry for her (though we both think that;s stupid) because my aunt and her have a bad relationship. Boohoo. She's still a train wreck. But they think they have to hold her hand or something. Plus, I'm shy, so like Sarah's co-workers, my family probably thinks I'm rude or something. double

07-01-2008, 11:44 AM	#10
Janice Johnson Commercial Lover Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 30, 2003 Location: Miami, Florida Posts: 4,740	Yeah, it is kind of ridiculous that I have a curfew, and I will be 25 next year. I feel embarrassed that I am 24 and "have" to be home by a certain time, as if I were 14. That's kind of sad and pathetic.

07-01-2008, 03:42 PM	#11
Jude The Obscure Retired Eternal Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 10, 2006 Posts: 7,520	Janice--do you pay your own way or share in the bills at your house? I don't see why an adult of age 24 is still be subjected to childish rules. (I'm not criticizing you, so please don't take it to be that).

07-01-2008, 08:58 PM	#14
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	As Jude asked, do you pay rent and help with the bills and around the house? I have two adult daughters living with me but they work full-time and pay rent. They still have to adhere to certain rules around here. As long as they live under my roof, they have no choice. This is not a hotel. I love my daughters dearly and worry abt them 24/7. I want to know where they are going and what time they will return. It is not like I am going to tell them, "No you can't go." But I do like to know where they are going to be at because I worry. You never know what can happen. Too many bad things can happen to a young girl.

07-02-2008, 11:41 PM	#15
SBTB Geek Smooth Moderator Forum Veteran Join Date: Feb 21, 2002 Location: Southern California Posts: 6,004	She's probably hot. Must good looking people get the best things in life.