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Number 9 Dream · 06-03-2008, 09:10 PM

an older, married professor to ask his female student if she'd like to get a drink with him some time and "do something fun" (This "fun" was not specified)? Would you think this is normal? Because this happened to me and I'm confused.

dawsongirl · 06-03-2008, 09:13 PM

I'd think it was inappropriate. If he invited his wife along, then okay. But what kind of fun goes with drinking...ya know?

Number 9 Dream · 06-03-2008, 09:16 PM

This person is me, by the way, lol. I probably should have elaborated in my original post. He didn't invite his wife along (or anyone, for that matter). Plus, he is still technically involved with me at the school since he will be my professor again in the fall and is my advisor for the magazine during the summer.

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

I'd think it was inappropriate. If he invited his wife along, then okay. But what kind of fun goes with drinking...ya know?

PunkyP0WER · 06-03-2008, 09:27 PM

if he said lets meet at the library and talk thats different but the mention of alcohol seems rather suggestive. it sounds like he's hitting on you for sure.

PlayOn · 06-03-2008, 09:27 PM

i think it's wrong. tell him to invite his wife along, then it'd be ok.

InspectorExstead · 06-03-2008, 11:27 PM

nope. it doesn't sound normal, especially since it's getting drinks. maybe if it was a lunch dealio with other students and his wife, then it would be more appropriate.

BarneyFife · 06-03-2008, 11:31 PM

Fun= Roll in the hay, I believe. Tell him to get lost, he's a married man.

*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 06-03-2008, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by PunkyP0WER

if he said lets meet at the library and talk thats different but the mention of alcohol seems rather suggestive. it sounds like he's hitting on you for sure.

agreed...that's definitely inappropriate, and also a little creepy

Nighthawk76 · 06-04-2008, 12:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Number 9 Dream

an older, married professor to ask his female student if she'd like to get a drink with him some time and "do something fun" (This "fun" was not specified)? Would you think this is normal? Because this happened to me and I'm confused.

If he is married, and currently your professor, I think it would be a bad idea to go out with him, Kristel.

OH Nuts! · 06-04-2008, 08:14 AM

If she's still his student definitely wrong. If so, doesn't sound kosher to me.

Sterling Holobyte · 06-04-2008, 12:23 PM

Why would her not being his student matter?! He's married! It's inappropriate either way.
Though it is not really surprising since a lot of professors nowadays seem to have no morals anyway.

Personally, I would make this known to the university's administration, since you are probably not the only one he has made advances toward. Then, if(when) they don't do anything, I would ask to transfer out of his class and away from this creep.

But yeah, from the info you gave, it sounds like he wants more from you than "intellectual conversation".

The Great One · 06-04-2008, 05:10 PM

Definitely inappropriate!!!

OH Nuts! · 06-05-2008, 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Sterling Holobyte

Why would her not being his student matter?! He's married! It's inappropriate either way.
Though it is not really surprising since a lot of professors nowadays seem to have no morals anyway.

Personally, I would make this known to the university's administration, since you are probably not the only one he has made advances toward. Then, if(when) they don't do anything, I would ask to transfer out of his class and away from this creep.

But yeah, from the info you gave, it sounds like he wants more from you than "intellectual conversation".

oops missed reading that part abt prof being married as well Sterling. Yes you are right - I stand corrected

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PlayOn ADHD: what I have not who I am Senior Member Join Date: Jun 17, 2006 Location: I'll never tell. :p Posts: 2,743	i think it's wrong. tell him to invite his wife along, then it'd be ok.
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InspectorExstead Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Oct 29, 2001 Location: The Golden State Posts: 12,902	nope. it doesn't sound normal, especially since it's getting drinks. maybe if it was a lunch dealio with other students and his wife, then it would be more appropriate.
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06-03-2008, 11:31 PM	#7
BarneyFife Retired Forum Fanatic Join Date: Mar 02, 2008 Posts: 8,459	Fun= Roll in the hay, I believe. Tell him to get lost, he's a married man.
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06-04-2008, 12:23 PM	#11
Sterling Holobyte Harper House Senior Member Join Date: Nov 07, 2002 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 2,896	Why would her not being his student matter?! He's married! It's inappropriate either way. Though it is not really surprising since a lot of professors nowadays seem to have no morals anyway. Personally, I would make this known to the university's administration, since you are probably not the only one he has made advances toward. Then, if(when) they don't do anything, I would ask to transfer out of his class and away from this creep. But yeah, from the info you gave, it sounds like he wants more from you than "intellectual conversation".
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06-03-2008, 09:13 PM	#2
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,128	I'd think it was inappropriate. If he invited his wife along, then okay. But what kind of fun goes with drinking...ya know?

06-03-2008, 09:27 PM	#4
PunkyP0WER Member Senior Member Join Date: May 23, 2008 Location: MACY*S on 34th St. Posts: 1,908	if he said lets meet at the library and talk thats different but the mention of alcohol seems rather suggestive. it sounds like he's hitting on you for sure.

06-04-2008, 08:14 AM	#10
OH Nuts! Member Forum King Join Date: Feb 15, 2005 Posts: 133,383	If she's still his student definitely wrong. If so, doesn't sound kosher to me.

06-04-2008, 05:10 PM	#12
The Great One Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Aug 29, 2006 Posts: 6,378	Definitely inappropriate!!!
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