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Janice · 12-20-2007, 11:47 PM

Have you ever been asked to remove your shoes in someone's home? If so, how did you feel about it? My husband had a work friend, and we were invited to their home. They had light carpeting, and we had to take our shoes off. I didn't like it. I don't want to be barefoot. My shoes are part of my outfit.

Mikado · 12-20-2007, 11:54 PM

When in Rome....actually, my parents and most of our relatives do this; at my brothers place, he has COLD tile floors, so, we bring our own slippers

In Japan, the custom is to leave one's shoes by the door and wear straw slippers left there for the guest's comfort. In a true Japanese home, the floors are covered with Tatami mats (Straw mats about 6x5) which would be soon ruined by street shoes.

EmoJoe · 12-20-2007, 11:57 PM

yeah, my friend Ryan's house was one of those houses where everything is alligned perfectly and you feel like you cant touch anything without getting someone mad. so naturally, his mom made us take off our shoes. i didnt mind it, although i was a kid so i guess it didnt really bother me. lol.

Jo_Luvs_Ketchup · 12-20-2007, 11:57 PM

My grandmother just moved in with my uncle (her son) last month. She got new carpeting two weeks ago and now whenever I go into the house, she asks me to remove my shoes. She used to ask this of everyone, but when my mom and others started refusing, she gave up. Me, I ALWAYS wear shoes from when I get dressed until I go to bed. It must be part of my OCD lol. But because my grandma spent so much money on the new carpeting, I do it for her. It does annoy me though. So far, she's the only one I know who's done that.

Sara Micelli · 12-21-2007, 12:35 AM

Yes, I have. It doesn't bother me.

dawsongirl · 12-21-2007, 12:41 AM

Doesn't bother me at all. I'd rather take off my shoes than get something on their carpet and have them hate me forever.

Dean Winchester · 12-21-2007, 01:00 AM

maybe these people have out of control feet fetishes? lol

friendsfan77 · 12-21-2007, 01:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Doesn't bother me at all. I'd rather take off my shoes than get something on their carpet and have them hate me forever.

That's true.

Czas na Zywiec · 12-21-2007, 01:28 AM

It's considered rude to enter a Polish home with your shoes on. Something dating centuries back about bringing in dirt with you on your shoes dirtying the floor where people live. Not so much the case these days with sidewalks and doormats, but the tradition stuck. So naturally, out of habit I ALWAYS take my shoes off whenever I enter someone's house. Even if someone tells me I don't need to, I do it anyway, force of habit lol. But we always have slippers at our door for people to put on when they take their shoes off so they don't have to walk around with their socks/barefoot.

Max Whittaker · 12-21-2007, 01:48 AM

In my first apt, I would ask people to take off their shoes. Now I don't care.

A friend of mine moved into a real high-end apt and his wife asked us to remove our shoes.

It doesn't bother me. It actually helps me to relax.

junecleaver · 12-21-2007, 01:53 AM

I feel that once they ask me to take off my shoes, they must be OCD and maybe i shouldn't sit on their couches or anything lol. It makes me feel uncomfortable. When i greet guests, i like them to feel comfortable and at home, so i dont usually ask people to take off their shoes, unless of course they are severly muddy. Of course most people remove their shoes anyways when they are muddy.

junecleaver · 12-21-2007, 01:55 AM

Also, they ask people to take off their shoes and all, but do they want their guest's sweaty smelly socks or feet touching their clean floors? weird

Brieannas21 · 12-21-2007, 02:03 AM

When my first daughter was born I use to make people take their shoes off at the door. If you didn't take your shoes off you weren't coming into our house.

Janice · 12-21-2007, 02:06 AM

It only happened to me that one time. We didn't know the people too well, and they had six couples there, and everyone was barefoot. It wasn't wet out, and my shoes weren't filthy. I had on heels, so now my pants were too long, and like I said, my shoes are part of my outfit. My husband's dress shoes are these big, shiny, leather deals. He had to untie them, take them off, and walk around in his socks. I felt like we were in a SNL skit.

I wouldn't dream of asking anyone to take their shoes off, beautiful carpet or not. I certainly wouldn't wear community slippers that anyone tried to hand me either. If there's a storm or something, then I understand; but, get a good doormat and ask your guests to wipe their feet. Plus, let's face it, some people have smelly feet, lol.

Mikado · 12-21-2007, 02:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Czas na Zywiec

It's considered rude to enter a Polish home with your shoes on. Something dating centuries back about bringing in dirt with you on your shoes dirtying the floor where people live. Not so much the case these days with sidewalks and doormats, but the tradition stuck. So naturally, out of habit I ALWAYS take my shoes off whenever I enter someone's house. Even if someone tells me I don't need to, I do it anyway, force of habit lol. But we always have slippers at our door for people to put on when they take their shoes off so they don't have to walk around with their socks/barefoot.

Interesting, i didnt realise they had that tradition in other places besides Asia

12-20-2007, 11:47 PM	#1
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	When guests are asked to remove their shoes... Have you ever been asked to remove your shoes in someone's home? If so, how did you feel about it? My husband had a work friend, and we were invited to their home. They had light carpeting, and we had to take our shoes off. I didn't like it. I don't want to be barefoot. My shoes are part of my outfit.

12-20-2007, 11:57 PM	#3
EmoJoe Cool cool cool Forum Addict Join Date: Apr 23, 2004 Location: New Jersey Posts: 71,478	yeah, my friend Ryan's house was one of those houses where everything is alligned perfectly and you feel like you cant touch anything without getting someone mad. so naturally, his mom made us take off our shoes. i didnt mind it, although i was a kid so i guess it didnt really bother me. lol.
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12-21-2007, 12:35 AM	#5
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12-21-2007, 01:48 AM	#10
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12-20-2007, 11:54 PM	#2
Mikado Main st bridge Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 06, 2005 Posts: 25,892	When in Rome....actually, my parents and most of our relatives do this; at my brothers place, he has COLD tile floors, so, we bring our own slippers In Japan, the custom is to leave one's shoes by the door and wear straw slippers left there for the guest's comfort. In a true Japanese home, the floors are covered with Tatami mats (Straw mats about 6x5) which would be soon ruined by street shoes.

12-20-2007, 11:57 PM	#4
Jo_Luvs_Ketchup Member Eternal Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 09, 2003 Posts: 4,195	My grandmother just moved in with my uncle (her son) last month. She got new carpeting two weeks ago and now whenever I go into the house, she asks me to remove my shoes. She used to ask this of everyone, but when my mom and others started refusing, she gave up. Me, I ALWAYS wear shoes from when I get dressed until I go to bed. It must be part of my OCD lol. But because my grandma spent so much money on the new carpeting, I do it for her. It does annoy me though. So far, she's the only one I know who's done that.

12-21-2007, 12:41 AM	#6
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	Doesn't bother me at all. I'd rather take off my shoes than get something on their carpet and have them hate me forever.

12-21-2007, 01:00 AM	#7
Dean Winchester Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 28, 2003 Location: Louisville KY Posts: 14,803	maybe these people have out of control feet fetishes? lol

12-21-2007, 01:28 AM	#9
Czas na Zywiec what up Forum Star Join Date: Jun 28, 2001 Location: Southwest Side, Chicago Posts: 18,398	It's considered rude to enter a Polish home with your shoes on. Something dating centuries back about bringing in dirt with you on your shoes dirtying the floor where people live. Not so much the case these days with sidewalks and doormats, but the tradition stuck. So naturally, out of habit I ALWAYS take my shoes off whenever I enter someone's house. Even if someone tells me I don't need to, I do it anyway, force of habit lol. But we always have slippers at our door for people to put on when they take their shoes off so they don't have to walk around with their socks/barefoot.

12-21-2007, 01:53 AM	#11
junecleaver Member Senior Member Join Date: Jun 28, 2003 Location: i'm a southerner! :D Posts: 1,298	I feel that once they ask me to take off my shoes, they must be OCD and maybe i shouldn't sit on their couches or anything lol. It makes me feel uncomfortable. When i greet guests, i like them to feel comfortable and at home, so i dont usually ask people to take off their shoes, unless of course they are severly muddy. Of course most people remove their shoes anyways when they are muddy.

12-21-2007, 01:55 AM	#12
junecleaver Member Senior Member Join Date: Jun 28, 2003 Location: i'm a southerner! :D Posts: 1,298	Also, they ask people to take off their shoes and all, but do they want their guest's sweaty smelly socks or feet touching their clean floors? weird

12-21-2007, 02:03 AM	#13
Brieannas21 Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 05, 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 9,792	When my first daughter was born I use to make people take their shoes off at the door. If you didn't take your shoes off you weren't coming into our house.

12-21-2007, 02:06 AM	#14
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	It only happened to me that one time. We didn't know the people too well, and they had six couples there, and everyone was barefoot. It wasn't wet out, and my shoes weren't filthy. I had on heels, so now my pants were too long, and like I said, my shoes are part of my outfit. My husband's dress shoes are these big, shiny, leather deals. He had to untie them, take them off, and walk around in his socks. I felt like we were in a SNL skit. I wouldn't dream of asking anyone to take their shoes off, beautiful carpet or not. I certainly wouldn't wear community slippers that anyone tried to hand me either. If there's a storm or something, then I understand; but, get a good doormat and ask your guests to wipe their feet. Plus, let's face it, some people have smelly feet, lol.