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Kay Scarpetta · 12-12-2007, 05:59 PM

I feel completely overwhelmed.

Okay so I log in today to find out that I have not been here since August 1. I knew it was long, but not that long... the last four months have been brutal. I started college in a major that I hated within two weeks. September and October were filled with nothing but school, doctors appointments and outpatient therapy every tuesday. Then in November I end up back in the hospital because I had a breakdown. Two days after I get out, on November 28th, I have major sinus surgery. Flash forward to today. I'm out of school right now but will go back in January. So now I am in the middle of changing majors, looking for a decent job, two doctors appointments a week, outpatient every other tuesday, trying to just take care of myself and stay clean, not to mention trying to maintain a 3 year relationship with my boyfriend.

I feel overwhelmed. My boyfriend pointed out to me that life is actually beginning to "start" for the both of us. No longer can we sit online all day like middle school and early highschool... we have college and have to work to pay bills and take care of our needs, not to mention me having to take care of my mental health, the top priority. I just feel like I haven't talked to anyone in ages that I used to be such good friends with. No one from here, all the people from here I email and IM with and interact with in 'real life', some of my ACTUAL real life friends, some of my other online forums, I just feel like I've been MIA forever and lost contact with the world. I'm just wondering if anyone has ever felt like this... it's kind of depressing. No wonder people hate growing up. I hate it too. I'm just having a lot of trouble accepting and dealing with this... this life stuff. Like that I actually have a life now that I have to attend to. I know though that compared to some people, my life is a breeze. Some people have a lot harder lives, so then I get to feeling selfish. Maybe I'm crazy?

tv star collector · 12-12-2007, 07:08 PM

No, you're not crazy. You have had to deal with a lot of problems ... but you
are dealing with them. I'd like to tell you that life will get easier, but no one
ever promised us an easy life. In my 60 years, I have had ups and downs on
this roller coaster called life. When I get discouraged or depressed, I just tell
myself, "This, too, will pass." Hang in there.

dawsongirl · 12-13-2007, 12:19 AM

I think that's one reason some of my friends dumped me or probably think I'm a bitch. First I had anxiety, then I changed schools and became a hermit, graduated and went into the work world, mental health went downhill more, and got a boyfriend. I can't stay up all hours of the night to be online like I used to. And I think to some that means I grew tired of them. Something I've been dealing with ever since I left high school.

And no, I don't think you are being selfish. Take care of yourself, then worry about others. You are #1.

Nighthawk76 · 12-13-2007, 12:27 AM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

I think that's one reason some of my friends dumped me or probably think I'm a bitch. First I had anxiety, then I changed schools and became a hermit, graduated and went into the work world, mental health went downhill more, and got a boyfriend. I can't stay up all hours of the night to be online like I used to. And I think to some that means I grew tired of them. Something I've been dealing with ever since I left high school.

And no, I don't think you are being selfish. Take care of yourself, then worry about others. You are #1.

Work does get in the way of online time. I think there are people who don't understand that.

dawsongirl · 12-13-2007, 12:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Family Ties Forever!

Some people might not. I understand. I hope you're not referring to me.

I think he just meant people in general.

Nighthawk76 · 12-13-2007, 12:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Family Ties Forever!

Some people might not. I understand. I hope you're not referring to me.

No, I wasn't.

Nighthawk76 · 12-13-2007, 12:33 AM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

I think he just meant people in general.

Yep

Max Whittaker · 12-13-2007, 02:08 AM

Karly; I'm just glad you're still among us! I'm also amazed you still intend on going to school, as I can't seem to get the gumption to do it myself! I admire you're strength!

Take care, dear...

ABlairican Pie · 12-13-2007, 09:24 AM

Welcome back, sweetie!!!! We've missed you!!!!!

I figured the reason why you hadn't been here for a while was because of the
usual stuff going on with school and all that, that's understandable.

Yeah, life gets weird, hectic, bizarre, in short, same old, same old. Some of us have the usual humdrum kind of deal going on, others have a little more *excitement* than necessary, but in either way, it blows Tender Chunks big time. That's life, sad to say, but, like they say, when life hands you lemons, make meringue pie.

I have to remind myself that each day.

And no, you're not being selfish.

TripperFan · 12-13-2007, 10:07 AM

Don't worry Karly - we've all gone through this or will at some point in our lives. I'm in the same position myself at the moment feeling very overwhelmed.
It will pass as tv collector says. Just don't try to take on anything you don't have to right now and as Dr. Phil would say, "You eat an elephant one bite at a time like anything else:. Sounds simple, but it does make sense.
You're boyfriend is right, the older you get, the more responsibilities you have and things to juggle but it will come with time. Your studies and health ARE the most important things right now and your true friends will understand any absences.
WE understand - we'll always be here for you when you have a minute to pop by.

Hang in there and remember, once you get a major you like, the study portion will come easier which should help lighten the burden a bit.

Penny Lane · 12-13-2007, 01:11 PM

We have missed you Karly! Welcome back! Yes, I have gone through some rough times in my many years on earth but things do seem to get better. I guess all anyone can do is hang in there. I surely hope that you have someone in your life who can support you. We all need that! Please keep your chin up!

12-12-2007, 05:59 PM	#1
Kay Scarpetta Defy Gravity 8.26.05 Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 04, 2001 Location: La Vie Boheme Posts: 28,013	Have any of you ever gone through this? I feel completely overwhelmed. Okay so I log in today to find out that I have not been here since August 1. I knew it was long, but not that long... the last four months have been brutal. I started college in a major that I hated within two weeks. September and October were filled with nothing but school, doctors appointments and outpatient therapy every tuesday. Then in November I end up back in the hospital because I had a breakdown. Two days after I get out, on November 28th, I have major sinus surgery. Flash forward to today. I'm out of school right now but will go back in January. So now I am in the middle of changing majors, looking for a decent job, two doctors appointments a week, outpatient every other tuesday, trying to just take care of myself and stay clean, not to mention trying to maintain a 3 year relationship with my boyfriend. I feel overwhelmed. My boyfriend pointed out to me that life is actually beginning to "start" for the both of us. No longer can we sit online all day like middle school and early highschool... we have college and have to work to pay bills and take care of our needs, not to mention me having to take care of my mental health, the top priority. I just feel like I haven't talked to anyone in ages that I used to be such good friends with. No one from here, all the people from here I email and IM with and interact with in 'real life', some of my ACTUAL real life friends, some of my other online forums, I just feel like I've been MIA forever and lost contact with the world. I'm just wondering if anyone has ever felt like this... it's kind of depressing. No wonder people hate growing up. I hate it too. I'm just having a lot of trouble accepting and dealing with this... this life stuff. Like that I actually have a life now that I have to attend to. I know though that compared to some people, my life is a breeze. Some people have a lot harder lives, so then I get to feeling selfish. Maybe I'm crazy?
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12-13-2007, 02:08 AM	#8
Max Whittaker I want Serenity back Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 30, 2001 Posts: 6,180	Karly; I'm just glad you're still among us! I'm also amazed you still intend on going to school, as I can't seem to get the gumption to do it myself! I admire you're strength! Take care, dear...
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12-13-2007, 09:24 AM	#9
ABlairican Pie Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 12, 2001 Location: Living where cats reign more Supreme than a pizza. Posts: 31,619	WOO-HOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! KARLY'S BACK!!!!!!!!!!!! Welcome back, sweetie!!!! We've missed you!!!!! I figured the reason why you hadn't been here for a while was because of the usual stuff going on with school and all that, that's understandable. Yeah, life gets weird, hectic, bizarre, in short, same old, same old. Some of us have the usual humdrum kind of deal going on, others have a little more excitement than necessary, but in either way, it blows Tender Chunks big time. That's life, sad to say, but, like they say, when life hands you lemons, make meringue pie. I have to remind myself that each day. And no, you're not being selfish.
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12-13-2007, 10:07 AM	#10
TripperFan In God's Arms Now Forum Star Join Date: Sep 14, 2003 Location: Heartbreak Ridge Posts: 12,086	Don't worry Karly - we've all gone through this or will at some point in our lives. I'm in the same position myself at the moment feeling very overwhelmed. It will pass as tv collector says. Just don't try to take on anything you don't have to right now and as Dr. Phil would say, "You eat an elephant one bite at a time like anything else:. Sounds simple, but it does make sense. You're boyfriend is right, the older you get, the more responsibilities you have and things to juggle but it will come with time. Your studies and health ARE the most important things right now and your true friends will understand any absences. WE understand - we'll always be here for you when you have a minute to pop by. Hang in there and remember, once you get a major you like, the study portion will come easier which should help lighten the burden a bit.
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12-13-2007, 01:11 PM	#11
Penny Lane Butter Pie Forum Icon Join Date: Jul 03, 2001 Location: Beneath the blue suburban skies Posts: 51,261	We have missed you Karly! Welcome back! Yes, I have gone through some rough times in my many years on earth but things do seem to get better. I guess all anyone can do is hang in there. I surely hope that you have someone in your life who can support you. We all need that! Please keep your chin up!
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12-12-2007, 07:08 PM	#2
tv star collector I Love Susie Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 18, 2005 Location: South Carolina Posts: 4,487	No, you're not crazy. You have had to deal with a lot of problems ... but you are dealing with them. I'd like to tell you that life will get easier, but no one ever promised us an easy life. In my 60 years, I have had ups and downs on this roller coaster called life. When I get discouraged or depressed, I just tell myself, "This, too, will pass." Hang in there.

12-13-2007, 12:19 AM	#3
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	I think that's one reason some of my friends dumped me or probably think I'm a bitch. First I had anxiety, then I changed schools and became a hermit, graduated and went into the work world, mental health went downhill more, and got a boyfriend. I can't stay up all hours of the night to be online like I used to. And I think to some that means I grew tired of them. Something I've been dealing with ever since I left high school. And no, I don't think you are being selfish. Take care of yourself, then worry about others. You are #1.