Is it wrong to get ticked if a supposed friend starts associating with your ex? - Sitcoms Online Message Boards

Dean Winchester · 11-04-2007, 03:30 PM

I found out one of my so-called "friends" has been spending time with my ex recently. My ex and I had a very bitter breakup and then stopped talking to all the "mutual friends" who were my friend first, but yet a few months later, my friend asked me to look at a new pic he put up on his Myspace, and who else leaves messages on my friends' Myspace? My ex. I feel a little ticked off and betrayed because my ex knew me and this guy were friends but yet they never talked until after we broke up and I told my friend about the money that was stolen from me, et. al beforehand. I also notice that my friend has grown more considerably distant from me since my ex moved up on his Myspace, etc...

I know it sounds kind of petty but it does hurt my feelings a little bit considering James and I have been friends for years and suddenly he hears about the bitter breakup I had and decides to move in on the territory. Isn't there supposed to be a code about friends and their ex's? And also my ex makes me sick by talking to this guy after telling all of the mutual friends we both had that were more my friend to go to hell, but suddenly the ex and this friend are suddenly really good friends while I'm becoming strangers with my friend?

Hollow · 11-04-2007, 04:38 PM

yep.

Dean Winchester · 11-04-2007, 05:07 PM

I no longer have feelings for my ex, but the part that makes me feel betrayed is that my friend never talked to my ex or anything but knew about what we went through and about the money I had stolen from me, etc... and then goes and becomes friends with the ex knowing how I was treated. My friend in question has a shady ex from his past who did him wrong, but I would never bring it upon myself to seek his ex out and start a friendship knowing what he went through. I feel like I'm not getting the same respect I would give.

If they were friends before the break up, I could understand things better, I am someone who would never play the "you have to choose which one you want to be friends with" card because two of my best friends split up a few years ago and I knew I couldn't choose one or the other, so I stayed neutral and remained friends with both. But it's the fact that my ex and I split so bitterly and the ex told all of my friends to go to hell, and then scopes this guy out knowing we're good friends.

RoryGilmore · 11-07-2007, 08:21 PM

I had this same thing happen to me a few years ago

I had a bad break up and my ex and my best friend were friends, well once we broke up I stopped talking to his friends and mine did the same, so I thought, I still had feelings for my ex so no one ever brought my ex up around me thinking it would be easier. Then I learn my best friend and my ex are still talking. I was pretty upset.

So obviously I think that it is perfectly okay to be ticked off at your friend.

vtunie · 11-07-2007, 09:30 PM

I hope it's OK if I just answer the question...

Nothing is wrong, but it's probably just a silly waste of emotions.

11-04-2007, 03:30 PM	#1
Dean Winchester Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 28, 2003 Location: Louisville KY Posts: 14,803	Is it wrong to get ticked if a supposed friend starts associating with your ex? I found out one of my so-called "friends" has been spending time with my ex recently. My ex and I had a very bitter breakup and then stopped talking to all the "mutual friends" who were my friend first, but yet a few months later, my friend asked me to look at a new pic he put up on his Myspace, and who else leaves messages on my friends' Myspace? My ex. I feel a little ticked off and betrayed because my ex knew me and this guy were friends but yet they never talked until after we broke up and I told my friend about the money that was stolen from me, et. al beforehand. I also notice that my friend has grown more considerably distant from me since my ex moved up on his Myspace, etc... I know it sounds kind of petty but it does hurt my feelings a little bit considering James and I have been friends for years and suddenly he hears about the bitter breakup I had and decides to move in on the territory. Isn't there supposed to be a code about friends and their ex's? And also my ex makes me sick by talking to this guy after telling all of the mutual friends we both had that were more my friend to go to hell, but suddenly the ex and this friend are suddenly really good friends while I'm becoming strangers with my friend?

11-04-2007, 04:38 PM	#2
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	yep.
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11-07-2007, 08:21 PM	#4
RoryGilmore Always and Forever Forum Veteran Join Date: Oct 30, 2004 Location: Wherever he is, that's where I'll be Posts: 6,529	I had this same thing happen to me a few years ago I had a bad break up and my ex and my best friend were friends, well once we broke up I stopped talking to his friends and mine did the same, so I thought, I still had feelings for my ex so no one ever brought my ex up around me thinking it would be easier. Then I learn my best friend and my ex are still talking. I was pretty upset. So obviously I think that it is perfectly okay to be ticked off at your friend.
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11-04-2007, 05:07 PM	#3
Dean Winchester Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 28, 2003 Location: Louisville KY Posts: 14,803	I no longer have feelings for my ex, but the part that makes me feel betrayed is that my friend never talked to my ex or anything but knew about what we went through and about the money I had stolen from me, etc... and then goes and becomes friends with the ex knowing how I was treated. My friend in question has a shady ex from his past who did him wrong, but I would never bring it upon myself to seek his ex out and start a friendship knowing what he went through. I feel like I'm not getting the same respect I would give. If they were friends before the break up, I could understand things better, I am someone who would never play the "you have to choose which one you want to be friends with" card because two of my best friends split up a few years ago and I knew I couldn't choose one or the other, so I stayed neutral and remained friends with both. But it's the fact that my ex and I split so bitterly and the ex told all of my friends to go to hell, and then scopes this guy out knowing we're good friends.

11-07-2007, 09:30 PM	#5
vtunie Member Forum Regular Join Date: Oct 23, 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 592	I hope it's OK if I just answer the question... Nothing is wrong, but it's probably just a silly waste of emotions.