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junecleaver · 10-21-2007, 02:24 AM

Yesterday I attended a family gathering for my father's side of the family, we usually have one about twice-three times a year. The past few gatherings i have brought my fiance, and everyone likes him just the same as they like me, i guess. The thing that got to my attention was the fact that the males in my family tend to pass me up now, that i'm with my fiance. The thing is, my fiance and i could be sitting at a table together, and a male cousin of mine may go up to him and shake his hand and greet him. I'm not even lying, he totally passed me up.

And then, another few male family members did this to me, men who have known me for a long time. All females greeted both him and i equally. And, when it was time for people to start leaving, the same males came out of their way back to my fiance, said goodbye to him, and didn't say anything to me. One example was, i was sitting on a couch next to my dad, and my fiance joined us on the couch. The three of us were sitting there, and one of my male cousins came and shook my dad's hand first, said goodbye, passed me up, and shook my fiance's hand and said goodbye. Needless to say, i was really mad that my own cousin passed me up.
My fiance said he noticed this and he said he thought it was a "guy thing" and he said it was stupid. I dont understand how some men think its OK to pass up a woman and not greet her. Has anyone else experienced this?

bingbangbaby · 10-21-2007, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Hollywood Rock Chic

Yes, some men think it is an impolite gesture to even say, hello, to someone else's girlfriend, wife, fiancee, etc. I know, it sounds, utterly ridiculous, but it is true. I guess, some men, have the narrow mentality, that even, a simple, "HI" would give the impression that they were, "hitting on another's man's woman".

WOW!! Is that what it is?? I've never thought about that, but that sounds totally reasonable (as an explanation, not as something to do!)

I've never had this in my family, but being that it's her family that's doing it, that takes out the "hitting on" aspect so I thought maybe it was a "man protects woman" caveman sort of attitude or something

I've seen that happen before, where men greet each other and ignore the women who they haven't ignored before and it always felt like an ugly superiority thing to me. Even if that's not what it was, that's what it felt like. I didn't like it.

catlover79 · 10-21-2007, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Hollywood Rock Chic

Yes, some men think it is an impolite gesture to even say, hello, to someone else's girlfriend, wife, fiancee, etc. I know, it sounds, utterly ridiculous, but it is true. I guess, some men, have the narrow mentality, that even, a simple, "HI" would give the impression that they were, "hitting on another's man's woman".

Stupid but true. Men...

junecleaver · 10-21-2007, 11:41 AM

i feel that way too, especially about the caveman thing. I feel like they are assuming my fiance is the "head" of this relationship and that if they greet him that its like greeting both of us or something. In my relationships, there are no superiors, and thats the way they should be. They also have this stupid thing about beer. My fiance hates beer, and we both never drink anyways because i'm against drinking. At family gatherings, they will offer him a beer and he'll drink it. Dumb or what? if you hate something, why drink it?

And the men never offer me a beer either (not that i'd want one of course, but it would be nice to offer one)

10-21-2007, 02:24 AM	#1
junecleaver Member Senior Member Join Date: Jun 28, 2003 Location: i'm a southerner! :D Posts: 1,298	Some people are just so rude Yesterday I attended a family gathering for my father's side of the family, we usually have one about twice-three times a year. The past few gatherings i have brought my fiance, and everyone likes him just the same as they like me, i guess. The thing that got to my attention was the fact that the males in my family tend to pass me up now, that i'm with my fiance. The thing is, my fiance and i could be sitting at a table together, and a male cousin of mine may go up to him and shake his hand and greet him. I'm not even lying, he totally passed me up. And then, another few male family members did this to me, men who have known me for a long time. All females greeted both him and i equally. And, when it was time for people to start leaving, the same males came out of their way back to my fiance, said goodbye to him, and didn't say anything to me. One example was, i was sitting on a couch next to my dad, and my fiance joined us on the couch. The three of us were sitting there, and one of my male cousins came and shook my dad's hand first, said goodbye, passed me up, and shook my fiance's hand and said goodbye. Needless to say, i was really mad that my own cousin passed me up. My fiance said he noticed this and he said he thought it was a "guy thing" and he said it was stupid. I dont understand how some men think its OK to pass up a woman and not greet her. Has anyone else experienced this?

10-21-2007, 11:41 AM	#4
junecleaver Member Senior Member Join Date: Jun 28, 2003 Location: i'm a southerner! :D Posts: 1,298	i feel that way too, especially about the caveman thing. I feel like they are assuming my fiance is the "head" of this relationship and that if they greet him that its like greeting both of us or something. In my relationships, there are no superiors, and thats the way they should be. They also have this stupid thing about beer. My fiance hates beer, and we both never drink anyways because i'm against drinking. At family gatherings, they will offer him a beer and he'll drink it. Dumb or what? if you hate something, why drink it? And the men never offer me a beer either (not that i'd want one of course, but it would be nice to offer one)