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swedeace · 10-04-2007, 04:43 PM

....Yep, another ranting thread. Although, this is a random ranting thread that goes into more than one aspect of my life. So, if you are not into rants or just don't care (cue to those of you who don't like me for whatever reason or even care for ranting threads), then I would recommend just not bother reading this thread. Or, you can just jump to my last question which is the real question/advice I am asking.

I haven't been on Sitcoms Online in roughly a little over a week, I believe. I can't really remember at this moment, unless I check the last post I have made here. So, anyway.... I haven't been on SO in a give or take a week because I have been battling several things in my life: an illness (a cold turned into flu-like symptoms to nausea), having limited computer access because of my spyware problem on my home computer, and even dealing with personal emotional issues at work and in the online world.

I have been pretty much absence from work between last Friday up through Tuesday. I have returned back to work yesterday, Wednesday. I felt like I have totally stepped into the Twilight Zone and am living on the other side of the mirror just like in Lewis Carroll's "Through the Looking Glass!" You know, when you go somewhere and feel like nearly everyone has changed and aren't the same anymore? That's what's been happening with my return back to work. I feel like my two co-worker friends don't care. One of them didn't tell me, "Oh, I missed you being at work!" and the other seems like she's been giving me the cold shoulder attitude. I feel like I am on the other side of that mirror! I am wanting to step back onto the "normal" side of the mirror. What the hell has happened? Seriously, it seems like things aren't the same....

Needless to say, I am feeling very sensitive. I don't know where to turn or who to turn to. It seems the offline people in my life don't care enough or at all about me. It seems like the people in the online world don't really care about making an effort in talking to me anymore. It varies with the people in question, but some of those people seem to have been avoiding me because I whine too much? That's the only thing I can think of. Talking about IMs and that sort of thing, I always care about others and ask how they are doing, etc, whenever I greet them online. I don't just start to whine. So, I gave up sending out IMs to those people who so-called promise to chat at times with me through the IMs. I used to initiate chats, but then I learned I am the only one doing so. Therefore, I thought if they TRULY cared to make an effort with a friendship with me, they would contact me. Well, it didn't happen, so that tells me something....

So, anyway....I am curious!!! I hate this feeling of always taking things to heart. I wish I was a little stronger and just shrugged off little things that don't go MY way in my life and move on. I can't do that. To those of you who are able to grip this concept, how do you do it? Please, don't just say "just go for it." It's not that easy for me. So, pointers, please!!!

AB · 10-04-2007, 07:15 PM

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time.

dawsongirl · 10-04-2007, 10:03 PM

I'm sorry. I have no advice, because I don't let things go either. I stress out at work over all sorts of things that really shouldn't bother me. Wish I could help.

When I went back this August after the summer break, I felt the same way for a couple weeks. 3 months is different than 3 days, but it was weird getting used to all the changes. But things eventually went back to normal. I hope they do for you as well.

OH Nuts! · 10-04-2007, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeace

....Yep, another ranting thread. Although, this is a random ranting thread that goes into more than one aspect of my life. So, if you are not into rants or just don't care (cue to those of you who don't like me for whatever reason or even care for ranting threads), then I would recommend just not bother reading this thread. Or, you can just jump to my last question which is the real question/advice I am asking.

I haven't been on Sitcoms Online in roughly a little over a week, I believe. I can't really remember at this moment, unless I check the last post I have made here. So, anyway.... I haven't been on SO in a give or take a week because I have been battling several things in my life: an illness (a cold turned into flu-like symptoms to nausea), having limited computer access because of my spyware problem on my home computer, and even dealing with personal emotional issues at work and in the online world.

I have been pretty much absence from work between last Friday up through Tuesday. I have returned back to work yesterday, Wednesday. I felt like I have totally stepped into the Twilight Zone and am living on the other side of the mirror just like in Lewis Carroll's "Through the Looking Glass!" You know, when you go somewhere and feel like nearly everyone has changed and aren't the same anymore? That's what's been happening with my return back to work. I feel like my two co-worker friends don't care. One of them didn't tell me, "Oh, I missed you being at work!" and the other seems like she's been giving me the cold shoulder attitude. I feel like I am on the other side of that mirror! I am wanting to step back onto the "normal" side of the mirror. What the hell has happened? Seriously, it seems like things aren't the same....

Needless to say, I am feeling very sensitive. I don't know where to turn or who to turn to. It seems the offline people in my life don't care enough or at all about me. It seems like the people in the online world don't really care about making an effort in talking to me anymore. It varies with the people in question, but some of those people seem to have been avoiding me because I whine too much? That's the only thing I can think of. Talking about IMs and that sort of thing, I always care about others and ask how they are doing, etc, whenever I greet them online. I don't just start to whine. So, I gave up sending out IMs to those people who so-called promise to chat at times with me through the IMs. I used to initiate chats, but then I learned I am the only one doing so. Therefore, I thought if they TRULY cared to make an effort with a friendship with me, they would contact me. Well, it didn't happen, so that tells me something....

So, anyway....I am curious!!! I hate this feeling of always taking things to heart. I wish I was a little stronger and just shrugged off little things that don't go MY way in my life and move on. I can't do that. To those of you who are able to grip this concept, how do you do it? Please, don't just say "just go for it." It's not that easy for me. So, pointers, please!!!

I used to feel the way you do. What helped me was a wise older friend who suggested I do some type of volunteer work. It worked for me in that it made me feel gratified to do something that helped others. Also you tend to meet very nice people through volunteering. I made some very nice friends through my volunteering.

Mikado · 10-05-2007, 12:08 AM

Hey Swedeace, nice to see you back

I always enjoy your posts

snl 70s show fan · 10-05-2007, 02:43 AM

im sorry for what your going thru mona i kind of understand about taking things to heart because i sometimes do the same thing

80sTrivia · 10-05-2007, 05:58 AM

I know how it feels to be a little out-of-sorts, Mona. In terms of my online friendships, I realize that we all have busy lives, so I don't usually take it to heart when I don't hear from my online friends for a while. I try to send all of my MySpace friends (yourself included) a message or a comment at least once a month, but sometimes, there just isn't enough time. In terms of your co-workers, I would just take them aside separately and ask them if there is a problem that needs to be addressed and hopefully they will confide in you and let you know what is happening. I'm the sort of person that picks up on other people's vibes as well, so this is what I normally do in a situation such as this. At any rate, I hope things get better for you, Mona, and you can get off the train going to The Twilight Zone...

Nighthawk76 · 10-07-2007, 12:16 AM

I'm really sorry, Mona. I'm sorry that you have been feeling this way. I wish that I could offer you some good advice, but I tend to take things too personally myself as well. I also tend to worry about the little things much more than I should. The ony thing I can say is that you are not alone in the way you feel. I am really happy to see you posting here again. I also was really happy to recieve your email the other day. I am going to try to reply sometime this week.

10-04-2007, 04:43 PM	#1
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	I've Stepped Into the Twilight Zone!! ....Yep, another ranting thread. Although, this is a random ranting thread that goes into more than one aspect of my life. So, if you are not into rants or just don't care (cue to those of you who don't like me for whatever reason or even care for ranting threads), then I would recommend just not bother reading this thread. Or, you can just jump to my last question which is the real question/advice I am asking. I haven't been on Sitcoms Online in roughly a little over a week, I believe. I can't really remember at this moment, unless I check the last post I have made here. So, anyway.... I haven't been on SO in a give or take a week because I have been battling several things in my life: an illness (a cold turned into flu-like symptoms to nausea), having limited computer access because of my spyware problem on my home computer, and even dealing with personal emotional issues at work and in the online world. I have been pretty much absence from work between last Friday up through Tuesday. I have returned back to work yesterday, Wednesday. I felt like I have totally stepped into the Twilight Zone and am living on the other side of the mirror just like in Lewis Carroll's "Through the Looking Glass!" You know, when you go somewhere and feel like nearly everyone has changed and aren't the same anymore? That's what's been happening with my return back to work. I feel like my two co-worker friends don't care. One of them didn't tell me, "Oh, I missed you being at work!" and the other seems like she's been giving me the cold shoulder attitude. I feel like I am on the other side of that mirror! I am wanting to step back onto the "normal" side of the mirror. What the hell has happened? Seriously, it seems like things aren't the same.... Needless to say, I am feeling very sensitive. I don't know where to turn or who to turn to. It seems the offline people in my life don't care enough or at all about me. It seems like the people in the online world don't really care about making an effort in talking to me anymore. It varies with the people in question, but some of those people seem to have been avoiding me because I whine too much? That's the only thing I can think of. Talking about IMs and that sort of thing, I always care about others and ask how they are doing, etc, whenever I greet them online. I don't just start to whine. So, I gave up sending out IMs to those people who so-called promise to chat at times with me through the IMs. I used to initiate chats, but then I learned I am the only one doing so. Therefore, I thought if they TRULY cared to make an effort with a friendship with me, they would contact me. Well, it didn't happen, so that tells me something.... So, anyway....I am curious!!! I hate this feeling of always taking things to heart. I wish I was a little stronger and just shrugged off little things that don't go MY way in my life and move on. I can't do that. To those of you who are able to grip this concept, how do you do it? Please, don't just say "just go for it." It's not that easy for me. So, pointers, please!!!

10-05-2007, 05:58 AM	#7
80sTrivia Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: May 23, 2002 Posts: 21,714	I know how it feels to be a little out-of-sorts, Mona. In terms of my online friendships, I realize that we all have busy lives, so I don't usually take it to heart when I don't hear from my online friends for a while. I try to send all of my MySpace friends (yourself included) a message or a comment at least once a month, but sometimes, there just isn't enough time. In terms of your co-workers, I would just take them aside separately and ask them if there is a problem that needs to be addressed and hopefully they will confide in you and let you know what is happening. I'm the sort of person that picks up on other people's vibes as well, so this is what I normally do in a situation such as this. At any rate, I hope things get better for you, Mona, and you can get off the train going to The Twilight Zone...
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10-04-2007, 07:15 PM	#2
AB Member Eternal Member Forum Icon Join Date: Dec 26, 2006 Location: The South Posts: 59,428	I'm sorry you're having such a rough time.

10-04-2007, 10:03 PM	#3
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	I'm sorry. I have no advice, because I don't let things go either. I stress out at work over all sorts of things that really shouldn't bother me. Wish I could help. When I went back this August after the summer break, I felt the same way for a couple weeks. 3 months is different than 3 days, but it was weird getting used to all the changes. But things eventually went back to normal. I hope they do for you as well.

10-05-2007, 12:08 AM	#5
Mikado Main st bridge Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 06, 2005 Posts: 25,892	Hey Swedeace, nice to see you back I always enjoy your posts

10-05-2007, 02:43 AM	#6
snl 70s show fan Member Senior Member Join Date: Jun 14, 2005 Location: in the forman basment Posts: 2,454	im sorry for what your going thru mona i kind of understand about taking things to heart because i sometimes do the same thing

10-07-2007, 12:16 AM	#8
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I'm really sorry, Mona. I'm sorry that you have been feeling this way. I wish that I could offer you some good advice, but I tend to take things too personally myself as well. I also tend to worry about the little things much more than I should. The ony thing I can say is that you are not alone in the way you feel. I am really happy to see you posting here again. I also was really happy to recieve your email the other day. I am going to try to reply sometime this week.