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Janice Johnson · 09-11-2007, 09:45 PM

How can parents love their kids equally? If two parents have a mean, ill-tempered brat, who runs away, smokes, has sex with people twice their age, cusses, drinks, and has fights all the time, and they have another child who is a sweet angel who obeys them and is nice to everyone, how can they expect to love the "bad" brat" and the "sweet angel" equally?

Ireneparalegal · 09-11-2007, 09:50 PM

It's called "Unconditional love". Someday when you are a parent, you will know and understand.

Janice · 09-11-2007, 09:53 PM

Good mature parents may like the better behaved child over the troublesome one, but love them equally. I do know know parents that love some of their kids more than others, and it has nothing to do with the kid's behavior either. I won't get into it, because you never know who's reading these boards, but I'm related to a woman who's an absolute disgrace when it comes to that. She simply has her favorites, with her kids and her grandkids. The ones who are not her favorites, call the ones who are, "the chosen few". She's left emotional scars on her non-favorites. Her husband was the same way, but he died.

Hollow · 09-11-2007, 10:53 PM

the love a parent feels for a child is different from the conditional love you may feel for a friend or acquaintance.

dawsongirl · 09-11-2007, 11:14 PM

It's that whole, I Love You but I don't LIKE you. It's confusing.

I am Roboto · 09-12-2007, 04:10 AM

I firmly believe that its human nature to pick a favorite and that will always happen, however, a good parent can recognize this and do his/her best to share affection as close to equally as possible.

Buffyboy323 · 09-12-2007, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

It's called "Unconditional love". Someday when you are a parent, you will know and understand.

Exactly!

I hope all parents share that "unconditional" love for their children...The relationship that a parent has with each of their kids may be different. For example, they might be closer to one of the kids more than the others, but the love should be the equal (whether the kids happen to be moody, mean, or a "sweet angel").

TVFactFan · 09-12-2007, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

It's that whole, I Love You but I don't LIKE you. It's confusing.

Clair said that to Denise in a episode of the Cosby Show-lol No lie

dawsongirl · 09-12-2007, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by TheAnalyzer

Clair said that to Denise in a episode of the Cosby Show-lol No lie

Never seen it, I swear.

FactoryGirl · 09-12-2007, 11:08 PM

It should be easily to love the 'bad' kid and the 'good' kid equally. I can't see myself loving my kids differently, they are my flesh and blood.

My father loved me and my twin sister the same even though I was the 'bad' kid at the time. I was doing drugs and drinking and clubhopping at an early age, skipping school etc. while my sister did everything perfectly, so perfect, it was sickening. No matter how much pain I put my father and stepmother, they loved me just the same as my sister.

Penny Lane · 09-13-2007, 10:00 AM

As a parent I can say that I love my 2 children equally only differently. Both are adults male and female. The same goes for my 2 grandchildren . Boy and girl.

TVFactFan · 09-13-2007, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Never seen it, I swear.

It was the episode when Denise was off to college and clair says I'm going to miss you and I'm not saying that because I love you, i'm saying it because I LIKE YOU-lol And Denise just started crying

coffield3 · 09-13-2007, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

It's called "Unconditional love". Someday when you are a parent, you will know and understand.

Exactly i was going to say that! This is a silly thread really.

Hollow · 09-13-2007, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by coffield3

This is a silly thread really.

exactly. this isn't controversial at all...just a naive question.

FactoryGirl · 09-13-2007, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by coffield3

Exactly i was going to say that! This is a silly thread really.

I was going to say the same thing...

09-11-2007, 09:45 PM	#1
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Penny Lane Butter Pie Forum Icon Join Date: Jul 03, 2001 Location: Beneath the blue suburban skies Posts: 51,263	As a parent I can say that I love my 2 children equally only differently. Both are adults male and female. The same goes for my 2 grandchildren . Boy and girl.
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09-11-2007, 09:53 PM	#3
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	Good mature parents may like the better behaved child over the troublesome one, but love them equally. I do know know parents that love some of their kids more than others, and it has nothing to do with the kid's behavior either. I won't get into it, because you never know who's reading these boards, but I'm related to a woman who's an absolute disgrace when it comes to that. She simply has her favorites, with her kids and her grandkids. The ones who are not her favorites, call the ones who are, "the chosen few". She's left emotional scars on her non-favorites. Her husband was the same way, but he died.

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Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	the love a parent feels for a child is different from the conditional love you may feel for a friend or acquaintance.

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dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	It's that whole, I Love You but I don't LIKE you. It's confusing.

09-12-2007, 11:08 PM	#10
FactoryGirl Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Sep 10, 2007 Location: Spinning tunes at club Mood Posts: 448	It should be easily to love the 'bad' kid and the 'good' kid equally. I can't see myself loving my kids differently, they are my flesh and blood. My father loved me and my twin sister the same even though I was the 'bad' kid at the time. I was doing drugs and drinking and clubhopping at an early age, skipping school etc. while my sister did everything perfectly, so perfect, it was sickening. No matter how much pain I put my father and stepmother, they loved me just the same as my sister.