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GARFIELDKOOL · 09-04-2007, 07:44 PM

He is 16, 6-1, and 300 pounds....but that's beside the point. I am starting to wonder about him. He doesn't do male-orientated activities. I have never known him to toss a football around. He is very inactive physically, and he likes girls things. When he was younger, he played with dolls, and nowadays he hangs with girls. I don't think he's ever had a male friend. All he does is watch female videos. He loves, Beyonce, Spice Girls, Janet Jackson, Whitney Houston, etc. Not only that, he mocks the singers step by step. I am really beginning to think he's gay. He may not be, but he is not what you would call masculine. As big as he is, he should be outside getting active, and he doesn't do any of that.

Mikado · 09-04-2007, 07:49 PM

Well, dancing is a physical activity, it may not fit what YOU want him to be like, but, if that's his thing, then maybe you can encourage him ( possibly buy him a "Dance Dance revolution" game , if he doesnt have one) ; at least it will keep him healthier than if he just sits around.

coffield3 · 09-04-2007, 07:54 PM

Oh geez hes young, and so what if he turns out to be gay! why dont you spend time with him.

Ireneparalegal · 09-04-2007, 08:05 PM

My daughter was the same way growing up. She wanted nothing to do with girls stuff, Barbies, etc. She loved rugged sports and once was on a football team with only boys. She could outsmart and outbeat any boy her age. She is of course gay. I can't say that people like your nephew who should enjoy more male-oriented things, is gay, I am merely pointing out my experience.

But like Mikado said, dancing is exercise and since he likes it, there shouldn't be a problem with that. He may be accepted more by females than males. Maybe the males think that HE IS GAY and that is why they avoid him. That could be why he has no friends of the male persuasion. Didn't you ever know someone who you thought for sure was gay and turned out they weren't? He may be giving off that vibe and that is why he hangs out with girls. They may be more accepting of his "style" or behavior than the guys. He might feel insecure because of his weight. Who knows.

Mikado · 09-04-2007, 08:07 PM

Great points, Irene!

( bows in awe! )

GARFIELDKOOL · 09-04-2007, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

My daughter was the same way growing up. She wanted nothing to do with girls stuff, Barbies, etc. She loved rugged sports and once was on a football team with only boys. She could outsmart and outbeat any boy her age. She is of course gay. I can't say that people like your nephew who should enjoy more male-oriented things, is gay, I am merely pointing out my experience.

But like Mikado said, dancing is exercise and since he likes it, there shouldn't be a problem with that. He may be accepted more by females than males. Maybe the males think that HE IS GAY and that is why they avoid him. That could be why he has no friends of the male persuasion. Didn't you ever know someone who you thought for sure was gay and turned out they weren't? He may be giving off that vibe and that is why he hangs out with girls. They may be more accepting of his "style" or behavior than the guys. He might feel insecure because of his weight. Who knows.

You got a point, but you know what, I kind of blame that on his father. He should have taught him to be a man. Not only that, he desparately needs a haircut, and the dad can't even cut his hair or encourage him to go to a barbershop.

Ireneparalegal · 09-04-2007, 08:10 PM

Thank you Mikado.

Kool, if you really want to know these things, you may have to inquire. Maybe he is having issues and could use someone to talk to.

Ireneparalegal · 09-04-2007, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by GARFIELDKOOL

You got a point, but you know what, I kind of blame that on his father. He should have taught him to be a man. Not only that, he desparately needs a haircut, and the dad can't even cut his hair or encourage him to go to a barbershop.

Maybe you need to step up to the plate and be the man/father that he didn't have. It could be an opportunity for you to let him know you are there for him, you want to help in any way but most of all, YOU ARE ACCEPTING OF HIM NO MATTER WHAT. The cruelest thing to a child is to make them feel as if they are doing something wrong when they do things that are not "normal". Like I said, use this opportunity to step up to the plate and let him know you are there for him.

coffield3 · 09-04-2007, 08:14 PM

Well said irene, i agree with mikey great points!

Ireneparalegal · 09-04-2007, 08:14 PM

Thank you sweetie. I try to be helpful and I know my friend Mike is serious when he talks abt his family.

GARFIELDKOOL · 09-04-2007, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

Maybe you need to step up to the plate and be the man/father that he didn't have. It could be an opportunity for you to let him know you are there for him, you want to help in any way but most of all, YOU ARE ACCEPTING OF HIM NO MATTER WHAT. The cruelest thing to a child is to make them feel as if they are doing something wrong when they do things that are not "normal". Like I said, use this opportunity to step up to the plate and let him know you are there for him.

That's some good advice, but me and him never been that close. So whatever I say to him wouldn't register with him anyway. He's got two older brothers who isn't close with him either. Again, he wouldn't listen to them either, it would probably turn into a fight

coffield3 · 09-04-2007, 08:18 PM

Well you seem to care enough garfield, just be there as a friend then.

GARFIELDKOOL · 09-04-2007, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

Thank you sweetie. I try to be helpful and I know my friend Mike is serious when he talks abt his family.

Thanks, Irene, you are so caring.

Ireneparalegal · 09-04-2007, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by GARFIELDKOOL

That's some good advice, but me and him never been that close. So whatever I say to him wouldn't register with him anyway. He's got two older brothers who isn't close with him either. Again, he wouldn't listen to them either, it would probably turn into a fight

Poor guy. Sounds like the males who should be an influence for him or be there for him, weren't. I know what you mean though, I have a half-brother who I no longer talk to because he is thick-headed and got bad direction from his mother who spoiled him rotten and didn't allow my dad to discipline him. Because of that he is now 30 something and still in a sense behaves like a teenager. Bad direction can lead one to nowhere sometimes. All my sisterly love and trying to engrave things into his head seemed to lead to a fight...and it did. I cut him out of my life and it hurts.

I can't tell you what to do, I can only give you opinions and advice. You know him better than any of us and it all just seems the poor guy didn't get the kind of attention he should have received.

GARFIELDKOOL · 09-04-2007, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

Poor guy. Sounds like the males who should be an influence for him or be there for him, weren't. I know what you mean though, I have a half-brother who I no longer talk to because he is thick-headed and got bad direction from his mother who spoiled him rotten and didn't allow my dad to discipline him. Because of that he is now 30 something and still in a sense behaves like a teenager. Bad direction can lead one to nowhere sometimes. All my sisterly love and trying to engrave things into his head seemed to lead to a fight...and it did. I cut him out of my life and it hurts.

I can't tell you what to do, I can only give you opinions and advice. You know him better than any of us and it all just seems the poor guy didn't get the kind of attention he should have received.

Let me add that he has a disability. He has sense, he knows wright from wrong, so I can't just blame that on a disability. I guess he just likes girl things. That's sound like my sister with my nephew, she's to blame to, she treats him like a king, and gives him baby nicknames to this day like the nickname, "Mellow" She calls him that in a baby way, Everything he does is "cute" So she's to blame as well.

Sorry about what happened with you half-bro. That is messed up.

09-04-2007, 07:44 PM	#1
GARFIELDKOOL Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Sep 02, 2004 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 7,204	What's wrong with my nephew? He is 16, 6-1, and 300 pounds....but that's beside the point. I am starting to wonder about him. He doesn't do male-orientated activities. I have never known him to toss a football around. He is very inactive physically, and he likes girls things. When he was younger, he played with dolls, and nowadays he hangs with girls. I don't think he's ever had a male friend. All he does is watch female videos. He loves, Beyonce, Spice Girls, Janet Jackson, Whitney Houston, etc. Not only that, he mocks the singers step by step. I am really beginning to think he's gay. He may not be, but he is not what you would call masculine. As big as he is, he should be outside getting active, and he doesn't do any of that.

09-04-2007, 07:54 PM	#3
coffield3 <3 Forum Veteran Join Date: Jul 23, 2006 Location: England Posts: 7,379	Oh geez hes young, and so what if he turns out to be gay! why dont you spend time with him.
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09-04-2007, 08:05 PM	#4
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	My daughter was the same way growing up. She wanted nothing to do with girls stuff, Barbies, etc. She loved rugged sports and once was on a football team with only boys. She could outsmart and outbeat any boy her age. She is of course gay. I can't say that people like your nephew who should enjoy more male-oriented things, is gay, I am merely pointing out my experience. But like Mikado said, dancing is exercise and since he likes it, there shouldn't be a problem with that. He may be accepted more by females than males. Maybe the males think that HE IS GAY and that is why they avoid him. That could be why he has no friends of the male persuasion. Didn't you ever know someone who you thought for sure was gay and turned out they weren't? He may be giving off that vibe and that is why he hangs out with girls. They may be more accepting of his "style" or behavior than the guys. He might feel insecure because of his weight. Who knows.
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09-04-2007, 08:10 PM	#7
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	Thank you Mikado. Kool, if you really want to know these things, you may have to inquire. Maybe he is having issues and could use someone to talk to.
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09-04-2007, 07:49 PM	#2
Mikado Main st bridge Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 06, 2005 Posts: 25,892	Well, dancing is a physical activity, it may not fit what YOU want him to be like, but, if that's his thing, then maybe you can encourage him ( possibly buy him a "Dance Dance revolution" game , if he doesnt have one) ; at least it will keep him healthier than if he just sits around.

09-04-2007, 08:07 PM	#5
Mikado Main st bridge Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 06, 2005 Posts: 25,892	Great points, Irene! ( bows in awe! )

09-04-2007, 08:14 PM	#9
coffield3 <3 Forum Veteran Join Date: Jul 23, 2006 Location: England Posts: 7,379	Well said irene, i agree with mikey great points!

09-04-2007, 08:18 PM	#12
coffield3 <3 Forum Veteran Join Date: Jul 23, 2006 Location: England Posts: 7,379	Well you seem to care enough garfield, just be there as a friend then.