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isiahthomas · 05-29-2007, 05:31 PM

I live with my parents at the moment and i wanna move out bad and get my own place but the thing that's preventing that from happening is i can't get a good paying job because of my lack of intelligence and being able to figure things out. Right now i work 2 jobs and i'm tired of doing that. I've worked 2 jobs for a long time and i want just one job. At my first job, i'm a porter for a apartment building. I take care of the trash dumpsters, sweep up outside, sweep the parking garages and i change lightbulbs in the hallways. At my 2nd job, i work at a office building dumping trash and vaccuming. I get paid $9 a hour at my first job which is full time and my 2nd job is part time and i get paid $6.75 a hour. I wanna quit my 2nd job because the pay is sh*tty. I would like to stay at my first job because it's a nice environment for me because my co-workers are black, hispanic, white. Jobs that i've had in the past, i've worked with mostly blacks and i don't like working with only blacks because most of them can be very ignorant especially black men. I've been teased at my past jobs by ignorant black men because i'm quiet and i don't get in people's business and try to make friends. I just do my job and go home. One of the reasons i wanna move outta my parents house is because my father and i have never gotten along. He yelled at me yesterday because i accidentally poured some oil in the lawnmower and i poured too much because when i tried to cut the grass, the lawnmower was smoking. He had a damn fit. I just wanna get outta their house because i need to be on my own.

I went to see a psychiatrist last year because i'm concerned about my life because i think i'm gonna eventually end up homeless and that scares me because when your homeless, nobody cares about you and the government damn sure doesn't care about homeless people because they think every homeless person has a mental problem, are drug addicts and alcoholics and that's not true. I believe some homeless people do wanna have a better life but they don't know what to do to make their lives better. The psychiatrist told me that he thinks i have a.d.d. which is attention deficit disorder. He gave me some pills to take but i didn't take them because i don't believe that pills can make my brain think better. I'm depressed all the time and i think about suicide sometimes. I even talked to a suicide hotline and that didn't really help. I don't wanna go back to school because i never was a good student. I didn't get d's and f's a lot but i did get mostly c's and b's. I think my high school teachers just passed me along because i never caused trouble in class and i always did my homework but i think i didn't deserve to graduate on time. I just don't know what to do. I'm not good at any job skill besides cleaning and i'm tired of doing cleaning work because it doesn't pay enough for me to live in a nice neighborhood and drive a nice car which is what i want. I don't have any kids and i'm single. What should i do?

Frischman_Fan · 05-29-2007, 05:52 PM

I'm sorry you're going through alot at the moment. I can totally relate to you. This may sound corny but always know that things can be alot worse. However, never doubt yourself. Always think positive. There must be other things you're good at. Do you drive? Do you know anything about cars, are you a people person, etc? If you do, there are other jobs out there! If you can't stand a full-time school scedule, try taking a degree program that takes place about once or twice a week. You should be able to get financial aid if it's too expensive. Take it easy with your parents and start saving up. If you really want out maybe you can rent a room or something until you find a bigger place. I moved out of my mom's house when I was 21 and moved in with my brother. It was so tough because we faught alot but then things got better. I was a nanny at the time and the thought of dealing with other peoples spoiled children got to me so I quit and went for clerical work. I didn't like it at first but then I got the hang of it and it's been 4 years I'm with the company. I pushed myself. Nothing is easy in life but if we think positive we will notice that things aren't so bad. Believe me, it took me a while to get the hang of the real world. Sometimes I'm still struggling. But we must learn from our mistakes and move on. Just take it easy and believe in yourself.

I don't mean to sound like an afterschool special but I do hope my advice has some meaning.

I hope things go well for you!

TVFactFan · 05-29-2007, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by isiahthomas

I live with my parents at the moment and i wanna move out bad and get my own place but the thing that's preventing that from happening is i can't get a good paying job because of my lack of intelligence and being able to figure things out. Right now i work 2 jobs and i'm tired of doing that. I've worked 2 jobs for a long time and i want just one job. At my first job, i'm a porter for a apartment building. I take care of the trash dumpsters, sweep up outside, sweep the parking garages and i change lightbulbs in the hallways. At my 2nd job, i work at a office building dumping trash and vaccuming. I get paid $9 a hour at my first job which is full time and my 2nd job is part time and i get paid $6.75 a hour. I wanna quit my 2nd job because the pay is sh*tty. I would like to stay at my first job because it's a nice environment for me because my co-workers are black, hispanic, white. Jobs that i've had in the past, i've worked with mostly blacks and i don't like working with only blacks because most of them can be very ignorant especially black men. I've been teased at my past jobs by ignorant black men because i'm quiet and i don't get in people's business and try to make friends. I just do my job and go home. One of the reasons i wanna move outta my parents house is because my father and i have never gotten along. He yelled at me yesterday because i accidentally poured some oil in the lawnmower and i poured too much because when i tried to cut the grass, the lawnmower was smoking. He had a damn fit. I just wanna get outta their house because i need to be on my own.

I went to see a psychiatrist last year because i'm concerned about my life because i think i'm gonna eventually end up homeless and that scares me because when your homeless, nobody cares about you and the government damn sure doesn't care about homeless people because they think every homeless person has a mental problem, are drug addicts and alcoholics and that's not true. I believe some homeless people do wanna have a better life but they don't know what to do to make their lives better. The psychiatrist told me that he thinks i have a.d.d. which is attention deficit disorder. He gave me some pills to take but i didn't take them because i don't believe that pills can make my brain think better. I'm depressed all the time and i think about suicide sometimes. I even talked to a suicide hotline and that didn't really help. I don't wanna go back to school because i never was a good student. I didn't get d's and f's a lot but i did get mostly c's and b's. I think my high school teachers just passed me along because i never caused trouble in class and i always did my homework but i think i didn't deserve to graduate on time. I just don't know what to do. I'm not good at any job skill besides cleaning and i'm tired of doing cleaning work because it doesn't pay enough for me to live in a nice neighborhood and drive a nice car which is what i want. I don't have any kids and i'm single. What should i do?

You can't be that depressed if you called me GAY an hour ago-lol

Nighthawk76 · 05-29-2007, 06:01 PM

I hope that you get to feeling better before too long, isiah.

MonarC · 05-29-2007, 06:31 PM

Ya know believe it or not pizza delivery guys make good money. A good friend of mine does it an he can afford his own place. The thing is you need a real economical car. Juat a thought. I hope everything will get better for you. I don't know if you believe in prayer but it can help too. Just pray to not think about suicide and try to be positive.

isiahthomas · 05-29-2007, 07:54 PM

I don't know anything about cars and i'm not a people person. I don't know how to read a map. I don't know how to change a car tire even though my dad has shown me how to do it several times. My dad has a temper and i don't like it because when he gets upset at me, he curses and yells and he has this evil look on his face like he despises me. I asked him one day does he hate me and he said if i hated you, you wouldn't be living with me. I believe he does hate me because the way he yells and curses at me when i upset him. I haven't done anything to make him proud of me so i can't be mad at him if he did hate me. My brother is 4 years younger than me and he graduated from college and he has his own place in a nice neighborhood. My brother used to have a Caddilac Escalade truck. I've never been able to afford to buy a nice car or truck. Every car i've had, my grandparents and my parents have given to me. I really hate my life and i don't believe it's ever gonna get better. I was thinking about doing some research on finding out if there's any job classes for people who have learning disabilities like myself. Do ya'll think there are job classes for people who are mentally slow like me? I don't want the government to take care of me because i hate welfare. I want a good job so i can get my own place and get a better car.

I used to live with my grandparents and i really let them down because i had a lot of low paying slavery jobs when i stayed with them. Plus i made some bad decisions like getting credit cards and not being able to pay them on time because i couldn't keep a job. My grandparents are dead now and i miss them and i wish i would've done good when they were alive.

Max Whittaker · 05-29-2007, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by isiahthomas

I really hate my life and i don't believe it's ever gonna get better.

With that attitude, it won't.

You're being too hard on yourself. There's nothing wrong with wanting something more for yourself. I'm right there with you. But you've got to take action and you've got to adjust your attitude.

There are most certainly options for people "like you". But before you can succeed in anything you've got to stop putting yourself down. You are your greatest enemy and you are the only thing standing in your way. Everything else can be dealt with, if you only have the confidence to face it.

Brieannas21 · 05-29-2007, 08:36 PM

Well you have to get over your whole race thing first.

Ireneparalegal · 05-29-2007, 08:53 PM

It seems the psychiatrist gave you his/her opinion. They gave you medication and you didn't take it. That is a professional person telling you their medical advice and you decided not to follow that advice. So, why are you asking us for advice? I just PM'd you with some advice and mentioned a person whose funeral I went to after they committed suicide and you asked me if the person who committed suicide was black??????? WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MATTER? She was a human being. It doesn't matter what color or race she is. It irks me that people ask for advice and then ignore it.

dawsongirl · 05-29-2007, 09:05 PM

Yes, pills can help you think better. Pills aren't the answer to everyone's problems, but how do you know they won't help if you don't try? I used to think Paxil wasn't going to help my anxiety at all. I mean, how the hell can a pill make me stop being so scared?? But it did help. Not 100%, but quite a bit. It was a good thing I tried, because now I have no problem going to work everyday and I'm not afraid to leave the house and be "locked away" at work all day. So it can help if you at least give it a shot.

And like others have said, you can do anything if you put your mind to it. Starting out saying "I can't" dooms you for failure from the beginning. No matter how smart or dumb you are.

As far as jobs, have you ever considered the post office? If my dad isn't being a little over-the-top in what he tells me, anyone can work there, no matter how intelligent you are. He talks about some people who sound like they can barely read, so you have them beat for sure. And they have good wages and it's very diverse.

TVFactFan · 05-29-2007, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

It seems the psychiatrist gave you his/her opinion. They gave you medication and you didn't take it. That is a professional person telling you their medical advice and you decided not to follow that advice. So, why are you asking us for advice? I just PM'd you with some advice and mentioned a person whose funeral I went to after they committed suicide and you asked me if the person who committed suicide was black??????? WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MATTER? She was a human being. It doesn't matter what color or race she is. It irks me that people ask for advice and then ignore it.

LMAO-LOL-LOL

Brian Damage · 05-29-2007, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

It seems the psychiatrist gave you his/her opinion. They gave you medication and you didn't take it. That is a professional person telling you their medical advice and you decided not to follow that advice. So, why are you asking us for advice? I just PM'd you with some advice and mentioned a person whose funeral I went to after they committed suicide and you asked me if the person who committed suicide was black??????? WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MATTER? She was a human being. It doesn't matter what color or race she is. It irks me that people ask for advice and then ignore it.

Are you black?

coffield3 · 05-29-2007, 10:04 PM

I feel for you i lived with my mom for a while due to crappy pay etc...i thought simular to you at one point but like everything in life things change and things can only get better.If your still on medication for depression or whatever i would try to ween yourself off them this is simply because you dont want to become reliable on them its just a drug,i hope things get better for you chin up!!! X

Ireneparalegal · 05-29-2007, 10:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Brian Damage

Are you black?

Depends what day of the week it is.

Jo_Luvs_Ketchup · 05-29-2007, 11:13 PM

Even though I feel what you said to Irene was extremely ignorant, I'm going to give you this advice because it can be beneficial.

About two years ago, I was put on an antidepressant. I wasn't interested in taking it because I didn't believe I was depressed, but my mom and doctor both said I was. So I took the pill and slowly with work, things seemed to get better for me. A few weeks ago, I ran out of this medication and forgot to tell my mom about it so she can call it in. This was on a Friday and for some reason, they were closed that Monday too. That weekend was the looongest weekend of my life. I felt very angry, tired, and I cried every 30 minutes, not to mention I had awful thoughts. It was terrible but it was also a turning point in my life. I realized maybe I do have a chemical imbalance and if I just stay on these meds, I will stay fine.

I know it's hard to think that a pill can't solve your problems, and you're right. You still have to do the work, but the pills can help. You just have to find the right one for you. Obviously, your doctor felt the need to put you on those meds and you refused to take them. You should give them another chance. You should also talk to someone about this racism. It is not healthy. I mean, quitting a job because of black people, come on.

I hope some of this helped you and you follow some of the advice we at SO gave you.

05-29-2007, 05:31 PM	#1
isiahthomas Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Aug 20, 2002 Location: Cleveland, Ohio Posts: 10,704	I Need Some Advice Because I'm Depressed I live with my parents at the moment and i wanna move out bad and get my own place but the thing that's preventing that from happening is i can't get a good paying job because of my lack of intelligence and being able to figure things out. Right now i work 2 jobs and i'm tired of doing that. I've worked 2 jobs for a long time and i want just one job. At my first job, i'm a porter for a apartment building. I take care of the trash dumpsters, sweep up outside, sweep the parking garages and i change lightbulbs in the hallways. At my 2nd job, i work at a office building dumping trash and vaccuming. I get paid $9 a hour at my first job which is full time and my 2nd job is part time and i get paid $6.75 a hour. I wanna quit my 2nd job because the pay is sh*tty. I would like to stay at my first job because it's a nice environment for me because my co-workers are black, hispanic, white. Jobs that i've had in the past, i've worked with mostly blacks and i don't like working with only blacks because most of them can be very ignorant especially black men. I've been teased at my past jobs by ignorant black men because i'm quiet and i don't get in people's business and try to make friends. I just do my job and go home. One of the reasons i wanna move outta my parents house is because my father and i have never gotten along. He yelled at me yesterday because i accidentally poured some oil in the lawnmower and i poured too much because when i tried to cut the grass, the lawnmower was smoking. He had a damn fit. I just wanna get outta their house because i need to be on my own. I went to see a psychiatrist last year because i'm concerned about my life because i think i'm gonna eventually end up homeless and that scares me because when your homeless, nobody cares about you and the government damn sure doesn't care about homeless people because they think every homeless person has a mental problem, are drug addicts and alcoholics and that's not true. I believe some homeless people do wanna have a better life but they don't know what to do to make their lives better. The psychiatrist told me that he thinks i have a.d.d. which is attention deficit disorder. He gave me some pills to take but i didn't take them because i don't believe that pills can make my brain think better. I'm depressed all the time and i think about suicide sometimes. I even talked to a suicide hotline and that didn't really help. I don't wanna go back to school because i never was a good student. I didn't get d's and f's a lot but i did get mostly c's and b's. I think my high school teachers just passed me along because i never caused trouble in class and i always did my homework but i think i didn't deserve to graduate on time. I just don't know what to do. I'm not good at any job skill besides cleaning and i'm tired of doing cleaning work because it doesn't pay enough for me to live in a nice neighborhood and drive a nice car which is what i want. I don't have any kids and i'm single. What should i do?

05-29-2007, 05:52 PM	#2
Frischman_Fan Who luvs nerds?! I DO!!! Senior Member Join Date: Sep 19, 2003 Location: In the back of Rigby's grocery store. Posts: 1,178	I'm sorry you're going through alot at the moment. I can totally relate to you. This may sound corny but always know that things can be alot worse. However, never doubt yourself. Always think positive. There must be other things you're good at. Do you drive? Do you know anything about cars, are you a people person, etc? If you do, there are other jobs out there! If you can't stand a full-time school scedule, try taking a degree program that takes place about once or twice a week. You should be able to get financial aid if it's too expensive. Take it easy with your parents and start saving up. If you really want out maybe you can rent a room or something until you find a bigger place. I moved out of my mom's house when I was 21 and moved in with my brother. It was so tough because we faught alot but then things got better. I was a nanny at the time and the thought of dealing with other peoples spoiled children got to me so I quit and went for clerical work. I didn't like it at first but then I got the hang of it and it's been 4 years I'm with the company. I pushed myself. Nothing is easy in life but if we think positive we will notice that things aren't so bad. Believe me, it took me a while to get the hang of the real world. Sometimes I'm still struggling. But we must learn from our mistakes and move on. Just take it easy and believe in yourself. I don't mean to sound like an afterschool special but I do hope my advice has some meaning. I hope things go well for you!
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05-29-2007, 08:53 PM	#9
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	It seems the psychiatrist gave you his/her opinion. They gave you medication and you didn't take it. That is a professional person telling you their medical advice and you decided not to follow that advice. So, why are you asking us for advice? I just PM'd you with some advice and mentioned a person whose funeral I went to after they committed suicide and you asked me if the person who committed suicide was black??????? WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MATTER? She was a human being. It doesn't matter what color or race she is. It irks me that people ask for advice and then ignore it.
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05-29-2007, 06:01 PM	#4
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I hope that you get to feeling better before too long, isiah.

05-29-2007, 06:31 PM	#5
MonarC The truth will set you free Forum Fanatic Join Date: Dec 05, 2002 Location: 3rd Stone From The Sun Posts: 9,525	Ya know believe it or not pizza delivery guys make good money. A good friend of mine does it an he can afford his own place. The thing is you need a real economical car. Juat a thought. I hope everything will get better for you. I don't know if you believe in prayer but it can help too. Just pray to not think about suicide and try to be positive.

05-29-2007, 07:54 PM	#6
isiahthomas Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Aug 20, 2002 Location: Cleveland, Ohio Posts: 10,704	I don't know anything about cars and i'm not a people person. I don't know how to read a map. I don't know how to change a car tire even though my dad has shown me how to do it several times. My dad has a temper and i don't like it because when he gets upset at me, he curses and yells and he has this evil look on his face like he despises me. I asked him one day does he hate me and he said if i hated you, you wouldn't be living with me. I believe he does hate me because the way he yells and curses at me when i upset him. I haven't done anything to make him proud of me so i can't be mad at him if he did hate me. My brother is 4 years younger than me and he graduated from college and he has his own place in a nice neighborhood. My brother used to have a Caddilac Escalade truck. I've never been able to afford to buy a nice car or truck. Every car i've had, my grandparents and my parents have given to me. I really hate my life and i don't believe it's ever gonna get better. I was thinking about doing some research on finding out if there's any job classes for people who have learning disabilities like myself. Do ya'll think there are job classes for people who are mentally slow like me? I don't want the government to take care of me because i hate welfare. I want a good job so i can get my own place and get a better car. I used to live with my grandparents and i really let them down because i had a lot of low paying slavery jobs when i stayed with them. Plus i made some bad decisions like getting credit cards and not being able to pay them on time because i couldn't keep a job. My grandparents are dead now and i miss them and i wish i would've done good when they were alive.

05-29-2007, 08:36 PM	#8
Brieannas21 Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 05, 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 9,792	Well you have to get over your whole race thing first.

05-29-2007, 09:05 PM	#10
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	Yes, pills can help you think better. Pills aren't the answer to everyone's problems, but how do you know they won't help if you don't try? I used to think Paxil wasn't going to help my anxiety at all. I mean, how the hell can a pill make me stop being so scared?? But it did help. Not 100%, but quite a bit. It was a good thing I tried, because now I have no problem going to work everyday and I'm not afraid to leave the house and be "locked away" at work all day. So it can help if you at least give it a shot. And like others have said, you can do anything if you put your mind to it. Starting out saying "I can't" dooms you for failure from the beginning. No matter how smart or dumb you are. As far as jobs, have you ever considered the post office? If my dad isn't being a little over-the-top in what he tells me, anyone can work there, no matter how intelligent you are. He talks about some people who sound like they can barely read, so you have them beat for sure. And they have good wages and it's very diverse.

05-29-2007, 10:04 PM	#13
coffield3 <3 Forum Veteran Join Date: Jul 23, 2006 Location: England Posts: 7,379	I feel for you i lived with my mom for a while due to crappy pay etc...i thought simular to you at one point but like everything in life things change and things can only get better.If your still on medication for depression or whatever i would try to ween yourself off them this is simply because you dont want to become reliable on them its just a drug,i hope things get better for you chin up!!! X

05-29-2007, 11:13 PM	#15
Jo_Luvs_Ketchup Member Eternal Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 09, 2003 Posts: 4,195	Even though I feel what you said to Irene was extremely ignorant, I'm going to give you this advice because it can be beneficial. About two years ago, I was put on an antidepressant. I wasn't interested in taking it because I didn't believe I was depressed, but my mom and doctor both said I was. So I took the pill and slowly with work, things seemed to get better for me. A few weeks ago, I ran out of this medication and forgot to tell my mom about it so she can call it in. This was on a Friday and for some reason, they were closed that Monday too. That weekend was the looongest weekend of my life. I felt very angry, tired, and I cried every 30 minutes, not to mention I had awful thoughts. It was terrible but it was also a turning point in my life. I realized maybe I do have a chemical imbalance and if I just stay on these meds, I will stay fine. I know it's hard to think that a pill can't solve your problems, and you're right. You still have to do the work, but the pills can help. You just have to find the right one for you. Obviously, your doctor felt the need to put you on those meds and you refused to take them. You should give them another chance. You should also talk to someone about this racism. It is not healthy. I mean, quitting a job because of black people, come on. I hope some of this helped you and you follow some of the advice we at SO gave you.