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TVFactFan · 05-28-2007, 03:18 PM

My mom has found old family videos from 1992 and I don't think I can hear the voice of my family members who died at a young age, my cousin at 27 and step dad at 38. I don't know what hearing their voice again on a vieo would do to me especially since I knew I would never hear their voice again. So I told my mom I think will PASS on watching the videos because I don't want to get emotional. Could anyone do something like this?

crystaldawn · 05-28-2007, 03:21 PM

We recently transferred a lot of home movies to dvd. I enjoyed seeing some of my relatives (including my grandparents) who have passed away. I can see how you would be hesitant to do so but I found it comforting to get to see them and hear them again. Thats a gift imo.

Dutabi84 · 05-28-2007, 03:24 PM

I know I probably wouldn't. Maybe if I were alone, but definitely not with a group of people.

TVFactFan · 05-28-2007, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by crystaldawn

We recently transferred a lot of home movies to dvd. I enjoyed seeing some of my relatives (including my grandparents) who have passed away. I can see how you would be hesitant to do so but I found it comforting to get to see them and hear them again. Thats a gift imo.

Grandparents I think wouldn't be as bad, it's the ones who died at a young age

TVFactFan · 05-28-2007, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by crystaldawn

We recently transferred a lot of home movies to dvd. I enjoyed seeing some of my relatives (including my grandparents) who have passed away. I can see how you would be hesitant to do so but I found it comforting to get to see them and hear them again. Thats a gift imo.

Grandparents I think wouldn't be as bad, it's the ones who died at a young age

freshprinceofLA · 05-28-2007, 03:27 PM

In 1993 when I was almost 2 my grandpa passed away. Fast forward into the 2000's I found a video of my grandpa. I saw how vibrant and lively he was he reminded me a lot of me. My grandma told me that me and my grandpa had a lot in common things like our love for history and basketball stuff like that. Reletives say that I used to love him and I woulden't stop crying when he wasen't holding me. But the sad thing is I really have no memory of this just stories and this tape even though this tape was of him and my brother cause I wasen't born in the tape yet the tape is probably late 90' or early 91' (I was born in 91'). In this case I was just curious to see how my grandpa really was had it been someone I remembered I would be hesistant.

TVFactFan · 05-28-2007, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by freshprinceofLA

In 1993 when I was almost 2 my grandpa passed away. Fast forward into the 2000's I found a video of my grandpa. I saw how vibrant and lively he was he reminded me a lot of me. My grandma told me that me and my grandpa had a lot in common things like our love for history and basketball stuff like that. Reletives say that I used to love him and I woulden't stop crying when he wasen't holding me. But the sad thing is I really have no memory of this just stories and this tape even though this tape was of him and my brother cause I wasen't born in the tape yet the tape is probably late 90' or early 91' (I was born in 91'). In this case I was just curious to see how my grandpa really was had it been someone I remembered I would be hesistant.

Yeah if you have no memory of them then it probably wouldn't bother you

AKA · 05-28-2007, 03:40 PM

My grandmother is still alive, but has advanced Parkinson's and she has deteriorated into a child-like state. She speaks in an untelligible, quiet mumble and is given to crying at the drop of a hat. She can't be left alone for any amount of time and needs help doing the most basic of things.

That said, she used to be a very independent, sharp woman. I recently tried watching a video of her retirement party, and there was a moment on the tape where she comes up to the microphone and gives a nice "thank you" speech to those who threw the party, and to those who came. I couldn't take it and I had to turn the video off.

While my grandma is still with us, the woman she used to be no longer is, and I miss her terribly.

Janice · 05-28-2007, 04:36 PM

Can't do it, and I know I never will. My wedding video from 1985...forget it. There's many Christmas day videos that I can't bring myself to watch. I can't even look at photographs of deceased loved ones, and I have none displayed in my home. I've lost both parents and two young sisters (35 & 49). I have a hard time getting through most days, even now. I would fall apart watching videos of those happy days, which are gone forever.

Mr. Television · 05-28-2007, 05:06 PM

It isn't a video but I have an audio tape of my Mother when she came home from the hospital after my sister Amy was born. This was in 1982. I have never listened to it since she died. I don't know if I ever will.

AB · 05-28-2007, 05:41 PM

We also have videos of my husbands brother and his grandparents who passed away several years ago and of my dad who died 3 years ago. Its not so hard to watch now, but it would have been back when they all first passed away. My son watches them more than we do.

Brieannas21 · 05-28-2007, 10:57 PM

My best friend was killed 1 1/2 ago, I seriously can't even look at a picture of her without having a anxiety attack. So I know I can't look at any video's

Ireneparalegal · 05-28-2007, 11:13 PM

I feel so awful for those who can't bear to watch videos or look at pics.

I have a video of my dad. He was in his bed and it was 6 days before he died. I felt I had to videotape him, so I could show my son who was only 3 at the time my dad died. Different family members sitting with my dad, talking with him. My father was very coherent, so it is not like he was laying there and not responsive. That's how I want to remember him. Not the last two days where he was really weak and couldn't talk.

I knew it was my last chance to film my father alive since he would die any day. I enjoy looking at it. When I showed it to my sister, she just cried. I guess it shows that some people can handle things better than others.

PZelda · 05-28-2007, 11:34 PM

Yeah, I've got a home video with three of my family members in it who passed on a long time ago. My maternal grandpa is in it and he died over 10 years ago, in January of '97. Two of my cousins have passed on too... one at 30 in 1999 (died suddenly) and one at 16 in 2004 (committed suicide). It's kind of hard to watch it... that video I have is from 1990, when my 30-year-old cousin was my age (21), and when my 16-year-old cousin was just 2.

I haven't watched that home video since like... ohhh I have no idea... 2003ish. But, yeah.

catlover79 · 05-29-2007, 12:27 AM

We have several home videos taken back in the 1990s. My grandparents (who are all gone now) are in them. I was especially close to my mom's mom and even looking at her picture can drive me to tears, and she's been gone since 1995! So seeing her in a video and hearing her voice again is still too painful for me. Maybe someday I'll be able to, but when I'm by myself, like Dutabi84 said.

Those videos and pictures really do bring back another era, times that will never be again.

05-28-2007, 03:18 PM	#1
TVFactFan Member Forum Junkie Join Date: Aug 17, 2002 Posts: 99,101	Has anyone ever watched old family videos of relatives who has passed away? My mom has found old family videos from 1992 and I don't think I can hear the voice of my family members who died at a young age, my cousin at 27 and step dad at 38. I don't know what hearing their voice again on a vieo would do to me especially since I knew I would never hear their voice again. So I told my mom I think will PASS on watching the videos because I don't want to get emotional. Could anyone do something like this?

05-28-2007, 03:27 PM	#6
freshprinceofLA The Bosses Senior Member Join Date: Aug 09, 2005 Location: A small town in: Los Angeles, California Posts: 2,810	In 1993 when I was almost 2 my grandpa passed away. Fast forward into the 2000's I found a video of my grandpa. I saw how vibrant and lively he was he reminded me a lot of me. My grandma told me that me and my grandpa had a lot in common things like our love for history and basketball stuff like that. Reletives say that I used to love him and I woulden't stop crying when he wasen't holding me. But the sad thing is I really have no memory of this just stories and this tape even though this tape was of him and my brother cause I wasen't born in the tape yet the tape is probably late 90' or early 91' (I was born in 91'). In this case I was just curious to see how my grandpa really was had it been someone I remembered I would be hesistant.
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05-28-2007, 04:36 PM	#9
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	Everyone's different... Can't do it, and I know I never will. My wedding video from 1985...forget it. There's many Christmas day videos that I can't bring myself to watch. I can't even look at photographs of deceased loved ones, and I have none displayed in my home. I've lost both parents and two young sisters (35 & 49). I have a hard time getting through most days, even now. I would fall apart watching videos of those happy days, which are gone forever.

05-28-2007, 05:06 PM	#10
Mr. Television 23 Years at Sitcoms Online Forum Icon Join Date: Jun 06, 2003 Location: Somewhere you're Not Posts: 62,132	It isn't a video but I have an audio tape of my Mother when she came home from the hospital after my sister Amy was born. This was in 1982. I have never listened to it since she died. I don't know if I ever will.
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05-28-2007, 11:13 PM	#13
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	I feel so awful for those who can't bear to watch videos or look at pics. I have a video of my dad. He was in his bed and it was 6 days before he died. I felt I had to videotape him, so I could show my son who was only 3 at the time my dad died. Different family members sitting with my dad, talking with him. My father was very coherent, so it is not like he was laying there and not responsive. That's how I want to remember him. Not the last two days where he was really weak and couldn't talk. I knew it was my last chance to film my father alive since he would die any day. I enjoy looking at it. When I showed it to my sister, she just cried. I guess it shows that some people can handle things better than others.
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05-28-2007, 03:21 PM	#2
crystaldawn Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 17, 2002 Location: Illinois Posts: 4,261	We recently transferred a lot of home movies to dvd. I enjoyed seeing some of my relatives (including my grandparents) who have passed away. I can see how you would be hesitant to do so but I found it comforting to get to see them and hear them again. Thats a gift imo.

05-28-2007, 03:24 PM	#3
Dutabi84 kittens must die Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 22, 2003 Location: MN/TX Posts: 11,026	I know I probably wouldn't. Maybe if I were alone, but definitely not with a group of people.

05-28-2007, 03:40 PM	#8
AKA Member Forum Star Join Date: Dec 17, 2001 Posts: 15,746	My grandmother is still alive, but has advanced Parkinson's and she has deteriorated into a child-like state. She speaks in an untelligible, quiet mumble and is given to crying at the drop of a hat. She can't be left alone for any amount of time and needs help doing the most basic of things. That said, she used to be a very independent, sharp woman. I recently tried watching a video of her retirement party, and there was a moment on the tape where she comes up to the microphone and gives a nice "thank you" speech to those who threw the party, and to those who came. I couldn't take it and I had to turn the video off. While my grandma is still with us, the woman she used to be no longer is, and I miss her terribly.

05-28-2007, 05:41 PM	#11
AB Member Eternal Member Forum Icon Join Date: Dec 26, 2006 Location: The South Posts: 59,428	We also have videos of my husbands brother and his grandparents who passed away several years ago and of my dad who died 3 years ago. Its not so hard to watch now, but it would have been back when they all first passed away. My son watches them more than we do.

05-28-2007, 10:57 PM	#12
Brieannas21 Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 05, 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 9,792	My best friend was killed 1 1/2 ago, I seriously can't even look at a picture of her without having a anxiety attack. So I know I can't look at any video's

05-28-2007, 11:34 PM	#14
PZelda Two Valeries! <3 Forum Addict Join Date: Jul 15, 2002 Location: I'm STILL missing NYC. :( Posts: 78,223	Yeah, I've got a home video with three of my family members in it who passed on a long time ago. My maternal grandpa is in it and he died over 10 years ago, in January of '97. Two of my cousins have passed on too... one at 30 in 1999 (died suddenly) and one at 16 in 2004 (committed suicide). It's kind of hard to watch it... that video I have is from 1990, when my 30-year-old cousin was my age (21), and when my 16-year-old cousin was just 2. I haven't watched that home video since like... ohhh I have no idea... 2003ish. But, yeah.
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05-29-2007, 12:27 AM	#15
catlover79 God Bless Val Forum Addict Join Date: May 29, 2006 Location: Bewitched in Ohio Posts: 70,392	We have several home videos taken back in the 1990s. My grandparents (who are all gone now) are in them. I was especially close to my mom's mom and even looking at her picture can drive me to tears, and she's been gone since 1995! So seeing her in a video and hearing her voice again is still too painful for me. Maybe someday I'll be able to, but when I'm by myself, like Dutabi84 said. Those videos and pictures really do bring back another era, times that will never be again.
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