Motivation...

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

I have none. I can't get myself to exercise, which I need to because I gained a whole pants size and about 8 pounds in the last few months. I also have no motivation to do anything at all, even things I like like playing the piano or writing. It's complete zero. I'd like some serious input though, because simple tactics most people use probably arn't going to work for someone like me. I have no idea how to get myself to do anything.

[Number 9 Dream]

It sounds stupid, but the only thing that works for me is to just do it and not even think about it. If there's something I've been meaning to do and keep putting it off, I force myself to do it and pretty soon it just becomes routine.

Also, when it comes to weight or something like that, just imagine yourself happy when it comes the end result--sometimes that's a great motivator. For instance, I kept imagining myself in all the clothes I wanted to buy and getting attention from guys (sounds pathetic, I know...but it worked!)

I hope that helps! I'm sorry I can't offer much advice.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally Posted by Number 9 Dream

It sounds stupid, but the only thing that works for me is to just do it and not even think about it. If there's something I've been meaning to do and keep putting it off, I force myself to do it and pretty soon it just becomes routine.

Also, when it comes to weight or something like that, just imagine yourself happy when it comes the end result--sometimes that's a great motivator. For instance, I kept imagining myself in all the clothes I wanted to buy and getting attention from guys (sounds pathetic, I know...but it worked!)

I hope that helps! I'm sorry I can't offer much advice.

No, thanks! Anything helps, really.

Basically I do try to just do it. I'm just horrible at keeping at it

[Georgia's on my Mind]

It sounds like my situation....
it sounds like depression

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally Posted by Georgia's on my Mind

It sounds like my situation....
it sounds like depression

That was my theory on what it was. I can't get myself to do a thing nor do I even want to half the time. But then at the same time, something inside me DOES want to. So I'm screwed.

[Janice]

I'm sorry that your feeling this way Ashlee. It does sound like depression. I know one of the signs is when a person stops caring about things they used to care about, or basically anything in general. It might be a good idea to have your doctor screen you for clinical depression.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally Posted by Janice

I'm sorry that your feeling this way Ashlee. It does sound like depression. I know one of the signs is when a person stops caring about things they used to care about, or basically anything in general. It might be a good idea to have your doctor screen you for clinical depression.

I've been on medicine for it in the past (actually I don't even know if it was for depression, or just anxiety) but have recently stopped. I didn't find things like that to change at all because of it. It's like nothing helps. And yes, I've been to a psychologist. But, I still see myself as way below average on the happiness scale, and yeah that leads to lack of motivation. So I really don't know where to go from here...

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally Posted by Hollywood Rock Chic

2002 to 2004, were two of the hardest, most difficult years of my adult life; mostly due because I was depressed and also like you I lacked motivation. I needed to change my life; then one day, I woke up, because I was fed up of being sad. I started walking everyday..and exercise, literally, changed my life fotr the better; not, only do I look better, but I feel better. Sometimes, we need to push ourselves in order to change, it is not easy, but so worth it.
I wish you all the happiness in the world; and I know this is a lot easier said than done, but honey..JUST DO IT!
I know how it feels to have those, scary dark days; but, even though this sounds corny...There is always light at the end of the tunnel

Thanks for your input, I really appreciate any of it. The truth is I DO try, but I guess I just can't get myself to keep at it. It's like I just don't care enough to and I REALLY don't know why. I really admire that you were able to just do it like that, though. That's really amazing. Hopefully I can do that someday.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally Posted by Hollywood Rock Chic

Thank You...do not be too hard on yourself, if you are not able to keep on doing it; there were many of times, where I just quit, gave up, then I decided, this wa s something I needed to do..and I just kept on doing it, without placing much emphasis on failure; actually, I just shut down my brain, told myself to shut up and never looked back; it is a struggle for me, everyday to get off my butt and exercise..but, I do not think about it..I just turn off the computer, put on my running shoes and do what I have to do..even with depression, even the fact that I have bad back; the end results are so worth it, and today, I am a much happier person

lol yeah, I have to tell myself to shut up a lot, too. But I think my problem is is that I'm just soo ridiculously stubborn and if I don't really want to do something, I won't do it. I'll just say screw it. I mean, I've never really kept up something long enough to get results so how could I really know? But what I need to do is turn that all around and say shut up to the voice that says not to. But, I really do think I need a little help for that...I'm not sure if I can do it on my own.

[MaydayMalonesGirl]

Originally Posted by *Pleasant Tomorrow*

I've been on medicine for it in the past (actually I don't even know if it was for depression, or just anxiety) but have recently stopped. I didn't find things like that to change at all because of it. It's like nothing helps. And yes, I've been to a psychologist. But, I still see myself as way below average on the happiness scale, and yeah that leads to lack of motivation. So I really don't know where to go from here...

i just quit my medication recently as well. it really had no effect on the way i felt anyways.

as for motivation, i think the best thing you can do is to try and find something that you love and that is truly important to you. i don't know, i think if you have something like that in your life it's a little easier to get up in the morning. as i type that it seems like a load of crap, but i think it makes sense.

i've basically concluded that i'll never be happy because there is just something in my head that will always disable me from reaching that point. heh.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Originally Posted by MaydayMalonesGirl

i just quit my medication recently as well. it really had no effect on the way i felt anyways.

as for motivation, i think the best thing you can do is to try and find something that you love and that is truly important to you. i don't know, i think if you have something like that in your life it's a little easier to get up in the morning. as i type that it seems like a load of crap, but i think it makes sense.

i've basically concluded that i'll never be happy because there is just something in my head that will always disable me from reaching that point. heh.

No, I feel the same way. There's nothing I CAN think of that really makes me want to get up because I feel like I'm not strong enough to reach any goals I have. I sleep a lot, too, which is another sign. All I want to do is sleep and I'm always tired.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

And then I love how my mom says she understands and that she went through the same thing and then she goes and says stupid bull**** like "oh yeah, Ashlee has a vitamin D deficiency because she likes to sit in the house all day."

[Ireneparalegal]

Originally Posted by Number 9 Dream

It sounds stupid, but the only thing that works for me is to just do it and not even think about it. If there's something I've been meaning to do and keep putting it off, I force myself to do it and pretty soon it just becomes routine.

Also, when it comes to weight or something like that, just imagine yourself happy when it comes the end result--sometimes that's a great motivator. For instance, I kept imagining myself in all the clothes I wanted to buy and getting attention from guys (sounds pathetic, I know...but it worked!)

I hope that helps! I'm sorry I can't offer much advice.

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Once you get into the gym or do exercises at home and see the results, that is when you will be happy. Getting started is the main thing. Believe me, once you start doing the exercise, it will come easy. Then, once you see how you feel and look, you will motivate yourself to "maintain" that look.

When I was a young girl, I used to bite my nails....REAL BAD. My fingers were ugly and I was embarrassed to show my hands. Well, as a teen my sister told me to take vitamins with extra vitamin B, etc. It would help my nails grow. I did so and as I saw my nails grow out, I was so damn happy. They looked so beautiful, I painted my nails, took care of my hands, etc. Once they had grown, it was easy to take care of them and no longer have the urge to bite them. It was like, "Why do I want to destroy what I have grown so beautiful?" Good Luck.