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G-Force Glockstar · 04-14-2007, 02:48 PM

bi or a lesbian/gay & they found out? I've always found myself kind of liking girls in a different way, but it wasn't til just a couple months ago I found out I was truly bi bc I had a crush on one of my friends & started being obsessed w/ her. And as u can tell by my avatar & signature, I REALLY like Gina Glocksen from American Idol....I think she's a great singer, but I also like like her a lot! I talk about her ALL THE TIME & I never stop looking up stuff about her & thinking about her & it drives my family crazy & they get really mad. Yesterday one of my sisters, one of the last people in the world I would want to find out, told me she knows I'm bi....she just could tell by how much I like & obsess over Gina. I hope my parents don't see that....but I'm so afraid if they'll find out or my sister will tell on me! I can't help it that I feel this way....you can't help who you fall in love with! If my parents found out I'm bi, they would be soo mad, probably never let me hang out with any of my friends again, take away my computer, send me to a Christian school, and oh so much more!

Ireneparalegal · 04-14-2007, 03:13 PM

I don't think my dad would have understood what it means to be gay/lesbian. He was an old-fashioned man. He would never had judged either. He probably would have believed it to be a choice in life. Not that you are born that way.

catlover79 · 04-14-2007, 03:21 PM

I love my parents very much, and they did an excellent job raising three children. All 3 of us still go to church now that we're adults (practically none of their friends can say that), and we all have steady jobs, etc.

If it were me, I know my mom and dad wouldn't be thrilled about it. But I do know that they love me and that they would find a way to deal with it. They also know that I'm 27 and can make my own choices, so it's a bit different than being a teenager in this position. So I hope that you can find a trusting adult friend to confide in. Keep us posted!

Max Whittaker · 04-14-2007, 03:56 PM

My mom and dad has always been my biggest supporters. My dad is always saying that I can do anything, and my mom is the voice of reason. I can always come to her for advice.

That said, I think I'd have the biggest problem with my mom. But I know that they will always support me. Both of them.

I'm lucky.

PZelda · 04-14-2007, 05:58 PM

My mom would be behind me 100%. Yes, she would be shocked at first, but then she would get over it. She knows it's my life, my decisions, etc.
She tells my sibs and me all the time that she will ALWAYS stand behind us 100%, even though she won't necessarily agree w/ our life decisions. But she just wants us to be happy for ourselves, and to learn from our mistakes. As long as we don't suddenly become serial killers, we're on great terms with her. lol

My dad -- well. He's a LOT more conservative. He wouldn't approve of it, I'm sure. I just thought about it for a minute, and I realized I don't think my dad has any friends who are out of the closet in that regard, whereas my mom does. But then he would get over it, I think, and realize the same thing as my mom... He'd just be more vocal about it.

That's not something I ever have to worry about, because I know I am straight as a pole. I have a harder time with my parents accepting the fact that I am really good friends w/ a guy who will be turning 30 in October (I'll turn 22 before he turns 30, though) AND is in the military, to boot. Heh. That's life for ya.

Karen* · 04-14-2007, 08:11 PM

I think my mom would be more okay with it than my dad would be.

freshprinceofLA · 04-14-2007, 08:49 PM

I don't think they'll be too happy about it espically my religious grandma. But they'll still love & respect who I am.

Brieannas21 · 04-14-2007, 09:24 PM

My mom and dad would probably disown me. They're not to keen on the whole Lesbian and Gay world.

G-Force Glockstar · 04-14-2007, 09:34 PM

My parents are pretty religious & go to church & sunday school every Sunday, so I really don't think they would support my idea....if they didn't yell at me, I know they would at least probably talk to me & tell my pastor, and maybe even not let me hang out with my girlfriends. I know they wouldn't just let the whole thing go, like "Oh....you like girls? Oh, that's ok, hun...we still love u & will support you. You can always talk to us & we'll understand."

G-Force Glockstar · 04-14-2007, 09:53 PM

is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?

Courtnee · 04-14-2007, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by G-Force Glockstar

is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?

not in the least. there is nothing wrong with the way God made you.

Number 9 Dream · 04-14-2007, 10:32 PM

Well, I am a bisexual female, but I haven't really told many people yet (a couple of my close friends know). I've never been in a relationship with another girl, but the feelings are there...I guess you could call me more bi-curious.

But, anyway, I think my parents would be disappointed in me. My mom would probably be the first to accept it (after her initial disappointment faded...because I know it would). My dad would probably be angry at first, but would eventually get over it. I don't think they'd let my sexual orientation ruin our relationship. I'm still their child.

Still, I don't think I'm ever going to tell them....I'm just more comfortable this way

EmoJoe · 04-14-2007, 10:39 PM

i'm a proud lesbian.

Karen* · 04-14-2007, 11:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by G-Force Glockstar

is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?

A lot of people have different opinions on that. But personally I don't think there's anything wrong with it. You can't help the way you feel.

Max Whittaker · 04-15-2007, 02:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by G-Force Glockstar

is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?

Hell no!!!

H-e-l-l NO.

Girl, there's enough guilt in this world. Don't go looking for it.

There will be people who don't agree with your preference. There will be people who hate you. There will be people who support you 100%. I can't tell you whether that would be your family. But the important thing is that you do what's right for you. In the end, you can't make anybody happy if you don't first make yourself happy.

04-14-2007, 02:48 PM	#1
G-Force Glockstar Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Nov 22, 2003 Posts: 21,770	What would your parents do, or have done, if you were..... bi or a lesbian/gay & they found out? I've always found myself kind of liking girls in a different way, but it wasn't til just a couple months ago I found out I was truly bi bc I had a crush on one of my friends & started being obsessed w/ her. And as u can tell by my avatar & signature, I REALLY like Gina Glocksen from American Idol....I think she's a great singer, but I also like like her a lot! I talk about her ALL THE TIME & I never stop looking up stuff about her & thinking about her & it drives my family crazy & they get really mad. Yesterday one of my sisters, one of the last people in the world I would want to find out, told me she knows I'm bi....she just could tell by how much I like & obsess over Gina. I hope my parents don't see that....but I'm so afraid if they'll find out or my sister will tell on me! I can't help it that I feel this way....you can't help who you fall in love with! If my parents found out I'm bi, they would be soo mad, probably never let me hang out with any of my friends again, take away my computer, send me to a Christian school, and oh so much more!
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04-14-2007, 03:13 PM	#2
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04-14-2007, 03:21 PM	#3
catlover79 God Bless Val Forum Addict Join Date: May 29, 2006 Location: Bewitched in Ohio Posts: 70,392	I love my parents very much, and they did an excellent job raising three children. All 3 of us still go to church now that we're adults (practically none of their friends can say that), and we all have steady jobs, etc. If it were me, I know my mom and dad wouldn't be thrilled about it. But I do know that they love me and that they would find a way to deal with it. They also know that I'm 27 and can make my own choices, so it's a bit different than being a teenager in this position. So I hope that you can find a trusting adult friend to confide in. Keep us posted!
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04-14-2007, 03:56 PM	#4
Max Whittaker I want Serenity back Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 30, 2001 Posts: 6,180	My mom and dad has always been my biggest supporters. My dad is always saying that I can do anything, and my mom is the voice of reason. I can always come to her for advice. That said, I think I'd have the biggest problem with my mom. But I know that they will always support me. Both of them. I'm lucky.
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04-14-2007, 05:58 PM	#5
PZelda Two Valeries! <3 Forum Addict Join Date: Jul 15, 2002 Location: I'm STILL missing NYC. :( Posts: 78,223	My mom would be behind me 100%. Yes, she would be shocked at first, but then she would get over it. She knows it's my life, my decisions, etc. She tells my sibs and me all the time that she will ALWAYS stand behind us 100%, even though she won't necessarily agree w/ our life decisions. But she just wants us to be happy for ourselves, and to learn from our mistakes. As long as we don't suddenly become serial killers, we're on great terms with her. lol My dad -- well. He's a LOT more conservative. He wouldn't approve of it, I'm sure. I just thought about it for a minute, and I realized I don't think my dad has any friends who are out of the closet in that regard, whereas my mom does. But then he would get over it, I think, and realize the same thing as my mom... He'd just be more vocal about it. That's not something I ever have to worry about, because I know I am straight as a pole. I have a harder time with my parents accepting the fact that I am really good friends w/ a guy who will be turning 30 in October (I'll turn 22 before he turns 30, though) AND is in the military, to boot. Heh. That's life for ya.
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04-14-2007, 08:11 PM	#6
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04-14-2007, 08:49 PM	#7
freshprinceofLA The Bosses Senior Member Join Date: Aug 09, 2005 Location: A small town in: Los Angeles, California Posts: 2,810	I don't think they'll be too happy about it espically my religious grandma. But they'll still love & respect who I am.
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04-14-2007, 09:24 PM	#8
Brieannas21 Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 05, 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 9,792	My mom and dad would probably disown me. They're not to keen on the whole Lesbian and Gay world.

04-14-2007, 09:34 PM	#9
G-Force Glockstar Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Nov 22, 2003 Posts: 21,770	My parents are pretty religious & go to church & sunday school every Sunday, so I really don't think they would support my idea....if they didn't yell at me, I know they would at least probably talk to me & tell my pastor, and maybe even not let me hang out with my girlfriends. I know they wouldn't just let the whole thing go, like "Oh....you like girls? Oh, that's ok, hun...we still love u & will support you. You can always talk to us & we'll understand."

04-14-2007, 09:53 PM	#10
G-Force Glockstar Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Nov 22, 2003 Posts: 21,770	is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?

04-14-2007, 10:32 PM	#12
Number 9 Dream That '70s Girl Forum Veteran Join Date: Jan 18, 2005 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 5,875	Well, I am a bisexual female, but I haven't really told many people yet (a couple of my close friends know). I've never been in a relationship with another girl, but the feelings are there...I guess you could call me more bi-curious. But, anyway, I think my parents would be disappointed in me. My mom would probably be the first to accept it (after her initial disappointment faded...because I know it would). My dad would probably be angry at first, but would eventually get over it. I don't think they'd let my sexual orientation ruin our relationship. I'm still their child. Still, I don't think I'm ever going to tell them....I'm just more comfortable this way
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04-14-2007, 10:39 PM	#13
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