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Ireneparalegal · 04-06-2007, 03:04 PM

I heard on Maxim radio on Sirius yesterday, there was a survey/poll where 70 percent of people were ok with women proposing marriage. First of all, I don't believe in polls unless a survey asks EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN AMERICA. Asking just certain people doesn't make sense, so that 70 percent figure seems rather flaky to me.

As for the actual question, I don't believe it should be the woman asking simply because too many women who are desperate for marriage will ask men to marry them. I seen a reality show where a camera crew followed a woman who wanted to propose marriage to her long-time boyfriend. He didn't want to get married, etc. He made it clear, so she figured if she did it on camera with his family and her family there, he will have to say YES. To me, that is entrapment and the look on the poor man's face as he said "Yes" to her was obvious he was not happy and while she was happy and jumping for joy, he was in the background with this stupid grin on his face.

Then again, if a woman proposes marriage and a man turns her down, that should be enough embarrasment for the woman to not do that again.

Brieannas21 · 04-06-2007, 03:22 PM

If the woman really loves the man I see nothing wrong with her proposing. It's just traditional for a man to propose. But if you want to get married and you're in love with the person, I see nothing wrong with it.

80s_Fan · 04-06-2007, 04:44 PM

I proposed to my current boyfriend once a long time ago but unfortunately he said (no) but we're still together and talk about it from time to time. Maybe the next time it will be him to ask me. Regardless, I don't see a problem with a woman doing it. I hope that one day; we will get married to make it official.

Diane & Tony

Yooch · 04-06-2007, 04:46 PM

I don't see any problem with it at all.

Mr. Stefani · 04-06-2007, 04:48 PM

I dont see the big deal. We're no longer in the 50's.

coffield3 · 04-06-2007, 05:01 PM

Yes if the women wants too.

AB · 04-06-2007, 05:03 PM

I think it depends on the couple. I don't see anything wrong with it though.

tdf4077 · 04-06-2007, 05:23 PM

i don't see why not, but i never would. i'm a hopeless romantic who would rather have the guy propose super-romantic like to me!

Liza · 04-06-2007, 05:29 PM

Normally I'm a traditionalist and I think the guy should ask,

however...

Just last weekend I changed my mind. My sister has been with her boyfriend for four years, and every single holiday for the past 2 years she's been expecting a ring. It was her birthday 2 weeks ago and she told me she was disappointed that he hadn't asked her. I finally got so sick of it that I told her to just ask him. He is just stringing her along and I told her she's better off knowing for sure, rather than every holiday/birthday/special event she's getting her hopes up. I'm not talking about her getting down on one knee, but just asking him point blank, "Do you want to marry me?" Cuz I don't think he's being very respectful to her in leading her on like that. She wants to get married, and if he doesn't, I think she's better off knowing.

G-Force Glockstar · 04-06-2007, 05:34 PM

hmm idk....I would be too scared to do it, but I guess if a girl REALLY, truly thinks her bf will say yes, then I guess it wouldn't hurt to try and ask. But I still think it's a little risky cause if he says no, then it'll really hurt & embarrass her!

Liza · 04-06-2007, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Girl Meets World

hmm idk....I would be too scared to do it, but I guess if a girl REALLY, truly thinks her bf will say yes, then I guess it wouldn't hurt to try and ask. But I still think it's a little risky cause if he says no, then it'll really hurt & embarrass her!

Like I told my sis, better to be hurt once and know where you stand rather than spend 2 years waiting.

And the guys need to understand something: when a girl is waiting for you to propose, it's never just her. She's complaining to her family, her friends, her coworkers even, that she's waiting for the ring.

My sister's boyfriend gave her a ring over a year ago. It was a saphire and had no promise/proposal that went with it. My brother and I call it a "shut-up ring."

James"Thunder"Early · 04-06-2007, 06:50 PM

I don't see a problem with that

An 80s Guy · 04-06-2007, 06:51 PM

I don't really think it's a big deal.What does it matter who proposes to whom?

Brian Damage · 04-06-2007, 07:44 PM

I really don't think it is that big of a deal.

Courtnee · 04-06-2007, 08:26 PM

It's 2007, not 1957. I don't see a problem although, I'd rather a guy ask ME.

04-06-2007, 03:04 PM	#1
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	Should women propose marriage to a man? I heard on Maxim radio on Sirius yesterday, there was a survey/poll where 70 percent of people were ok with women proposing marriage. First of all, I don't believe in polls unless a survey asks EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN AMERICA. Asking just certain people doesn't make sense, so that 70 percent figure seems rather flaky to me. As for the actual question, I don't believe it should be the woman asking simply because too many women who are desperate for marriage will ask men to marry them. I seen a reality show where a camera crew followed a woman who wanted to propose marriage to her long-time boyfriend. He didn't want to get married, etc. He made it clear, so she figured if she did it on camera with his family and her family there, he will have to say YES. To me, that is entrapment and the look on the poor man's face as he said "Yes" to her was obvious he was not happy and while she was happy and jumping for joy, he was in the background with this stupid grin on his face. Then again, if a woman proposes marriage and a man turns her down, that should be enough embarrasment for the woman to not do that again.
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04-06-2007, 04:44 PM	#3
80s_Fan Healthcare_Clerk Senior Member Join Date: May 26, 2004 Location: Montreal, Canada Posts: 1,697	I Did It Once I proposed to my current boyfriend once a long time ago but unfortunately he said (no) but we're still together and talk about it from time to time. Maybe the next time it will be him to ask me. Regardless, I don't see a problem with a woman doing it. I hope that one day; we will get married to make it official. Diane & Tony

04-06-2007, 04:46 PM	#4
Yooch Member Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 07, 2006 Location: California Posts: 3,180	I don't see any problem with it at all.
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04-06-2007, 05:23 PM	#8
tdf4077 JaJa Senior Member Join Date: Jan 17, 2006 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,678	i don't see why not, but i never would. i'm a hopeless romantic who would rather have the guy propose super-romantic like to me!
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04-06-2007, 05:34 PM	#10
G-Force Glockstar Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Nov 22, 2003 Posts: 21,770	hmm idk....I would be too scared to do it, but I guess if a girl REALLY, truly thinks her bf will say yes, then I guess it wouldn't hurt to try and ask. But I still think it's a little risky cause if he says no, then it'll really hurt & embarrass her!
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04-06-2007, 03:22 PM	#2
Brieannas21 Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 05, 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 9,792	If the woman really loves the man I see nothing wrong with her proposing. It's just traditional for a man to propose. But if you want to get married and you're in love with the person, I see nothing wrong with it.

04-06-2007, 04:48 PM	#5
Mr. Stefani Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Jul 15, 2001 Posts: 20,757	I dont see the big deal. We're no longer in the 50's.

04-06-2007, 05:01 PM	#6
coffield3 <3 Forum Veteran Join Date: Jul 23, 2006 Location: England Posts: 7,379	Yes if the women wants too.

04-06-2007, 05:03 PM	#7
AB Member Eternal Member Forum Icon Join Date: Dec 26, 2006 Location: The South Posts: 59,428	I think it depends on the couple. I don't see anything wrong with it though.

04-06-2007, 05:29 PM	#9
Liza BestYearsofOurLives Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 24, 2001 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 6,537	Normally I'm a traditionalist and I think the guy should ask, however... Just last weekend I changed my mind. My sister has been with her boyfriend for four years, and every single holiday for the past 2 years she's been expecting a ring. It was her birthday 2 weeks ago and she told me she was disappointed that he hadn't asked her. I finally got so sick of it that I told her to just ask him. He is just stringing her along and I told her she's better off knowing for sure, rather than every holiday/birthday/special event she's getting her hopes up. I'm not talking about her getting down on one knee, but just asking him point blank, "Do you want to marry me?" Cuz I don't think he's being very respectful to her in leading her on like that. She wants to get married, and if he doesn't, I think she's better off knowing.

04-06-2007, 06:50 PM	#12
James"Thunder"Early Whoever's In New England Forum Veteran Join Date: Feb 23, 2004 Location: The Apollo Posts: 7,088	I don't see a problem with that
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04-06-2007, 06:51 PM	#13
An 80s Guy legen-wait for it-dary! Senior Member Join Date: Sep 03, 2005 Location: Austin,Texas Posts: 1,870	I don't really think it's a big deal.What does it matter who proposes to whom?

04-06-2007, 07:44 PM	#14
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	I really don't think it is that big of a deal.
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04-06-2007, 08:26 PM	#15
Courtnee MAN VS SAMMICH. Forum Star Join Date: Mar 23, 2005 Location: Louisiana Posts: 16,413	It's 2007, not 1957. I don't see a problem although, I'd rather a guy ask ME.
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